Our heart starts racing, our stomach drops to the floor, and we feel under attack. Even if you’re not an HSP, criticism is painful to receive and, in all honesty, it can bring out our Hyper Sensitivity and anger. Sometimes the feedback and criticism is there to genuinely help us and sometimes it's just a mean troll on the internet. Either way our bodies tend to react in the same way and so we need a healthy way to cope with these feelings and to move through them so we can be the best that we ca...
Mar 22, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 30
This is a love note to my sensitivity and to all HSPs who have ever felt like they’ve had to put on a mask or numb themselves in order to fit in. So welcome to today’s podcast episode that I treated more like a diary than anything. In this episode, I get wayyy more vulnerable than I thought I would but I know these thoughts and feelings can resonate with so many of you. I want you to know that you are not alone! So here I am, coming to you without a script or outline, just sharing my emotions op...
Mar 15, 2022•15 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Difficult conversations are usually the most important. But when we know we get overwhelmed easily and our intense feelings come out as tears in the middle of tough conversations, we start to shy away from them. We start to people please more and try to appease everyone so we never have to have those hard talks. The answer to stepping into these conversations with confidence and grace may be a littler easier than you think. It starts with us, it always starts with us. We must know ourselves firs...
Mar 08, 2022•15 min•Season 1Ep. 28
As HSPs and Empaths, it's only natural that we tend to absorb the energy around us. Under normal circumstances this is draining. Under negative circumstances it can feel like we've been bulldozed. Of course there are tools to protect yourself from absorbing this negative energy in the first place, but let's be real, sometimes we cannot shield ourselves from everything. And what happens when the anger or sadness of others is directed AT us? In this episode, you'll learn: Why we tend to soak every...
Mar 01, 2022•14 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Work is without a doubt the biggest and most time consuming part of our lives. But when we come home each and every day exhausted, tired, and uninspired or heck, even getting sick to our stomach ON THE WAY to work... we know it's time to make a change (and no, I'm not telling you to quit your job on the spot). In today's episode, I give you my top tools for handling work stress. Whether you run your own business or work for someone else, these tools are universal and can lead to an overall bette...
Feb 22, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 26
In a world where there is a rigid set of rules to life, I dare you to ignore it all and listen to yourself. Tap into your intuition and do things your way. Does a job look amazing and perfect on paper but the interview felt "meh" and not a good fit while the job that didn't seem to check all the boxes on paper feels like the most perfect next step and it makes no logical sense? Listen to your intuition. Your intuition will guide you to such beautiful places in life - it's time to lean in. After ...
Feb 15, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 25
If you ever feel like you're always trying to be smart enough, accomplished enough, and like you have to do things perfectly in order to feel worthy – this episode is for you. My perfectionist tendencies started from such a young age when I was in middle school and had hardly any self-confidence. I didn't like the way I looked and always felt less worthy than my friends. And so began my journey of perfectionism...spending hours getting ready for school and being in a bad mood if one hair was out...
Feb 08, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 24
"I don't belong." "Who cares what I have to say?" "What if I say the wrong things?" "I just feel like a burden." If you've ever thought these when going into a new (or familiar) social situation, this episode is for you. So settle in as I share some amazing tools and tips to go from standing in the back of the room at events to OWNING the room. You have a gift and a light to share with the world. No more hiding. It's time to be your authentic self because I am telling you: you BELONG in any room...
Feb 04, 2022•13 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Time for another Q&A session! These are quickly becoming my favorite episodes so keep sending your questions! Today's episode focuses on loving ourselves exactly as we are. Because when we have unshakeable faith in our worth and understand how powerful our HSP trait is, we can change the world! In this episode, you'll learn: How to not feel ashamed about being an HSP. Learning it's normal to be annoyed with some of our HSP traits. How we can get better at self-acceptance. Plus a bonus inner ...
Feb 01, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 22
If you're anything like me you may not think you're codependent. You may be tempted to skip this episode all together but I highly encourage you to take a quick listen. You see I always thought codependency was something other people dealt with, but never me. Until I realized what being codependent really means. And I get it - you may want to choose an ignorance is bliss kind of thing BUT once you are aware of what is holding you back, sapping your energy, and making you resentful, you can move ...
Jan 25, 2022•17 min•Season 1Ep. 21
I used to second-guess myself all the time. I struggled to make my own decisions and always looked to others for guidance. I just didn’t trust myself to have the answers. And it’s no wonder - because most HSPs are told their whole lives (either verbally or vibrationally) that they are different and weird and….wrong. It took me a long time to finally start trusting myself and not look to others for answers. It starts small but once you get the ball rolling, life will open up to you when you stop ...
Jan 18, 2022•16 min•Season 1Ep. 20
What happens when we let our inner critic speak too much, too often, and for too long? We start doubting ourselves, we take less risks, and we believe every bad thing that little voice says. Here’s the thing though, you are not your inner critic. You are so much more and so much better than that voice gives you credit for. I’ve noticed that around this time of year, my inner critic comes out especially hard. We fail on our new goals before we even start because we let that voice run the show. Th...
Jan 11, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 19
One of my most highly requested topics! Relationships & friendships as an HSP. In this episode, I share about HSP’s with non-HSP spouses, how to make friends when you feel like you’re so different than everyone else, how to navigate the uncertainty of dating, and maintaining a healthy connection with your non-HSP friends and family. I want to thank everyone who submitted questions through Instagram - you are the reason I do this! Always feel free to send questions via Instagram and keep an e...
Jan 04, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 18
When every weird look, snide remark, or unfriendly punctuation in a text can cause us to go into a tailspin – it’s easy to see that we may take things a little too personally. Because we are constantly taking in more information than others, we tend to notice every mood change or every slight difference in a person’s communication which causes us to feel as if things are our fault or directed at us. But ready for some ground breaking news?! 9 times out of 10, another person’s behavior or mood is...
Dec 28, 2021•21 min•Season 1Ep. 17
How many times have you walked into a room and immediately felt overwhelmed by everyone else's emotions and energy? I could bet that it’s a lot. Trust me, I know the feeling of taking on the energy around me and the sense of helplessness that I can’t do anything about it. “I’m an empath, I can’t help but feel everyone’s feelings!” If this is something you’ve said to yourself before, it’s time to set some energetic boundaries. You have the power to protect your soul and essence. Even if you’re an...
Dec 21, 2021•18 min•Season 1Ep. 16
If you constantly feel like your battery is on low and you’re sprinting to a charger before you shut down, this episode is for you. Being drained as an HSP may feel like something you just have to live with.... But when you understand who you are, what energizes you, and what things calm you down you will notice that the days you feel drained become less and less frequent. It starts with boundaries, self-care, and understanding. We often put so much pressure on ourselves to be the best every sin...
Dec 14, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Welcome to the very first Q&A sesh on The Highly Sensitive and Soulful Show! In this episode, I share some practical and easy action items that you can do at anytime, some common HSP myths, the balancing act of tackling your fears but staying safe and grounded, and what it means to be an extroverted HSP! I want to thank everyone who submitted questions through Instagram - you are the reason I do this! Always feel free to send questions via Instagram and keep an eye out for more Q&A sessi...
Dec 07, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 14
We like to make life harder than it needs to be, don't we? We tend to overthink, overachieve, and over-stress. But what if it could all be easy?! In this episode, I get a little vulnerable and share some of my current struggles and how I'm handling them. From breaking down after an interaction with a neighbor to holiday stress, it can feel like too much. But with these two simple questions, you can change your outlook on life (at least on a small scale). But what's so amazing is that these small...
Nov 30, 2021•16 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Navigating the holidays as a Highly Sensitive Person should be an olympic sport. Between numerous parties, outings, and big family gatherings, it can feel like a recipe for overwhelm. We know the holidays are supposed to be about love, happiness, peace, and joy but it can often feel like the most stressful part of the year. We feel guilty for letting the hustle and bustle get to us, we could be dealing with the loss of a loved one, or live in a new place without friends and family around. Holida...
Nov 25, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Join me and some of my friends as we dive deep into the relationship between being an HSP and developing a chronic illness. No of course not all HSPs will develop a chronic illness but it can be more common for us and we should be prepared if it happens or if we are currently going through it. A few weeks ago I was interviewed by Jess & Ben Fritz on the Chronically Healing Podcast and we had such an amazing conversation that I knew I had to share the episode on my podcast! We get real about ...
Nov 23, 2021•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 11
If you're anything like me, you grew up feeling like you were too much, too emotional, too sensitive - so you learned to counterbalance that with... *que Spongebob putting a rainbow over his head* people pleasing . It's not uncommon as an HSP and empath to simply go with the flow; don't make waves, don't make suggestions in case someone hates it, don't state an opposing opinion because you may make enemies, etc. etc. etc. But at the core of people pleasing is really just us trying to control oth...
Nov 16, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 10
"Why do I feel so out of place here?" "Why does it feel so hard to make friends?" "Why don't people respect me and my boundaries?" As an HSP, these types of thoughts can be all too common in our everyday life. We feel we aren't understood by others and that leaves us feeling unsure of ourselves and our traits. It can be hard to come to terms with the fact that yes, we are very different from non-HSPs...but I'm here to tell you: THAT'S OKAY! You are not meant to be like everyone else. Your gifts ...
Nov 09, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 9
As HSPs, we tend to get more overwhelmed and overstimulated more easily than our non-HSP friends, family members, and coworkers. This can be a challenge for us because we never to feel that our HSP traits are a bad thing. We don't want to be viewed as weak because we "can't keep up" or "get frazzled easily." Things that seem to be labeled as bad in our society. The truth is, our nervous systems are just designed differently. Sometimes we aren't even aware of how much information we are taking in...
Nov 02, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 8
HSPs make up only about 15-20% of the population which means most people you meet and have relationships with are not HSPs. This is why it's so important to learn about your trait and understand the HSP characteristics fully in order to communicate them to your partner. Our partners can't read our minds, we must be willing to have those conversations with them. In most cases, the people we have strong relationships with will be open (and eager) to learn more about you and what makes you, YOU! Bu...
Oct 26, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Energy Leak: something that is taking up space and leaking energy from you. It can be sneaky and small and you might not even realize it's leaking your energy. When life starts to feel heavy and draining for no reason, it can usually be traced back to an energy leak or two. Because we, as HSPs tend to process everything around us so deeply (from our environment to the people we are with) energy leaks are going to be much more noticeable and draining to us. This is why it's so important to find t...
Oct 19, 2021•22 min•Season 1Ep. 6
It all started from a genuine place to feel better... We never intend for self-help to become like a bad habit that consumes us and every waking moment -- but it can if we aren't careful. We can get so caught up in "bettering ourselves" that it causes us immense anxiety and stress when we do things that are labeled as unproductive. I share about my journey to discovering the self-help world, how I let it take over my life, and my light-bulb moment when I knew it had gone too far. I'd realized th...
Oct 12, 2021•17 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Triggers can show up in all sorts of ways -- from an immediate emotional reaction like anger or sadness to a physical gut reaction like shaking, feeling sick or nauseous. It can be overwhelming and happen so suddenly that we aren't aware until we're deep in the feels. It can be easy to blame others when we're triggered but instead we should empower ourselves to find the root cause of the issue and why what that person did triggered us in the first place. Turn the focus inward and respect yoursel...
Oct 05, 2021•21 min•Ep. 4
Maybe you grew up being told your emotions were "too much" or you were in a household where it was literally unsafe to express how you were feeling...now as an adult you find it difficult to handle these emotions and feelings. As I currently work through feelings of grief in my own life, philosophies on Emotional Regulation have been coming up a lot. It can be so much easier to numb out or blow up instead of just feeling the feelings and moving on. Growth, expansion, and a stronger version of yo...
Sep 27, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 3
This if the first of many podcast episodes on boundaries. As an HSP and empath, people pleasing can be our natural tendency which often leads to a lot of blurred lines and lack of boundaries. Every time we say yes to someone else and what they want, we are saying no to ourselves. Boundaries not only allow us to honor ourselves but also show others how to treat and respect us. In this episode, you'll learn: When and where you need boundaries. How to enforce the boundaries you put in place. Why it...
Sep 27, 2021•17 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Welcome to the very first episode of the Sensitive & Soulful Show! I'm your host, Alissa Boyer - a spiritual writer, founder of the Highly Sensitive & Soulful Membership, and mentor to Highly Sensitive People (HSP). My mission in life is to help other highly sensitive souls learn how to embrace their sensitivity as a gift and lean into it instead of fighting against it. In this episode, I talk about my own personal journey to discovering I'm an HSP and how I've turned it into my ultimate...
Sep 27, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 1
