Looking for a way to help "porn proof" your devices? Check out Covenant Eyes! Use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free! Let's get to know the latest KS team member, shall we? In this episode, Alana chats with Kyle and he shares his journey of overcoming a pornography addiction. Kyle goes into detail explaining his struggles, when he realized he needed to seek professional help, and gives really practical tips to overcome a pornography addiction. Have any porn related questions you'd like ...
Sep 05, 2022•38 min•Season 5Ep. 12
Tune into this episode where Kyle interviews Dr. Cameron Staley to talk about his new porn recovery programs: The Life After Pornography online program and the Life After Pornography Coach app! Dr. Staley has a background in porn research and ACT therapy for overcoming porn addiction. If pornography is a struggle for you, or someone you know this is definitely an episode for you to listen to and share!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! From weekly c...
Aug 29, 2022•34 min•Season 5Ep. 11
Due to an internet issue this once full-length episode has been cut in half and turned into a "teaser episode" of a more in depth one to come! Listen in as Alana, Paris, and Kyle chat about masturbation and sex toys and their roll in the marriage bed. Have some questions for the team around this topic? Shoot us an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com and we'll do our best to address it in our later episode! Thank you for your grace and patience! Links from today's episode: Faithful Counselling Ev...
Aug 22, 2022•18 min•Season 5Ep. 10
Don't miss this in depth episode that covers SO many good topics! Alana and Kyle tackle the questions you sent us on Instagram- we had put up stories asking what women would want to ask a man, or what questions men would want to ask us. And they were really great questions, so we're going to break it up into a bunch of parts and tackle them over time! So if your question didn't get answered this time, make sure you listen to our upcoming episodes and we'll likely answer in the future! Kyle and A...
Aug 15, 2022•35 min•Season 5Ep. 9
You're not going to want to miss this incredible episode on navigating sexual rejection! It's time to have a real moment with yourself next time your partner initiates intimacy and you decline the offer... take a moment to ask yourself: WHY though? If I'm too tired to do this or am I just wanting to do something else? Is this really a 'not tonight's moment' or can it simply be a 'not right now, let me decompress from a hard day' moment?Are you up for other things? A naked body massage, cuddling ...
Aug 08, 2022•30 min•Season 5Ep. 8
We have a HUGE announcement at the end of this episode so make sure you listen to the end to find out what's new in the KS world! Did you know 1/3 of our followers are guys?! We noticed that we've been getting more and more messages from the men asking questions, or women asking things on behalf of their husbands. So we had Kyle come on so we could pick a man's brain on some of the questions we've been working through! Things like: is it valuable for men to be listening to our episodes? and how ...
Aug 01, 2022•29 min•Season 5Ep. 7
Time to tune into another Q&A episode!! Alana and Paris discuss some of your most asked questions like: how to stay connected (non-sexually) with your spouse when you have little ones, how to bring up the topic of intimacy with your spouse without it being awkward, what to do if you're struggling with arousal, and so much more! If you're a fan of Q&A's feel free to send us more questions on our Instagram account! Go follow us @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples chal...
Jul 25, 2022•22 min•Season 5Ep. 6
EVERY one of us has differing sexual desires and libido, it’s unique to us, just like our finger print. Yet so many couples struggle and feel isolated when they have varying sex drives from one another. One spouse is typically labeled as "high drive" and the other is "low drive". But should we even be using the term high and low drive? Could it turn into a label that can potentially carry identity? Listen in as Paris and Alana dive deep into varying sexual desire, debunk myths, and shed light on...
Jul 18, 2022•23 min•Season 5Ep. 5
Listen in to another episode of the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast as Alana and Rusti ask each other the question: is sexy just a state of mind? It's time to ask ourselves some questions too! Like, what does it even mean to be sexy? Or to FEEL sexy? Does it have to do with appearance or is there more to it than that? What's something my spouse does that I find sexy- and do they know it?? Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! We share connect questions, couples cha...
Jul 11, 2022•20 min•Season 5Ep. 4
Are you in those first fresh years of marriage? When everything is shiny and bright with the future wide ahead of you? Such a precious and exciting time in life! But it can also be a season filled with unmet expectations, struggle, and unanswered questions. Like many, maybe you're sitting there wondering: "Why don't I want sex as much as I thought I would?" or "How can I go about telling my spouse if I'm not feeling completely satisfied where things are at right now?". Pop in your headphones and...
Jun 27, 2022•33 min•Season 5Ep. 3
Gearing up to your wedding night and not sure what to expect? Do you have some big questions but don't know who to get to answer them? Tune into this fun episode where Alana and Rusti share the nitty gritty's about the wedding night! They discuss pain, condoms, lube, and so much more! If you're engaged and getting married soon you're not going to want to miss this one! We also have an amazing in-depth resource coming for you soon, so keep your eye's out for that!! Be sure to follow us on Instagr...
Jun 20, 2022•33 min•Season 5Ep. 2
Are you in a season of waiting? Maybe it's waiting for a boyfriend. Or perhaps you're waiting for your wedding day! Listen in as Alana and Paris chat about these seasons, share their hearts on the periods of waiting, and where to focus your heart in these times. They also discuss boundaries- what does it look like to have boundaries before you're married? What lines are okay to cross? How far is too far?? You're not going to want to miss it! Be sure you're following them on Instagram @kingdomsex...
Jun 13, 2022•27 min•Season 5Ep. 1
YOU asked and THEY answered! Tune into this amazing episode with the whole KS team; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, answer questions that were submitted over on Instagram. They answer questions like "how can I get my mind into love making?", "what does intimacy look like once you've got little ones?", "how do you navigate differing sex drives?", and so much more! The team gets real, sharing their hearts on some big questions! Anything else you'd like to ask the team? Feel free to send them an email kin...
Jun 06, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 26
Last week the Kingdom Sexuality Team went over a bunch of things that sex is! So this week, Alana and Rusti chat about some of the things that sex is NOT. Things like: sex is not a form of currency, it's not something you have do so you're spouse doesn't have their needs met somewhere else, and it's not always clean and comfortable! Sex is a bunch of things, but there are a lot of things that sex is not. So listen in as we get super honest and open about some lies floating around about intimacy!...
May 30, 2022•30 min•Season 4Ep. 25
The world around us displays sex in a very specific way. It's glamorized to look like this erotic, romantic, perfect, multiple-orgasm experience every. single. time... And so many of us say "I Do" and expect that to be what goes down in the bedroom but we're hit with the realization that sex, like everything else in life, is a learned skill that you'll get better at over time! So put in those headphones and listen in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti get back to the basics and go over the fundamentals ...
May 23, 2022•31 min•Season 4Ep. 24
The long anticipated, much requested, birth control episode is finally here! After numerous attempts at recording this, Rusti swooped in and did a beautiful job breaking down natural family planning, how you can go about tracking your cycle, gauging when your ovulation is happening- all to help prevent pregnancy or assist you if you're trying to conceive! If you have any questions about today's episode feel free to shoot us a message on Instagram! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexual...
May 16, 2022•28 min•Season 4Ep. 23
Tune into this amazing episode that was requested by YOU! Alana and Rusti chat about some "do's and don't's" when it comes to conversations with your friends about your intimate life! What's okay to share? How do I even bring this topic up with friends? What if everyone judges me for asking this question? They cover all those questions and more! Be sure to listen till the end to hear the "practical application" side as Rusti and Alana share some things that you could bring up in conversation wit...
May 09, 2022•31 min•Season 4Ep. 22
Listen in as Alana and Rusti share their hearts and chat about spiritual gifts, what it looks like using them in your marriage, and how to begin walking in a missional marriage. They also share some advice for those in the relationship who are the ones running hard after Jesus and how to navigate life if your spouse isn't on the same page as you yet. If you’re not following us on Instagram be sure you check us out @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly challenges, “hump day” sex positions, excitin...
May 02, 2022•32 min•Season 4Ep. 21
THE BIG QUESTION: Is your marriage reflecting Jesus’ love to those around you? If you’re unsure of how to answer that question, I think it’s time to do some heart work. Think about it! You and your spouse were put together for a purpose. You each individually have a specific calling and gifts that were given to you and passions that get you fired up. So then, when you put those gifts, callings, and passions and combine them with your spouses- you become a powerhouse for Jesus! So tune in as Alan...
Apr 25, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 20
Ready to have a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist answer YOUR questions?? Callie Teel, PT, DPT is a dedicated follower of Christ and a long time Kingdom Sexuality fan. She has a passion for helping women overcome dysfunction and embrace the sexual beings God created them to be. She graduated from Texas Tech university Health Science Center with her doctorate in physical therapy and then trained to become a pelvic health specialist. She now works in Amarillo Texas, helping women with all kinds of t...
Apr 18, 2022•36 min•Season 4Ep. 19
YOU ASKED and WE ANSWERED! Here are some of the questions we've received on our Instagram account about the three of us! So we; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, share more about who we are! We chat about what we do on the daily, if we were virgins when we got married, what our love languages are, favourite part about doing this ministry, and more! Put in your headphones and get to know us better!! Feel free to share some of your own answers with us over on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Over there you'll ...
Apr 11, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 18
Does your sexuality need a life preserver? Has purity culture, church culture, LACK of of information, or trauma creeped its way into your sex life and you feel like you're about to drown? In this interview Paris and Rusti interview Sheila Gregoire, author of "The Great Sex Rescue" ( and many others, check out her new revised version of 'The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex' ) and chat with her about her study of over 20,000 women with the goal of getting to the heart of our struggle with sexuality...
Apr 04, 2022•39 min•Season 4Ep. 17
We’ve done an episode on “spicing it up” in the bedroom before, but now that we’ve got Rusti here and since it’s been a long time since that episode came out (fun fact, that was our 4th episode to be released) it seemed like a good time to make a “spice it up 2.0”! If you’ve been married for any length of time you’ll know that sex can easily become routine. We’re busy people! The list of things to do is never ceasing and ever growing- we need to pick kids up from school, take out the trash, get ...
Mar 28, 2022•26 min•Season 4Ep. 16
Recently on our Instagram Rusti shared a handful of hindrances very briefly that could impede us from that body shuttering, skin tingling, hair raising prize. Today we're going to go a little bit more in depth, give some more background information that will hopefully help gain more wisdom when it comes to understanding why we might be struggling to reach orgasm. We absolutely want to preface this with the fact that we will be discussing sexual trauma a bit and so this is a trigger warning in ca...
Mar 21, 2022•38 min•Season 4Ep. 15
Tune into this fun interview with author, Karin Freeland! Karin has published a book called "The In's and Outs of My Vagina: A Penetrating Memoir", and she shares how she came to write this book, some of the hilarious and relatable stories in it, and so much more! You can find Karin on Instagram @karinfreeland, and her book is on Amazon and BarnesandNoble.com! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! Y...
Mar 14, 2022•34 min•Season 4Ep. 15
It’s about time the KS team did an episode solely on this topic! We’re not sure why it seems to happen this way, but there is this switch that so many of us come across as newlyweds. We go into marriage assuming that this magical switch is going to flip and that they can go from thinking that sex is bad/dirty/something we shouldn't want… to thinking that it’s incredible and love every minute of it. That’s a big switch to flip!! So tune in as Alana and Rusti tackle this big topic! Links from toda...
Mar 07, 2022•30 min•Season 4Ep. 14
What does your dream date look like? What does your spouses dream date look like? Are they similar or super different? Tune in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti share what their dream dates were and what their husbands were! Have the chat with your spouse, then after doing the date try out some new sexual technique! The KS team goes through 4 different techniques that can be helpful to try in the bedroom, so listen in to hear those after they share their dream dates! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @...
Feb 28, 2022•37 min•Season 4Ep. 13
Kyler and Britt from @loveyourfirstyear take this episode over and tackle some amazing questions that you guys sent in specifically to be answered by a man! They did an incredible job sharing their hearts and answering your questions around sex and marriage. Be sure to follow them on Instagram @loveyourfirstyear to see all of their content that's geared towards engaged couples and making your first year of marriage a fantastic one! And be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join...
Feb 21, 2022•18 min•Season 4Ep. 12
Happy Valentine's Day, Kingdom Sexuality listeners! They decided to switch things up and go a different route for this Valentine's Day episode! Listen in as Alana and Rusti chat about the slightly less glamorous side of intimacy. They go over an array of sticky situations that can occur, common hiccups that can throw a wrench in your sexy plans, embarrassing things that are totally normal to occur during lovemaking sessions. So buckle up, get ready to laugh and let's go! Follow us on Instagram @...
Feb 14, 2022•25 min•Season 4Ep. 11
Tune into this incredible episode where Alana and Paris interview Dan Purcell from Get Your Marriage On! about all things sexual confidence. Dan shares so much incredible wisdom around navigating confidence in the bedroom and what you can do if that's something your spouse struggles with! Be sure to follow Dan @getyourmarriageon, and be sure to check out the "14 Days of Sextimacy" challenge as well, he shares more on that over on his account. Be sure to follow the KS Team on Instagram @kingdomse...
Feb 07, 2022•47 min•Season 4Ep. 10
