Hanna:
Hey welcome to Episode 7 of the Podcast. Today I am doing something a little different. I am sharing a recording of myself coaching a group of clients on MONEY stuff. This proved to be really helpful for the people on that call with me and I wanted to share it here because the thought “I don’t have the money to have the life I want or I can’t afford to invest in what I want” really screws a lot of us out of having what we want. And I know many people who want some fresh takes on how to tackle their mindset around money and investing in things that they want…like coaching…but really anything.
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OK I’m going to go ahead and let er rip because this is a bit longer than my usual episodes and I think listening all the way through is going to really give you some great takeaways and tidbits that are helpful. Even if you’re like the money thing doesn’t interest me, I have money to buy what I want, I introduce some new perspectives that you may get some takeaways from here and if you’re already like I have enough money, this conversation can only create more possibility for you. And who doesn’t want that?
So here we go
“I can’t afford to have what I want”
Today we're talking about Money Mindset and investing in something you want.
This is a call for you if you’re gearing up to move into the Mastermind Intensive or if you’re interested in money mindset around making an investment in yourself in any capacity.
I’m only going to talk for a few minutes here and then I’m asking for your thoughts and I’ll coach you on your specific thoughts that are coming up.
So your capacity to HAVE is controlled by your thoughts. And I know that’s sometimes hard to get on board with because you’re like but no I literally don’t have the money and my job only pays hourly and all of these reasons why its the circumstances of your life creating lack. But I promise you it is not. Your mind concocts powerful deliverables when you ask more of it. It cannnot come up with ideas or get creative or feel motivated or driven to do more if you’re keeping it stuck in “I can’t because its not my fault or it’s out of my control”. If you keep believing that its not within your control to create abundance then you’ll never see an opportunity to create abundance. Or not even abundance but possibility.
This is one of the most difficult areas of thought work for most people because they are so sure that they are right about not being able to afford what they want. So I get it this is conceptually more difficult for our brains than many other areas because we are like no, I can do math, and my math is fact here. I don’t have the money.
So if nothing else, my goal for you is to start breaking down the paradigms you’ve designed for yourself or those that have been designed for you through years of conditioning that tell you you can’t have more.
So the problem you have if you’re here is that you want to invest in something. For many of you its the $5000 Intensive program and you’re like the money is stopping me. I don’t have the money to have what I want.
And when I start thinking this thought myself it feels pretty solid. Like my brain convinces me that it’s always true. If I say this it’s true and no one can argue. Well spoiler I’m always gunna argue.
We have a few of these types of thoughts right like money availability is usually one of them like it’s set in stone and we think its unquestionable.
I can’t afford this thing that I want.
Ask yourself a more dynamic question of this thought when it comes up like what is the truth that wants to be expressed through me about this desire right now. If I have the freedom and the right to change my thought about this to feel more true to my desires right now, which you always have…then you might see that in fact this thought is not the fact you want to choose into for your experience.
So this thought, I can’t afford to have the life I want will only ever lead to not feeling like you can afford what you want. There is nothing that creates action from this thought. This thought creates stagnancy. That’s robbery of self expression. Robbery of self fulfillment. Right so any thought like this, especially because it contains one of what I refer to as the fucked up five. I can’t I should I shouldn’t I have to I don’t know are the fucked up five that hardly ever lead to any growth. But this thought will only lead to more can’t. So I’m not gunna go into a whole model on this thought because you guys can see how this plays out for you.
I can’t afford it is not true. Not true.
If you were like this is the X amount of money I have in my account and with that money I am prioritizing the feeding clothing and housing of myself and my dependents, and the leftover number after that is not enough to cover the cost of this thing right now. Great, your priorities are in order for you. But that thought sounds like I am not prioritizing this thing over feeding myself and my kids. It doesn’t sound like I can’t afford it. Those are contradictions. I’m splitting hairs here but my point is that if you think I can’t afford it…there is never any room for what if or how? Like if your reason for not investing in something is because I can’t afford it I will always call that lie. Because you are most likely choosing not to be able to afford it because it’s uncomfortable work to figure out how. If your thought is that it’s not a priority right now and that feels true for you then congrats you made a decision that you…and I…can get behind 100%.
So what I’m going to ask of this thought first is what do you REALLY want? What do you think you’ll be able to have when you purchase this? Because I’ll tell you a secret about wanting stuff—it’s not about the stuff, it’s about how we wanna feel and how we think the stuff will make us feel.
So this is a really cool concept to explore because we all know that you can feel successful, powerful, sexy, desirable, important, interesting, confident, happy…any time we want. We don’t need to wait for stuff.
We can just change our thoughts to generate those feelings. Right? I can think thoughts that make me feel successful right now, even without buying the car. Identify what feeling you’re seeking and figure out what thought you need to think to feel it now.
And then from that place decide if you still want the stuff…sometimes the answer is no I don’t need the stuff I’m good. But lots of times the answer is still yes, I want it because I want it and now I actually feel good enough and successful or confident enough to decide I can figure out how to have what I want.
If you can decide from place of positive emotion that you want to have something, you know it’s true and it’s meant for you.
Now if you’re not there yet, if you’re like okay Hanna whatever I can’t just make myself feel successful, happy, fulfilled, yet, I just wanna know how to have the thing I want. I don’t need to coach myself out of having it I just want it. Great! I always always think that “just because I want to” is a great reason to do anything.
And I already have a question here about why would you want anything if you can just feel good now without it? This is great and I get this question a lot. Like what is the point of even wanting more if we’ve mastered the ability to create the feeling we want to feel. One of my teachers says, because it’s fun. She says that’s why she wants to create 100 million dollars in her business. Because it’s fun. Because it would be fun to find out what we are capable of.
I use this analogy sometimes and you may have heard it before. Your brain is like a mountain bike. And not just any mountain bike. It’s like the most tricked out expensive bike you could ever buy. Like the $30,000, only 100 ever made special edition one. But everyone, we all have this incredibly versatile, totally badass mountain bike up there in our head and most people, they ride it on the road. Right so like imagine you have this crazy mountain bike with all the bells and whistles and you only ever rode it around town on the roads. Like sure you could go to some cool places, you’d see shit, visit people. Get from here to there. And it would be pretty easy right, to just cruise on flat pavement. You’d never have to change a tire or get a tune up on the bike because you wouldn’t be workin it very hard or putting it through any strain.
But what you’d miss out on is seeing the mountaintops. You’d miss the adventure and the splendor of the climb, of the journey over some really difficult terrain, to ultimately a place where maybe no one has ever even been or experienced before in the way that you will on this mountain bike that is literally built to take you places.
That’s what I think our brains are like. They are literally built to take us places. And we don’t have to go, but what a mind fuck it would be if we did. What fun it might be to just do it, because we wanted to.
So that’s the long answer to your question of why does having things even matter if we can feel good now. In my opinion if you’re doing thought work like a G, controlling your feelings like the emotional adult that you are, why wouldn’t you wanna ask “what else?”
I digress.
So, Just ask yourself: how bad do you want this thing that you want? How much are you like no but seriously if I could figure out how to have this thing, bam! Like what is it worth to you? If youre looking at the intensive program and you’re like I want to do this but my thought is it’s not even worth $5,000 then you’re done here. Is it worth the amount of money that you’d need to invest or is it not? Is the value of the thing, for you, comparable or beyond the monetary investment in it?
Your answer is going to come from your gut here it’s going to be like yes I know it’s worth that or nah not really.
And do you like your reasons for your answer yes or no. IF you’re like no way not worth it and you like your reasons why its not worth it then you don’t need to be on this call because it’s not really something you desire. So do you like your reasons means like what is the reason that you don’t think it’s worth that much monetary or time investment? If you’re like bc I don’t personally have that much money, do you like thinking that something is “too expensive for you” so it’s not worth that much? Just some things to notice that I don’t think we actually really consider. Like “that’s too expensive” means “I don’t believe that I personally could invest that much so that means I am not worthy of that thing”…is that true? Do you like that reason for saying no to something that you want.?
Ok so step one is identifying if its something you truly desire for yourself and your reason can be just because I want it and if that feels powerful enough to you then it totally is.
So a way to get to another truth with yourself here is to ask if it was free of charge financially to have this thing, what and how much would I be willing to sacrifice of my life..my time, my energy, my thoughts, my work, to have it? Like if it was free would you be 1000% invested energetically, still or would you be like meh I could go off it. So figure out if you really want it first and ask yourself what am I willing to do to have it? That will tell you if you even want to do the work to have it.
Right like when I signed up for my coach trainings and there was no financial aid or any of that I wanted it so bad. I was like I am willing to do anything to make this possible. And that thought drove a lot of action right? I am willing to do anything made me feel determined as hell and my actions showed up as anything and all the things right…taking on another job, scheduling my time to the minute to make space in my days to actually show up, asking for a loan, signing clients that I didn’t think I had time for but made time for by doing shit I didn’t like like taking 8 am calls. In my training at The Health Coach Institute I started making money while I was still in training so I could participate in their 10k in 10 weeks challenge and I spoke on a stage and won $10,000 so that I could take that money and pay back my loan.
Because if I’m willing to do anything…and this was in service of something I value more than most anything which is my own personal growth and the tools to share that with others who want it too…I will find a way, like there’s no way I won’t figure it out because my thought is so strong.
So no I didn’t have 21 thousand dollars just laying around but I created it with my mind.
And the work you do to create possibility prepares us even more for the having of what we want. Right?
I want to talk about this idea again I think it will come up on this call later because it’s so important to know that the work you do to create finances to be able to invest in something you want is the work that is going to drive quicker evolution.
You guys that have invested in coaching already and previously thought it was expensive or you couldn’t see yourself investing in your growth in that way you know what I’m talking about. The self coaching and thought work you do to generate the money gives you a head start at the actual coaching you’re investing in. The work always starts before the work and if things that you really wanted were free they frankly wouldn’t be as valuable when you finally figure out how to get out of your own way and have them.
Ok I want to know your thoughts because I can talk a lot more but I want to see what’s really happening for you so I can coach on this and I have a feeling I already know a lot of what’s happening for you guys because I too am human and have to constantly work on money mindset.
So Samantha already said,
My thought is “that’s a huge investment like I’ve never made before”
Yes Samantha thanks for sharing that.
Ok so two things happening here. One is that when we let our brains go wild they always default to what we’ve always done as the only way to do shit. So nothing has gone wrong here your brain is working perfectly if it’s saying omg I’ve never done this before because it’s programmed to keep you doing stuff that’s easy. Your primitive brain is like why would you need to make more money and have this new thing, you’re alive now and not dead so why would you need to do anything different? This is like such an easy in-bed-with-your-brain moment. Notice this. You go, I want this new thing because it’s going to change my life. And your brain goes, giiirl, I got you. We good right here. No need to change anything and we’re gunna be great.
Now, she’s not wrong, that little minx. She’s using your thought work against you. You know that you could decide not to make this investment and you could have a beautiful life. You know that’s true. So your brain is like ok then why don’t we just do that? That sounds like it’s waaaay easier because we already know exactly what to do to keep doin what we’re doin.
So, challenge that thought. Because you know you’re ready to pedal up the mountain and see some crazy shit. You guys listen. “Because I’ve never done it before” is NEVER a good reason not to do something. Its always a great indicator that this will be big growth and big evolution for you so take advantage of it.
When your brain is like I’ve never done this before, take that as like code for, “get curious about where this will take me” “mount up girl we goin up.”
And the other part of that thought Samantha has is “that’s a huge investment”. How is it helpful for you to think this is a huge investment? Because that feels scary. That feels like defeat, right? This is a HUGE investment feels heavy and like there’s no way its just so huge. So again if you’ve already decided that it’s something you really want, try on a thought that isn’t so overwhelming. Like this is how much this costs. It’s like releasing the pressure, The word HUGE has a lot of negative connotations here I’m going to assume right? Like huge means heavy and difficult to manage and scary and impossible.
But we know it’s not actually a huge investment why? Bc not everyone in the world would agree that it’s a huge investment. I thought that 21 thousand dollars invested in myself was reasonable, that’s how I defined that investment in my thoughts, reasonable, so I definitely don’t think that $5,000 is huge. This is exactly what this investment is supposed to cost. Thats my thought. So try that.
What else?
Anonymous says, I don’t know how to generate the money.
Way to stay anonymous there because you knew I was going to call you out for the “I don’t know”.
I don’t know. Thats a rough thought right? Ouch. It’s sooo disempowering. I don’t know how to do something is like the ultimate in defeat because it’s like saying I don’t trust myself to try and find out, full stop. End of conversation. Close the door. Nothing left for you here.
So cut out the I don’t know because that just blocks you from knowing.
I can figure it out. Why do you know that is true? Because there are lots of somebodies that have figured it out before. There’s probably somebody you know that has figured out how to invest in themselves in a new way.
But saying I don’t know is never helpful and its never true. What if you were open to finding a way? What if the thought was I know I can figure this out. Thats generating determination and creative thinking and curiosity which leads to looking for solutions, asking around, opening up to more than two possibilities. Right we do the either or thing when we “don’t know”. Either I can go into debt OR I can pass on this investment. Either I can beg my mom to help me OR this isn’t going to work out. Why you backing yourself into a corner. There are thousands of other possibilities.
If I chose that thought…there are thousands of possibilities for how to make this work…
Curiosity leads to a lot of new thought energy. You put your brain to work when you’re curious.
I could take another job. I could ask for a raise. I could budget to save money instead of eating out or drinking or buying clothes or traveling or paying into retirement. I could take out a personal loan, ask my family for money, tap into savings, have a freakin bake sale. I can look for places that I already HAVE that money that is was unwilling to see when I thought I didn’t know how. Stop blocking your genus with “I don’t know.”
Simone says what about of you’re sure you can’t afford it right now but you want to do it in the future.
Ok so “not yet” is totally a possible decision. I want this thing and I’m not ready to go all in on it right now. But here’s what I will challenge you to do if you’re like there’s a future time that I will do this.
If we are talking about money, I want you to tell me when? When exactly is this future time? Not yet is open-ended and allows your brain to keep defaulting to not yet until not yet becomes forever. So what’s the plan? Like if not now then when? And why then? What will be different then? And you’re not allowed to say I don’t know. We do this were we are like ok I’ll do it in 4 months and then I’ll be ready and all my ducks will be in a row…and then we don’t do anything differently and 4 months go by and then we’re still exactly in the same place energetically, in our thoughts and obviously financially.
So what will be different or what are you planning to do to give not yet an end?
Because people like leave it up to time. Like well I think that in 4 months or next year things will be different and then I ask what will be different and they are like I dunno I can’t tell the future but I’ll just have had more time. I’m not asking what in the world will change, I’m asking what in you will change your world. You can live an entire lifetime and money doesn’t magically just come because time has passed. If you don’t do anything differently then you’re just older and still don’t have any idea how you’re going to make an investment.
And so you might be like yeah I actually have a plan because I’ve done the math and figured out that in 4 months I’ll be able to save the money if I put this much aside each week or whatever.
Can someone do the math for me on this like if you decided that you’re going to start the next round of the Mastermind which is in 4 months, how much is 5000 divided into weekly savings?
5000 divided by 4 is 1250 per month or 312 per week. Or about 44 dollars a day for 4 months.
So if you were like ok this is the breakdown. I am going to have 5000 dollars in four months and I need to have a plan for where does that money come from. And what kind of thought work will you be doing to make it inevitable for you to follow through each week and put that money aside?
What will you have to think?
That is the beginnings and the foundation of what you’re willing to do. Remember that question I asked at the beginning, what are you willing to do to make this possible…figuring out logistically what it will take is a great first step. After believing it’s possible.
So it all starts with our thoughts right? Like, “not yet”, saying I’m not going to invest in this yet is acceptable if you want to feel relieved in this moment, like yeah I want this but not right now not yet and so I don’t have to think about it..and then not take any action toward investing in your goal, ever.
Because not yet or sometime soon or in the future or eventually….those are all kinda cop outs or sneaky thoughts your brain uses to trick you into thinking that you’re still going to get what you want eventually. But your primitive brain really has no intention of doing anything. The little minx.
But what if you chose a thought like “I will create the finances I need in the next 4 months”?
Thats like drive and determination to me. Like ok here we go, I’m already in the work NOW. I don’t even have to wait for my coaching Mastermind to begin. Like why would you wait? If this work is calling you and you’re like I am all in all that’s missing is the finances, hello, you start working with the coaching tools you have now, even if its just the model…and I say just the model but that’s all you need. You guys all have that tool. Thoughts create feelings create action create results. Start coaching yourself right now and create a result of money to invest in something to grow your powers of creation even more.
Like people say to me all the time in my private practice, “I’ll let you know when money evens out.” Or “I’m going to have to wait until my finances are better” or like “I’m really wanting to do this but the money is just not there right now”….as if money just has a mind of its own and it’s going to grow and shrink when it feels like it and we are here just waiting for it to magically change.
We want to have power over our lives and over our finances and yet we use language and thoughts about money as if it were the thing controlling itself. Like well, I don’t really know what money is thinking about today, tomorrow it might feel like multiplying but I’m not really sure so I’ll just have to wait it out and see.
“I don’t know where money is going to come from…”that just results in not having money come from anywhere because you’re waiting on it to appear.
How disempowering it is to think this way. To choose to believe that we are at the mercy of money. This is why people think that things are expensive, right, because if money is in control and you are powerless to change it, then what a struggle it must be to ever give it away.
And this brings me to another point about money that I want to make. If we cannot learn to release this attachment to money and to what we make money mean, that its such a big deal, we are robbing ourselves of the capacity to have more. All the things we think about money like its dirty and confusing and friendship-ruining and bad and complicated….these negative connotations about money that we harbor unconsciously, they keep money away and they make it really difficult for money to flow. Making it so heavy will never create lightness and ease when it comes to letting money out and letting money in. So I know some of you don’t vibe when we coach on this but lets stop making everything such a big deal. What if it wasn’t so difficult? What would it look like to invest then? What if you could believe that money was always available and always able to flow to you? Would it be less scary to let it flow out? In reality we create scarcity in our minds, we create more lack when we think that we can’t let money flow from us because we will never get it back. I’ve found that when I let money, or energy flow out, it creates space for more to flow in because I’m not feeling desperate or clingy. Right, I’m feeling open. We talk about having an open heart…and the implication behind that sentiment is that when you have an open heart you let your emotions flow you give energy out and say what you think and tell people how you feel…but an open heart can let just as much in as out. As can an open wallet. It’s just another way to exchange energy, and when your heart and your wallet are open, it’s not just an output of energy, it’s a space to welcome more in.
Ok I have time for a few more questions and comments:
Here’s one: What about my husband? He doesn’t see eye to eye with me about this investment and I want him to be on board but I just don’t think he gets it. We share finances and it makes it tricky.
Ok what about your husband? This isn’t about money as much as your thoughts about your husband and what he needs to understand and what he needs to get. So work on that first. Like what do you want him to do? What if he never does? Does it feel true to you that him not getting it should be the reason you don’t do what you want?
Like do you get why people invest in all the things they want? Probably not right? Like my husband buys Phish tickets and I wouldn’t invest in that because I don’t really care that much about Phish, the band. But that’s what he loves that’s what gives him joy and fills him up and excites him and I want him to spend his money on the things that make him happy, not the things that I think would be better. But just because I don’t get the hype about Phish, he doesn’t make that mean that he should stop seeing Phish live or spending his money in that way.
But your husband might not get why you want to spend your money on this and that’s okay. He doesn’t have to. Seriously. Women don’t believe that this is your thoughts. Your husband does not have to understand everything you do. In fact I hope that he doesn’t. What if that was true? He’s not supposed to understand this part of me fully, or yet, or maybe ever. He’s just not supposed to get it. What a relief.
How would you show up to explain yourself if you knew from the get go that he wasn’t supposed to understand this investment?
I also like to ask people, especially women who have this objection like do you ask your husband every time you buy something? Does he ask you? Whats the dynamic there? What are your thoughts about how couples should be with their shared money? Explore that. Do some models on that.
Ok people are saying stuff about their family their spouse their kids and worrying about taking away from them.
Or what they’ll think.
Ok look what are you investing in and how will the thing you’re investing in actually benefit those people? If you can come up with a benefit for them, it will be so. Stop trying to
make other people “get it” or understand why. That’s not what their brain wants to do so stop making it harder for you by trying to make them understand your thoughts. They don’t have to. Wow that’s kinda revolutionary right!? It’s not your job or your concern. Truly. Especially, especially, if it’s your husband or kids or friends bc they will be the ones trying to protect you because remember their brains have thoughts about danger danger this is change and I don’t like the sound of that and their intention is to protect you from something. So stop trying to change their mind when their thoughts are literally just to protect you. That’s actually really great that they are doing that right? So thanks guys for being concerned I can appreciate that and I’ve decided this is what I want and I am responsible for my feelings about it, and my results from taking this action, not yours.
You don’t need to Coach your spouse ok please don’t do that. Just coach yourself to know this and recognize what is happening for them and find compassion for a human who loves you.
And If you’re like ok but I’m taking away money from my kids or from this vacation fund or whatever to invest in this program, what are your kids or your people actually gaining by you investing in this program? Who will you get to be by showing up as a parent that makes bold decisions and values herself in this way? Like you saying I can’t invest because of my kids. You’re weaponizing your kids against yourself. You’re using your kids against you and that’s kinda messed up and not fair to them and what are you saying about what’s possible for them? To be an example to our children, husbands, friends, family, is a major bonus of making an investment. We tell our kids you can do anything you just have to work hard or think creatively like be strong and be who you want to be and carve your path in the world.
And then we’re like oh wait but I can’t do any of that, you just figure out how to do that but I have no idea how to show you how. Right like this is getting into ideas about generational conditioning and thinking about like what we pass on to our kids and having this false hope that something outside of ourselves will break old patterns. Would you gift the life you have right now and the beliefs you have right now happily to your kids? If not you’re responsibility is to change you, not expect your kids to figure out how to change. You show them how it can be. They are watching and learning I promise and they will get to know themselves deeper when they have a parent who goes first.
You guys didn’t know we were going this deep on money stuff and the funny part is this is just the surface of what money is really here to show us about ourselves.
Like I said before, “just because I want this thing” is a good enough reason to invest in it AND especially if you are talkin about coaching or something that’s going to better yourself, that is actually also in service of the people you love. I have clients all the time who work privately with me say things like “my husband told me he feels like he has his wife back” or “I see myself being more patient and loving toward my kids” or my friends couldn’t believe it when I actually showed up and didn’t want to unload about my job and it’s really strengthened our relationship. If you think that investing in yourself is taking away from someone else I’d really consider that that’s just not true. There is infinite love and energy available in the world and when we exchange energy or money for something that builds us up, we can pour love and energy and power out to the people around us.
Ok Carrie says that she fears that she won’t follow through and make the most of her investment and not get anything out of it and it will be money wasted.
Ok lets talk about this idea of wasting money. It’s my same theory as I have for wasting time or wasting your love.
You can’t do it.
There’s no such thing as wasting money.
This is a thought I’m choosing to believe I understand this but I am so steadfast in this thought because I just don’t see where it would ever be helpful to think otherwise because there is always an energetic shift when you decide to invest money, time or Lōve into something. And I don’t care if its your dream car or or a latte or coaching…
Money out is just energy out. And however you choose to spend your money, is a great investment because you will get something back even if you get “nothing” from what you bought. You get back the experience of money energy exchange. You get to have the experience of letting energy flow out to the world and you get the experience of not dying because you decided to give money away. You got to have a human experience of emotion that you survive through if you truly do give money and get nothing. Very rarely does that happen though right like getting nothing would be like paying for an item on the internet and it never arriving. And even then, you learn something and you experience yourself in whatever human emotion comes from your thoughts about what happened. That is such a beautiful exchange for your money.
And so I would also question this thought of “getting nothing out of it”. Carrie is talking about investing in the Mastermind I’m assuming here so she’s saying what if I pay money for this training and then, what? The videos don’t work? My internet goes out and I never see any of the content? This ends up just being a scam and there is no mastermind? Like what does getting “nothing” mean? Because to coin a phrase from my mother, I find that hard to believe that you’d get nothing. So define nothing.
And to your thought that you might not follow through…what does that mean for you? What would that look like?
And do you really believe that you’d spend $5000 and bail? Because if you do, if you really truly fear that you’d spend $5000 and then decide not to show up or learn anything or do any of the work…then that is not a big enough investment for you. And my suggestion would be to seek out a private coach or a program that exceeds your comfortability threshold.
I don’t ever speak to this point really but do you know why most successful high-paid coaches charge what they do? Like besides the fact that they’ve done coaching themselves to understand the value of their time and offers? They know, from experience, that the investment in self is a belief work issue for many people and if people are willing to push past their comfortability threshold in financial expenditure then they are going to be very coachable. In other words, their results are inevitable. This is why coaches can say I help you reach impossible goals…because if you can change your mind in order to invest in coaching in the first place, that proves to me that you’re ready to change your whole life, if you want to.
I believe that people get the most out of coaching when the investment, to them, feels big enough to challenge the brain to be a little scared. If you’ve done this work and answered these questions and made a decision that you like your reasons for, and you’re still a little freaked out, you’re in the right place.
Ok that’s what I’ve got for you guys on money. I want you to think about what you’re investing in and ask yourself what you’re willing to do to make it possible. Challenge your thoughts about money. You are powerful and capable of having everything you want. The how looks different for everyone so ditch the I don’t knows and put your brain to work. Get uncomfortable. There’s something amazing waiting for you on the other side. And if you’re working with a coach now get coaching on this. Money work is the catalyst for so many amazing life shifts. If you’re not with a personal coach yet and you feel nervous and ready, I’d love to coach you. Schedule a free consult on my website.
I’ll see you next time!