I never even understood what emotional grounding was. All I knew was I lived up in my head a lot. On this episode we'll talk a little about the effects of traumas and how we can use a simple technique in a moment to get "out of our head" and back into the present when traumas have us wanting to fight, flight, freeze or fawn. It's all about 5, 4, 3, 2, 2
Another authentic moment in the journey. When I first started to negotiate my life toward wholeness I didn't want to do it. I was actually made to do it by my wife. She gave me the ultimatum of go or "go!" and I knew what she meant. But the question is, "Will any journey toward health work if we are doing it for someone else?" What if the motive isn't right? That's what we'll talk about today as we Negotiate our Lives.
After a year of a fairly private journey toward wholeness, I've decided to return and repurpose this podcast with a new season. We're still talking about "negotiating life" but, for this next season, we will talk about the various tools I've learned to negotiate the pains and traumas of life into wholeness. I am not a therapist, nor do I play one on TV. What I am is a man who hid or hustled until he could do neither any longer. I have faced many of the traumas that led to a breaking point in 202...
This is the most exciting episode of 2021 so far! Today's guest has been featured on People Magazine, CNN, FOX, and almost every media outlet in the U.S. She is an advocate for victims and, at times, defendants! Judge Aquilina is famous for her handling of the nationally televised criminal case involving more than 150 USA female gymnasts who were victimized by their doctor but she is more than a one case judge. Judge Rosemarie Aquilina earned her Juris Doctorate degree from Western Michigan Thom...
What do you do with those people who know how to push your buttons? Frustrating Customers Annoying Family Members Thoughtless Friends Insert the person you immediately thought of here: ________________ On this episode, Jeremy's going to share the honest truth about losing his cool after an event and how is wife @lindseynicks taught him a lesson in the middle of a rant. Learn the three tips to negotiating life when you are offended. It's not easy but it's worth it....
Being good does not equal making an impact. The right words, the right content, and the right products don't mean you'll make the right connection. This week Jeremy will discuss the three reasons you may know all you need to know and fail to connect with your people. If you'll make this shift, you'll have more influence, more impact, and more of what you want out of the relationships you want. Ready to dive in and build heroic influence? jeremynicks.com to get on the waiting list for the next br...
Want to build influence, make an impact, and live out your own dream at the same time? Become a person who has faith in others. On this episode you'll discover three keys to eliminating self doubt in the people you're connecting with. check out more at www.jeremynicks.com
September was the biggest month in the history of Jeremy's business. In this episode he'll be honest and tell you why that doesn't equal happiness. How will you negotiate success without feeling like you're living a meaningless life? Three Ways to maintain meaning in the middle of success: Remember Focus Fix Thanks for you recent reviews and comments! Keep them coming!! Want to be a guest and share how you've negotiated life with success? connect with Jeremy here: @jeremynicks...
In this is episode Jeremy is sharing real disappointment and the power of embracing the pain without staying in a slump. All things don't have to be good. But all things can be used for good. You'll learn how to find power and purpose in unmet expectations, failure and pain through: Creativity and determination Developing a Learner's Mindset Taking Responsibility for what you CAN control Don't forget to leave a rating, review, and let's connect over @jeremynicks...
As seasons in life so do our expectations of ourselves, our dreams, and our businesses. Today we're focusing on the 3 ways our expectations impact our results. Plus we'll give 3 simple things we can do to negotiate through low expectations. Let's connect on IG. I want to hear your story and discover what parts of life you're negotiating right now: @jeremynicks
Today we'll finish up this, long overdue , series on connecting through real listening with: P - Paraphrasing I - "I" Messages E - Effective Pauses S - Summarizing I'd love to connect with you on IG after you've listened and give you the simple 50+ open ended questions guide I have! @jeremynicks
Today Jeremy will put the RE back in RE-Connecting as he talks about the next two skills of true listening. He'll teach you how he got it wrong and it turned out right! Then he'll share why. If you want to be an effective listener you need to utilize the power of: Reflecting and Mirroring Emotional Labeling These skills make all the difference Download the Free Guide to Open Ended questions HERE...
In this episode Jeremy will take you through the first two skills you need to actively engage a person. You can use these skills in business, marriage, parenting, or even when hanging out with friends. Consider the most influential person in the room. They likely start here. Download your free guide to asking better questions HERE
This week the conversations between Jamil (a black man) and Jeremy (a white cop) continue. They are answering questions about: Police Culture Who Polices the Police The Media's Role Join the Conversation at www.negotiatingforlife.com
Every negotiation has one. It may last an hour. It may last more. In this episode Jeremy will share what the screw you hour is, how it applies to you, and how to negotiate through it. The steps are simple: Patience Low Temperature Responses Trigger Recognition Curiosity Living them out in your daily interactions is a little more difficult.
This week the conversations between Jamil (a black man) and Jeremy (a white cop) continue. They are answering questions about: Police Training Defunding the Police Emotional Dissonance Jeremy's reaction to the death of George Floyd Join the Conversation at www.negotiatingforlife.com
What's the most important key to living your dream life? How do you go from desire to reality? Today I'll discuss our family mantra and how it's helped us build our business, assist with parenting, and even got me out of bed when I didn't want to get up today. And here's the framework I promised you from the last episode: Free Network Guide Framework
In our current culture, you may have ideas about why I've chosen to leave law enforcement. Why now? I'll give you three reasons I'm leaving and share the false reasons you may think a person would turn in their badge for during this time. Listen fully and ask yourself...What about me? Do I have full control? Are the costs of my current situation worth the rewards? Do I have margin? What if everything changed tomorrow and I "changed my mind?" Do I have options?...
I was both excited and hesitant when I got the call from my friend. Excited because the conversation has to be had. Hesitant because I'm far from qualified. In light of everything our society is facing, my friend, fellow coach, leader, speaker, and author, Jamil Frazier and I decided to interview each other. Join in on the conversation and give us questions or thoughts for our next episode. www.negotiatingforlife.com...
If we're going to negotiate life together, you should know I almost didn't make the team and I almost quit before I was denied. Today we'll talk about what I learned and why I chose to stick it out even when my ego hurt. I'll also share what that moment impacted so many other decisions in from that point on. When you get your action step of the day head over to jeremynicks.com and let me know what you're negotiating.
The inaugural episode of the podcast. This podcast is dedicated to NEGOTIATING OUR WAY THROUGH LIFE! That includes business, marriage, parenting, friendships and all the things! Full DISCLOSURE, I have a passion for marketing and, specifically, network marketing. Today is about that passion and how it's provided me the freedom. But the skills I've learned as a hostage negotiator can apply to every area. Utilize what you learn to build the life you dream of and desire. I know I'm not alone. You h...
