Today, on the pod Deli and Kate talk all about being "seen." Seen at work, at home, and in all relationships. How it can make you feel to be constantly not seen, and maybe even how you can 'see' yourself sometimes. They talk about having the "hard conversations" in all sorts of relationships so we can be seen and how worthwhile it is! And how it is worth fighting for. Deli has lots of pearls of wisdom and per normal, and Kate has lots of questions (as per normal). If you want to stay connected w...
Oct 21, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 18
Do you feel safe? What do you do when you don't feel safe? Today, Deli and Kate discuss feeling safe and how it can impact us when we don't feel safe. Deli suggests writing a "safe list" a list of the things that make you feel safe, that you can look at when you don't feel so safe. They meander around as always but hope this episode makes you feel a little safer. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here; Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get Kate's News...
Oct 17, 2024•45 min
Honestly, I'm Lonely is back lonely hearts, and today I chat with the lovely Wayne, who is such a delight and share his lonely journey. We talk about being scared, and how not feeling safe can lead to such loneliness and isolation. Kate and Wayne talk about being in the queer community, especially when you live in a rural setting like Wayne does. Wayne answers the lonely questions. Talks about how safe he feels in his relationship but not his community. How he gives back, and loves to volunteer....
Oct 15, 2024•55 min•Ep. 17
Hello lonely hearts, on this ep Deli and Kate chat overwhelm .... Kate talks about her 15-minute block trick, Deli says we all probably all have different strategies, she loves background noise in her headphones. Kate says she retreats when she feels overwhelmed, and sometimes feels like everyone copes better than her. They chat about how sometimes they drop the ball, sometimes they pick it back up again, and sometimes someone else has to pick up the ball. How hard it is to ask for help!! If you...
Sep 10, 2024•50 min•Ep. 16
It is Friday therapy with Deli and Kate today, they chat about the wind that Melbourne and Victoria have had over the last week. Kate visits a shopping centre she hasn't been to since she was 18, and that brings up some memories, but what they are actually here for is to talk about "taking up space!" How do we take up space? Kate has too many questions, Deli has great answers as always. The book Deli mentions is People Skills by Robert Bolton. We talk mid-life crisis, learning to ask for what we...
Sep 05, 2024•38 min
This week on the podcast we talk about Fathers Day, so often the "big days" are full of emotion and loneliness, joy, disappointment, saddness, laughter or maybe all of that! These days are tricky for lots of us, and amazing for others of us. Today Garry and Kate talk about Fathers Day, and Kate listens to Garry talk about it from a dad's point of view. Garry has two adult children and explores with us what becoming a dad means to him. Garry talks about how hard it is to be a vulnerable around ot...
Aug 27, 2024•49 min•Ep. 15
Friday therapy is back, and today we talk about how to make yourself feel "better". Kate talks about her dislike of self-care or the word self-care. But Deli talks about great ways to help yourself feel better, that are not self-care! How do we find support. Deli talks about making a list in the good times to use in the not so good times. Plus lots of other good tips! Deli talks about why we go into siege mentality or shock. Oh and the dog barks! If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can ...
Aug 15, 2024•43 min
Today, Kate and Deli talk about what happens when you are mis- characterised, which can cause, we think, intense loneliness. What happens when you get bullied, or excluded, or people think things of you that are not true? How do you deal with that? What happens to your self-esteem? What happens when you fall out with someone you love, and you feel they misjudged you? How do you "re-group" after being attacked, or ostracised? How do you feel when you hear that people have been gossiping about you...
Aug 12, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 14
Today, Deli and Kate are back with their final in the grief trilogy, but before they get into that they talk about Deli's latest hard rubbish rescue, and being creative or in Kate's case making her home "cute." Today the gals talk about how hard it can be to downsize or, de clutter and dive into the reasons why it is hard. Why "things" are important and why they sometimes they are not just "things" . Deli of course has ideas and wisdom. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here; Foll...
Aug 06, 2024•41 min•Ep. 13
Friday therapy is back and Kate and Deli are back talking about grief, today is the second in our three part grief pod. They talk about how hard it is to study grief, how individual grief can be, and how important it is to share the stories of grief. Kate asks Deli when should you talk to a therapist about grief. They talk about the grief of being estranged from someone you love. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here; Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate...
Aug 01, 2024•35 min
Today after many requests we start our little series on Grief. Kate and Deli chat about how there are no stages and right or wrong way to grieve ... they also did not get through all they wanted to say, so will be back with more on Friday Therapy Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ... If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here; Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/ https://katemulholland.com....
Jul 29, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 12
Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ... If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here; Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/ https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 25, 2024•41 min
Today, Kate chats with a high school friend, Carl. Carl talks about connection and belonging as a high school band kid, and then the loneliness of leaving the band and heading home. They reminisce about high school and how they struggled to find their identity. They talk long and hard about the connectivity of music and concerts. They bonded over A-Ha as kids and today Ball Park Music as adults, and continue to bond over music and the connection it can bring. Carl talks about loneliness being a ...
Jul 22, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 11
Hi friends, it is time for Friday Therapy again and Deli and Kate talk about the shudder of receiving a compliment, the way we "hate ourselves" and why?! They chat parental expectations, parental identity and developing a sense of self as a child (or adult). They go deep and talk false sense and true self, and even the birth of our true self as adults. How often do we integrate ourselves and reflect on who we are? They talk about losing friends after big life events, and sometimes re-finding the...
Jul 18, 2024•54 min
Today on the podcast, Kate gets interviewed by Garry. He turns the tables and asks her the lonely questions. As always, he is so easy to listen too, and we think it's a lovely chat. Kate recommends My Therapist Ghosted Me and Shagged Married Annoyed, The Handsome Pod, and of course Mamamia outloud, when Garry asks her what her fave pods are. Feel free to rate and review this podcast if you like it. Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ... If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here; ...
Jul 15, 2024•43 min•Ep. 10
It's Friday therapy again, and Deli and Kate are back with some therapy for you. They talk about recording in the pod laundry while the cat eats their lunch, and the conversation rolls on from there. They talked about active listening, deep listening and just listening in general. They talk about "not being heard" and not being validated, ego ... and Deli talks about Cahot again. They chat validation, praise and even kids sports ... as per normal they go "off track" again. And they get back on t...
Jul 04, 2024•53 min
Today it is the two K's chatting, Kelly and Kate. Kelly has a great definition of what lonely means to her, she talks about the loneliness that comes from being a solo business owner, how loneliness is a little companion that hangs around in the background, and sometimes it sleeps on the couch and drinks all the milk. Kelly talks about learning it is ok to realise that not everyone will be your people! Kelly talks about music, listening and playing and the emotions that both of those things brin...
Jul 01, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 9
Welcome to Friday Therapy. Deli and Kate chat about their week, people smoking at pubs, and feeling old! This week we chat a little more about our Tuesday ep which was all about anger. Kate talks about feeling guilty about feeling angry (there is always something, isn't there?;) Deli talks about a "compound fusion" where anger and guilt have for some reason become fused. Maybe this stuff is even from our childhoods. Give it a listen and see what you think. If you have any questions or comments, ...
Jun 27, 2024•34 min
Today on Honestly I'm Angry we discuss another feeling ... Anger. Don't worry, there will be lonely chats again next week, but every so often we will cover some other feelings! This week it is Anger. Kate talks about her previously long held belief that "all anger is bad". Deli unpacks the roots of anger and tells us that anger can be good, and it is definitely not all bad! They talk about the way we are raised, our values and our ideas on anger and hate. What does anger mean to you? Is anger a ...
Jun 24, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 8
Kate and Deli chat all things Winter Solstice, Renovation Australia on abc i view, and surviving a cold snap by binge-watching TV under the doona. They do a deep dive into can a relationship survive when you take the common things you share out of a relationship? Like when Kate left the church? Deli has her answers, of course. They talk about "Who gets the friends when a couple breaks up?" "Does everyone take a side when a couple break up?" They discuss what it is like when you break up a long t...
Jun 20, 2024•43 min
Today, Kate talks to her brother Aran. Aran who wrote the theme music for this podcast, he is breathtakingly honest about his loneliness, loneliness from moving to a country town, his marriage ending, even how he felt in primary school when he moved to a different country town as a child and didn't fit in. He has dipped in and out of being lonely over his life, as have most of us. He has really thought about the answers to his questions, and we think you are going to really lean in to his story....
Jun 17, 2024•54 min•Ep. 7
Welcome back to Friday Therapy, where Deli and Kate unpack "water finding it's on level" which Kate says is beautiful and not so beautiful. They chat about finding connection with friends when you are living under financial stress. How do you cope with not being able to do "fun stuff" with your friends when it costs money? How everything that makes you feel 'othered' also makes you feel lonely. And how loneliness is perhaps one of the great levellers in life, because we all have a lonely story. ...
Jun 13, 2024•24 min
Kate chats with Briohny on today's episode. Briohny is the first in person guest in the pod laundry studio, and she talks about growing up with a sense of loneliness and how it has formed who she is. Bri is a legendary single mum, and she talks about the loneliness that can come from that. She is honest about the financial implications of the cost of living crises that can make you lonely. She also thinks loneliness has made her self-aware, given her empathy and believes she can do anything! The...
Jun 10, 2024•55 min•Ep. 6
Welcome back to Friday therapy, where Deli and Kate chat watching TV shows they have already watched and still love. The concept of "getting your sh#t handed back to you", and what we do when our usual coping mechanisms aren't available. How do we "reconstilate ourselves" after big life changes? They chat about how refreshingly honest people were during lockdowns when we told people how crap we actually felt, and that made us feel less lonely. And they answer a listener question which is "why do...
Jun 06, 2024•26 min
Valerie talks about the devastating effect Covid has had on her family, and how it has impacted her loneliness. Valerie is so insightful and honest, funny and wise we hope you love listening to her raw and impactful story. To read Valerie's amazing words, check out her substack https://substack.com/@kvalerie Stay in touch with Kate here: Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/ https://katemulholland.com.au/ H...
Jun 03, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 5
Hello lonely hearts, Kate and Deli are back for Friday Therapy, they sit together and chat together about getting the washing off the line, power eating (not comfort eating), and reframing stuff. They talk about long distance friendships and living away from "home" and how that makes you feel. How do you find yourself when you have no reference point as to who you are? The power of voice/video messaging when you are isolated, and you lose incidental contact with what you knew and was familiar. T...
May 30, 2024•28 min
Today Kate chats with the ray of human sunshine Kym. Whilst they are geographically challenged, they manage to "chat" most days via video message (The Signal App). Kym talks about sitting with loneliness and what it has taught her, about being lonely in a relationship and being lonely in a different culture. Enjoy her answers to the lonely questions, its a lovely chat xx Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com...
May 27, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 4
This Friday Therapy Deli and Kate go deep into our identities why we feel like we shouldn't bother other people, and even who we actually are, not what do you do ... they discuss how lonely they were when Deli left the family farm and Kate left the church, and they even tap into judging people and what the heck is projection .... It's a lot for half an hour, but they get it done! If you want to connect with Kate, here is how ... Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get...
May 23, 2024•27 min
Today Kate chats with the lovely Sam Robinson, Sam works with relationships Australia and is the perfect person to work for them. She is passionate about the "neighbours everyday" initiative. Which Kate has been an ambassador for. See the link below. Sam talks honestly about her relationship with loneliness and its impact on her life. Sam has so many tricks and tips up her sleeve to combat loneliness, it's really worth a listen! https://neighbourseveryday.org/ Follow Kate on insta here https://w...
May 20, 2024•56 min•Ep. 3
Welcome to the very first Friday therapy. Each Friday, Kate and psychologist Deli are in your ears chatting about some issues that Kate found interesting or that "hit home" in the main ep on Tuesday. Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/ https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
May 16, 2024•28 min
