Huge shout out to our incredible Patrons for this episode choice! Thank you!! The KS team has a question for you: Have you ever thought about NOT sleeping in pjs? It's an interesting thing to think about if that's what you've always done, but it's something to consider! There are pro's and con's to sleeping naked, or with less clothes on, but one thing is certain- according to research the team did- those who sleep with less clothes have more sex!! So might be worth a conversation! Tune in as Ti...
Mar 27, 2023•37 min•Season 7Ep. 9
The media shows us, when it comes to cleaning up after sex, that you can just kiss your partner and roll over for snuggles and snoozing. But alas. If you've been married for any length of time you'll know that there's a bit more to it than that. Or, if you're engaged and no one has ever told you what it looks like to "clean up" after being intimate- this episode is for you. Alana, Tiera, and Kyle really casually and practically go through what it looks like to properly clean up after intercourse...
Mar 20, 2023•21 min•Season 7Ep. 8
Time to talk expectations... but around sex. Did you go into your marriage with set expectations when it came to sex? How did you find navigating it? Do you and your spouse talk about expectations now? Expectations not shared are usually expectations unmet. So how can we navigate having these conversations well? Tune in as Tiera, Kyle, and Alana chat about healthy "sex-pectations". If you're not already be sure you check Kingdom Sexuality out on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. That's where you'll s...
Mar 13, 2023•31 min•Season 7Ep. 7
It's time to get to know the newest member of the Kingdom Sexuality team! Tiera!! In this episode she shares her journey, specifically in the area of intimacy, and how she's grown in those areas. She is going to bring such a wealth of knowledge to the team, specifically in the areas of trying to conceive, fertility, and women's sexual health. Alana and Kyle are absolutely thrilled to have her along during this wild ride. The Lord brought her along at such an amazing time and there's no doubt she...
Mar 06, 2023•26 min•Season 7Ep. 6
The incredible Kingdom Sexuality patrons were the ones who chose this weeks episode, so a huge THANK YOU to them!! Do you ever struggle with your thoughts during sex? Thinking about a past relationship experience, something you saw in porn, or even just your mind is wandering thinking about what's for dinner tomorrow?? This episode is for you! Alana, Kyle, and Tiera chat about what we do when/if we struggle with wrong thoughts during sex or if our mind wanders during intimacy. They also share so...
Feb 27, 2023•41 min•Season 7Ep. 5
This is an episode you won't want to miss! Alana sits down with Brandi K. Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT. Brandi is a professional counsellor, author, speaker, teacher, and coach and her and Alana dive into all sorts of really good topics. They chat sexual education, when to have "those talks" with your kids, the science behind sexual desire, how to reignite the spark in your marriage, and so much more!! Brandi does a beautiful job of explaining arousal and desire and how these are actually two diff...
Feb 20, 2023•52 min•Season 7Ep. 7
Along with being a great episode on the when's and if's of family planning- it's also an exciting episode where Alana and Kyle get to introduce Kingdom Sexuality's NEWEST MEMBER!! Tiera is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to the topic of fertility and women's health and KS is absolutely thrilled to have her apart of the team! Her sextimony will be coming in a few weeks, so this episode doesn't go too in depth into who Tiera is- instead it's an episode where the team chats about "how do you kn...
Feb 13, 2023•35 min•Season 7Ep. 6
In case you were unaware... Valentine's Day is fast approaching! So with that in mind, Alana and Kyle thought it would be a fun idea to share some date night ideas! There's something for those of you who want to stay in, those who want to go out, and those of you who want something spicy. But they don't just end it there, they also touch on something that might be prevalent in your life around this time in February... what if your spouse just isn't into Valentine's Day? How do you navigate that?...
Feb 06, 2023•27 min•Season 7Ep. 5
The incredible Kingdom Sexuality patrons were the ones who chose this weeks episode, so a huge THANK YOU to them!! The KS Team put a questions box up on Instagram asking women who follow us "what do you wish men knew about sex?" and this episode is all of those responses!! (Ladies, share this with your man!) From vocalizing things in the bedroom, go slow and soft, to "when we say keep going- KEEP GOING- don't change speed!" This episode has it all! And if you're not already be sure you check Kin...
Jan 30, 2023•27 min•Season 7Ep. 4
Kyle and Alana put a lot of work into this Oral Sex Series finale so that it wouldn't blow... (pun intended). But in all seriousness, these oral sex episodes have had so much thought, research, and data behind them. So in this weeks finale oral sex episode they talk about fellatio (aka: oral sex being done on a man, a blow job, or BJ). Alana and Kyle discuss some of the statistics from the survey's they put out over the past few weeks, why many women have a difficult time giving oral sex on thei...
Jan 23, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Season 7Ep. 3
Well, we said this episode is coming and here it is! You wanted to hear more information about cunnilingus? Listen in! It's a longer episode but Alana and Kyle tackle SO much really valuable information. Things like: how do you even begin to start talking about oral sex with your spouse? and why do some women struggle when it comes to receiving oral sex? Kyle and Alana also ran a big survey before doing this series and gathered a bunch of data. You’ll hear it woven in throughout this episode and...
Jan 16, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Season 7Ep. 2
The highly anticipated, long awaited oral sex episode is here! Alana and Kyle will be doing more in depth episodes on fellatio and cunnilingus in the coming episodes but Seth and Melanie Studley did a FANTASTIC job starting off this series. You're not going to want to miss this one. They chat about questions like: How would a couple, who’s struggled with the idea of oral sex, introduce it into their marriage? What should the conversations look like? What considerations should be given to hygiene...
Jan 09, 2023•59 min•Season 7Ep. 1
Buckle up for this in depth chat on both male and female anatomy!! Kyle uses his medical knowledge of the body to discuss everything anatomy! And when we say everything, we mean everything!! Some of this information might not seem relevant, but it is actually so helpful when it comes to bringing more pleasuring to a woman! Like, did you know the "g-spot" is actually just a clitoral cluster?? And did you know that the vagina gets longer when a woman becomes more aroused?? Husbands, you're going t...
Jan 02, 2023•42 min•Season 6Ep. 14
So many of these "this is the newly discovered 6 love language!" have been coming out, are they valid? Is there a love language that's missing? Tune in as Alana and Kyle chat about the supposed 6th love language: feeling seen/known. Is feeling seen or feeling known its own love language? Is it a combination of a few? Do you feel seen when your spouse speaks your love language? We'd love to know your thoughts! Shoot us a DM or an email sharing your thoughts!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @ki...
Dec 26, 2022•23 min•Season 6Ep. 13
Ho Ho HOLD UP, you can still be intimate when you're around family this Christmas?? Yep! Listen in as Kyle and Alana chat about some ways you can make intimacy more of a priority this Christmas! Spoiler alert: it starts with decreasing the amount of stress in your life!! They discuss some other times of day you can have sex when you're around family, different locations, and how removing as much stress as possible will help increase both your libido and energy!! Merry Christmas, from the KS Team...
Dec 19, 2022•23 min•Season 6Ep. 12
Prepare to have a very jolly Christmas, because Alana and Kyle are giving you Kingdom Sexuality's very first SEX CHALLENGE!! Not sure what a sex challenge is? Basically, it's committing to being intimate for a set number of days in a row. In this episode they go through a bunch of FAQ's when it comes to sex challenges. Questions like: Does it HAVE to be sex every day? How do I bring up the idea of a sex challenge to my spouse? What happens if I'm not in the mood one of the days? And so much more...
Dec 12, 2022•29 min•Season 6Ep. 11
We all know that this time of the year can be a busy time. Typically well meaningly so, but things can get real busy real quick. So how can we be proactive about this and protect our connection when the craziness of the holidays come around? What are some practical ways to make space for connection during busy times? Alana and Kyle chat through those questions and so much more! They mentioned this quote in the episode: "If you let it, the busyness of life will kill your marriage." So it’s up to ...
Dec 05, 2022•27 min•Season 6Ep. 10
We all know the beautiful season of giving is nearing, so Kyle and Alana start off the episode by diving into some fun sexy stocking stuffers! But on top of that, they also go more into: what can you be giving your spouse that's worth even MORE than a physical gift? Things like the gift of being present, the gift of exploration, and the gift of selflessness. Putting off our selfish nature OUTSIDE of the bedroom and seeing how it transforms things INSIDE the bedroom. Be sure to follow us on Insta...
Nov 28, 2022•31 min•Season 6Ep. 9
Today on the KS podcast Alana and Kyle have a couple of very special guests with us to help us close out our opposites series. Abe and Elaine Romero join in today to chat about what it looks like for them to have a commuter marriage! Living in different states how can they stay connected emotionally? Sexually?? What advice do they have for other long distance marriages? How can couples be cultivating connection when they're in different locations? They chat through this, and more! You won't want...
Nov 21, 2022•32 min•Season 6Ep. 8
Whether it’s differences in where you want to live, what you want to do in the bedroom, or if you even WANT each other in the bedroom (meaning more drive related). I feel like at some point in time we’ve all had these sorts of opposites come up in our marriages. So how do you navigate this? When you and your spouse want different things? Alana and Kyle dive into this and so much more in this episode, so listen up! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see we...
Nov 14, 2022•32 min•Season 6Ep. 7
Do you have a time of day preference when it comes to sex? Does your spouse? And are they the same? Alana and Kyle tackle the age old debate of morning sex vs. evening sex! (Don't worry, they don't forget about afternoon delights!) But more seriously, how do you navigate this if you're not a night owl but your spouse would rather stay up super late- when do you incorporate your intimacy? Tune in, and maybe if you've never thought about what time of day you prefer you and your spouse can have tha...
Nov 07, 2022•21 min•Season 6Ep. 6
Are you and your spouse different sizes height-wise or weight-wise? Then this is the episode for you! Kyle and Alana chat about how to navigate this and what positions are ideal for you guys! If you and your spouse are different sizes, please know that you can still have a beautiful, sexy, and flourishing sex life! It may take a bit more patience as you attempt different positions, but it will be so worth it! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly "hu...
Oct 31, 2022•31 min•Season 6Ep. 5
Odds are good that you and your spouse feel loved in different ways. In this episode, Alana and Kyle chat about the 5 love languages and how to navigate it when you and your spouse's love languages aren't the same. Like, what do you do when your spouse's love language is gifts but you have zero interest in buying gifts? Or if your love language is acts of service but you're left frustrated waiting for your spouse to take out the garbage? Or your spouse loves to touch you, but the thought of PDA ...
Oct 24, 2022•33 min•Season 6Ep. 4
You've heard the term opposites attract, right? Is this true in your marriage? Are you and your spouse wildly different when it comes to your personalities? Is one of you introverted and the other extroverted? Tune in to the second episode in our Opposites series as Kyle and Alana answer questions like: "How do we navigate being different than our spouse well?" and "What does it look like being introverted vs extroverted when it comes to the bedroom??" Like any team, you can use your unique skil...
Oct 19, 2022•32 min•Season 6Ep. 3
Wow, we've made it to an exciting milestone: Episode 100! In this bonus episode, Kyle interviews Alana about what these first 100 episodes have been like, how they've grown her, and how this whole podcast even began! Oh, and make sure you listen to the end to hear about the exciting 100th episode giveaway that's they'll be releasing on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Thank you so much for listening to our episodes and following along with us over the years. We appreciate the likes, shares, reviews,...
Oct 17, 2022•25 min•Season 6Ep. 2
It's a long one, but it's a good one. Ruth Joseph joins Kyle and Alana and shares her story of being in an unequally yolked marriage, how it impacts her life, and so much more. Ruth answers big questions like "does being in an unequally yolked marriage have an effect on your sex life?" and "what would your advice be to someone who's considering getting into an unequally yolked relationship?" Ruth’s handle is @iamruthjoseph, check out more of her content!! As always you can find more of our stuff...
Oct 10, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 6Ep. 1
Today Kyle and Alana have the pleasure of chatting with Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo, hosts of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast and authors of an amazing marriage book called 6 Pillars of Intimacy! They discuss emotional intimacy in depth; how emotional intimacy is connected to sexual intimacy, and what to do if only one of the couple in the marriage is putting in the word to cultivate it. They touch on scheduling sex, doing sex challenges, and how sexual intimacy can be a barometer for the re...
Oct 03, 2022•33 min•Season 5Ep. 16
Looking for a way to help "porn proof" your devices? Check out Covenant Eyes! Use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free! Here's part two of our episode with Samantha Enns, Kyle's lovely wife! Alana asked her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "Did you struggle with comparison, knowing what he'd seen?" and "Did his addiction impact your sex life? How?". Again, we are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. We're praying...
Sep 26, 2022•57 min•Season 5Ep. 15
Big thank you to this episodes sponsor, Faithful Counseling! Looking for some affordable Christian counseling? Use this link to get 10% off your first month! If you haven't listened to Kyle's Sextimony episode we would highly recommend you do that before listening to this one! In this episode Alana interviews Kyle's wife, Samantha, asking her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "How do I check in without accusing him/prying too much?" and...
Sep 19, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 14
Sex is everywhere we turn. Whether it's in a show we're watching, the latest Netflix release, on our feed as we're scrolling Instagram, on a billboard by the highway, or in the book we're reading. So many forms of media give us access to things that can often leave us wondering... does this count as porn? You're not going to want to miss this episode where Paris and Alana chat about: how do we know when the media we are watching goes too far? We might think "Everyone does it. It's not a big deal...
Sep 12, 2022•20 min•Season 5Ep. 13
