In this episode, Alissa is joined by her client and friend, Elena Willitts, a home organizing coach who helps women, especially Type B and Type C personalities to ditch the shame, create simple systems, and feel confident in their space. They talk about why traditional organizing advice doesn’t work for everyone, how clutter impacts your mental well-being (especially for highly sensitive people), and the deeper self-worth work behind creating a home you love. Elena’s unique approach blends minds...
Aug 12, 2025•35 min•Ep. 209
Do you shrink yourself around confident or intimidating people? Do you feel the need to “chameleon” into who others want you to be...just to feel accepted or safe? In this episode, Alissa explores one of the biggest challenges for highly sensitive people (HSPs): shrinking to be liked. Inspired by a client conversation, Alissa shares why discomfort isn’t dangerous, why you don’t need to match someone else’s energy to be enough, and how to shift from people-pleasing to power. This is your reminder...
Aug 05, 2025•22 min•Ep. 208
In this episode, Alissa shares a collective energetic shift she’s been sensing...one that’s deeply impacting how many of us relate to social media, content creation, and digital connection. As a highly sensitive person (HSP) and mentor, Alissa explores the rise of AI, the changing feel of Instagram, and the growing desire for more authentic, slower-paced, and meaningful forms of communication. She opens up about her evolving relationship with technology, her new writing space on Substack, and he...
Jul 29, 2025•22 min•Ep. 207
Welcome to the Not Too Sensitive podcast!! Alissa shares why the podcast name change, and how what began as a journal entry turned into a powerful intuitive shift, marking the next era of her work with highly sensitive people. Alissa shares the personal story behind the rebrand, the deeper meaning behind the phrase “not too sensitive,” and how this isn’t just a title change, but the start of a cultural movement rooted in self-worth, confidence, and HSP empowerment. What You’ll Learn: Why Alissa ...
Jul 22, 2025•23 min•Ep. 206
In this episode, Alissa addresses a pattern many highly sensitive people struggle with...feeling like a burden and constantly putting others on a pedestal. She unpacks how these feelings stem from low self-worth and how they shape the way others respond to us. With compassionate but honest insight, Alissa shares how shifting your energy and healing your self-worth can radically transform your relationships, confidence, and opportunities. What You’ll Learn: How low self-worth leads to feeling lik...
Jul 15, 2025•19 min•Ep. 205
In this episode, Alissa shares her current life season as a mom of two, author, and business owner, and how this pressure has illuminated areas for healing and self-evolution. Through powerful reflections and raw honesty, Alissa invites highly sensitive people (HSPs) to view pressure not as punishment, but as a spiritual opportunity to become the next version of themselves. What You’ll Learn: Why seasons of pressure and overwhelm are actually signs of soul-level growth How to surrender to discom...
Jul 08, 2025•31 min•Ep. 204
In this episode, Alissa shares a personal mindset shift that can be a game-changer for highly sensitive people focusing on being proud of how you show up, rather than relying on others to validate you. Through real-life stories including awkward happy hours to Instagram posts to toddler mealtime critiques, she explores how to stop chasing external approval and instead ground yourself in self-trust, self-respect, and authentic expression. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to recognize when yo...
Jul 01, 2025•23 min•Ep. 203
In this episode, Alissa unpacks the hidden reasons why highly sensitive people (HSPs) often struggle with self-trust, and how that lack of trust leads to people-pleasing, being overly tolerant, and losing connection with their own worth. Through personal stories and client breakthroughs, she explores how being overly empathetic can actually lead to self-abandonment, why being “too understanding” hurts more than it helps, and how to finally rebuild your self-trust from the inside out. If you’ve e...
Jun 24, 2025•22 min•Ep. 202
In this episode, Alissa explores what it means to rest, surrender, and find steadiness in the silence. Whether it’s waiting on a job, a text, or clarity in a relationship, these “in-between” moments can stir up anxiety and self-doubt...most especially for highly sensitive people. Alissa opens up about hitting a wall, listening to her energy as a Manifestor, and embracing the sacred invitation of stillness. She also offers practical, compassionate tools to shift how you relate to waiting, rest, a...
Jun 17, 2025•23 min•Ep. 201
In this episode, Alissa explores the raw, emotional process of moving through self-abandonment and into a fuller, more authentic sense of self-worth. Speaking candidly from her car post-Pilates (in true real-life mom mode), Alissa reflects on her personal journey and what she’s seeing come up for her clients, especially highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigating the discomfort of change. She unpacks the emotional layers of guilt, fear of rejection, and identity shifts that emerge when we stop peo...
Jun 10, 2025•28 min•Ep. 200
In today's episode, Alissa shares the powerful story of a private client who transformed her self-worth and friendships by healing sisterhood wounds and learning to break free from overgiving tendencies. Alissa offers deeply relatable insights for HSPs who struggle to feel truly accepted in friendships—and gives you the exact mindset shift to start creating friendships that feel soul nourishing and aligned. What you’ll learn: How past relational wounds (especially with your mother) can affect yo...
Jun 03, 2025•19 min•Ep. 199
If you’re someone who spirals when a friend doesn’t text back or seems distant, this episode is a powerful reminder: it might feel personal...but it probably isn’t. Alissa explores why highly sensitive people often take things personally in friendships and how past wounds may be showing up in the present. You’ll learn how to identify your triggers, assume the most generous, and support yourself with compassion—so you can experience more peace in your relationships. What You’ll Learn: Why HSPs of...
May 27, 2025•19 min•Ep. 198
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I always care more?” —this episode is for you. Alissa Boyer unpacks the deep emotional pattern many highly sensitive people experience in friendships: the “I care more” wound. When you’re constantly overgiving, anticipating everyone’s needs, and doing the emotional heavy lifting, it can leave you feeling unseen and burned out. This episode helps you uncover why that dynamic keeps repeating—and how to shift out of it so you can create friendships that feel mutual, ...
May 20, 2025•19 min•Ep. 197
You are a good person—and you’re still allowed to say no. In this soul-nourishing episode, in today's episode, Alissa dives into one of the biggest emotional blocks for highly sensitive people: guilt. Whether it's over setting a boundary, saying no to a social invite, or not stepping in to solve someone else's problem, guilt can feel like too much to bear. But what if the work isn't to avoid guilt, but to learn how to hold it with compassion? This episode is here to help you build that emotional...
May 13, 2025•13 min•Ep. 196
This episode is your gentle but powerful reminder: people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. And yes—that truth can set you free. Alissa invites you into a much-needed conversation about the discomfort of being misunderstood, the fear of judgment, and how to find emotional safety within yourself . If you've ever spiraled after a group text or overanalyzed a social media post, this one's for you. Learn how to reclaim your peace and stop outsourcing your self-worth! What you...
May 06, 2025•24 min•Ep. 195
This episode is a love note to the fellow HSPs, the deep feelers, the ones who felt like you were too much! In this heartfelt episode, Alissa reminds you that feeling deeply is NOT a flaw—it’s a GIFT. Sharing her own journey of growing up feeling "too much" and now raising her spirited daughter, Alissa offers powerful reflections and lessons for you as a highly sensitive person. Through her honest experiences, you'll be encouraged to embrace your emotional depth, recognize your sensitivity as a ...
Apr 29, 2025•22 min•Ep. 194
In this episode, Alissa’s diving deep into how to move through life’s disappointments with faith, self-compassion, and a spiritual perspective. She shares powerful reflections and a moving client story that illustrates how our most painful moments can hold hidden lessons, ultimately leading us closer to who we're meant to become. This is a must-listen for any highly sensitive person navigating uncertainty, regret, or self-blame. What you'll learn: Why a spiritual perspective is essential for emo...
Apr 22, 2025•22 min•Ep. 193
In this episode, I dive into the process of how personal growth and healing can change your relationships and friendships. As you evolve and step into your authentic self, your standards for the people in your life naturally rise. This can lead to some friendships evolving, some fading away, and even the need to have tough conversations about boundaries. I share how important it is to recognize your values and how they shape your relationships, and how owning your worth is a vital step in attrac...
Apr 15, 2025•19 min•Ep. 192
In this episode, I explore the concept of vulnerability for highly sensitive people (HSPs) and the emotional risks we take when we share parts of ourselves. I discuss how we can approach vulnerability with courage, especially when our openness isn’t met with the response we hoped for. I also share tips on how to discern who is safe to be vulnerable with and how to be compassionate with yourself when things don’t go as planned. What you'll learn: How to embrace vulnerability as a courageous act, ...
Apr 08, 2025•19 min•Ep. 191
In this episode, I dive into how overstimulation and overwhelm impact me as a highly sensitive person (HSP) and how understanding these traits has helped me better support myself in managing them. I share personal examples of what overstimulates me, like noise and visual clutter, and the simple steps I take to reduce these stressors and maintain balance. I emphasize the importance of not judging myself for my sensitivity but rather embracing it, and how this mindset shift allows me to thrive. Ho...
Apr 01, 2025•17 min•Ep. 190
In this episode, I dive into the process of rebirth and transformation, especially when stepping into a new identity. I share how, during times of growth, you may feel like you're caught between the person you were and the person you're becoming. You'll learn how to handle this in-between space, the importance of visualizing the person you want to become, and how to practice shifting into that new version of yourself. What you'll learn: How to embrace the discomfort and awkwardness of shifting i...
Mar 25, 2025•24 min•Ep. 189
In this episode, we talk about and explore the freedom that comes with being true to yourself, even if it means being disliked or misunderstood by others. I discuss how trying to please everyone can lead to self-abandonment and how embracing your authentic self, no matter who disagrees, will empower you. You'll learn how healing your self-worth can help you stand firm in your authenticity and attract more aligned relationships. What you'll learn: Why it's impossible to be loved by everyone, and ...
Mar 18, 2025•17 min•Ep. 188
In this episode, I dive deep into the idea of taking radical responsibility for our lives and how embracing triggers can lead to personal growth. I explain how being open to uncomfortable moments and reflecting on the role we play in our own struggles can help us step into our empowered, authentic selves. I also introduce tools like the Sensitive Shadow Archetype Quiz and the Unbotherable Workshop to help you uncover blind spots and learn how to use triggers as opportunities for growth. What you...
Mar 11, 2025•19 min•Ep. 187
In this episode, I discuss the importance of surrendering versus forcing, especially for highly sensitive people. I explore how embracing the natural ebbs and flows of our energy, rather than constantly pushing ourselves, is key to thriving and finding peace. I share my personal experience as a second time mom and offer practical insights on how to slow down, release control, and trust that the right answers will come when we allow space for them. In this episode, you'll learn: How can I stop fe...
Mar 04, 2025•16 min•Ep. 186
In this episode, I dive into the power of using triggers as opportunities for personal growth and healing. I share how seemingly minor frustrations, like a chipped nail or a social media post that doesn’t perform, can reveal deeper insecurities and lead to valuable lessons when approached with the right mindset. I explain how to transform these moments into a chance for up-leveling and self-discovery. What you'll learn: How to reframe frustrations and challenges as opportunities for growth The i...
Feb 25, 2025•20 min•Ep. 185
In this episode, I discuss the challenges highly sensitive people (HSPs) often face in friendships, particularly the tendency to overgive and feel unappreciated. I share insights from my work with clients who struggle with abandonment wounds and the patterns of overcompensating to avoid rejection. By healing your self-worth and understanding your own needs, you can shift away from overgiving and create healthier, more balanced friendships. What you'll learn: How overgiving in friendships can ste...
Feb 18, 2025•20 min•Ep. 184
In this episode, I reflect on how my relationship with my husband, who is not highly sensitive, has been a journey of growth and healing for both of us. I share the lessons I've learned about embracing our differences and using them to complement each other’s lives. I also discuss how healing my self-worth allowed me to step into a healthy, loving relationship and how we can all thrive in relationships, whether we're with an HSP or not, by learning to accept ourselves first. What you will learn:...
Feb 11, 2025•21 min•Ep. 183
In this episode, I share the story of how I landed a book deal with Penguin Random House (!!) and the lessons I’ve learned along the way! I talk about how navigating through triggers, criticism, and insecurity has been essential for my growth and manifestation process. These experiences have helped me heal my self-worth and become the person capable of achieving big dreams. I encourage you to embrace challenges as opportunities for expansion and trust that your dreams are meant for you. This jou...
Feb 04, 2025•28 min•Ep. 182
In this episode, we're talking about why we often take things personally, especially as highly sensitive people, and how those feelings are actually tied to our own insecurities. I talk about how healing your self-worth can help dissolve the tendency to assume others are judging you, empowering you to let go of these negative thoughts and embrace self-compassion. It's time that you shift your perspective and shake up what you thought you knew. In this episode you'll learn: Why taking things pers...
Jan 28, 2025•14 min•Ep. 181
In this episode, we're diving into a powerful mindset shift that can help reduce anxiety and improve your experience of challenging situations. By adopting the perspective of "What if it goes better than expected?" I share about how reframing anxious thoughts can lead to better outcomes, increase your inner peace, and help you manage uncertainty with more confidence! What you'll learn from this episode: How to shift from anxiety and fear to optimism about the unknown The impact of changing your ...
Jan 21, 2025•15 min•Ep. 180
