Everyone knows moving in with someone can feel like a BIG relationship milestone. Do you cross your fingers and hope for the best OR do all that you can to be prepared and intentional? My hope is to help you feel set up for success! In this episode, I give you all that you need to feel prepared when taking this relationship step. Tune in for my best advice and make sure you leave the podcast a written review if you have not already done so! I read every review and they inspire me to continue to ...
Jul 12, 2021•24 min
Aaaaamazing episode alert! I was joined by the one and only Danette May @thedanettemay for a powerful conversation on personal transformation and manifesting. Danette has a powerful personal story and she has helped so many people radically heal their lives! Inside of this special episode you will find: Danette’s practical how-to guide for manifesting. Mindset shifts for creating abundance (including the best way to spend your morning). Practical steps for attracting your ideal love partnership....
Jul 07, 2021•36 min
TRUTH TIME: Easy Action = Hard Life Hard Action = Easy Life You get to decide if you want to stay in the cycle of numbing, distracting, aka “easy action”. Numbing is EASY and COMFORTABLE ( and oh so common in our society…) My guess is that you know numbing is hurting you. and that you do truly desire transformation. Otherwise, why would you listen to this podcast!? Inside of this tough love episode: I discuss how to notice numbing is occurring in your life What to do to STOP numbing Choosing the...
Jul 05, 2021•16 min
Attachment Theory is a relationship and dating GAME CHANGER! It can feel like the missing piece of the puzzle when it comes to understanding why you do what you do in relationships. You don’t want to miss this episode with Thais Gibson, fellow Attachment Theory expert and relationship coach. When you get two attachment theory nerds together, you get a very powerful episode that is PACKED full of relationship gold! In this episode: Thais shares openly about what led her to do the transformational...
Jun 30, 2021•49 min
HIGH VALUE EPISODE ALERT This episode was inspired by so many of you who have thanked me for Episode 12 of the podcast (one of the first episodes I ever did on Self-Compassion). Today’s episode will: Discuss the power of mindfulness self-compassion (and why you need it). Give you an easy to follow guided meditation so you can start practicing mindfulness self-compassion TODAY. Teach you about reactive vs. compassionate living. I know this episode will help so many of you and I ask that you share...
Jun 28, 2021•31 min
You don’t want to miss this episode! Dr. Shagun Pawar is clinical psychologist and relationship coach inside of the E.S.L. Relationship Program. She is an expert in attachment theory and coaches women on the path to having healthy securely attached relationships. Inside of this episode: Dr. Shagun opens up about her own journey to secure attachment (including how her cultural identity shaped her experience). We discuss the difference between the dating rollercoaster and securely attached dating....
Jun 23, 2021•46 min
Sex is rarely "just about sex". In today's podcast episode, I am discussing how to navigate having a different “sex drive” than your partner. Trust me, the core of this concern is not what you think it is. In this episode I discuss: How an anxious avoidant dynamic can play into a sexual connection. Navigating conversations around frequency of intimacy. Creating secure attachment through physical intimacy (and how to do it well). You don’t want to miss this episode! It’s a juicy one, packed with ...
Jun 21, 2021•26 min
AMAZING EPISODE ALERT Y’all are going to love this episode with @therefinedwoman Kat Harris! Kat is the author of the book “Sexless in the City” and the host of The Refined Collective podcast. She is an example of living unapologetically and aligned in truth; her commitment to honor her own unique journey is deeply inspiring. I adored Kat’s ability to talk openly about any topic that came up and I know you all will benefit from hearing her story. We discussed: The practice of SURRENDER (in life ...
Jun 16, 2021•53 min
Got Boundaries?! I hope so but, I know so many of you struggle with boundary setting. I know I used to really struggle with setting and maintaining boundaries that protected my energy… When you FINALLY learn how to set and maintain boundaries, your life changes for the better and relationships feel GREAT. Gems inside this episode include: How to BECOME the version of you that sets boundaries (instead of trying to use tips/tricks that don’t last). Why boundaries matter so much. Experiential exerc...
Jun 14, 2021•24 min
MYTH: Men aren’t capable of conscious relationships. In today's special guest episode with therapist, Eli Weinstein, we discuss shifting the paradigm around how men show up in relationships. We dove into: The things that keep men stuck in unhealthy patterns. How to invite your male partner to “do the work” with you (instead of feeling like you’re dragging them to meet you). Routines for creating conscious coupling/healthy connected partnership. This episode was packed full of relationship gems! ...
Jun 09, 2021•46 min
Mindset shifts are game changers in your dating life. I don’t want you to miss out on this episode! It is has a tough love punch and has the power to totally change your dating life. This episode gives you the mindset shift you need in order to embody feminine energy and allow what you deserve to come to you. Inside this episode: Find out what is preventing you from meeting the man you want. Learn how to embody the energy of “it is available” to me. How secure attachment aligns with abundance mi...
Jun 07, 2021•16 min
Shame is a relationship killer... You deserve shame-free connection. You deserve healing, acceptance and self-love so you can have GREAT relationships! Tune into this episode to: Learn how to spot shame when it shows up in your relationships. Release any pockets of shame that are keeping you stuck. Get powerful tools for creating better communication in your relationships. You don’t want to miss this episode; whether you’re single or currently in a relationship, it will help you live a more conn...
Jun 02, 2021•22 min
What is securely attached sex... Have you ever thought about how your attachment style interacts with your sex life? Inside this episode, I am honored to be interviewed by Dr. Nazanin Moali, a sex/relationship expert and host of the Sexology podcast. We discuss: Why a securely attached/emotionally safe connection is the foundation for a great sex life. How each attachment style approaches sex. Common struggles with intimacy based on your attachment style (and how to move through them). This is a...
May 31, 2021•33 min
MOST women I talk to are simply “trying too hard” in love. This breaks my heart when I see it because it used to be me! Did you know that a healthy dating mindset is actually something you can work to build?! I want to help you show up effortlessly in your dating life by working smarter not harder in love. In this HIGH VALUE episode, I give you two experiential exercises for attracting the relationship you want. These are simple, to the point, no B.S. exercises that pack a powerful mindset-upgra...
May 26, 2021•16 min
One of the biggest roadblocks to healthy relationships: Unhealed childhood wounds. This can look like parental relationships that have “unfinished business”. Many times when my clients are repeating unhealthy relationship patterns, it can be directly linked to childhood experiences. In this HIGH VALUE experiential episode, I walk you through a framework to begin to work on “redefining” the relationship you have with your parents. This framework... Has helped hundreds of my clients. Does not requ...
May 25, 2021•25 min
One of the TOP questions I get asked is: “How do I set healthy boundaries?” Today’s episode is PACKED full of all you ever needed to know about setting boundaries. And I am honored to have the one and only @terricole as a guest. She is an INCREDIBLE boundaries expert (and trust me, you will all love her!) In this episode Terri and I discuss: What it means it to be a “self-abandoning co-dependent”. Why self-trust and boundaries with yourself are important for great relationships. The modern defin...
May 24, 2021•59 min
Being a highly sensitive person is a GIFT. However, if you’re not careful, it can feel like a curse. You need to know how to set boundaries around this skill. Just because you can feel it all, does not mean you SHOULD. If you’ve ever struggled with putting others’ needs above your own, this episode is for you! I talk about the mindset shift you need to protect your energy and I give you tangible steps to begin setting boundaries TODAY. If you’re ready for a transformation where you attract RECIP...
May 19, 2021•16 min
Assertive communication changed my life... AND I know when you apply it, it can change yours too. In today’s episode I talk about: What it means to communicate assertively. A common misconception about assertive communication. The major key to assertiveness that most experts are NOT talking about. Hint: This is a life changing episode, and you don’t want to miss it! If you’re serious about learning healthy communication strategies, embodying a securely attached woman, and attracting a healthy re...
May 17, 2021•22 min
Inside this HIGH VALUE episode... I will give you a 4-step framework to healing from narcissistic abuse. We discuss how you can apply this framework to your healing journey immediately! As many of you know, I am survivor of narcissistic abuse and this topic is near and dear to my heart. When you have been in an abusive relationship, it’s completely normal to feel like you may never have a healthy relationship again… In this episode, you will learn some key steps to begin the healing journey AND ...
May 12, 2021•22 min
Get ready for a high value deep dive on attachment theory that you will give you the relationship help you need (no matter where you are in your dating journey). What happens when you get two psychologists together who are both experts in Attachment theory?! You get an incredible value packed episode that gives you dating/relationship answers you crave. Honestly, I could’ve talked to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for hours! Seriously, the conversation was THAT GOOD. Make sure you tune in for: Our perspect...
May 10, 2021•51 min
Ok Y’all I was a guest on Mariah Clayton’s podcast, Girls In Real Life, and it was such a good interview I didn’t want you to miss out on it! Have you ever wondered about how to have a healthy relationship AND maintain it? She asks me all the questions you have been afraid to ask but crave the answers to-make sure you tune in! Inside this juicy episode you will find: Basics of attachment theory My best dating advice Tips for maintaining a healthy relationship Mariah was real and engaging on this...
May 05, 2021•38 min
Ready for the girl talk you love and the relationship truths you need?! Make sure you tune into this amazing interview with Nadia Jagessar on IG as @nadiajagessar You probably know her from Netflix’s “Indian Matchmaking” where she was vulnerable with the world with her dating journey! On this high value episode Nadia and I discuss: Her personal journey and where she is now The relationship between your self-worth and your dating life The challenges successful, driven women face when dating (incl...
May 03, 2021•57 min
So the what hell is feminine energy anyways?! If you’ve wondered the above then this episode will be helpful. Feminine energy is about going INWARD. Tuning into our inner knowing and releasing the drive to do more, push, achieve. Society teaches us the following trajectory: DO-HAVE-BE This is very masculine in its approach - push harder, hustle more, achieve, try, work 12 hr days... and when it comes to love/dating this resembles going on tons of dates, pushing, setting timelines, etc. Feminine ...
Apr 28, 2021•18 min
You do not want to miss this VERY special episode! One of my amazing clients, Danielle, speaks openly about her journey INSIDE this E.S.L program! She gets vulnerable about: Her decision to join the E.S.L. program. Her personal growth journey (including the amazing changes in the relationship with herself). Her main takeaways from the E.S.L. program. Danielle is an inspiration to anyone considering doing the “internal work” and I was so honored to interview her! If Danielle’s story resonated wit...
Apr 26, 2021•40 min
This one might surprise people: I’m not super detail oriented, or organized! YET - I stay on track with my goals, have high levels of self-worth, and generally feel peaceful and content. How do I do this? Today, in this episode, I want to share with you one little secret that has CHANGED my life, and increased my happiness. I will give you a hint: it’s all about Accountability! In this episode: I will teach you exactly how I apply accountability to my life using one easy trick that literally any...
Apr 21, 2021•25 min
Have you heard of “HALT”? It stands for “Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired”. It is used to give us an idea about when it is best to pause, self-soothe, and emotionally regulate. We can apply this to our Attachment Systems! You need to be able to be aware of when you should pause, and self-regulate BEFORE speaking to your partner. In today’s juicy episode you will learn: What your attachment system is. How to identify your “attachment triggers”. What to do to regulate your attachment system. ALSO, if ...
Apr 19, 2021•20 min
Is it you, is it them? Is it both… No one likes to hear "It’s not you, it’s me…” Being told "I just can’t be in a relationship right now…” That sentence brings up a whirlwind of emotions whether you are the one saying it, or on the receiving end of it! In this highly valuable episode I discuss: Why you may be unconsciously emotionally unavailable even IF you think you are ready for a relationship. Where emotional unavailability can come from. The first steps to create emotional availability in y...
Apr 14, 2021•18 min
Wow, I can’t believe these guys let me publish this episode! This kind of episode has never happened before! My good friends @bpremer and @chrisc4sper join me for an exclusive interview. On today’s extra juicy episode, we have not ONE, but two men on the show, willingly discussing their dating lives - and unbeknownst to them - their avoidant attachment patterns *GASP! This episode is for you if: You have ever wondered what goes on inside of the brain of a man who is “pulling away”. You yourself ...
Apr 12, 2021•56 min
The dreaded 7 letter word… Break-up. No one likes a break-up! And few people understand them... WHAT IF I could help you understand WHY you do what you do after a break-up? And give you the keys to moving on in a “healthier” way… Inside this episode I decode: Common post break-up behavior patterns. How your attachment style influences your break-up behavior. What to do to navigate heartbreak in as healthy way as you can. Don’t miss it! Listen now! And if you’ve gone through break-up after break-...
Apr 07, 2021•17 min
You do not want to miss this VERY special episode! One of my amazing clients, Brenda, speaks openly about her journey INSIDE this E.S.L program! She gets vulnerable about: Her relationship history and personal story that led her to the program. Her biggest takeaways from doing the program. The transformation and healing she is continuing to work through after graduating. Brenda is an inspiration to anyone considering doing the “internal work” and I was honored to interview her! Make sure you tun...
Apr 05, 2021•39 min
