This episode got super vulnerable (and it is PACKED with value!). I was so honored to have Dr. Z with me on the podcast as I discussed my own experience leaving an abusive relationship (and so much more!). We discussed how to cope with feelings that surfaced in response to the death of Gaby Petito. We shared the abusive relationship signs to look for that will help you know if you’re in an abusive relationship. Most importantly we gave a framework for healing after an abusive relationship. We ac...
Oct 27, 2021•51 min
Want to know the TRUTH about morning/night routines?! The TRUTH IS: the best routine is the one that you stick to! Inside of this episode: I share my own personal morning and night time routines. I give you a framework for creating your own routines. I give you real advice on how to make yourself consistent. Routines matter! As humans we love structure and we THRIVE with structure. Make sure you tune in to this episode for the best routine advice that you can actually apply. Send me a DM on Inst...
Oct 25, 2021•21 min
For anyone who has struggled to love their body: this episode is for you! We have a special guest for this episode! My dear friend, Dr. Aileen Alexander Dr. Aileen helps busy professional women take control of their health so they can lose weight, increase their energy and reclaim their self confidence while still enjoying chocolate, carbs and meals out. Inside of this episode we share: -Our own personal journeys with loving our bodies -The truth about weight loss (why restriction doesn’t work) ...
Oct 20, 2021•50 min
The death of Gabby Petito has brought up a lot of my own feelings around surviving an abusive relationship. Even though this is a challenging and painful topic; I believe it is worth exploring. Inside of this short but powerful episode I talk about: The reality of leaving an abusive relationship. The reality of healing once you have left. What every survivor needs to know about a healing journey. If you have ever survived a toxic relationship, or know someone who has, this episode will be helpfu...
Oct 18, 2021•16 min
Let’s get REAL vulnerable shall we?! In today’s episode, I talk about a past situationship and give you all of my JUICY takeaways. Inside of this episode, I share: How to know if you are in a situationship. The importance of dropping expectations while being crystal clear on standards. The impact of scarcity mindset/ timeline thinking on your dating life. This episode gives you some VERY actionable advice that will help you immediately shift your dating mindset You don’t want to miss it! Make su...
Oct 13, 2021•22 min
Avoidant attachment gets a bad reputation. There is a lot going on under the surface of the avoidantly attached person’s heart and mind. Inside of this special episode: I help you understand avoidant attachment on a deep level/ I explain “devaluing” and other avoidant attachment strategies. I provide steps for the avoidantly attached person to learn to move to secure attachment. This episode will help you SO MUCH whether you experience avoidant attachment strategies yourself, or you are on the r...
Oct 11, 2021•25 min
Whether you like it or not... “Cuffing season” is upon us! This means you want to feel you are bringing your "A" game to your dating life! Inside of this episode I will discuss: The mental shifts needed for dating to feel enjoyable. The things you can do TODAY to improve your dating life. How to PACE your emotional investment into the relationship. Seriously this episode will give you the foundation you need for a FUN dating life! Tune in for my best advice and make sure you leave the podcast a ...
Oct 06, 2021•19 min
Do you want to REALLY understand attachment theory? If you’re an attachment theory nerd like me, you will love this episode! Inside you will find: What research says about your attachment style’s impact on your dating patterns. The impact a dysregulated attachment style has on your dating life and overall health. What it actually looks and feels like to have secure attachment. If you are ready to take your relationship knowledge to the NEXT LEVEL, you need this episode! ANDDD if you’re looking f...
Oct 04, 2021•32 min
Are you sick of dating? The apps, the ghosting, the games… Are you ready to be a dog/cat lady and just give up? Not so fast! I PROMISE you can enjoy dating! Inside of today’s episode, I give you some of my top tips about how you can learn to really truly enjoy dating. Trust me, you don’t want to miss this episode. It will give you a head start on learning how to enjoy dating! Make sure you share this episode with someone who can benefit, and send me a DM letting me know your takeaways! P.S. If y...
Sep 29, 2021•16 min
Have you ever tried to fix someone you were dating? Maybe you were their accidental career coach, their personal trainer, or their therapist… So many of us have been there or still get caught in the trap of wanting to help or “fix” our partners! Inside this podcast you will find everything you need to quit this habit ASAP! WHY you feel pulled to fix your partner. HOW it negatively impacts you (and your relationship!). WHAT you should do instead! You do not want to miss this episode! P.S. If you’...
Sep 27, 2021•18 min
You don’t want to miss this VERY special episode! Inside of this episode I answer the audience questions that everyone wants to know the answer to! I discuss: Understanding casual dating (and how to communicate about it!). Moving towards secure attachment no matter your past. What to do if you “hate dating and using dating apps”. This episode is a HUGE thank-you to the audience and to everyone who has tuned in to the podcast. I created this podcast to help YOU, the listener, have high self-worth...
Sep 22, 2021•17 min
You need this episode! Single, in a relationship, married; whatever your relationship status. Inside of this episode: Why I won’t pretend to like fly fishing. How to “hold on to yourself’ when you’re in a relationship. Important mindset shifts to attract and maintain a securely attached relationship. This episode came to me the other day as I was walking on the beach and I realized that you all NEEDED to hear it. This information would’ve saved me so much heartache! Tune in and make sure you tak...
Sep 20, 2021•20 min
This is a VERY special episode. Experiencing Cheating can totally destroy your world It can leave you feeling “not good enough” and like you did something wrong. I can be downright devastating! But there IS a way through it and I know this episode will help anyone who has ever been cheated on Inside this episode: I answer a real-life scenario sent to me by a LGV podcast listener. I explain the real roots of cheating. I walk you through your options when you are on the receiving end of it. Seriou...
Sep 13, 2021•25 min
One of the best kept Clinical Psych secrets: The power of “DIALECTICS”. When you grow in your relationships you MUST grow in your emotional intelligence. Inside of this value packed episode I help you: Understand dialectics (what it means and WHY it is important). Apply it directly to your life and relationships. Take your EQ to the next level so you can have a better relationship with yourself and others! Don’t miss this episode! AAAND if you’re looking for even more ways to grow personally,, I...
Sep 08, 2021•24 min
Your Non-Negotiables Matter! I’m sure you have heard the saying: “you can’t pour out of an empty cup”. And you may already know how important self-care is! BUT, I want to help you take your self-care to the next level by teaching you the power of non-negotiables. Tune into this episode for my own secret sauce on how I constantly raise the bar for myself AND stay well taken care of no matter what is going on in my life! If you’re looking for even MORE ways to level up your self-care in regards to...
Sep 06, 2021•20 min
BREAKING NEWS FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH: Guilt keeps you stuck. Self-Compassion sets you free! Most people do not understand how to use compassion for healing and growth. Most people think criticism, perfectionism and “pushing through” is required to succeed. Inside of this episode: I discuss how guilt can sabotage your well-being and healing process. Why self-compassion is THE best path forward How to EASILY implement mindfulness self-compassion into your life for new levels of healing and happine...
Sep 01, 2021•24 min
Y’all! It is my pleasure to announce today’s episode was with a VERY special guest. The host of the popular podcast: “New Mindset Who Dis”, the one and only, Mr. Case Kenny himself! I could have talked with Case for hours, we are SO ALIGNED on all things dating. You don’t want to miss this episode! Inside we discussed: How Mindfulness and Self-Awareness creates a strong foundation for dating. Creating your own story (and not losing yourself when dating/in a relationship). Cultivating true self-c...
Aug 30, 2021•54 min
AUDIENCE QUESTION ANSWERED! Today’s episode was dedicated to a loyal LGV listener who sent in a question. Her questions were: Why do people seem securely attached and then become avoidant a couple months into the relationship? How do I move on from being ghosted? How can I continue to become more securely attached? I answer these questions and MORE inside of this juicy episode! Don’t miss it - tune in now! P.S. If you’re ready to move on from being ghosted, welcome in LOVE, and focus on your per...
Aug 25, 2021•22 min
“You can’t have a great career and have a great relationship”. “You won’t be a good mom or a partner if you’re too focused on your career…” “You have to make sacrifices for what you want”. “Don’t be too successful, or you’ll intimidate the man.” LORD. I am TIRED of the lies when it comes to women achieving all they desire in their careers AND in their love lives. Girl, you can have it all. Here’s the deal: too many women throw themselves into their career because it’s “easier” and it’s “safe.” I...
Aug 23, 2021•40 min
Welp, I got SUPER vulnerable in today’s episode. I am sharing a reflection on a past relationship... (really hope my ex doesn’t listen to this podcast!) More specifically, I share about how I went to Miami 5 years ago to celebrate my birthday and how I am doing the SAME thing this year; except this time my relationship is COMPLETELY different. Inside of this episode I talk about: How disorganized attachment controlled my past relationship. Ways I was sabotaging myself. What it looks like current...
Aug 18, 2021•22 min
Ready to rewire your brain?! Okay good, cause this episode will help you do just that! Inside of this episode: I teach you the tool of “Thought Screening”. I share WHY this is so important for your mental and relationship health. I make it easy for you to start using this tool TODAY. Seriously, this short episode might just change your life. Thought screening is POWERFUL and absolutely something you need to learn. If this episode hits home and you’re ready to take action in your relationship wit...
Aug 16, 2021•15 min
People pleasing is RAMPANT! How many of us are playing supporting roles in our very own lives… Living your life in a way that focuses on what other people think of you can completely sabotage your happiness! Pleasing everyone but yourself is a surefire way to end up miserable and worn out. You deserve to be the main character of your life. Inside of this episode I talk about: Where living life as a “supporting role” comes from. How to change this and begin to take control of your life, and live ...
Aug 11, 2021•14 min
What’s one of the BIGGEST factors in having healthy relationships? How we communicate! I want to make sure you have what you need for healthy communication and GREAT relationships Inside of this episode: I discuss Myths about assertive communication. I share the two main barriers to assertive communication. I share how assertive communication aligns with secure attachment. Make sure you tune in to this episode so you can start communicating as a woman who knows her worth and knows what kind of r...
Aug 09, 2021•25 min
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse is not something I thought I’d ever talk about openly. As it happened to me, approximately a decade ago, I was deeply afraid that I would never come out the other side of it. I thought I was doomed to a life of being controlled and manipulated. I couldn’t find a way out. . That was until the decision became life or death. I chose life (obviously). It is my wish that this episode can give anyone who is struggling in an abusive relationship HOPE for a different life an...
Aug 04, 2021•19 min
“Awareness without action is useless”. Inside of this episode: I share the proven N.B.A. framework for taking action (and no honey I am not talking about basketball!). I talk about why people get stuck and how to get unstuck. I help you get over your own B.S. excuses that keep you procrastinating. Tune in to get some of my best advice ever on having the life you desire. You deserve ACTION because action = change. Have compassion for your past self while still committing to the healthy, happy, fu...
Aug 02, 2021•18 min
REASSURANCE Most of us know that term but we don’t realize the vital role it plays in creating a securely attached relationship. To create secure attachment; we NEED reassurance! Learning how to use this tool in your relationship is a relationship game changer. Don’t miss this episode where I discuss: Why anxious attachment creates high needs for reassurance. My best tips for creating healthy reassurance patterns in your relationship. How avoidantly attached and anxiously attached both have reas...
Jul 28, 2021•20 min
Have you ever felt you might never be in a healthy relationship? Ever wondered if all of the good ones are gone, or there is something “wrong” with you that causes you to “fail” in relationships again and again? If so; this episode is for YOU! Inside of this powerful episode you will hear Emma’s... Vulnerable story about her past dating life. Favorite tools that she learned inside of the E.S.L program. Insights as to how she became the securely attached woman she is today who enjoys dating and h...
Jul 26, 2021•50 min
How do you respond to stress and chaos? It is likely that you’ve never thought about that question and that you are repeating patterns that were modeled to you as a young child. You deserve to navigate tough times in a healthy way. Inside of this episode I break down: How to recognize your current unhelpful coping patterns. How to implement new ways of being. What it means to internalize a new healthy parent figure through the process known as “re-parenting”. This episode is experiential and pac...
Jul 21, 2021•22 min
Anger, resentment, hurt … These emotions take up A LOT of space in your life. When we cannot forgive, our past is taking up space in our life. Inside of this episode: I discuss WHY forgiveness is so important. I provide a framework for implementing forgiveness in your life (starting today!). I give you tangible steps on forgiving yourself and others (and educate you on what to expect when attempting to forgive). Don’t miss this life changing episode! If you’re ready to FULLY let go of your past,...
Jul 19, 2021•12 min
A toxic love cycle… The magnetic pull of: “there’s just something about him, even if I wanted to leave I couldn’t"... If you’ve felt this way you have likely experienced an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic. This dynamic can cause you to feel like you’ve lost “all common sense” and can lead you to chase what you doesn’t love you back or push away the ones who would do anything for you. We repeat what we do not heal and I want to change that by helping you stop the toxic cycle today! Inside o...
Jul 14, 2021•18 min
