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Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment

Carly Annwww.buzzsprout.com

Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory.

With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change.


You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life. 


We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life


Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!

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Episodes

Lessons in When Anxious Attachment System is Activated (Three Reminders You Need)

Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment? If so it's possible when you are triggered, it is hard to remember everything you have been learning. It is a common theme that all your self-soothing tools & knowledge flee your mind. In this episode, Carly Ann offers three KEY reminders that you need to write down for next time you are activated & losing yourself. The Attachment Recovery Gym: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/attachment-recovery-gym FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-...

Nov 20, 202210 minEp. 43

Lessons in Attachment Healing & How to Self-Soothe with Elizabeth Gillette

Send us a text In conversation with TWO attachment experts. If you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style, this episode is definitely what you are looking for. In this episode of Lessons in Love, we dive deep into Attachment and I ask some of the most asked questions on this topic. We discuss: > Is it Ok to lead or should we lean back > How to let things unfold naturally in dating when you struggle with control > What does it mean to "go Inwards" when healing anxious and avoid...

Nov 13, 202256 minEp. 42

Lessons in Dating Each Attachment style (Dependent on your own attachment style).

Send us a text Ever wondered what it's like to date someone anxious when the other person is avoidant? Or what it's like to date an avoidant when the other is secure? What about avoidant and avoidant? - Secure & Secure Relationship - Anxious & Anxious Relationship - Avoidant & Avoidant Relationship - Secure & Anxious Relationship - Secure & Avoidant Relationship Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepe...

Nov 06, 202226 minEp. 41

Lessons in Social Pressures, Comparison, & Breaking Up in your 30s with Emma Wilson

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) FREE CURIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered Join us in this episode as we discuss: Managing social pressures & comparison in your love life When life/relationships is not how you thought it would be or wish it was Grieving...

Oct 30, 202254 minEp. 40

Lessons in Why you Attract Emotionally Unavailable & Avoidant Partners

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) So you keep dating & attracting parters that are emotionally unavailable to you? It can be painful, especially when you have been doing "the work". Understanding WHY you are in this place is a first step in breaking this cycle. Watch video mentioned: Sign...

May 22, 202215 min

Lessons in Communication, Negative Self-Talk, & the Power of Reflection with the Communication Expert

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) Having worked as a Learning & Development Manager, Amira has over 12 years experience in the corporate world working with employees, managers and leaders to achieve the best version of themselves. Amira’s also coached young people from a variety of backgr...

May 01, 202256 min

Lessons in Self-Soothing/Regulating Anxious Attachment

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) This week's video is taken from my youtube channel which you can check out HERE If you find your anxious attachment or intense emotion difficult to self soothe/regulate when you are triggered, this video is for you. One of the most common questions I am asked...

Apr 24, 202225 min

Lessons in Anxious Attachment & Saving Your Relationship with Natalie Carranceja

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) Natalie is a confidence embodiment coach, leading women into the new paradigm of confidence through feminine energy embodiment, emotional elegance and communication mastery. Through her own unique style of coaching, which incorporates NLP and somatic healing ...

Apr 17, 202245 min

Lessons in Divine Love, Healing Trauma bonds, & a Higher Power with Silvana Isaza

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) Silvana Isaza is a feminine empowerment coach and plant medicine facilitator and she helps women reconnect with their innate wisdom, power, voice, and pleasure through shadow work, belief reprogramming, and embodiment practices so that they can experience a d...

Apr 10, 202250 min

Lessons in THE Anxious Attachment & Avoidant Attachment Trap/Dance

Send us a text Are you currently stuck in an anxious-avoidant dance? Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) Whether you have the anxious attachment syyle or avoidant attachment style, in this episode, Carly Ann is giving you all the details on: > What is The Anxious-Avoidant Dance/Trap > Insight into my ow...

Apr 03, 202236 min

Lessons in Self-Love & How to Rebuild a Relationship with YOU Sabi Kerr

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) In this episode we discuss: > How to re-build a relationship with your body & sense of self > Self-Love; how to love yourself so deeply and create a life you love > The importance of building a life you love > Top tips if you do not know your ...

Mar 27, 202249 min

Lessons in Polyvagal Theory , Becoming Unstuck, & Regulating Your Emotions with Justin Sunseri

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) In this episode we are joined by Justin Sunseri Justin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California. He specializes in treating trauma in his day job of working with high schoolers, but also in his night time private practice working with adults....

Mar 20, 202250 min

Lessons in Healing Attachment Wounds with Carly Ann

Send us a text Lessons in Love is Your Podcast for Healing Relationship Patterns & Rediscovering Yourself. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann ( Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_ ) In this brand new season, Carly Ann is picking up where we left off - Attachment Styles. Today we are discussing what it takes to HEAL your relational attachment wounds so that you can experience healthy, meaningful relationships in your lifetime (as you wel...

Mar 13, 202232 min

Lessons in: Attachment Theory

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns. In this episode I am introducing you to the framework that I credit for helping me finally take responsibility for my own patterns and provided me with the direction I need to go so that I could change my dating & relationship styles. In this episode I discuss: - What is attachment Theory - Insecure & Secure Attachment Styles - How Attachment styles are deve...

Nov 14, 202122 min

Lessons in dating yourself, creating healthy "space" in relationships, & how to be vulnerable with Kat Horrocks

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns. In this episode I am joined by Kat Horrocks. Kat is a passionate leader in Mindset, Goal Setting & Personal/Business Development. Listen in to this incredible conversation where we talk about: Importance of taking "space" in relationships (& the challenges involved for anxious attachment) Comparing yourself to people in relationships & the power of manif...

Nov 07, 202154 minSeason 3Ep. 29

Lessons in Learning to Accept Yourself, Facing Difficulties with Grace, & Building SELF Trust with Aimee Stewart

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns. In this episode I am joined by my good friend Aimee Stewart! Aimee is a soul led life coach and this episode truly does feed the soul. Join us as we discuss: Is it possible to truly love all parts of ourselves? How to FEEL and believe your new loving thoughts How to develop self-trust and show up for yourself first How to respond gracefully to triggering people and ...

Oct 31, 202154 minSeason 3Ep. 28

Lessons in Communication: Including Voicing Your Needs & How to Talk to Someone that is Avoidant and/or Emotionally Unavailable

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns. During this unique episode of Lessons in Love, I am joined by Amira, aka The Communication Expert. This discussion is taken from our monthly membership (details HERE ) where we are joined by different experts to support you to have better relationships: Mind-set & fears around communicating with dates/partners/love interests. How your communication may change wh...

Oct 25, 20211 hr 1 minSeason 3Ep. 27

Lessons in Finding Freedom from Insecure Attachment, Past Trauma, & Unhealthy Patterns in Love with Natalie Russell

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for anyone looking to heal attachment wounds and break painful relationship patterns. In this episode I am joined by Natalie Russell, a fellow Self-esteem & Relationship Coach. We talk about our journeys to finding freedom from inner chaos and healing from past pain. Included in this conversation is: - The reality of an insecure attachment style - How early trauma experiences inform our vision of love - Healing from this distorted view of love an...

Oct 10, 20211 hr 8 minSeason 3Ep. 26

Carly Ann's Experience of Having an Insecure Attachment Style & the Truth About How it Impacts Anxiety & Low Mood

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this episode of Lessons in Love I wanted to talk about my experience with anxiety and low mood. Low self-esteem, insecurity, and abandonment issues get so entwined with mood it is hard to know what is real and what is not. My lessons have taught me how to look after intense feelings of anxiety and spells of low mood - usually closely linked to relationships & dating experiences. Join ...

Oct 03, 202143 minSeason 3Ep. 25

Lessons in Online Dating, Being ghosted, & Managing Anxiety in the Early Stages of Dating with FindingMrHeight

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. For this episode you are warmly invited to join two single dating coaches as we come together and discuss all things modern dating! This week I am joined by Ali, AKA Findingmrheight Join us for this fascinating chat as we deep dive into: Our thoughts, tips, and experiences of meeting someone online vs real life (we all have our own preferences) What to do when you want to give up on love and...

Sep 26, 202151 min

Lessons in Avoidant Attachment & How to Let Your Guard Down So You Can Make Room for Love with the Compatibility Coach

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this episode of Lessons in Love I am joined by my good friend and fellow coach Caitlin aka The Compatibility Coach. This is a juicy episode you don't want to miss if you are looking for love! Listen in as we chat about: How to change the negative narrative around your love life Avoidant Attachment and signs you are unavailable for love How to let your guard down and open your heart to the...

Sep 19, 202155 minSeason 3Ep. 23

6 Tips on How to Give Finding (Healthy) Love Your Best Shot

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this solo episode of Lessons in Love I am give you 6 tips you can use to give love your best shot. (It can feel tough to find and/or sustain love - and so I wanted to give you an inside scoop on how you can feel secure in the knowledge you are doing your part - because what more can you do?) Note - this is about finding a secure, healthy, extraordinary love - not just any relationship! En...

Sep 05, 202133 minSeason 3Ep. 22

Lessons in Safe Communication, Not Losing Yourself to Love, & Releasing Shame with Rosie Rees

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this episode I am talking to the brilliant Rosie Reese. This is a juicy one! This week we discuss: ⁃ Our thoughts on Love at first sight - does it exist? ⁃ The trap of looking for love in sex ⁃ Feeling safe enough to communice - these are great tips for recognising a secure & healthy relationship ⁃ Following that niggle & whisper towards what and who is meant for you ⁃ The powerle...

Aug 29, 202151 minSeason 3Ep. 2

Lessons in Regulating Your Emotions, Soothing Your Anxiety, and Our Thoughts on Whether Love Can Come Back Around with Phoebe Greenacre

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. Welcome to a brand new series where we are kicking off with a BRILLIANT GUEST - Phoebe Greenacre. In this episode Phoebe and I are sharing lessons and guidance on Choosing the right relationship for you and finding inner strength to walk away from people who do not serve you Our thoughts about whether love can come back around Letting go of "forever" as a way to enjoy your life and relations...

Aug 22, 202153 minSeason 3Ep. 20

Fleeting Loneliness: What Influences Those Deep Moments of Feeling so Alone in the World (especially when deep down you know you're not)

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this episode I am talking to you about loneliness. This is for the person who mostly experiences meaning & fulfilment, and other times gets knocked down by feelings of loneliness and is unsure why it happens or how to move through it. I am sharing with you some factors that influence this loneliness and some ideas on how to manage those waves. Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann...

Jun 20, 202121 minSeason 2Ep. 19

Receiving Love, Choosing Single Life Over Settling, & Overcoming Shame with Jon Toms

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this penultimate episode of series two, I am joined by Jon Toms In this episode you will hear our thoughts on: Accepting praise & compliments and why this is SO important for you and your emotional health How to strong in the face of the pressure that comes from "the timeline" - to be married & to have kids We talk about our views on "settling" in relationships Dealing with the “s...

Jun 13, 20211 hr 5 minSeason 2Ep. 18

You Are Not Your Past! Following Your Fire & Finding Your Voice with Marilyn Sarai

Send us a text A podcast for anyone who has ever lost themselves in love and are searching for a sense of SELF In this special episode we talk about: - Listening to your "soul whispers" and "niggles" that are calling you for something different - Choosing to Level up & following fire despite the fear that has held you back so far - A personal journey moving from girl to woman - No longer being defined by your past and finding full self-acceptance Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: @carly.ann_ or...

Jun 06, 202152 minSeason 2Ep. 17

A Journey from SELF blame & deception to SELF discovery and living life on your own terms with Elisa Kurylowicz

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. Welcome to a brand new episode of Lessons in Love. If you are on a path of SELF discovery, I just know you will adore this episode. In this conversation, I am talking to Elisa Kurylowicz. We hear Elisa's take on: - A very real account of the journey to SELf discovery - A history of self-blame and how to break free from that mind-set - Experiencing deception in relationships - How to make the...

May 30, 20211 hr 4 minSeason 2Ep. 16

Healing Your "I am not enough" Wounds and Choosing Healthier, Safer, AVAILABLE Relationships with Amy Rushworth

Send us a text Lessons in Love is the podcast for learning how to manage your insecure attachment styles. In this episode, I am joined by Amy Rushworth and we discuss: - Feeling unlucky in love & not enough - How to stop thinking you are the problem - The journey to attracting secure, healthy, and safe relationships - What we mean by "safe" (this is for you if safe sounds boring) - Training your attachment system to manage anxiety in dating & relationships - Choosing Yourself - Building ...

May 23, 202153 minSeason 2Ep. 15

What Love is Not: Listen to Carly Ann's Love Story & Lessons in Love

Send us a text A must listen if you experience anxiety, insecurity, and attachment struggles in your dating and love life. In this very unique episode I am answering the very questions I ask all my guests: * Tell us about your love story 1. What does love mean to you? 2. Love can be the most painful and the most amazing , how do you navigate life when love throws you off? 3. You get to go back to any age and teach yourself a lesson in love, what would it be? (not allowed to say no regrets). In t...

May 16, 202140 minSeason 2Ep. 14
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