Do you crave real, deep friendship in your life? Do you want to have men around you whom you can trust, who've got your back, who help you grow and challenge you to keep going? In other words: do you want high quality friends? Let's talk about exactly what it takes to make this happens. In this video, you'll discover why building this kind of friendship requires leadership. And why the world needs men like you to step up into greater social leadership. You'll see what's been going wrong in the w...
Mar 17, 2025•21 min
Get the QuitByHealing Program: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/ Join the newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ There's a lot of talk about semen retention in the men's advice and nofap worlds. Unfortunately, almost everything people are saying about this is plain wrong. Really just entirely missing the point and probably doing more harm than good. If you're going to do this, do it right and avoid the pitfalls and mistakes that I explain in this video. Here, you'll learn about the T...
Feb 27, 2025•26 min
Join the newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Get my Introspective Writing Course: https://shanemelaugh.com/iw/ How do you build self respect? The only good answer to that question is: become a man you respect. Change your behavior so that it is in line with your values. But how exactly do you do that? Unfortunately, most guys do this wrong. Especially young, ambitious men tend to fall into the "trap of perfection". That's why I've come up with a simple tool you can use to build you...
Jan 24, 2025•16 min
Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ What do you do when you are struggling with addictive urges? How can you stop yourself from compulsively doing things you later regret and falling back into bad habits? The most effective tools I've found to deal with these issues are the 2 awareness tools I'm presenting in this video. I call them Spotlight Awareness and Embodiment. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:49 When your bad habit have the most power over you 01:26 Tool 1 - ...
Jan 12, 2025•18 min
Join my newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ The better your self control, the more successful you'll be. It's people who are good at delaying gratification that end up more successful, happier, better off and wealthier, compared to people who have low self control and act impulsively. Common sense, right? Well, it turns out that almost everything you've ever been told about self control is actually a misunderstanding. Many studies have shown that people with "high self control" do ...
Dec 19, 2024•24 min
Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Men nowadays grow up without anyone teaching us how to become real men. We stay stuck in boyhood for far too long and it's a painful experience! But if you feel lost and confused like many do, it's not your fault. For some reason, you were not given the guidance and life skills that you deserved! In today's podcast episode, I have a conversation with a friend of mine who had exactly this problem in his life - and then solve...
Oct 31, 2024•55 min
Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ The goal is not just to quit porn, it's to become completely uninterested in porn. And yes, that is possible, no matter how severely addicted you are right now. Today, we look at a story that explains this. It can be hard to imagine that you'd literally become 100% addiction free, for most people. But once you understand the "alternate reality" that I explain in this video, you'll have a new perspective. This story will sho...
Oct 16, 2024•19 min
Get my free Introspective Writing crash course: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Could it be that using pornography while in a relationship is actually WORSE than cheating? That sounds like a crazy claim, but there are at least 2 ways in which it is indeed worse. We live in a world where it is normalized to watch porn. Even in a relationship, many people wouldn't be surprised that one partner (or both) still watch porn in secret. It's easy to dismiss this and assume it's harmless. Maybe eve...
Sep 25, 2024•23 min
Get the introspective writing course here: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Quitting porn is often seen as the solution to many problems, but what if it makes intrusive thoughts worse during recovery? Intrusive thoughts are a withdrawal symptom that can be very frustrating to deal with, when you're quitting a bad habit or addiction. Unlike other withdrawal effects, many people find that intrusive thoughts actually get WORSE, the longer you stay clean. Why does this happen and what can you d...
Sep 08, 2024•23 min
Discipline and hard work are the keys to success, right? It's how you accomplish your goals and create the life you envision... at least, that's what we're constantly being told. But while discipline is a useful tool, it's not useful in every situation. And when it comes to achieving your goals, discipline can actually end up slowing you down rather than getting you there faster. In today's episode, we unpack this unusual idea, so you can know the pitfalls of being overly reliant on discipline a...
Aug 05, 2024•20 min
To become a man, you must progress through a natural process of maturing: from boy to Knight, to Prince to King. Unfortunately, we live in a world where this natural progression is denied to most of us. And instead, we have social media, OnlyFans, vapes and junk food to keep us stuck in boy mode... Join the newsletter & get access to my free courses: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ The result is clear: we've got a lot of boys walking around in adult bodies, these days. We've lost and forgot...
Jul 31, 2024•26 min
In this episode, we're looking at the surprising and powerful benefits of... doing nothing. Phone addiction, doomscrolling, social media dopamine traps, p*rn... everyone's addicted to digital stimulation these days. And it's causing a lot of suffering. I know how bad this can get, both from personal experience and from the people I've worked with to overcome their addiction. When you're in the middle of a personal mental health crisis, everything feels overwhelming and hopeless. But what I have ...
Jul 23, 2024•14 min
https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ ☝️ this is the link for the QuitByHealing Community, all the free courses I mentioned in the episode and for the 21 day QuitByHealing Program. When you use p*rn a lot, one of the consequences is that it changes and warps your desires. It's common for addicts to end up watching content that isn't even aligned with their true desires or even true sexual orientation. In today's episode, we examine the phenomenon and explain how you can "uninstall" those fake desires...
Apr 16, 2024•19 min
Do you ever feel like you're trying so hard to improve yourself and improve your life... but you're not making any progress? You're watching all this self help content, reading books, learning strategies, trying new things but you're just not sure if any of it is working. If so, this is the most important message you need to hear. It's what I wish someone had told me 20+ years ago, when my own journey started. Only through years of experience in building several businesses and in developing my o...
Mar 18, 2024•17 min
Join the QuitByHealing community here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ "You're just doing it because you're single! Once you get a girlfriend or wife, you'll be fine!" This is what many people believe / hope about p*rn use and p*rn addiction. It's just a normal, harmless thing that guys do, right? And once you're partnered, the problems go away... Unfortunately, the opposite is often true and users find that their habit causes even MORE problems when they're in a relationship than when they wer...
Feb 10, 2024•18 min
...and realizing this is like a cheat code for life. Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ You're making your life unnecessarily difficult by going after the things you want. Wait, what..? Isn't it a good thing to go for what you want? Well, yes. But there's one problem: the things you THINK you want aren't what you REALLY want. And in many cases, going after what you think you want actually makes it harder for you to get what you really want. I know this may sound a...
Jan 20, 2024•19 min
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ For men, our development is stunted by the modern world and most of us are stuck in "man-child mode" in many areas of our lives. In the last episode, I shared a technique you can use to form deep connections with people (like a mature man) instead of only shallow connections (like a child). In this episode, we're looking at the flip side of this communication coin: how to establish and defend healthy boundaries. This might sound ...
Dec 29, 2023•21 min
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ The world you live in is unfortunately keeping you stuck in man-child mode. This happens in many ways and one of them is the topic of this podcast episode: you never learn to create and cultivate deep social connections or deep romantic connections. The world (especially the online media world) is obsessed with all the aspects of shallow and fleeting connection. It trains you to chase variety and to see social connection through ...
Dec 16, 2023•23 min
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ What does it take to transform your life completely? Is it even possible to go from dead-end existence, complete lack of direction, low energy, no motivation... to living an awesome life, feeling driven, feeling motivated every day? As you'll discover in this episode, the answer is most definitely YES. But there are also clear reasons why most people never make such a dramatic transformation. Once you understand what's holding yo...
Dec 09, 2023•23 min
Folks, this is a big one. We decided to once and for all, completely and comprehensively answer the question: "what should I do when I get the urge to relapse?" This is the complete answer. Not only are we laying out 60+ options for what to do instead of relapsing, but we're exploring exactly why these things work and how it all fits together. Find the full write up and visual mind-map here: https://quitbyhealing.com/urges/ Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Quit ...
Oct 28, 2023•1 hr 25 min
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Quit Porn Crash Course: https://quitbyhealing.com/quit-porn/ In this episode, Shane and Abhi take a deep dive into how pornography addiction (and other dopamine traps) can become the main obstacles preventing you from achieving your life's goals. Through a community survey, we've identified the profound desires people have in life, with healthy relationships and personal growth emerging as top priorities. Of course, when an addic...
Oct 15, 2023•49 min
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ A lot of folks in the self-development community often find themselves sifting through advice that may not be relevant to their situation. They encounter elite optimization plans, intense bootcamps, and claims of "the fastest and best" methods to achieve their goals, typically offered by high-achievers and coaches. In this podcast episode, we're introducing a model that breaks down self-development into four levels. This model wi...
Oct 03, 2023•1 hr 14 min
Join the QuitByHealing community to beat p*rn addiction once and for all: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Porn addiction is a serious issue. It affects mental health, mood, motivation and many other aspects of life. Not least, it affects everything related to love, dating, romance and sex. As I've discovered through my work with addicts, the addiction creates a complicated, tangled mess that construes all the guilt and shame associated with pornography overuse with healthy desire, romantic feel...
Sep 21, 2023•23 min
Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ My 30 day challenge summary - see what SPARTAN MODE actually looks like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sbPSY9ktLIA I followed the Spartan Mode protocol for 30 days. The protocol is designed to completely obliterate all bad habits, addictions and all the ways in which we keep ourselves from really living to our full potential. In this episode, I share in detail what the experience was like and what lessons I took from it. What w...
Sep 18, 2023•1 hr 6 min
Join the QuitByHealing Community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Since starting QuitByHealing, I have received thousands of comments on my videos, TikToks and in the QbH community. In all of these comments, I am seeing clear patterns and one of them is this: There are 3 limiting beliefs that are very common... and that make you fail because they create a self fulfilling prophecy. So in today's podcast episode, we examine these 3 limiting beliefs, look at how they are part of your self sabotagi...
Aug 31, 2023•26 min
All the QuitByHealing links & resources: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ All of Jeremy's links & resources: https://linktr.ee/jeremymindful Check out Jeremy's podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1648984850 In today's episode of the podcast, meet Jeremy Lipkowitz. He is a guy who seemingly had it all: academic and athletic success, friends, good health and hopeful prospects for the future... and yet, he was plagued with an addiction to pornography that stole all his joy. H...
Aug 23, 2023•52 min
An important tool in your arsenal against temptations, urges and relapses is what we call a strong why . Having a strong, clear, emotionally resonant reason fro WHY you want to quit can make all the difference in a critical moment. In this episode, you'll discover exactly how a STRONG WHY works and the practical way in which you can create one for yourself. 00:00 Intro 00:57 The Counter Force 01:53 Example of a WEAK WHY 03:03 What Makes a STRONG WHY 05:46 The Painful Way to Create a STRONG WHY 0...
Aug 11, 2023•16 min
Join the community, take the program, find all the important links: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ If you're trying to overcome addictive behavior, compulsive behavior or even just bad habits, here's an unusual thing to consider: what if you don't actually WANT TO quit? What if you're telling yourself that you really want to quit, that you want to improve and leave this addictive behavior behind... but there's part of you that really doesn't believe that. This might seem strange or even danger...
Jul 26, 2023•19 min
Join my Discord community & get the QuitByHealing Program here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Addiction is a tricky problem, but what if the cause of it doesn't have to be complicated? What if there was a single, unifying source behind all addictive behaviors? And what if once you understand this, there's also a single, practical path to unwinding addiction? I believe this is true, it's just that the source is a bit hard to see. Especially in the context of our culture and double especial...
Jul 11, 2023•27 min
Join the QuitByHealing Program to overcome p*rn addiction in just 21 days: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ Why is it so hard to shake bad habits and addictive behaviors? And on the other hand, it's also hard to create GOOD habits? Seems unfair. In this podcast episode, we explore the key obstacle: invisible consequences. You'll understand why you struggle with behavior change and you'll learn a simple and practical tool you can use to mitigate the problem of invisible consequences. In today's e...
Jun 28, 2023•19 min
