Kink practitioner Jaybee Aviance dished on all the kink groups they are a part of - Consent KC, KC Pioneers, Black Kink KC, and The Meatlocker. It can be hard to find kink spaces that are welcoming if you're not white and cishet, so we had an honest conversation about entering those spaces when you're not those things. Find Jaybee and the Kansas City Alternative Podcast Collective at kcapc.com. Find any of the groups we mentioned on FetLife.
Oct 20, 2021•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 104
Katerina Guillermo is an artist and printmaker, and I adore their kinky and erotic art!Not only does she showcase a wide variety of kinks, but also a wide variety of bodies. She is passionate about learning to draw diversity that reflects our world. We discussed representation of all bodies in art, sex work for people with disabilities, And some of the work they've been doing since quarantine began. You can actually reach out to Kat if you'd like a peace commissioned. Kat also explained the role...
Oct 13, 2021•1 hr•Ep. 103
Sara Rosen, LMSW and MEd joins Kristen on Keep Them Coming to kick of Kinktober because she's also known as The Kink Therapist! We discussed the differences between a therapist and coach and what roles we play in people's journeys. She shared some of the most common and obscure kinks people share with her. She also gave some of her recommendations for favorite sex toys! Find Sara @thekinktherapist on every social platform.
Oct 06, 2021•55 min•Ep. 102
WELCOME TO SEASON 2! In this solo show, I reviewed my top 5 most listened to episodes of Keep Them Coming as well as my top 5 favorite online resources that will help you with sexual health. Please rate and review KTC on your favorite podcast platform.
Sep 29, 2021•24 min•Ep. 1
Lindsey and Aimee from The Secret Life of MILFs podcast joined me for episode 100 of Keep Them Coming. This one is an episode for the ages - we discussed porn, anal, sexy branding, raising kids, relationship structures, submissives and more. I feel like I made two new BFFs! You will laugh your ass off
Sep 22, 2021•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 100
September is Sexual Health Month and Kristen is kicking off with guest Caroline Markel Hammond. Her organization Safe In Harms Way helps people prepare to safely leave unhealthy relationships. TW: SA Part of Caroline's work is to normalize talking about emotional and sexual abuse so that people don't feel alone in the world. Topics include reframing past experiences, sexological changes as we age, and being that friend in the group that will always be happy to talk about sex to educate our circl...
Sep 08, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 99
Sarah G is the co-host of the Dating Kinda Sucks podcast and the one who started it all with her blog chronicling her online dating mishaps. Sarah's also a writer, a hopeless romantic, and soon to be cohabitating with her LTR, so obviously, things got better! We talked about authenticity in dating, creepy app experiences, and using social media to help people learn to date better.
Sep 01, 2021•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 98
President of the Adult Performance Artists Guild Alana Evans guides us through the train wreck many of us couldn't look away from. Since OnlyFans announced they would ban sexually explicit content, online adult performers are feeling abandoned and worried. This episode was recorded Mon August 23, as of today Aug 25th, OnlyFans has 'suspend' the October 1st deadline for content to be removed from performer's pages, citing assurances from their banking partners. It's a lot to keep up with this, bu...
Aug 25, 2021•34 min•Ep. 97
Ever wish you lasted longer in bed? Ever wish you could both get your big O during partnered play time every time? The Orgasm Gap is real - 85% of heterosexual men report reaching climax with their partner, whereas only 65% of heterosexual women say the same. How do we close the gap? Promescent CEO and my new pal Jeff Abraham came on KTC to tell us all about their product line that makes sex even better. With products that are proven to improve your intimacy, Promescent has something for everyon...
Aug 18, 2021•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 96
I had a fellow podcast host on this episode. Adam Avitable is one of two hosts on the Dating Kinda Sucks podcast. I'm hoping to get his co-host Sarah on soon for pt 2) . We met through TikTok, so we talked about some of our experiences, but most of it was about what we've got going on IRL. We discussed red flags, how we screen people out during dating, and what we feel the differences are between sexual chemistry and compatibility and why they are. Find Adam on socials, especially TikTok, @avita...
Aug 11, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 95
Today's episode is a Q&A session. I've had people write in questions they'd like answered, including: "What are some of the ways to stay wet? I get wet easily but can't stay wet after we've started." "How is sex/blow jobs/hand jobs different when a guy is uncircumcised? What do you have to do differently to work with the extra skin?" "How do I say it (initiate sex)? The only way I can truly think of is 'wanna go upstairs'?" Mentioned in the episode: Text me at 339-900-2304 to ask me anything...
Jul 30, 2021•25 min•Ep. 94
Her book is forthcoming, but Stephanie Carey joined me to share a glimpse into her story behind Jesus Stole My Power. She shared how she changed from a sheltered purity-culture riddled girl to a women who's learning more and more how to stand tall and own her life and especially her sexuality. To anyone out there who ever worries they are "being punished" for being a sexual person, you'll want to hear this interview. Mentioned in the episode: The Pitch Kansas City , Linda Kay Klein's Pure --- Se...
Jul 14, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 93
In this solo show, I explore some of the things I've found in practice are characteristics of couples who aren't feeling connected in the bedroom. There are ways to build a great sexual connection that has you and your partner craving more. Want to have a better sex? Do these 13 things according to The Gottman Institute. Mentioned in the show: Dipsea - try the Audible of audio-erotic 7 days for free. My upcoming online workshop - C*ckworship ! Get your tickets for the July 29th, 2012 virtual wor...
Jul 07, 2021•25 min•Ep. 92
Mistress Elliot is well known in our community, and we can call her the Queen of Naughty. She owns a private dungeon The Black Dog, so of course I needed to have her on Keep Them Coming! I've talked before about BDSM and kink on the show, but Mistress Elliot provided some great insights into several kinks, as well as dungeon etiquette. She explained some of the old and new protocols AKA the rules, so that people understand better what they may be in for, and into. If you want to explore BDSM, yo...
Jun 23, 2021•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 91
I enjoy releasing episodes on June 9th! I mean it's 6-9. It's my favorite day of the year. Happy 6-9 if you happen to be listening on release day, if not, I hope you got to enjoy the day properly! My guest today is a friend of mine. His name is Johnny Araña. He tells a lot of stories of course, about what he's had going on with this pandemic porn star lifestyle, how he got into it... He's just like doctor, girlfriend. He didn't just do this because the pandemic MADE him. Certainly he's made some...
Jun 09, 2021•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 90
I'm so excited to have Kaytlin Bailey return to the show. You can check out her first episode, The Oldest Professional with Kaytlin Bailey on Ep. 79. Kaytlin's back for a second time because today is Sex Work Day, also known as International Whores' Day. Kaytlin provided me with a bit of a legislative update, letting us know what's going on around the country, and she discussed how her organization is helping promote sex work and the decriminalization of sex work across the country through art. ...
Jun 02, 2021•57 min•Ep. 89
My show today is the first part of a two-part series that I am doing about Pandemic Porn Stars. So I was really happy to welcome UrChaotic Girlfriend, AKA Dr Girlfriend, to the show. She's a Twitter friend who I watched make a transition. You know, when the pandemic hit, a lot of people had the office jobs, the 8-5s, but that shit wasn't working for everybody, not just the idea of going into the office, whatever the pay was, things like that. A lot of people decided to just make a change. And, y...
May 25, 2021•55 min•Ep. 88
My interview today is with Kristin Summers, who is the CEO of MindStar health. That is a self-care app that she's developed. She had a divorce at the beginning of the pandemic. So we talked about her post divorce, sexual awakening, and you know how she navigated those waters during the fucking global pandemic. She learned a lot about herself while dating. She's like a lot of people who didn't do a lot of dating before she got married. A lot of people in the Midwest settle down young and you know...
May 11, 2021•2 hr 7 min•Ep. 87
On this episode of Keep Them Coming, I am joined by Lida Rubanava. Lida was born in Belarus, but is currently in New Jersey and sits on the board of Body Politic - a queer feminist wellness, collective and patient advocacy hub. Lida herself is a feminist, activist, and sexologist in training. She believes that the personal is political and wants to help you authentically integrate both in and out of the bedroom. We discussed how many people struggle with being 'okay' with their sexual identities...
Apr 17, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 86
My guest today is Suzanne Wheeler. I have been after Suzanne for a while! I wanted her on my show pretty much since I started it. In fact, she was on my list that I compiled when I was thinking about potential early guests. So here I am now episode 85 and it is Transgender Day of Visibility, and I finally have her on the show. Suzanne is the Executive Director of the Mid-America LGBT Chamber of Commerce, the only Transgender Woman leading a Chamber nationwide, but she is so much more than that. ...
Mar 31, 2021•1 hr•Ep. 85
I truly want people to have painful sex no more. By the way , to the male listeners of this show, this is going to be good information for you to know as well so that you can know how to support your partner, or if you yourself have pain during intercourse. If this is something you or your lover has been ignoring, and it's time for solutions. In this episode, I will walk you through steps for reducing pain or eliminating it all together. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcom...
Mar 31, 2021•21 min•Ep. 84
I was thrilled to have Alesha Bowman, Owner of unLESHed+, on this episode of Keep Them Coming! Alesha is founded her brand in 2017 to cater to the lifestyle of a plus sized woman. She is way more than just a clothing resale store! We discussed events she's hosted like Trap Burlesque, Poolpalooza, and her plans for a weekend festival celebrating all things for bigger bodies. Of course I asked her about dating! We got into some deep topics about race, dating, authenticity, going Dutch, and fetishi...
Feb 27, 2021•53 min•Ep. 83
Think your relationship is strong enough for anything? Two things that drive couples apart most often are sex and money, and I've wanted to have someone on Keep Them Coming to talk about this for a while. Today I am joined by Darcy Elizabeth, who is an energetic money consultant. Just like with sex, there are things we learn from a young age that we carry into adulthood - attitudes that don't serve us, negative beliefs around money, and thinking good sex and wealth are just for other people. We ...
Feb 20, 2021•56 min•Ep. 82
I don't know any single person that's tried internet dating that isn't frustrated with most of their experiences on swipe apps. Enter a totally new experience for you to try! I'm joined today by Zach Schleien from Filter Off. Filter Off is a totally new way to approach those first dates. It's virtual speed dating, so rather than swiping you get to video chat with your potential matches. When was the last time you got 5 first dates in a night while hanging at home? Find Filter Off at getfilteroff...
Feb 12, 2021•41 min•Ep. 81
Connecting through touch is important for both solo and partnered play. This episode dives into the power of touch, how to ask for what you want, and what really is sensate focus all about. How do you get your mind and body ready for better experiences? How do you ask your partner for something different and get what you really desire? Gigi Chaurand Kammerer, a yoga teacher, Reiki master and fellow podcaster, joined me for a conversation all about how to apply sensate focus in practical ways. Fi...
Feb 04, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 80
The Oldest Profession, or sex work, is something that has fascinated me ever since I wrote a paper about Mata Hari. Guest Kaytlin Bailey and I discuss some of the ways sex work is portrayed vs how it is in the real world, what decriminalization means for sex workers, how we can work to decrease exploitation in our culture, and much more. She's a stand-up comic too, so you're in for some serious laughs! Kaytlin Bailey is the host of The Oldest Profession Podcast and Founder of the #OldProProject ...
Jan 17, 2021•51 min•Ep. 79
Dr Kelsey Beach is back for her third appearance on Keep Them Coming! This time, she's preggers! As one of my most fun and real guests, I knew she's talk about the not so Instagram worthy aspects of being pregnant. While there can be many wonderful things about expecting a baby, there's a lot that people don't talk about, that your doctor doesn't understand, and your friends are afraid to tell you. So tune in to this episode for the good, the bad, and the ugly about what to expect. We discussed ...
Jan 13, 2021•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 78
The pandemic has changed many things, and one of them is how mom's are operating. Many of them have left the workforce and find themselves taking on more of the responsibilities for child care, remote schooling, and much more. Let's say it - they are tired, and one of the first things to go is their libido. How do women maintain a healthy sex life through the stress and changes? Have a listen to Kristen's top tips to get through this time. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemc...
Dec 18, 2020•30 min•Ep. 77
Fangirling can pay off. I reached out to a burlesque dancer I've admired on Instagram for a while and Petite Renard was more than happy to chat with me on Keep Them Coming. We dished about some of the behind the scenes drama, the drive to create a sexy yet intellectual show, and what's next for burlesque in COVID times and beyond. Whether you've never been to a show or you miss supporting your favorite local dancers, this episode will give you some insight, make you crave live entertainment agai...
Nov 19, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 76
I'm joined today by Dr Lanae St. John. She's a sexuality educator and an author, and I was so pleased to be able to host her on my show and talk about her book. I know Dr Lanae because of our affiliation with Sex Coach U . This was such a wonderful conversation about how do you have "The Talk" with your kids. This wasn't a how-to guide about ages and stages. This is really about some key pillars that she feels are necessary for parents to be able to first process themselves - things like communi...
Oct 12, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 75
