We will learn: How to break the trance of accumulation. How our filters warp our perception. How surrender opens us up to peace. What would it take for you to feel free? Physically, emotionally, spiritually, or even financially… what does freedom look like to you? Have you taken the time to think about it? For most of us, there’s some thing, or many things standing in the way of our freedom… or so we think. But what I find interesting is that most of the things that we think will solve our probl...
Sep 30, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 250
We will learn: The biggest mindset shift you can take on when meeting new people. How to deal with conflict in friendships, and how to decide which ones are worth the effort. How to optimize your socializing efforts and keep the friends you meet. Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? Or at least make really good friends. It can seem daunting and a little scary if you haven’t done it before, but the good news: there are specific, research-based ways to improve the number and quality of y...
Sep 27, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 249
We will learn: How to make sure you have the right diagnosis. How to make sure your provider or your medications are the right fit. How to assist in your own recovery outside of therapy. When you’re depressed or struggling, it can be hard to do anything at all, let alone find a therapist, book an appointment, and actually get there… week after week after week. And then there are the medications. Maybe your doctor prescribes you something, but how do you know how to measure if it is effective? Ho...
Sep 23, 2022•56 min
We will learn: Why trying harder to face your fears, and using willpower to force decisions, simply do not work. Why avoidance reinforces anticipatory anxiety and chronic indecisiveness. The five steps of surrender to overcome indecision. If you look up why people are indecisive, you’ll get a number of answers like people pleasing, perfectionism, or a fear of taking responsibility.. but all of these come back to one thing: anticipatory anxiety. Anticipatory anxiety is essentially getting anxious...
Sep 20, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 248
We will learn: What a brain difference is, and what traits are associated with it. How to shift your focus from your diagnosis to your potential. How we can foster the qualities of geniuses and high achievers in our own lives. Did you know there is an association between creativity and major mental disorders? And did you know this has been known for hundreds of years? The ancient Greeks thought of both as "having been touched by the gods.” And Aristotle said, “There is no genius without having a...
Sep 16, 2022•1 hr 5 min
We will learn: The ordinary influences of the unconscious mind. How to align the goals of the unconscious with the goals of the ego. How the integration of science and myths lead to transcendence. What if we could learn to recognize how our unconscious influences us so that it actually helps us become who we were meant to be? And what if the key to doing that isn’t through modern science, but through ancient legends and fairy tales? What wisdom do those stories hold? If we look at them as more t...
Sep 13, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 247
We will learn: How to identify and conquer your personal “Everest.” How to reframe loneliness to obtain mental clarity. Why a winner’s mindset needs to be stronger than their feelings. You know that blissful feeling you get when you accomplish something really awesome? What if I told you there’s a way to tap into that in just one 12-hour commitment? No money, no travel, no other people even needed? Our guest today is Colin O'Brady and he is encouraging people to do a 12-hour walk. No phone. No f...
Sep 09, 2022•1 hr 2 min
We will learn: The relationship between the amount of time people have in their daily lives and their overall happiness. Strategies to make activities that feel like a waste a little more satisfying. How to craft your time with variation. If you want to build the future of your dreams, you have to prioritize your future self. But that doesn’t need to take away from the bliss you find in the present. The problem is, sometimes it seems we have our butts in high gear the whole time and there’s stil...
Sep 06, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 246
We will learn: The intersection between hate and fear. How to get comfortable embracing your discomfort. A daily practice to keep your optimism while taking action. Standing up for what you believe in is, in my opinion, one of the most honorable things you can do. The problem is, fighting for a cause and spending so much time and thought immersed in your own ideology and surrounding yourself with people who think the same is both amazing and also the exact directions to create your own echo cham...
Sep 02, 2022•56 min
We will learn: How to make your environment a product of you instead of becoming a product of your environment. How to train yourself to make adjustments instead of excuses. A daily habit to filter your thoughts during hardship. Not everyone becomes stronger after struggle. For some people, the struggle shows them what they’re capable of, and it completely reroutes their life for the better. For others, it shows them what they can’t control and it completely reroutes their life, for the worse. S...
Aug 30, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 245
We will learn: How to identify toxic or manipulative people. What to expect when leaving a toxic relationship and how to move on without closure. How to let go of anger or self-blame after years of mental turmoil. If you've ever found yourself in a toxic relationship, you know how taxing it can be. First I want to say, it’s not your fault; however, acknowledging your role in it is essential to taking your power back. That might mean spotting signs, knowing what you deserve, or finding a way to g...
Aug 26, 2022•1 hr
We will learn: What happens to our brains when we’re in conflict. The archetypes of difficult people so you can better identify the root of their behavior. 9 principles for getting along with anyone. Sometimes people suck. They’re passive-aggressive, sometimes straight-up aggressive, they blame you for their wounds, they steal the credit for work you did, and that’s just at work. It makes you wonder, are work relationships even worth it? Turns out, they are, and we’ll get into the why in the epi...
Aug 23, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 244
We will learn: How to identify your mom rage triggers. Strategies for coping with rage. How to build your village, even if virtual. My baby is only 18 months, so 90% of the time it’s cuteness and cuddles and I love it so much. But there have been these moments, already, where I can just see red, I feel like he’s doing it all on purpose just to fuck with me. And I know it’s early, but if these moments are happening already what am I going to do when he actually has an attitude? When he actually h...
Aug 19, 2022•54 min
We will learn: How to engage different levels of listening. How to validate people in conversation. Why we get pushed away when someone fights their pain. Do you ever have moments where you just don’t feel understood? Why is it that some conversations feel disconnected while others feel like you’re completely wrapped in them? I think it has to do with the space that someone holds for you. It’s probably one of the greatest gifts we can give to someone else. And it’s also one of the greatest gifts...
Aug 16, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 243
We will learn: How to call upon your animal spirits. How legends and stories can connect us with our nature. Why we’ve lost the sacred and how to bring it back. We tend to think of medicine as pharmaceuticals. In reality, medicine has been practiced since prehistoric times and it was more like an art form of knowledge and skill. But what if we expand our view of medicine even further? What if we chose to see that everything is medicine? Everything in life is helping us to grow, evolve and expand...
Aug 12, 2022•51 min
We will learn: The common barriers that make it hard for us to look at ourselves in an unbiased way. How to ask for feedback and respond non-defensively. How to embody humble ambition. Whatever happened to humility? Everyone in the world seems to have their personal brand: this is who I am and what I’ve done and how I look and everyone should follow me. The algorithm feeds our narcissism and as we’ve heard in several recent episodes, we’re literally living in a narcissism epidemic. So if society...
Aug 09, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 242
We will learn: How we screw ourselves in free-flowing arguments. How to break through deadlocked conversations. How to bring in empathy in times of disagreement. Do you shy away from arguments because it’s just not worth it? Or do you run toward them, get nowhere and then feel like crap wishing you hadn’t? What I’ve found is that so many topics have so much emotion behind them, or dare I say programming, that both sides become blinded by their talking points and have stopped being able to see ou...
Aug 05, 2022•53 min
We will learn: How we self-impose our suffering. How to choose “feeling it out” over “figuring out out”. A process called “painting forward” that helps you integrate new choices. Did you know that we make an average of 35000 choices per day? Look back at yesterday. How many of those choices were you actually aware of as you were making them? The thing about those subconscious decisions is, we have more control over them than we think we do. So today we’re going to talk about five deliberate choi...
Aug 02, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 241
We will learn: The power of Irish keening for releasing emotions. How to deal with fear around loss. How to hold presence for grief, whether for yourself or a loved one. There’s a huge spectrum for how people deal with grief. But it’s one of those things that I feel like we need a handbook for and we just don’t have one. We used to gather around to support one another for all major life events. We had collective rituals that helped us feel connected. That gave space to the grieving. That kept li...
Jul 29, 2022•1 hr 4 min
We will learn: The seven most common big feelings and how to move through them. How to put a positive spin on envy. How to bust through perfectionism by replacing avoidance goals with approach goals. Do you have big emotions? How do you feel about them? Are you ashamed of them? Overwhelmed by them? If you don’t have big feelings, have you ever asked yourself why? The problem is, we aren’t given a handbook for our humanness. So we look to others and we model them. Or we compare. Or we judge. Or w...
Jul 26, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 240
We will learn: The dangers of identifying too closely with our reflections. How to transform your relationship with mirrors. 5 basic steps to start a daily mirror meditation. Most people know their flaws so well they practically identify with them. And many people can’t even stand to look in the mirror because the feelings of shame or repulsion are so intense. The good news is, with awareness and intention, you can use the same mirror to reverse these patterns. The mirror can be a powerful tool ...
Jul 22, 2022•53 min
We will learn: What we got wrong about toughness that actually was toxic. How to create inner confidence. Four pillars of toughness that we need to step up and do hard things. Struggle is a powerful catalyst for transformation. Some of the strongest, most fascinating and complex people in the world are people who have survived big life-changing things. But does that mean that those of us on top of the privilege pyramid - which is really anyone with a roof over their head and food on the table - ...
Jul 19, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 239
We will learn: How to recognize the “shoulds” that are at the root of your doubts, fears, resentment, and shame. How to call out the BS stories you create and believe about yourself. How to stop beating yourself up over the “should haves” and what already happened. Do you keep shoulding all over yourself? The energy of words is a powerful force. And sometimes the way we speak about a problem, about ourselves, about other people is what holds the energy that either keeps us where we are or helps ...
Jul 15, 2022•1 hr
We will learn: How to understand the defining moments that got you here without placing blame. How to find presence, even when the present moment isn’t where you want to be. The link between radical responsibility and mindfulness-based emotional intelligence. Whose fault is it that you are the way you are? Or that you are where you are? We tend to get tunnel vision when things aren’t going our way. But our limitations are all just perceptions. Instead of seeing them as roadblocks, we can choose ...
Jul 12, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 238
We will learn: How mental health can impact power dynamics in relationships. Navigating what’s you and what’s your disorder. How to talk about mental health with your partner. Cultivating a healthy relationship can be hard enough. . . but what if you also struggle with mental health issues like depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar, or a spicy little cocktail of several together? If you have struggled with mental illness, it’s important to have a partner that you can communicate with so he or she ca...
Jul 08, 2022•1 hr 1 min
We will learn: What the Magnetic Memory Method is and how it works. How frustration hinders memory and how to release it. How to create memories that stick not just in your short-term memory, but for years and years and years. How good is your memory? If you learn something new, does your brain recall associated information you learned a month ago? It may not seem like a big deal if you need a reminder here or there, but did you know that improving your memory also improves your mental well-bein...
Jul 05, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 237
We will learn: How to identify where you hold you’re emotions in your body. How to identify your default movement patterns. How to challenge your movement in small ways to open yourself up for change. What if I told you that the way you move impacts the person that you are? And if you consciously begin to move differently, your life could change? That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Erica Hornthal. She is a licensed clinical professional counselor and board-certified dance/movemen...
Jul 01, 2022•58 min
We will learn: Surprising facts about lonely people. How we can get better at reading people. How to catch a liar. Every über successful person I know is still most proud of their relationships. Relationships increase our life spans and even our health. Connection gives us meaning and purpose. So how do we master first impressions? How can we get a feel for someone faster? How can we figure out if someone is being truthful? How can we diffuse arguments faster or resolve conflicts better? That’s ...
Jun 28, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 236
We will learn: How to say goodbye to unhealthy patterns of shame, guilt, and worry. The lies we believe when we worry. How to develop a realistic relationship with the present moment in a world full of distraction. Wanna know what’s strange? The present moment is literally all we have, yet somehow it’s the most elusive place to be. Usually we replay things that have already happened, come up with things we should have done, or should have said, OR we worry about something that hasn’t happened ye...
Jun 24, 2022•1 hr
We will learn: Why we find it so much easier to focus on some thing we consider play rather than something we consider work. Why it doesn’t work when we try to enjoy something. 4 techniques he calls the “S Words” that help you to develop control over your practicing mind. When was the last time you practiced something in order to get better at it? If you’re into sports or musical instruments you probably have a leg up on most adults, but even then, a lot of people just lean into the skills they ...
Jun 21, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 235
