I have had moments that I questioned if my child was possessed by demons. Truly. The tantrums were out of control and happening daily. Where did I fail as a parent? Good news-- these fits weren't because I was a bad mom. I just didn't know how these kids brains worked and functioned. I had no idea their brains literally become disconnected from themselves. Today, I discuss the steps I take when my toddler starts kicking and screaming over the wrong color sippy cup. Leave a Review: https://podcas...
Sep 29, 2020•22 min•Season 1Ep. 27
I have thought it.... "Why did I have my kids?" "Why did I have so many kids?" "My husband has it so much better than I do." This season has been hard... for all of us. And, truthfully, I have had moments bitterness has tried to creep into my heart... ok, it has tried to storm in like the great flood. There have been dark moments of deep resentment as I stare over another sink full of dishes. I know I am not alone, and I know that it can happens even in the happiest of marriages. So, how do I fi...
Sep 22, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Marriages all go through seasons and with those seasons roles change, people change, and our ability to support each other in every way changes. But what is your goal? Who do YOU want to be in your marriage... roommates, teammates, partners, or one? We go through each one, times we have been there, and what we did to shift marriage to the next level.
Sep 15, 2020•29 min•Season 1Ep. 25
So often we are held back not by our actual circumstances but because of the stories we tell ourselves. These lies can put us in boxes in our careers, marriage, and in creating the life we deeply want. We break down how to find out what beliefs you are holding on to, and how to work to overcome them.
Sep 08, 2020•26 min
You are tired, in a hurry, or emotionally spent, but your partner is practically begging you to take your clothes off. Yup! We are talking about sex in today's episode & the power & purpose of a quickie. We talk about the NEED of sex, the boundaries we have set, and what conversations we have before jumping in the bed... or the backseat of our van. Quickies serve a purpose but can be a fun way to enjoy sex! Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-get-it/id1505519893 Conne...
Sep 01, 2020•27 min
Have I mentioned that marriage is hard? haha. It is even harder when we don't have the foundational need of safety within it. Today, we dive into what Wes and I have done to keep each other safe in normal times, so in seasons of disconnect we can make it to the other side. Boundaries allow relationships to produce the love and intimacy we all desire. Your partner can't feel their love language you are giving them until they feel safe with you. We also talk about broken trust in relationships....
Aug 25, 2020•32 min
We have those long days, weeks, months (if you are someone who holds everything in)... then it just takes one wrong move... one side eye... one joke that throws you over the edge. It catches the other person off guard because normally, whatever happened wouldn't be a big deal. Why are you freaking out?? Well, because there is a lot going on under the surface. Today, we talk about how to worth through those moments, how NOT to work through those moments, and you get to hear some of our own person...
Aug 18, 2020•26 min
Back in 2010, I learned a theory that changed my entire life. Yup, I am literally a different person because of it. It is: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. But there is more to it... listen to find out how to really know who is in your brain space & what they are contributing there. Because what they contribute... you contribute. Plus find out my original list that is a bit... awkward. As always, thanks for being here.
Aug 11, 2020•28 min
About three years into our marriage I had a realization... I kind of sucked as a spouse compared to Wes. On today's episode, I talk about why, the questions I ask myself to change my mindset, AND the benefits of going the extra mile. It is all about showing up for each other and not just being on the team but working towards being MVP. Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-get-it/id1505519893 Connect with Tera: www.instagram.com/terawages Connect with Wes: www.instagram.com/wes...
Aug 04, 2020•33 min
This weekend Wes & I were able to have a last minute, much needed getaway. We were desperate to have time to reconnect with ourselves and each other. On today's episode, we talk about roadblocks couples face that prevent time alone together, how expectations will dictate if that time is a success, and give tangible tips. We also share why planning is SO important... so you don't find yourself in the same situation we did :/ Resources mentioned: Best Self Intimacy deck: https://bestself.co/pr...
Jul 28, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 18
I took away Wes' identity today within 1 hour of being awake. It was totally unintentional and a little out of my control but it affected the rest of our day. In fact, we hash our thoughts out here in this episode because we have barely spoken to each other all day. Ironically enough, that is exactly what this episode is all about- identity. How we gain it. How we lose it. And how we build on to it as seasons of our lives change. This is for anyone who has recently changed careers, gotten marrie...
Jul 21, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 17
I want to go on the record and say that we don't fit society's definition of #couplegoals. Wes & I are NOT perfect. We have experienced a struggling marriage. And if you have or are currently in that struggle, this episode is for you. We give tangible tips and action steps to get you from disconnect to reconnect. It doesn't happen overnight. But know that you aren't alone! It is a season & with an intentional mindset you can get to the other side. Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.c...
Jul 14, 2020•31 min•Season 1Ep. 16
It is finally time, a whole episode dedicated to the thing you either love most... or avoid at all costs & pretend to be snoring. Yup, let's talk about sex. Because we are all having it (or expected to) and many of us are silently struggling through it. Well, if you know me, I refuse to be silent. Join me in today's episode all about the roles Wes & I play within our own marriage... no, not role playing (yet)... and why sex matters! If you enjoy it please, please leave a review & fin...
Jul 07, 2020•41 min•Season 1Ep. 15
We are talking about the effects of cancel culture. It seems every time I get online someone else is being turned off. Should we be cancelling people? When is it actually ok? And what are the long term effects of this movement? I will admit things I have personally done that could cancel me. Yup, I am pretty dang scared because things get controversial. But I told y'all I was going to be real... so, here we go. Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-get-it/id1505519893 Connect w...
Jun 30, 2020•33 min
There have been so many moments in recent months that Wes or I were just done with a conversation... but the other one wasn't. I even caught Wes hiding in the bathroom because his ears couldn't take one more minute of my passionate rants. And can we please talk about decision fatigue?? Just buy the thing! As long as I don't have to hear about it anymore... I don't care! Yup. Many of us have been there. This is how we cope. Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-get-it/id15055198...
Jun 23, 2020•26 min•Season 1Ep. 13
I'm 34 today... and it's awkward. I'm to the point of getting Botox, even though I said I never would. Meeting friends is super weird and I'm not sure it's going to get better... can you imagine having to meet new friends in the nursing home?! Wes and I chat about how you can deal with getting older as a couple. Yes, we change throughout the years and we have to learn to accept each other. But that change is ok... and we talk about learning to accept who we are and stepping into ourselves as we ...
Jun 16, 2020•39 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Today, I interview Camille Bennett who is the founder of project say something & anti-racism leader located in Florence, Alabama. She shares about growing up as a black woman in Alabama, being a mom to two teenage sons, and how to be an ally to our black community. She has spent the last 3 years working towards the removal of a Confederate statue & shares her anger in what it has taken for the city to start to listen. I give an update on the removal of the monument after leaving the prot...
Jun 09, 2020•30 min•Season 1Ep. 11
After this week, we feel like no American can deny the reality of police brutality and justice within our country. But the truth is, this has gone on long before now. Today, Wes & I unpack the racism we have discovered within our own thoughts, we talk what white privilege and what it actually is. We talk about the subtle, often unintentional messages that are said to our black community every day & how these microaggressions shape their identity. Are protests actually effective? And most...
Jun 02, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Today we will go over how to travel on a budget, the hardest part of traveling, and some of the best places to travel. We also share some of the crazy experiences we have lived through & why it was all worth it! Please consider leaving us a review & subscribing to our channel. Connect with Tera: www.instagram.com/terawages Connect with Wes: www.instagram.com/weswages Show notes: www.terawages.com/008 To see our video production company: www.armosastudios.com...
May 26, 2020•31 min•Season 1Ep. 9
How do we move forward? As states start to open, we are finding ourselves standing in the middle of our old lives and the expectation of stepping into a new one. Today, Wes & I talk about how we are evaluating this season, what we want out of life looking ahead, and the parts of us we want to leave behind. This episode will start the conversation in your own home to offer reflection and a shift. This is a chance to realign with what you want because so many of us had gotten off course one wa...
May 19, 2020•29 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Wes & I dive into a time in our marriage that we were ready to call it quits. We talk about how outside stress (family issues, job loss, death, life changes) can affect our mental state. Life is hard! We talk about how counseling ultimately saved our marriage, and helped Wes work through the emotions he was working to escape. This episode is all about how to find a counselor, why go, and when! We want to alleviate any shame you currently associate with it and give you hope for what is to com...
May 12, 2020•22 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Becoming a mom is the biggest transition of your life. There are so many questions, fears, anticipation. On today's episode, I am talking through things Wes and I did as we prepped to become parents. I talk about birth plan, breastfeeding, in-laws, postpartum, and expectations. Take a listen with your partner to get on the same page about what is to come. And welcome to the club! Excited for you for what is to come.
May 09, 2020•44 min
We all "know" what it is like to be a parent before we are one. Right? haha. Not a single clue. Today, I am sharing 6 lessons motherhood has taught me, when we made the decision to become parents, and what I am still struggling with today in the process. Even after traveling the world, nothing I saw compared to that tiny baby who was laid on my chest. In that moment, my life shifted and I gained insight and purpose far greater than any I had ever known. I was also peed on immediately and would n...
May 05, 2020•31 min•Season 1Ep. 6
It doesn't matter how close we watch our kids, accidents happen. Yup, even to the helicopter moms. Today, we talk about how our kids have taken us by surprised even when they are right under our nose. We talk mindset shifts in how to create space for your kids to explore while keeping them safe.... at least as safe as we can. We talk mom shame, guilt, and how passing blame can wreck a marriage. Disclaimer: I talk about locking my kids out of the house... it was only the big kids. I don't recomme...
Apr 28, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Today we bring on Breana Spain who is honoring infertility awareness week by sharing her diagnosis with endometriosis, making the decision to try IVF (in vitro fertilization), and how to support other women who are suffering through infertility. Infertility affects women so much more than on the surface. Breana shares how every aspect of her life has changed, starting with her job as a mother baby nurse nurse. I hope that this conversation will help all women understand how to support each other...
Apr 23, 2020•53 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Corona is still in full force and our mental health is more important than ever! Today, we are sharing three areas to reevaluate in order to cut toxins and control the narrative in your head. From your social media to your nightly detox, you can eliminate external negatives and create space for joy. You aren't alone in this... I get it! Show notes: http://www.terawages.com/004
Apr 21, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, we dive into the love languages and enneagram test to explain how getting to know your spouse can transform how you communicate. You may "think" you know each other already... we certainly did. But taking these tests have transformed how we see each other, talk to each other, and understand each other's needs. It is so much easier to not get stuck a cycle of feeling empty and unseen. I believe this is the funnest way to take your marriage to the next level.
Apr 14, 2020•30 min•Season 1Ep. 3
All marriages go through different seasons of chaos. It could be loss of a loved one, financial stress, birth of a child... or you know, a worldwide pandemic. We cover ways to connect with your spouse, love languages, how to support each other, and working from home. In total, we have 6 tips of how to keep your marriage a priority and centered while the world feels like it is falling apart. Show Notes: https://www.terawages.com/002 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terawages...
Apr 07, 2020•33 min•Season 1Ep. 2
We often allow fear to hold us back from experiencing peace and joy in the daily life moments. We all experience different types of fear that originate from those ideas our mom put in our heads to the neighborhood we were raised. Tera talks about where many of our fears were born and offers tips on how she overcomes the moment to moment fear battle. Show Notes: https://www.terawages.com/001 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terawages...
Mar 31, 2020•36 min•Season 1Ep. 1
After spending 5 years building a business & traveling to over 30 countries, Wes & Tera made the plunge to start their family. Now after 12 years, they have had their fair share of identity crisis, struggles with balance between home & work, and trying to create a home filled with adventure & love. They share how they create the moments they never want to forget, while battling the daily potty training struggles, and keeping things spicy in their marriage. This podcast is for wom...
Mar 27, 2020•9 min
