Hey, hey sisters, welcome back, I am your host, Sasha star Robertson here on the intentional mom life with jesus podcast and today we're going to be talking about the difference between survive days and thrive days, are you overwhelmed by your never ending to do list? Are you tired of your schedule running you?
Do you struggle to find balance or harmony between mom life and everything else that you have on your heart and on your plate, if you're here, you're likely a busy mama wearing multiple hats, the most important of which being child of God and mom simultaneously,
You desire to live more intentionally. Striving to be a good steward of all the gifts that God has given you and you want more productively peaceful days, Welcome to the intentional mom life with jesus podcast, I'm your host Sasha star Robertson, jesus freak mom,
blessed by adoption wife wonderluster and your intentional living and biblical mindset coach. , on this podcast, you will find abundant motherhood solutions that will set you free from the chaos overwhelmed that never ending to do list and help you create a schedule that actually works for you and your family. My mission is to help busy mamas, just like you, establish faithful foundations, live from purposeful priorities and master your motherhood mindset.
If you're here, you're ready to say yes to intentional productive and peaceful days in jesus, so grab your cold brew and your planner or strap those kiddos into the car seat and let's jump into today's okay, so first let's talk about what a survive day looks like because I have had several of these in the recent months, I have a newborn, which a lot of times that newborn season with babies, like under a couple of months old, can look like a lot of survive days.
And so sometimes that looked like being up every couple of hours all night long and being just depleted for energy because you're lacking so much sleep. It could look like adjusting to this newborn being part of your family and now having multiple mouths to feed and look after and care for multiple diapers to change perhaps or more.
And I've also been in this season of sickness in our family lately and those can often look like survive days as well because again, you're up all night with sick kiddos and perhaps not even getting to sleep yourself in your own bed and then getting sick yourself or you know, constantly tending to the needs of, of sick kiddos when they want your attention, they want your comfort, they want to be on your lap, they want you to kiss your boo boos, they're extra whiny right there extra clingy.
And so it just feels like you're not even a person yourself because you're constantly having another person or maybe even multiple people attached to you. And we've gone through this season with a newborn and lots of sickness all while being in the middle of winter here in Alaska and having between five and six ft of snow drop over the course of a week. And so all of the snow coming down requires us to move it right.
We can't just drive with five ft of snow in the driveway and um our deck was about to fall off of our house from so much snow accumulating on it. And so it just created more work. In addition to that, I've got my podcast, I've got my business, I've got not just my regular coaching clients but a group of ladies that I've been walking through the she rises challenge which required extra of me every week, significantly more.
And so all of this going on in addition to normal household duties, washing dishes, washing bottles, washing laundry, um just cleaning up, plus having a puppy. There were days that many days.
In fact that it's like we're just trying to survive the day, whatever happens, happens, whatever we don't get accomplished, we don't get accomplished because survive days are not about productivity, survive days are about peace more than anything there about keeping the peace in yourself, managing your mindset, making sure you're clinging to the Lord and being filled with him being filled with with his word, with his encouragement,
with his peace with all the fruits of the spirit and making sure you're there to create this ambience in this vibe and culture of peace in your home because by you getting distracted or caught up in productivity or negative mindsets about how you're not doing enough or you don't feel good to do enough or whatever else is only going to make it harder for your kids, they're going to be able to feel the energy, they're going to be able to feel that stress and that pressure.
Um it's going to create frustration in you, which then isn't going to be the best for them, it's not going to be able to create the best environment for them to heal and move forward to get out of these survive days. And even last week I had to survive day, we were coming off of almost a month of sickness in our home. One kid, the next kid, my husband then we were good for thanksgiving, then one kid the next kid than myself. And so last sunday was the day that I was, I was mostly feeling better.
I was like I could probably go to church today, I could probably stand to get out and socialize and um leave the house for the first time in what seemed like weeks, but I chose to just continue to have that be a survive day and I had some work that I could do just on the computer, we watched christmas movies and um just veg out at home in pajamas all day.
I don't think I got much of anything done such as laundry or dishes or or anything of that nature because we had been coming off of just such a long period of what felt like survive days that that productivity um still wasn't the focus, it was maintaining that peace. Okay. And then I want to fast forward to this past um this past week it was saturday and I had a major thrive day sisters.
I got up, I recorded um as a guest on somebody else's podcast, recorded a guest on my podcast, got a little bit more work done was very intentional with my boys when they woke up and gave them attention and fed them breakfast and um, and then we had some, some schooling time where we watched signing time with my toddler baby signing time and that was super fun and then we got around and we went to the gym and so they went to the daycare play area and I got to get in a good workout,
I got to spend some time in the steam room and then shower and we stopped and got some groceries. I came home, made us lunch, then made dinner, wash dishes, wash bottles, got stuff taken care of around the house and then my husband came home and we had some good quality family time before bedtime and I really just felt like I was hitting on all the areas well I didn't mention before the podcast recording, I had some time with the Lord and then also while washing dishes and cooking dinner,
I listened to a couple of sermons on youtube and so it was the day where all of the areas were hit and filled, right. I was focusing on my spiritual health. I focused on my business and getting stuff done. I was able to focus on my health. I had some time for me that was just away from the kids for the first time in months truly. And I was able to get stuff done around my home.
I was able to be very intentional with my kids and with my spouse and have that really good connected family time and all of those things are really, really important to me. And so that is what a thrive day looks like for me, where I'm able to meet the needs of everyone around me and myself where I'm able to focus on all the areas of my life that are really important to me. And just to look at the contrast that is the difference between a thrive day and a survive day is, is very, very different.
And so I wanted to encourage you ladies in that because I think sometimes we can get caught up in the difference between a thrived and a survive day and we think that every day we're meant to thrive every day. We're meant to perform At 110% every day. We're meant to focus on all of these different areas and that's what balance looks like in life, but that's not always what it is. I like to think of harmony over balance.
I like to think about um just these ebbs and flows of life, just like we talked about cycle sinking and um what happens in different seasons of life. And I think it's really important to remember that every day is not going to look the same, that every season is not going to look the same. And it's really important to pay attention to everything going on in your life,
to all of your surroundings and to be very present and very aware of what is going on in your days and yourself and your family to know what's the best way to show up and serve who God has called you to serve that day. Robbie my husband and I actually recorded a podcast episode back in May where um the podcast episode title is why Doing your best every day is critical to intentional living, but how your best is different every day.
And we touched briefly on that in on this, in that podcast episode as well. But just some days are going to be very, very different than other days and I want to encourage you that those days do not mean your failing those days do not mean life is a struggle or you're a bad mom or you didn't get enough done those days just look different. And sometimes doing your best every day in those survive days means you're taking care of yourself and you're taking care of your kids.
That is the most important work that you can be doing. And I bring up this podcast episode and talk about this today because aside from just different days being different, there are a lot of moms that I talk to that are more living in seasons of surviving and I'm not talking briefly, you know, sickness or um, sometimes the holidays can be seasons of surviving or with newborn in the home or something like that. I'm talking about larger seasons, ones that are lasting six months to a year or more.
And if you're feeling like you just can't get caught up. If you feel like your to do list is just overwhelming and never ending. If you feel like you just can't seem to be moving forward and some of these bigger things in life, maybe you feel like God has called you to step forward and start a business or a ministry, maybe he's calling you to write a book, Maybe he's calling you to, to lean in and do some more education in a specific area or a specific industry.
Maybe he's calling you to do something in the form of a ministry or serving your community or your Children's school or so on and so forth. The list goes on. There's a number of people I talked to that serve in so many different capacities. But if you feel like your days are more surviving days than thriving days. If you feel like you just can't catch up and you don't even know what your important areas are to be able to lay your head down at night and say, Hey, I had a thrive day.
I was successful in all of these areas of my life that really matter to me because you don't know what they are if you feel like this pressure because for years you've been saying you're going to do X and you just haven't seemed to achieve that because you haven't found a way to achieve that. You haven't found any extra time in your days that you would even be able to pursue something like that.
Then sisters, I want to invite you into The 2023 fresh start because we are going to be doing all of those things in there. We are going to be looking at and pulling out these values and important areas of your life.
You are going to know with confidence what God is having you pursue in this season, we're going to create a schedule that you're going to be able to fill up your Children and fill up yourself and seek the Lord and be very intentional with all of those areas that really matter to you. So that when you lay your head down at night, you're able to say, I've had a good day, I've had a successful day. I feel good about myself. I feel good about the way that I've parented.
I feel good about my relationship with my spouse and my relationship with the Lord. I feel good that I was a good steward of my home and my health and all of these things that God has given me to steward over in life and that is the ultimate goal of the 2023 fresh start. We're doing scheduling, we're doing so much more in There.
You're going to learn valuable resources and tools that are going to be able to help you, not just in those six weeks in the fresh start, but all your long things that are going to help you keep yourself on this trajectory of moving forward and all the things God is calling you to in 2023. And so the link is in the show notes were doing early Bird special throughout the rest of this week. So definitely snag your seat jump inside.
I want to get both of those planners shipped off to you as soon as possible to make sure you have them for our start of the fresh start. And I am so so excited to see you inside this intimate community of mama's stepping forward into an incredible 2023. God bless sisters