As a follow up of last week’s episode, I share practical ways to support DV survivors. This episode speaks to helpers who are walking with survivors. I pray that this will encourage many to step up and represent the hands, feet, and heart of Jesus to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as ...
Apr 07, 2023•48 min•Season 3Ep. 70
When abuse is a factor, neutrality is always choosing the abuser. Fact. If your loved one has been abused (there are many forms of abuse) and you don’t stand with her, you are siding with the abuser. In this episode, I unpack common responses that lack care, compassion, and empathy. In my next episode, I’ll share practical ways to love and support survivors. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (with guest Sarah McDugal): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retre...
Mar 31, 2023•48 min•Season 3Ep. 69
March 21 was National Single Parent Day. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor single mamas who are doing the hard work of healing while pulling quadruple duty with you kids. I see you. Join our third annual online retreat where we will focus on Rest, Regulate, and Rebuild. Learn more here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups...
Mar 23, 2023•34 min•Season 3Ep. 68
We need your help! Honor Project Movement is empowering women who are rebuilding after abuse. Through 1:1 resource coaching, Financial Freedom Coaching Groups , and DV Crisis Response Counseling Groups, we are helping women feel seen, heard, understood, and equipped. We match needs to resources (groceries, clothing, furniture). WE NEED YOUR HELP! Please share this podcast with anyone who may be interested in our mission. Please give if you are able. $5 or $5,000, every gift is appreciated. Donat...
Mar 18, 2023•20 min•Season 3Ep. 67
Toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing are common responses to abuse and trauma. They add layers of trauma onto trauma and cause great harm. In this episode, I share definitions and examples of each and offer suggestions for words that heal. If we know better, we can do better. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Hono...
Mar 09, 2023•50 min•Season 3Ep. 66
In this episode, I share twelve truths that I desperately needed to hear 25 years ago. If you are in an abusive marriage or are walking with someone who is, this episode is for you. Here is a list of books that are not abuse/trauma-informed, books that communicate unhealthy, or abuse-enabling messages and have been rated or reported to be very harmful to Christian women. https://www.amazon.com/shop/sarahmcdugal/list/1G6MN69AXZB6L. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christia...
Feb 25, 2023•42 min•Season 3Ep. 65
You are one person. You have a limited amount of time, energy, and resources each day as you rebuild after abuse, trauna, and chronic illness. Taking care of yourself and your kids is a lot. It may be time to say no to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorp...
Jan 26, 2023•31 min•Season 3Ep. 64
I pray that 2023 is gentle with you. I pray for peace, healing, and freedom. In this episode I share three books that offer gentleness, compassion, and care. All three are written by therapists who have survived trauma and/or abuse. They offer tools for regulating your nervous system. I have been blessed by these: It’s OK That You’re Not OK (Megan Devine), The Lord is My Courage (KJ Ramsey) and Try Softer (Aundi Kibler). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Re...
Jan 13, 2023•35 min•Season 3Ep. 63
Holidays are not easy for survivors. I wrote “A Gentle Christmas Prayer” on Christmas morning to share with survivors. In this episode I also share some tips from the Held & Healed Holiday Help Workshop. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/...
Dec 30, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 62
In this episode, I chat with a dear survivor/advocate/counselor/warrior sister. Megan founded Give Her Wings and Give Her Wings Academy which is where I received life-changing training and certification. She has since handed that torch over and founded Mountain City Christian Counseling where she provides care for survivors. We chat about domestic violence, spiritual abuse, deconstruction, and so much more. Honor Project Movement partners with MCCC to offer DV Crisis Response Groups. Learn more ...
Dec 09, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 61
In a recent conversation with my friend Indie, she said, “People being indifferent to your suffering is harm.” In this episode, I define indifference and apathy and offer ways to become curious and compassionate about others. The holidays should be a natural continuation of doing life together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here ...
Nov 30, 2022•31 min•Season 2Ep. 60
In this episode, I give some updates on life, Held & Healed, and Honor Project Movement. I also share about the power of “and,” as we can simultaneously face and feel emotions that seem contradictory. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Nov 11, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 59
What is spiritual abuse? After enduring this reality for over forty years, I finally learned it had a name. In this episode, I ask some hard questions and invite you to consider if your spiritual institution is abusive. These questions are also written in a blog: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35557/are-you-experiencing-spiritual-institutional-abuse-. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357...
Oct 14, 2022•40 min•Season 2Ep. 58
In this episode, I share about the journey we’ve been on in Held & Healed. For two years, we’ve been learning, growing, and healing together. Survivors have felt seen, heard, understood, and validated. I invite you to purchase the Safer Spaces Summit here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2023. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Chri...
Sep 30, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 57
In this episode I share some basics about nervous system regulation, as well as some of my favorite resources. I have learned how to rest and restrict, but regulation was the missing link. Over the past year, I’ve been learning so much and I want to pass these gems on to you. During the final ten minutes, I also discuss ways that we can be a life-line to other survivors, and not pull them under the water. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After A...
Sep 07, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 56
Rebuilding after abuse is exhausting. Give yourself grace, dear one. This episode is a message from my heart to yours. I invite those who are able to give generously at https://honorprojectmovement.org/ to help survivors with mental health resources. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org.
Aug 31, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 54
I have a HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT to make! Our nonprofit, Honor Project Movement, has officially launched! You can give TODAY to help meet the needs of survivors! Go here to give your tax deductible donation: paypal.com/us/fundraiser/charity/4601668. We are raising funds for Domestic Violence Crisis Response Groups, financial and safety coaching, benevolence, and so much more. The needs are great and we have many women waiting for resources. Thank you for your consideration and generosity. Ladies, plea...
Aug 05, 2022•35 min•Season 2Ep. 54
In this episode, I tackle this huge question. I also reference several other resources which offer more questions to ask. I share from this blog post and encourage you to pass this info on to others who need it: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35393/how-do-i-choose-a-safe-counselor-or-coach. For more info about Held & Healed Haven, Rebuilding: Finances, Safer Spaces Summit, or our upcoming retreat, visit https://heatherelizabeth.org.
Jul 15, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 53
Do you find yourself grieving, feeling agitated, on edge, and extra triggered? You may be experiencing a traumaversay. Your body remembers things your brain may not be able to process. Awareness and preparedness can help us face these painful memories. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Jul 07, 2022•34 min•Season 2Ep. 52
Debra is a separation/divorce/life renovation coach who has a lot of wisdom about navigating finances during these transitions. We discuss financial abuse, spousal starvation, parallel planning, waiting with intention, financial planning, mediation, choosing a lawyer, and more. Learn more about Debra’s book, coaching, and courses at: https://www.debradoak.com/. Join my Rebuilding: Finances Course at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/rebuilding-finances. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Hel...
Jun 17, 2022•49 min•Season 2Ep. 51
In this episode, I talk with my dear friends, Luke & Lauren Smallcomb. They have combined their skill sets (trauma therapist and mind-body practitioner) to create Flourish Therapy. I learn new things from them every week and am excited to introduce you to them. Find their contact info for Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or their podcast through https://flourishtherapy.co/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/gr...
Jun 09, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 50
In this episode, I share some tips for setting and holding boundaries. As you rebuild after trauma and abuse, you will find your voice. Setting boundaries is a way to respect yourself and honor your healing journey. I offer Boundaries Group Coaching where we discuss these truths and apply them in everyday situations. For registration information, go to Heatherelizabeth.org and choose the Boundaries Group Coaching option. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Re...
Jun 02, 2022•33 min•Season 2Ep. 49
What a heartbreaking and gut-wrenching week for the survivor community. Everywhere we turn, there are stories that shake us. In this podcast, I share about a Round Table discussion I participated in with Thomas Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and Sarah McDugal. We went through the video from the Indiana pastor’s “confession” of “adultery” with a 16 year old girl. Watch here: https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor/videos/686921625944312/. The releases of this video, the sexual abuse data base by...
May 26, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 48
Moving forward, I will be recording twice a month on this podcast. I am adding more services and invite you to go to HeatherElizabeth.org and click on tabs to learn more. I offer group coaching, a rebuilding finances course, a retreat, and a summit. Coming soon, I will launch the Held & Healed Haven membership group. We will create community, learn more about rebuilding the body, mind, and spirit and hear from guest speakers. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian...
May 13, 2022•35 min•Season 2Ep. 47
What makes you feel alive, energized, and excited? What gifts and skills do you enjoy using to bless others? What is one thing you’ve dreamed of doing? Learning to recognize and stay in your lane is so freeing! Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about the Safer Spaces Summit, Held & Healed Retreat, Held & Healed Haven, Boundaries Group Coaching and more: https://heather...
Apr 15, 2022•40 min•Season 2Ep. 46
In this episode I share nine of my favorite healthy habits and encourage you to choose one to focus on. Little steps taken over time create big changes. You matter and your health matters. Take care of yourself, dear one. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Mar 11, 2022•39 min•Season 2Ep. 45
“He’s a bad husband, but he’s a good dad” is not true. If a man abuses the mother of his children, he abuses his children. Period. In this episode, I discuss the heartbreaking, gut-wrenching reality so many women and children are facing. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Mar 04, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 44
Andrew is the Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma. In this episode we discuss some of his story, his work and his most recently released book, How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good and Safe Man. To learn more about his counseling services go to https://christiancc.org/. For his personal website go to https://andrewjbauman.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://ww...
Feb 23, 2022•43 min•Season 2Ep. 42
From an Open Letter to Christian Authors, Bloggers, Podcasters, Influencers, and Leaders, I come to you on behalf of countless women who are suffering from destructive marriages… My first plea is that you become familiar with the patterns and systems of abuse… Based upon my personal experience and the hundreds of women that I encounter daily, my gut tells me that 50-75% of women within faith communities are experiencing multiple forms of abuse on a regular basis. These women read your books, blo...
Feb 18, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 42
In this episode, I share about the felt presence of Jesus that has carried me through every season of my life. I boldly speak out against spiritual abuse, and pray that survivors can distinguish who God is from the ways others have misrepresented Him and His Word. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Coaching, summit, retreat links and more are at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Feb 11, 2022•40 min•Season 2Ep. 41
