Friend and fellow Clinical Sexologist Erin Wallis has her hands full with 3 queer teens, including 2 that are transgender. In fact, no one in the house is straight! Her experiences in Cumming, Georgia are like something out of a novel. Have you ever had a pastor call your house to harass you? Erin was frank about the conversations and considerations about safety, playing sports, and having an exit plan. No parent should have to worry about their child's safety in the ways she does, but we are wa...
Aug 11, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 134
Breaking up is never fun nor easy, no matter how long you've been together. But, sometimes it's simply necessary. You should definitely consider some things before you make a final decision. Today's episode covers when is it time to break up with someone? How do you break up with someone effectively? And what should you do to get past a breakup?
Jul 27, 2022•33 min•Ep. 133
Artist. friend, and Kinsey 6 Corey Green joined me to just kind of tell me the story of his life. I truly savor when I get the opportunity to hear someone tell me not only their coming out story, but also what was it like exploring sex, especially when you grew up where you didn't get much information about it. If you lived that small town teenage life, you will certainly appreciate Corey's tales. So, whether you have been considering how you can understand more about your proclivities for kink,...
Jul 07, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 132
Thank you for joining me for another episode of keep them coming. Fair warning, the content of this episode is freaking amazing! However, I majorly f*cked up on my setup. I guess I didn't have it recording on my microphone. So...my apologies! Guest Katie M has several intersecting identities and it has made it challenging for them to date. Their identity can give people a lot of opportunities to make inaccurate assumptions. There's so much variety with asexuality. There almost is like no two tha...
Jul 02, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 131
I unfortunately missed going to the Kansas city Burlesque Festival this year, but I am joined by my friend, Kira who was crowned the Queen of KC Burlesque for 2022. And she didn't even tell me until the end of the episode that she has the cutest stage name - Petite Syrah. Kyra helped me learn some new things about burlesque, such as explaining different types of burlesque, she told me a few things about what it takes to get started, and a few of her favorite makers that you should also check out...
Jun 24, 2022•59 min•Ep. 130
Some of you in the leather and kink community might be familiar with Leather Masters, which got hit by COVID and closed it manufacturing in Texas in 2020. Entrepreneurs Stan and his husband Clint, owners of Em City in Kansas City, are reviving the brand and relaunching in July 2022. I was very interested in hearing his entrepreneurial journey after a fateful Vegas weekend. I told the story of how we were first introduced - which had nothing to do with leather or kink. It actually had to do with ...
Jun 16, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 129
Fireplaying expert and educator Mark Athens helped me understand more about using fire for both pleasure and pain. He also discussed his journey into the leather community, along with a little history of leather at Pride. We also discussed how to spot a swinger, leather competitions, kink conferences, and much more. Find him on FetLife @SirAthens. Find Consent KC on Facebook or @_consentKC on FetLife.
Jun 11, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 128
My friend Kinkaid McMinn joined me again on Keep Them Coming. He's a fellow Certified Sex Coach and Clinical Sexologist who also graduated from Sex Coach U. We are ringing in National Masturbation Month 2022! Topics include male or penis-owning masturbation myths, when you might know there's an issue in your relationship, our thoughts on tantra and semen retention, Kinkaid explained jelqing, and more.
May 05, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 127
Artist, designer, and activist Tanith K. joined me for a winding convo around gender, art, and journeys of self exploration. We discussed the purpose of labels, and the gatekeeping over what is "trans enough". You can find Tanith on Instagram or their Society 6 shop. Support local artists!
Apr 20, 2022•57 min•Ep. 126
So parents... let's have a frank conversation. I completely understand that once y'all had children, things change in your life. I find that there is a big difference between the couples that make sure that their relationship stays a priority versus those who put the kids first before their relationship. I don't think that you're a bad partner or spouse if you have put your kids before your spouse. It's not about good or bad. It's not about right or wrong. What this is about is recognizing reali...
Apr 14, 2022•23 min•Ep. 125
Professor and author Dr Aditi Paul joined me for a conversation about what's currently going on with college hookup culture. It's been 20 years since I was in college and I was really curious how things compare. Good news - the kids are alright! We discussed their views on safer sex practices, dating apps, finding meaning in hookups, what their thoughts are about commitment, and what induces sexual regret. TW: sexual assault is briefly discussed in the second half of the show. You can find her a...
Apr 06, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 124
In honor of Transgender Day of Visibility, Dr Laura Meihofer DPT joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming. She is a pelvic wellness expert who specializes in treating people who are transgender or intersex. She's a doctor, teacher, and advocate all rolled into one! We discussed how treatments can help with all sorts of issues from shy bladder to sexual pleasure. Dr Meihofer helped explain what intersex means. We also discussed some of our favorite gender affirming toy brands like Enby, Smil...
Mar 31, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 123
The Mother of Sex Coaching, Dr Patti Britton, who is also one of Kristen's mentors, was today's special guest. Listening to two people who's life revolves around pleasure activism is quite a treat! Dr Patti shared her perspectives on foreplay, pleasure, sexual wellness, and more. She is retiring from Sex Coach U next year, so she shared what is in store after that change. You can find her books The Art of Sex Coaching, Designing and Leading a Successful SAR, and Idiots Guide to Sensual Massage o...
Mar 23, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 122
Awkward Essentials founder Frances Tang joined me for a rousing conversations about cum sponges. Her first product video for DripStick had everyone sending me their video asking "have you seen this one?!" I had and I loved it. I've been a fan of Awkward Essentials since I first saw their product! Frances shared her journey from starting in her parents garage to going viral thanks to a Twinkie. She shared her vision for the future, involving other "behind the bathroom door" products. Find Awkward...
Mar 16, 2022•45 min•Ep. 121
My guest, Michael Castleman, is a sexual health and wellness journalist who has written books, is a prolific blogger, and he also gives advice at greatsexguidance.com . I use his book, Sizzling Sex For Life for a lot of reasons, mostly because he's just made my life a lot easier by compiling a ton of research! He's also friends with my mentor, Dr. Patti Britton from Sex Coach U, so we gushed about her for a little while. I hope what you take away from this conversation is something that Michael ...
Mar 10, 2022•51 min•Ep. 120
I was joined by Jenelle Marie Pierce, who is an STI educator that I have known virtually for a little while. She is the Executive Director of The STI Project, as well as the new Education Manager for Health HIV based in DC. She's also a spokesperson for Positive Singles, which is a dating site for those who have a positive STI status. I found out more about what inspired her to educate people about STIs. We discussed disclosure how you actually ask someone if they have been tested recently gotte...
Mar 03, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 119
My friend Micheala Miller from Strawberry Week joined me on this episode to tell us all about her new nonprofit that has spun off from Barrier Babes. Micheala has been on the podcast before ( Ep. 42 ).As things grew, she realized she really needed to focus exclusively on fighting period poverty, so Strawberry Week was born beginning of 2022. Micheala told me about some of the work that she's doing to make sure people have access to period products. She also recently testified at the Kansas State...
Feb 16, 2022•40 min•Ep. 118
I can add a dildo maker to my collection of interesting friends in this life! Mountain of Twisted Mountain Toys joined me on to tell me the story of how he become a sex toy maker. Necessity breeds invention, and he found a need as a bigger bodied person for a better butt plug. Mountain plans to expand his line of toys, keeping a wide range of bodies, abilities, genders, and queerness in mind. Check out twistedmountaintoys.com or visit his Etsy page . He is entirely word of mouth right now, so le...
Feb 09, 2022•44 min•Ep. 117
Community advocate Shalese Clay joined me on KTC to share ways she and others are working in the city to help ensure infant and maternal health through Cradle KC and Every Baby To 1. She taught me the ABC's of safe sleep and we discussed the importance of planning a pause between children. In fact, the Community Health Council of Wyandotte County's 'Plan Your Pause' campaign has a goal to educate mothers and families about how good it is for her health and the baby's health to wait around 18 mon...
Feb 02, 2022•58 min•Ep. 116
Fellow SCU Alum Sarah Martin, The Dignified Hedonist, joined me on Keep Them Coming to help us all understand more about the online Manosphere. She has extensively researched Pick Up Artistry (PUA) and some of the leaders in this subculture. We discussed how dehumanizing to men ideologies like red pill, Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW), and PUA can be. Her approach to helping men leave behind these thoughts and ways is to teach them to be dignified hedonists - Sarah helps horny people get laid wi...
Jan 26, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 115
My interview with Cassie Willnauer is a dash of talking about New Year's resolutions, a bit of how to talk to your kids about sex, and a hint of purity culture talk as well. I called this episode don't resolve to punish yourself because it's January and a lot of people are setting those New Year's resolutions. I explained why I'm not really a fan of them, often because of the way we're setting our intention for them. For many, it's less about trying to grow and learn, and often times more rooted...
Jan 12, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 114
My guest on Keep Them Coming today is a queer artist, designer, and a community minded person, Jared Horman. I saw him create a mural live at the Queer Narratives Festival over the summer, and you may recognize some of his work around Kansas City. He's painted murals for KC Care Clinic and Gael's Public House. It was some naughty, naughty asparagus in his Rotten Foods series that really caught my attention! I'm definitely going to have to get a print of the asparagus on a leash for my office tit...
Jan 05, 2022•47 min•Ep. 113
The Royal Love Coach Kincaid McMinn joined me for this final episode of 2021. He gave me the lowdown on some of his favorite and most highly recommended sex toys for penis owners. He also addressed bad dating advice, semen retention and No Fap November, and much more. Find him on Instagram and Twitter @RoyalLoveCoach Join me for my virtual workshop series Better Sex - A six week course to awaken the better lover in you January 25th- March 1st, 2022. You can try Uvee for yourself by going to http...
Dec 29, 2021•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 112
Today's guest is used to being in front of the camera rather than a microphone, but model and movement teacher Marisa Pinkerton, or Risa as you'll find her online, did great on her first podcast interview. Risa opened up about dating, dancing, modeling, and Only Fans. Turning ourselves into a brand and managing the entrepreneur side is a challenge, but one Risa is learning to navigate well, as evidence by her growing modeling portfolio. She shared her lessons learned about her sexuality during t...
Dec 22, 2021•56 min•Ep. 111
Michaela Martinez joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming to talk about sex, disability and chronic illness. Michaela was an open book about some of her experiences that she's had with the medical field and dating as someone who's had two open-heart surgeries. She's experienced a lot of shaming and stigma from doctors and received little to no information when it came to sex and pleasure. Couple that with the complex world of dating, and we had a lot to discuss.
Dec 09, 2021•58 min•Ep. 110
Back for another interview on Keep Them Coming is my friend and my business mentor Joel Barrett. Joel is an LGBTQ writer, speaker and gatherer who has his own company called Joel Speaks Out. He published his memoir recently, so I wanted to have him back on to tell me all about Godly...But Gay. He was a Baptist minister, was married and has four children. We discussed cruising, figuring your shit out, how a pattern of shame and then compulsive behavior can develop when we are repressing ourselves...
Dec 01, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 109
Artist, activist, and educator Merrique Jenson and I had a lively conversation about Trans Day of Remembrance, race, equity, social justice work, gatekeeping, and making changes in our community. Merrique is the Program Director for Transformations, a youth organization for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming teens and adolescents. Merrique has led the organization to refocus it's efforts specifically on youth that are brown and black that have faced systemic racism and poverty much more than ...
Nov 24, 2021•1 hr 37 min•Ep. 108
If you are uneducated about sex, it's not your fault! I'm joined by my friend Dr Allie Melendez who wrote an entire book about all the things adults missed. As a sex educator at a Montessori school in LA, she found that in order to best help the student, she had to teach the parents as well. It's great to talk to someone who is sex positive! You can support her kickstarter for From ABC to STD: What you didn't learn in school until December 2nd, 2021....
Nov 17, 2021•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 107
My conversation with Lucy Rowett, CSC and Clinical Sexologist was all about about diet culture, body image, and the overlap that they have with purity culture. A lot of it has to do with this idea of self control or self-loathing, punishing yourself and policing bodies. We also talked about how so many healers who've gotten pulled into conspiracy theories. You know who you are. Lucy's focus in her practice is removing shame for women. She's even got a really cool program that she calls the Shame...
Nov 03, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 106
Ever wonder why some people love to have their balls beaten? In this solo show, Kristen breaks down the basics of cock and ball torture, one of the most extreme and misunderstood kinks.
Oct 27, 2021•27 min•Ep. 105
