Ignite and discover how to redefine beauty: A Holistic Approach with Amy Wall, the Skintessa

Once again , I'm Kim Duff Selby , your host , creator , producer , executive director , editor oh yeah , all that stuff CFO , chief fun officer of my brand , and today we are going to talk about beauty , and beauty really is skin deep , it goes deep , it's spirit deep , it's energy deep , and my guest today is known as the skin Tessa , and Amy Wall is an award-winning

esthetician and she , in 2016 , was the number one esthetician in the United States and she had a wake-up call when she was in her 40s and thought what am I doing ? And she'll tell me if I'm getting this all wrong .

But she has created a transformative approach to beauty and wellness that's helped so many people achieve and I love this a sense of super-conscious radiance . And since I'm all about igniting sparks , let's find out how to ignite the spark within to create the beauty that you want . Welcome .

So , talking to the community of cells , mitochondria , molecules that are creating that inside energy , making sure that that's all crackling and then connecting in with my higher light source and you know , it's like walking around with your own personal lighting kit . It's awesome .

So being an esthetician and being into aesthetics is one thing , but aesthetics and beauty are actually not the same thing . They're closely related and your aesthetic can be beautiful .

But what I found and there is a really good juicy story that I can get into around my awakening , yeah , but what I found was that just helping people change the way that they looked wasn't enough for me .

And how I found that out was because I just was working , working , working on the way that I looked , and I was really empty inside and I started to realize that those two things were connected pretty inextricably , especially as I found you know , found myself through through my awakening .

So I was raised on a hippie commune and consciousness and energy and spirit were some of the first things that I can remember and I actually developed my energetic beauty modality when I was 14 years old . That's 40 years ago . Wow , so it's been . It's it .

I mean , there's a painting my mom painted of me that I just came across and I'm doing little baby mudras , you know . So I was a child of the , of that you know , love revolution , and so it was inside of me .

So the inner and the outer beauty are inextricably connected . When I was 14 and I started doing mirror meditations with the , you know , reading the book you Can Heal your Life I was reading books like Transcendental Meditation and just all sorts of books on consciousness .

My mother was a nutritionist as well , as you know , being in the in the counterculture world . So I was taught to read the back of the shampoo bottles and any personal care and any foods that we ate . So I had a real natural knack for ingredients and things like that .

But I , as you can imagine , growing up on a hippie commune with parents real young parents that were involved in all the things that hippie people were doing , I was benign . We neglected to call to say it .

You know , it's nice because I love my parents , they're doing the best that they could do , but I spent a lot of time by myself and so reading was not only like a trauma response .

But even doing the meditations and the mirror work was really as a way for me to sort of gain confidence , in a way for me to sort of transmute what was happening in my personal world . So I was always that girl that people came to for advice about beauty , even though I was always just , you know , in the natural , natural zone .

But I always knew about products . I knew I was . I just know I'm like a . I've always been like about 10 years ahead of trends , for whatever reason . I live in a tiny little town . There's no accounting for it , except that I have some sort of antenna for me , antana for this kind of thing . So I was naturally good at it .

My mother , or my grandmother , was a model . She was also an interior designer . So I lived in a chicken coop on a hippie commune . But I was always like you know , I'll just take nothing and make something from it . So you know an old sorry that I had , or I was always just making things beautiful and that was a balm for me . It made me feel good .

So I ended up having a 20 year career in the high end hospitality business , where I learned even more about organic foods and how to create extraordinary experiences for guests . And when I could no longer do that , just based on my creativity was literally bursting out of me in my mid 30s .

I just asked myself how can I still live in this magical town where , you know , there isn't a lot of career options ? What could I do ? That would take my gifts and be something I could do . So I ended up going to school to be an esthetician and a makeup artist and I just , you know , was naturally good at it .

So that's how I got into the outer beauty world . But what ended up happening was I fell asleep during that time , just based on , you know , kind of not wanting to be doing the things that my parents were like .

You know , if I had to eat all health food with them , then , you know , I wanted to go get some fast food once in a while and I just wanted to be normal in my mind .

Yeah , so during that time , I just and the time that I was an award-winning esthetician , I just really kind of I call it falling asleep , and I even call my clients , before I meet them , sleeping beauties . There's nothing wrong with being asleep . We need our beauty sleep .

But when we are sleeping to the magic that's living underneath our skin and the magic that we can create with our own focused attention and our cellular and spiritual energy , then you know I'll call that asleep . So that's , that's a little round of outweigh like listen to you talk forever .

You get the call , you don't pick up the phone and finally you have to get a wake-up call . And my wake-up call happened when my husband was the chief of our fire department at a PTSD situation with an accident that he had gone to as a rescuer and he went and turned into a whole totally different person .

After he went through that , he ended up getting involved with some drug dealers and my husband was arrested on a federal cannabis conspiracy charge out of Kansas . Now cannabis is legal in California now , but at the time it wasn't even if it wasn't he wouldn't have gone to prison for life but because this was from Kansas , he was facing life in prison .

And so when that happened , essentially I realized that me just having people come into my office and then having them tell me what they hated about their skin and then me trying to help them fix that without addressing anything on the inside .

It just wasn't working for me anymore and so I ended up closing down my spa and my husband built me a beautiful studio here on my property and I started just working with only my top 20% of clients that I knew would really get it and I started incorporating the things from my childhood back into my facials .

At that time I also went to work for the cosmetic formulator who discovered the peptide for the whole entire industry . So I worked for this very famous skincare formulator and I saw behind the curtain of the whole entire industry , which even kind of furthered my passion for breaking down the smoke and mirrors .

Because I'm sure you felt this way and I know your listeners have felt this way . It's like how do you know who's telling the truth with what you hear on the social media or what you see in magazines ?

Because we are so numb to the clinics and the landcombs telling us that this beauty cream is going to give us a 500% increase in the pa , pa , pa , pa , and it's like everything is almost like you can't . Nobody knows what is real , what isn't . So I just made a real . I just made a commitment to that I was going to be real .

But the problem is is that if somebody's self-image and I believe you really work with your inner image quite a bit , but you see , when people have bad results with even injections or plastic surgeries because they haven't worked on their inner self-image , they don't have an idea .

They don't actually know what they want to look like , they just know they want to feel differently . And I wanted to feel differently . So I was getting tons and tons of Botox trying to feel different and I just nobody ever handed me their mirror and said you actually look perfect , you're 42 years old , you don't need anything .

I didn't actually need to get Botox , but I found myself in a plastic surgeon's office getting a consultation to get my eyelids done and I was really just there for a vanity appointment . I wanted that plastic surgeon to tell me there was nothing wrong with me . But she walked in and she handed me a proposal for $7,000 .

And she said my team will be in touch because you're a perfect candidate to have a blepharoplasty . So when that happened is what really happened . I just went what in the actual believe , no . And I stopped doing everything cold turkey and I thought to myself I can always pick it up one day at a time .

But what if I tried all of these techniques that I say I have ? What if I just actually put the pedal to the metal and walked my talk and did it and I never did any injections again after that ?

So we have to , like , really craft this blueprint , get rid of the things that aren't working for us anymore , and then , if we have the blueprint and we look in the mirror and go , oh actually , this big wrinkle here that makes me look like I'm concerned all the time when I'm not concerned , get a little Botox , that's great , but you've already done the work to

to decide what you want to look like , and it's not about trying to achieve a feeling state from the outside . Okay , that's the difference .

So from now , if I needed to get some Botox and I wanted it it would be wouldn't be as harmful to me as when I was actually just having a nurse practitioner give it to me for free so that I would refer her my aesthetic comments .

Tell us , give us a little teaser of what you would do with a client if someone comes to you , because you still develop products too right .

I have to put the other stuff to great cost to me , because women don't necessarily want to be told they are the magic ingredient and it's because there's a self-trust issue , there's all these other things .

But what it looks like if you work with me is we examine where you've been and we look and see what beauty beliefs are running and we go through what was your earliest memory of beauty ? How did your mom feel about herself ? What did your grandmother feel about herself ? How did you feel about yourself as a teenager ?

Because a lot of times our inner teenager is actually running our beauty show . So we look at that and then I craft daily , nightly , weekly and monthly rituals and I teach . I have 12 full length master classes .

I literally am plugged into something and they come out of me like this , but I have all sorts of little easy techniques that you do during the time you're already spending . So this is not like an hour long beauty meditation or anything like that . You do it when you're still in bed , when you're doing the things you're already doing .

I teach you how to take those times and shift those so that you're programming your own beauty frequency , and so then I teach you exactly what products that you need for what you are actually trying to create .

Those might be my products , those might be other people's products , it might be a combination of all of them , but mostly it's really around visibility too , once you get into it , because how we face the world like it's how to face the world , yeah it's really interesting the way you do that because of course my mind , as everybody who's listening , male or female

yes , I have mostly female listeners , but I have a couple of male listeners .

And me at three or four , my mother would say God gave them to her , god gave them to you . You know , but and then you , you , fortunately for me , I felt somewhat confident as a little girl because everybody commented on me and told me how cute I was . I was like okay .

But then we hit teenage years and me being , you know , a decade older than you , the fashion was long , straight hair and I had a boof head , you know . I had like a blonde afro and I did the juice boxes and I did everything can't not boxes , juice cans to try and straighten my hair and I really felt less than I mean I really did .

You know the freckles and the hair that was was the hair that was mostly . And I can see we are all trauma informed , especially as you go through puberty . I mean , how many people escape unscathed ?

It will be a , it's a foundation and a scholarship idea that I will , you know , I'll funnel a lot of love to teenagers because I just I find that they , I love them .

But so let's talk about what I said before , when aesthetics and beauty aren't the same thing , but what we get taught is we have to fit into these molds , otherwise we can't belong , and that's just , and that's in ourselves , that's in our , that's our mitochondria , that is like you know , it's like a survival thing .

But in fact we can't like put all of these different colors , shapes , sizes , hair textures into one beauty standard . And beauty standards really need to die frankly , no , absolutely , it's .

You know people like you are making it well known , but we still have social media .

We don't want to learn a bunch of stuff and we're on tiktok , we want to just scroll and we want a painkiller . We don't necessarily want a vitamin , so it is . I think it's just little by little and , having these conversations , the girls are getting Botox as early as 20 . The they call it baby Botox now and they are selling it as a preventative .

And the problem with all of this is that the earlier you start getting injections , less You're going to be able to do later on . So getting a little Botox now and you know , in your stage of life , it's like great , you could do whatever you'd like .

But if you're getting it when you're 20 , you're literally going to lose your musk muscle tone and there will be . You wouldn't be able to get a facelift if you wanted to . Now I'm going to be getting a facelift . If I want to , I'll be doing whatever I want to do . But these girls that are doing it so young .

They're really limiting their ability to have anything else done and actually the Botox stops working after a while .

That's kind of the the thing , um , but the problem with treating your stress lines with Botox is that you're still stressed .

Sometimes people will say you have so much energy , you're so exuberant , and I'm Feel I'm blessed To have that as my personality . But I also really see beauty in everyone , and even when they don't see it in themselves , and I love what you are doing because I am trying to do that . I use my tiktok as a you are never too old too .

Yeah , because how can we encourage people ? There is something beautiful about every woman . Yeah , we get wrinkles . Yeah , hello , we're alive . I mean , that's just like a fact of living . And I don't know .

I mean obviously we're spreading the message through you right now , amy , pulling everybody that there is a way , and I assume you've had a lot of success stories with the people with whom you've .

Though if you read the reviews on my skincare products , they say over and over and over oh my gosh , I had instant results on this . But you know , if you look back on when I was getting all of the procedures , I had perfect skin . So we can have perfect skin and still feel like we're running out of value .

But the thing is is that I've coined a term called the downward beauty value spiral and women , and because this is so much less about Botox or anything , it's about aging , and it's about women aging and feeling like every year We've gotten a little bit less valuable to society and that we're becoming invisible , which I think you already know .

It's like you know it's . It's just , you can be as visible as you want to be , but make sure you're visible to yourself . Um , and , yeah , you're do . I love tiktok , by the way . It's my favorite social media platform , because women are craving older women . Younger women are craving older women to look up to .

I mean this 33 year old that I that has 45 000 followers . She's a visibility coach . She reached out to me and just said I just I want you to be my mentor . I , I want to learn from you . Thank you for owning your age , thank you for showing me a different way .

And this is somebody who was in Also not a sex worker , necessarily , but somebody who was in the high end bottle service nightclub , you know , beautiful arm candy business . And she said you know , I'm just surrounded by women who they're spending $10,000 at the med spot every quarter and we're just feeling like we're aged out when we're 27 years old .

Oh , so us showing up and shining as older , older , whatever age older is , because you could be 40 and feel old and be older than someone else . It's really important that we show up and share that . Hey , life gets really , really good .

I'm not good enough because I have all the wrinkles , or because my mother said you need to lose weight , or because , because , because the programming that we have received throughout the years , I just think it is so vitally important that everyone embrace their inner beauty . I do , and I love that you are assisting us in bringing it out .

Oh , I've been willing to ask our is part of what you do , mantras so that people are repeating them , or it's actual exercises ?

For the inner , for an interstate I am focused , I am secure , I am confident , whatever one is resonating . And then one for the outer I am radiant , I am beautiful , but I am . It's not really an affirmation , it's actually a divine presence . So really inviting I am , I am that , I am , I already . Am that really aligning with the divine ? I am .

So I do teach that . But the other things I teach are a visualization process called the magic mirror room , where you create a room of your higher self and your beauty muse . I connect you with your beauty muse , others an eye and hand activation . There is all sorts of scintuitive massage that I teach on how to do .

I have an energetic wrinkle release massage technique . So it's all stuff that you do in the mirror while touching yourself , and not necessarily mantras . But yeah , just Affirmations maybe . Yeah not even yeah , not really so much affirmations , but more of it's sort of a visualization , energetic connection technique with some affirmations .

It's sending messages to you , learning to speak the love language of your skin . So skin intelligence , the self image . I use a lot of Maxwell Maltz psychosebrenetics work . He was a plastic surgeon from the 60s who discovered that our self image is actually a servomechanism or thermostat . It is set it and forget it .

So I help , you know , get in to the self image with visualization and then energetic illumination . So I have everything from these Scalar , lightwave massage tools , microcurrents , led lights . So I essentially teach it as an award winning aesthetic and also I teach my clients how to be their own energetic beauty expert .

And then if they go out and get facials and different things , that's just gravy , that's just the cherry on the top , but they're taking ultimate responsibility for deep and skin to messy they're really , because you know how many . Okay , here's one thing Over my years 20 years of being an esthetician .

I can't tell you how many times a woman in her 50s came to me , sat down and when I said you know what brings you here today ? What big result would you like to create with me ? She says you know , for the last 10 years I was raising my kids and doing my career and taking care of my husband act , act , act . And I stopped looking in the mirror .

And then , after everybody moved out of the house , I got the divorce , the career change or whatever . I looked in the mirror and I didn't recognize who I see , who I saw . So I teach women to create a connection with themselves on an inner reflection and their outer reflection , and then all of the tools along the way .

So I hope you all go out and ignite your spark . Hey friends , thank you so much for tuning in . Once again , I hope you enjoyed this episode as much as I did , and I'm already trying the products and love them .

And for all of you local people , I'm hoping to have Amy come to my house in October for a women's wellness afternoon so you too can learn how to improve your skin from the inside out . I love her message .

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