You might already know that making yourself a priority is something you should be doing, but did you know that it's actually the number one factor in creating a life you love living? Without making yourself a priority, nothing in your life is going to work long-term. It's one thing to know this, and it is completely another thing to implement it. As women, we have been socialized for years to prioritize everything ahead of ourselves, including the family pet. Today I break down why you need to c...
Aug 08, 2024•18 min•Ep. 220
I think by now you probably know that being overly critical of yourself is making things harder for yourself. But do you know WHY you criticize yourself? It's not because you are somehow messed up, a lot of it has to do with how the human brain is designed to function. Another big part of this is how we are raised and socialized as women. You actually don't need to stop criticizing all the time, but you do need to have awareness for when you are being overly critical and know what to do instead....
Aug 02, 2024•19 min•Ep. 219
Are you a crier? Do you know somebody that cries a lot? Does crying make you uncomfortable? Do you wish you could stop yourself from crying? Do you think crying is weak? If so, this episode is for you. In today's episode I am going to show you why you cry and why it makes you feel embarrassed or even ashamed. Crying is complicated, but ultimately it is one of the truly vulnerable ways we show that something is emotionally difficult for us. You don't need to cry more and you definitely don't need...
Jul 25, 2024•21 min•Ep. 218
Today we delve into the concept of emotional independence. Most of us are raised to be emotionally dependent, which means we think our emotional safety comes from other people, but it's actually the opposite. If we rely on other people to make us feel emotionally safe, it is inconsistent at best. What we focus on today is increasing emotional independence. Emotional Independence is something you can increase with some simple tools that are accessible to everyone. Listen in to find out more. Don'...
Jul 18, 2024•26 min•Ep. 217
You may already know that to change your life, you need to change the way that you think. But the question is, do you know how to change the way that you think? Do you know how to unwind the programming of your youth and how to think supportive and amazing things about yourself? Because this is what is required to change your life into something you want to be living. Today I am going to tell you about how you need to start going about TRAINING your brain. You might not know how to think differe...
Jul 10, 2024•22 min•Ep. 216
Being supersensitive can feel like a curse. After all, everybody just keeps telling us that we need to "stop being so sensitive" and we need to just "calm down" or just "get over it". But the truth is that being supersensitive means that we feel deeply. And that can make things hard, because we end up reacting more to our emotions more than the neurotypical world and then they just really don't get it and end up rejecting us. The problem is that makes us less and less likely to be vulnerable and...
Jun 27, 2024•18 min•Ep. 215
Fear is the number one reason I see my clients not reaching for the things they want in life. Whether it is the job, the career, the relationship or just the hobby, fear stops us from showing up in a big way for the life we want. Fear is insidious. Fear holds us back away from what we deeply desire. If you want to create a life that you love living, you must develop a better relationship with fear. In today's episode I am sharing how fear could be hiding in your life and what you are going to wa...
Jun 20, 2024•24 min•Ep. 214
Ready to transform the way you approach your life, your work and self-care? Tune in to the latest episode of the podcast where I sit down with my phenomenal business coach Samantha Siffring. Samantha is not just any business coach – she's the guiding light for women building thriving online businesses. In this episode, we delve into the transformative coaching that has shifted careers, the art of finding your unique path, and the surprising truths about self-love and leadership. Whether you're a...
Jun 13, 2024•55 min•Ep. 213
As a coach, I have heard every single one of my clients tell me that they don't feel good enough at least once. But did you know that you don't not "feel" good enough? You THINK you are not good enough. And that is a distinction that matters if you want to stop feeling this way. Thinking you are not good enough comes from many places: Society, your parents, school, tv, social media, trauma, and just plain old life. Everybody thinks this way sometimes, but that doesn't mean you can't change it. B...
Jun 06, 2024•21 min•Ep. 212
Sensitive women struggle to feel seen in the world. We are told that how and who we are is a problem, so we get really good at hiding and pretending to be somebody that we are not. We take other people's direction on how to live our lives, and end up feeling frustrated, resentful and stuck. After the death of my son's classmate, I can tell you for sure that you need to be living life according to your terms. Life is short my friend, it's time to live life on your own terms. If you want my help f...
May 30, 2024•20 min•Ep. 211
An emotional hangover is the emotional fallout that some of us experience when our circumstances create a heavy emotional load that we have trouble processing and end up having overflow after the events in question. Oftentimes this hangover can create very real physical symptoms that are difficult to navigate. On today's episode, I am sharing how to identify and emotional hangover, how to address it and how to reduce the impact moving forward. If you would like my help dealing with this in your ...
May 23, 2024•17 min•Ep. 210
Rejection hurts. This is a fact. It can be hard to know what to do when you are feeling rejected. What we tend to do is simply try and get rid of the feeling, but what we don't realize is that this makes the feeling of rejection persist and grow. In today's episode I am going to show you how to handle rejection in a way that allows you to go out in the world not fearing rejection. You don't need people to stop saying no to you to be able to create the things you WANT in your life. You need to le...
May 16, 2024•17 min•Ep. 209
As humans we tend to be pretty impulsive, and that's because we are driven by emotion. The stronger the emotion, the more impulsive and reactive we will be. Since neurodivergent people have troubles processing and since we are more sensitive to emotion, we will often do and say things using emotional fuel that is not great at creating results that we actually want. This is why I implement the 24 hour rule. The 24 rule is a way of allowing an urge and allowing an emotion in your body, while not c...
May 10, 2024•22 min•Ep. 208
When you are inside of a relationship that is not creating the kind of experience that you want to have, it is natural to want to complain. And when somebody tells you that YOU are doing something that they don't want or that they don't like, it is totally natural to want to defend yourself. But just because it's natural doesn't mean it's the best thing for us. And just because it's natural does not mean it's the best thing for the quality of relationship that we want to build. I invited my form...
May 02, 2024•48 min•Ep. 207
Sometimes life get's hard and shit get's real. Welcome to a raw and unfiltered episode where we dive deep into the complexities of navigating life when everything feels overwhelming. In this episode, we explore what to do when challenges pile up, responsibilities seem endless, and emotions run high. Join us as we uncover the strategies to handle life's real struggles with grace and resilience. If you are ready to talk about this, let's get on a free Strategy Session! You can book that here: aman...
Apr 25, 2024•32 min•Ep. 206
It can be really disheartening when the things you do to help yourself when emotions get high suddenly seem to stop working. It can be tempting to believe in these moments that something is wrong, that there is specifically something wrong with YOU. But that's not the truth. The truth is that nervous system regulation is not a set it and forget it game. We are humans and not robots, we need to really look at how to approach ourselves by looking at where we are at right now. Familiar routines som...
Apr 18, 2024•19 min•Ep. 205
In a world that often touts quick fixes and instant solutions, the concept of an "easy button" can be alluring. We are constantly bombarded with messages that promise a simple answer to life's complexities, whether it's through a new course, a magic program, or a revolutionary coaching technique. But what if the key to real growth and transformation lies not in pressing an easy button, but in embracing the journey of self-discovery and personal development? The latest episode of the podcast delv...
Apr 11, 2024•25 min•Ep. 204
I guarantee you could ask 5 people in a row how they are doing, and all 5 of them would tell you that they are busy. Being busy has become a familiar refrain among the modern world, and the truth is, it needs to stop. If you are feeling anxious and depleted and like you are on your last nerve, busyness addiction is playing a much bigger part in this problem than what you might realize. Too many women are jumping from task to task with a to-do list that is a mile long and and a mile wide. You mig...
Apr 04, 2024•14 min•Ep. 203
Resentment cancer. Here's what you know, resentment is always cancer. Always. It hardens you from the hurt, it protects you from the pain, but the long game when it comes to resentment is one of loneliness, bitterness and despair. Resentment protects us, but it also blocks us. It keeps us from the things that we desperately want in the world because we decide that the world sucks, we decide people (or maybe just a gender) sucks and we decide that hope isn't worth it. It takes courage to open bac...
Mar 28, 2024•17 min•Ep. 202
Difficult relationships are just that ... difficult. The truth is, we all have difficult relationships. Even when we decide to stop contact with somebody, we still have a relationship with them, because the truth is, all a relationship is, is your thoughts about another person. I know it can seem like the only way to improve a relationship with somebody is for them to change, but I am here to tell you that is not necessarily the case. We have a lot more power than we think we do when it comes to...
Mar 21, 2024•26 min•Ep. 201
My son was told by a friend that somebody on his basketball team found him annoying. My response was that, first of all, that was his teammates problem. Because the truth is, being annoyed is a feeling and that means it's created by what we think. We can't control what somebody else thinks, and therefore we cannot control how somebody else feels. Feedback like "you are annoying" can be tough to navigate as a neurodivergent woman. We have heard before and we have heard it a lot, but that doesn't ...
Mar 14, 2024•20 min•Ep. 200
I spent a lot of years of my life (over 40) being ashamed of being an outward verbal processor. It's a pretty common neurodivergent trait that can oftentimes end up with other people treating you poorly. Here's the thing, even thought a lot of people really don't get it, there ARE a lot of people that DO get it. Today's episode breaks down what life looks like as a verbal processor, how to get of the shame spiral, and how to help yourself process better so that this doesn't happen for you as muc...
Mar 07, 2024•21 min•Ep. 199
Step into a world of self-discovery and empowerment with me on today's podcast! Join me as we unravel the layers of your self-concept, exploring what truly shapes your beliefs about yourself and how they impact every aspect of your life. In this episode, I'll guide you through thought-provoking questions and practical strategies to challenge your existing self-concept and pave the way for personal growth and fulfillment. You'll hear insightful anecdotes and coaching tips that will inspire you to...
Feb 29, 2024•24 min•Ep. 198
If you tell me that you are neurodivergent, I would bet money that you have a lot of lists. You probably think that those lists are what is keeping you from drowning in forgetting all the things you are supposed to be doing. But I am going to tell you something that might rock your world: The lists are making things so much worse. Lists are a way of confirming all of the things you "have to" do in the world. But have you ever stopped to think about what you might WANT to do? Probably not, becaus...
Feb 22, 2024•17 min•Ep. 197
What do desperation, hopelessness, failure & winning have to do with each other? Everything. They have everything to do with each other. So, why am I delving into these seemingly disparate topics? Well, because they're all interconnected. You can't fully understand one without considering the others. Desperation, hopelessness, failure, winning—they're all part of life's intricate tapestry. During a recent strategy session with a client, the topic of desperation surfaced. She felt stuck in a ...
Feb 15, 2024•26 min•Ep. 196
Anxiety. We all feel it. It has been labelled as a problem emotion. It has been labeled as a disordered emotion. But what if I told you that it's actually an emotion we feel when we are terrified of feeling emotion? Today I am going to share what anxiety REALLY is. I am also going to help you break it down into bite size pieces so that you can finally start addressing anxiety in an empowered way. We don't need to get rid of anxiety, but we do need to learn how to handle it. This episode is going...
Feb 08, 2024•26 min•Ep. 195
Neurodivergent women struggle with sensory processor overload. But that doesn't mean we have to change or be different to stop overloading. However we do want to make the overload our responsibility. Today's episode shares how we can begin with understanding how to give more time and energy to our sensory processor (aka our brain) so that we can create a life we enjoy living (every single day) without shutting down and burning out. When we are aware of our sensory load, we can be aware of when t...
Feb 01, 2024•23 min•Ep. 194
As young girls, we are socialized to be "nice". In fact, we spent a vast amount of time focusing on how to stand up for ourselves and ask for what we want, but at the same time we try to do it in such a way that we don't come off as being bitch. The truth is, most of us (unwittingly) end up choosing to be unhappy and dissatisfied, rather than appear as "bitchy" in a hard situation. If you want to start finally feeling satisfied with your life you are going to need to let go of needing to be "nic...
Jan 25, 2024•22 min•Ep. 193
Are you settling in your life? Are you trying to get yourself to be ok with what you think you can get because you don't think what you actually want is possible. If that is what is happening for you, I want you to know that it is super common in neurodivergent people. In fact, many of us walk on this path for so long, that we stop wanting all together. Today I want to change that for you. One of the simplest ways to increase your quality of life is to raise your standards. This is true of datin...
Jan 18, 2024•26 min•Ep. 192
Join me as I interview one of my dearest friends and favorite clients: Tory Reade. In this episode Tory shares the impact and benefit of the quiet but profound change that coaching has brought to her life. We cover how Tory was interested in coaching right away, and the reasons why I directed her to therapy instead. We talk about how she determined when she was ready for coaching, and we discuss the parts of coaching that were the hardest. The biggest thing that we cover is Tory's transformation...
Jan 11, 2024•49 min•Ep. 191
