Have you ever felt guilty that you have not lived up to your potential? That because of your past something you were destined for will never be achieved. On this episode, we reframe this mindset with a hopeful alternative where nothing has been lost and even more is to be gained. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/352 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the...
Jun 17, 2025•9 min
This episode is a fast follow-up to PFR 350- Pure Freedom, where we discuss Rich Litvin's "three distinctions around freedom." In this show, Matt asks some prompting questions to help you get more clarity about your freedom. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/351 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook....
Jun 15, 2025•11 min
In the episode, we are going to focus on the concept of pure freedom. Master coach, Rich Litvin describes pure freedom as "the freedom to make decisions moment by moment. The freedom to be yourself... a place to come FROM, not a place to get to." Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/350 Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/350 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recovere...
Jun 12, 2025•31 min
We're back on PFR asking the question, “when are you going to stop living like you're never going to die?” Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/349 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recoveredman.com/coachin...
Jun 04, 2025•23 min
In this episode, we explore the idea of "high bottom" porn use—when your life isn't falling apart, but you're still stuck and it's costing you. We discuss how people in this situation can break through denial and rationalizations to take more action. There is more freedom to be had! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/348 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy ...
Feb 10, 2025•54 min
One of my podcast heroes, Dan Miller, had a goal setting practice which I love. “When I set my goals for the new year, I ruthlessly eliminate 15% of the things I’ve been doing to make room for the new things I want to do.” — Dan Miller, 48 Days Podcast Dan shares how it's important eliminate things you're doing before creating new commitments. In this episode, you'll learn how this goal setting practice is easily adapted to recovery and our big goal of being porn free. Get the full show notes he...
Jan 01, 2025•35 min
In this episode, I’m joined by my brother Sam Dobschuetz, as we open the Porn Free Radio mailbag answering questions like… What percentage of guys that do coaching with you achieve a porn free life? Any recommendations on a porn blocker or firewall? What is it actually like when you are in recovery for 60, 90, 200 days, a year, 5 years? How does the struggle change? Can you ever go back to the way things were, in any area of life? And finally… what constitutes a relapse and what constitutes a sl...
Dec 05, 2024•1 hr 2 min
We just picked a new president here in the States. Maybe you heard? This season, I noticed my news consumption went way up. As I look back now at my feelings and motivations, I found some interesting connections to my old porn struggle. On this episode, I consider my vulnerability with consuming content and media as a recovered man. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/345 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free ...
Nov 08, 2024•37 min
When solving a crime, detectives use motive, means, and opportunity to catch the criminal. In recovery, after a troubling episode, we can use the same logic to solve our relapse. Our ultimate goal is to prevent future crimes. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/344 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook...
Oct 30, 2024•35 min
The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2024 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sammy D. (Sam Dobschuetz) and your host, Matt “The Dobber” Dobschuetz Join us for our fourth annual episode about our shared passion, NFL football. If you’re not an American football fan, you might just be after you listen to this episode! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/343 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (F...
Sep 03, 2024•1 hr 2 min
A favorite trick of value investor Charlie Munger was inverse thinking. It's where you reverse the problem you're trying to solve. In this episode, we invert the challenge of going porn free. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/342 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recov...
Aug 13, 2024•32 min
On this episode, I invite Dr. Amy Johnson, author of Just a Thought , to help us start examining our thoughts in a new way. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/341 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://recover...
Jul 29, 2024•50 min
Most relapses are predictable. So why are so often surprised by them? On this episode, Matt shares an episode from his C offee with the Dobber series for contributors to Porn Free Radio. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/340 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredm...
Jul 12, 2024•27 min
Men use porn because they like the effect produced by it. The elusive sensation changes our state while we are using it. It provides a timely escape from our present reality. And even though we have taken steps to stop using porn we often are still are looking for the escape. I call this the bubble. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/339 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman....
Jul 04, 2024•31 min
On this episode, Matt shares a PFR listener story from Aaron C. who got hope from Porn Free Radio and took action by joining a 12-step fellowship. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/338 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dob...
Jun 27, 2024•39 min
In the second of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as we complete this list of 12 provocations designed to challenge your recovery thinking. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/337 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-...
Jun 18, 2024•1 hr 14 min
My book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn, is known for its provocative statement, “Porn is not the problem for us. It's the solution.” In the first of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as I share 12 more provocations aimed at challenging your recovery thinking. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/336 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course)...
Jun 11, 2024•1 hr 1 min
Join Matt and Sam Dobschuetz as they read listener letters celebrating 10 years of Porn Free Radio. Take hope and take action! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/335 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz https://reco...
Apr 30, 2024•1 hr 7 min
Do you see yourself as broken or an addict? Then this episode is for you. Over the last 10 years, I have had a shift in my thinking; I have moved away from diagnosing and pathologizing porn behaviors (disease model.) And I moved towards a choice/ownership model. I invite the guys I work with to examine their choices, define problematic behaviors, developing their why for going porn free, and come up with creative solutions to solve their challenges. I treat guys from day one as whole people with...
Apr 29, 2024•41 min
Before recovery, I lived a divided life. I hid anything I found unacceptable from my friends and family including my problematic porn use. On the surface, I presented a "nice guy" version of myself to be liked and accepted. It was exhausting and painfully lonely. In recovery, my why is "to be the same on the inside as on the outside." But this requires honesty. This is part 8 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/333 PLUS: Whenever you're read...
Apr 23, 2024•36 min
We've all heard the phrase, “Fact vs. Fiction.” But a friend of mine said it should be “Fact vs. Fear.” It's fear that often leads us to our escapism and avoidance with porn. This is part 7 in our new series, The Choice is Yours . Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/332 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfre...
Apr 19, 2024•55 min
Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress. On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to calm. This is part 6 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/331 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery...
Apr 11, 2024•47 min
“You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse” ― Old guy at my recovery meeting Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to talk about the line between recovery and relapse. This is part 5 in our series, The Choice is Yours. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/330 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuet...
Apr 03, 2024•54 min
MMA coach, Firas Zahabi, emphasizes that consistency in training beats intensity. Consistency is where we build skill and endurance without burning out. And our training volume over time leads to mastery. This powerful concept can be applied to our recovery. This is part 4 in our series, The Choice is Yours . Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/329 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://rec...
Mar 28, 2024•31 min
When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low. And chances are if you have not significantly changed your habits, the challenge feels about the same. For a long time the only tool in your tool box was willpower. Some version of "JUST SAY NO." But often willpower is easily exhausted. It gives out when we need it most. What if I told you success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills. This is part 3 in our seri...
Mar 22, 2024•43 min•Ep. 328
“Porn is not the problem for us,” I write in my book. “It’s the solution.” It may feel like the problem in your life that needs to be fixed. But if you’re using porn there is a need that is driving it. It’s a solution. This is part 2 in our series, The Choice is Yours . Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/327 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Por...
Mar 15, 2024•38 min
Author Steve Chandler often says there are two types of people in the world; owners and victims. Victims see themselves as victims of their situation or circumstance. Life happens to them. Owners on the hand while they can't control every situation and circumstance, they control their reaction to any situation. Learning the habits of thinking like an owner is essential to be porn free. This is part 1 in our new series, The Choice is Yours . Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/...
Mar 07, 2024•48 min
Matt Dobschuetz is back with a fresh episode of Porn Free Radio. Sam Dobschuetz joins in-studio to discuss Dobber recently reaching 13 years porn free. Take hope and take action! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/325 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com/r...
Feb 02, 2024•57 min
“What we call personality,” Steve Chandler writes. “Is just a history of habits.” Fixed beliefs about who we are can block us from making the commitments that lead to transformation. On this episode, Sam Dobschuetz joins Matt to discuss. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/324 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://...
Oct 30, 2023•42 min
Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/323 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course) http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Buy the book, Porn Free by Matt Dobschuetz http://pornfreebook.com Join a REV Group http://recoveredman.com...
Oct 20, 2023•1 hr 4 min
