Compassion is a deep awareness of the suffering of someone and the desire to alleviate that suffering. Self-compassion is learning how to turn understanding, acceptance and love inward (good therapy.org). In this episode, I share practical ways to exercise self-compassion, to set boundaries and practice healthy habits. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about group coaching or ...
Feb 04, 2022•40 min•Season 2Ep. 40
In this episode, I share more of my story and focus on the past six years. I have been rebuilding (body, mind and spirit) and I am passionate about helping others do the same. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find links for group coaching, the Safe Spaces Summit and Held & Healed Retreat at https://heatherelizabeth.org.
Jan 28, 2022•47 min•Season 2Ep. 39
In this episode, I share some of my story. While there are many details I choose not to share publicly, I have experienced the thirteen patterns/systems of abuse in childhood and adulthood. I am grateful to God for His presence, peace, protection and provision through it all. Surely, He has held and healed me. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For Group Coaching and Safer Spaces Summit...
Jan 21, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 38
In this episode, I share why I chose my one word for 2022. I’ve been battling some intense anxiety over the past several months and know that I am not alone. I am pursuing peace that passes understanding. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth. (You can register for the summit and the retreat at this link)
Jan 14, 2022•29 min•Season 2Ep. 37
In this episode I share some of my personal experience with exhaustion and grief. I pray that this encourages you on your healing journey. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. You can also find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. To register for the Safer Spaces Summit, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. To register for Held & Healed Retreat 2022 go to ...
Jan 08, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 36
Each year (since 2006), I choose ONE WORD to focus on. One area I want to grow in. One word that will help me become more like Jesus. In this episode, I share the progression of my words and the outline of my story that unfolds. I invite you to choose a word for 2022 and we’ll grow together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. On January 15, I’ll go live in that group and we’ll share our...
Dec 30, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 35
For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. I am praying for you as you navigate hard things and encourage you to hold boundaries during the holiday season. To learn more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/copy-of-12-truths-group-coaching-3?fbclid=IwAR1Fmag_A22WVjyu8B91k-UW__F6zx88wKRR-wMHL-S1Zj-esF504-pvtcQ. For early-bird registration to Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Ladies, please join us on F...
Dec 10, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Cindy is a survivor of a 20-year abusive marriage. She has so much wisdom to share with survivors and advocates. She has written several books, this episode highlights Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved. This book is a valuable resource for spiritual leaders. You may find her at at http://www.hurtbylove.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. ...
Nov 18, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 32
The holiday season is upon us. For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. As we are rebuilding our lives after abuse, holidays can be painful reminders of what we’ve lost. In this episode I share some tips that have helped me navigate painful family dynamics for the past 25 years. I encourage maintaining healthy habits, setting a realistic budget, blessing those in need, enforcing low/no contact with abusive people, surrounding yourself with safe people and focusing on traditions...
Nov 11, 2021•29 min•Season 1Ep. 31
In this episode I share twelve truths that will help you heal after an abusive marriage. These are truths I have learned over the past five years and I wish someone had shared with me decades ago. I offer group coaching for women and we unpack each truth together and find practical application for each one. If you are interested in learning more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching, please message me at info@heatherelizabeth.org. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian W...
Nov 04, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 30
In Episode 26, I shared harmful phrases that re-victimize survivors. In this episode, I share phrases that help/heal as well as offer suggestions for tangible ways to support survivors as they rebuild their lives. 13 Patterns/Systems of Abuse (Episode 19), also on my blog at https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27114/13-systems-patterns-of-abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find...
Oct 20, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Clara Hinton has been a grief facilitator, speaker and writer for over thirty years. She is a mother of 11 and a grandmother of 24 (so far!). She co-hosts the Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcadt with her son Jimmy. https://jimmyhinton.org/podcast/ Together, they educate anyone who is willing to learn about the heinous reality of sexual abuse in churches and beyond. This is a fire their family has walked out of, when her ex-husband (also an ex-pastor) was convicted of horrific crimes against childr...
Oct 07, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Words are powerful. I have polled women in groups that I am a part of and asked for harmful phrases that were used by spiritual leaders when they disclosed abuse. This list is not exhaustive, but I pray that it helps us to be mindful of what we say to victims of abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Oct 03, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Dale and Faith are gentle and humble warriors who speak boldly against abuse in Faith communities. Dale has been a pastor for decades and Faith is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. They founded Speaking Truth in Love Ministries and they educate individuals and churches on the realities of abuse inside church walls. Dale wrote Tear Down This Wall of Silence: Dealing with Sexual Abuse in Our Churches (An Introduction For Those Who Will Hear). Learn more at https://speakingtruthinlove.org/. Lad...
Sep 30, 2021•47 min•Season 1Ep. 25
It was an honor and a joy to host the first annual Held & Healed Retreat in Virginia. 60 ladies from 8 or more states came together to laugh, cry, worship, learn, heal and connect. It was a beautiful sight to behold. Rebecca Davis shared a powerful message about Spiritual Warfare, as outlined in her book Prayer Armor for Defense (https://www.amazon.com/Prayer-Defense-Against-Enemys-Flaming-ebook/dp/B08P166PJS?crid=ODXOVSSTB2TB&dchild=1&keywords=prayer+armor+for+defense&qid=163157...
Sep 16, 2021•34 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Setting and maintaining boundaries will accelerate your healing journey. In this episode, I share quotes and tips to help you on your healing journey. For more resources, ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org. For more about the 12 Truths Group Coaching Course, https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/12-truths-group-coaching-1?fbclid=IwAR0s_SX6V9Ojj3MX...
Aug 27, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 23
In this episode, I share some of my story and self-care tips I have learned as I have been rebuilding my body, mind and spirit. Sister, you are valuable. You are priceless. You give and give and give to others. It’s time to take care of yourself. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Happie, Hippie, Healthie Hangout https://www.facebook.com/groups/2874298529497171/ and at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at ht...
Aug 05, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Bella is a survivor of every form of abuse imaginable. She wrote her story in Prisoners in the Shed (buy it here: https://www.amazon.com/Prisoners-Shed-Harrowing-Journey-Captivity/dp/1734594519/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=prisoners+in+the+shed&qid=1627575025&sprefix=prisoners+in+&sr=8-3). Bella is tenacious, courageous and articulate as she uses her voice to expose evil. I thank God for her life and her voice. Our prayer is that this episode helps to turn the light on for ma...
Jul 29, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 21
LeAnne is energetic and passionate and she loves helping women rebuild their lives. She is a Certified Professional Coach, learn more here: https://www.thewalkyourtalkcoach.com/. In this episode, we discuss relationships, truth telling and danger assessment. DANGEROUS acronym: https://leslievernick.com/signs-danger-mean-time-flee/. Party Barge story: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27227/party-barge. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abus...
Jul 21, 2021•48 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Today, I share 13 patterns/systems of abuse, as outlined in the book Safe Churches by Sarah McDugal, Jennifer Jill Schwirzer and Nicole Parker. For more in depth instruction, Sarah had a playlist on YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9WSC9P1z2VeGeak1Id8gsioSdaKnYGBI. You can also find helpful resources at https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse...
Jul 19, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Elle served as the technical director for Give Her Wings and coaches women through the muddy waters of parental alienation/DV by proxy. In this episode, we discuss terminology, define the roles of alienating parent, targeted parent and victimized child and give practical advice for mamas who are experiencing this harrowing reality. We also make suggestions for what to/not to share on social media (to protect you and your children) and Elle shares some of her favorites resources. Find Elle at htt...
Jul 08, 2021•44 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Sarah is a powerhouse of passion and knowledge. She is bold and tackles topics that most Christian leaders would shy away from. She’s a wealth of information about spiritual abuse, porn addiction, sexual abuse and so much more. In this episode, we discuss how rampant porn addiction is within the faith community. We also preview two books she has co-authored, Safe Churches and Myths We Believe, Predators We Trust. To see the 37 myths that Sarah tackles, check out my blog post: https://heathereliz...
Jul 02, 2021•48 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Grieving the living. It’s a thing. A very real thing. Because of abuse, there are times we must set boundaries with friends and family, and go low or no contact. Many mamas are experiencing parental alienation from their children. Many women are cast out by their families, churches and social communities. I pray this brings clarity to those who are hurting and gives us all greater understanding of how to walk this road of grief together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: C...
Jun 25, 2021•35 min•Season 15Ep. 1
Are you the family scapegoat? This episode defines the role of a scapegoat and offers suggestions for breaking free. I learned so much from Glynis Sherwood’s lesson in Give Her Wings Academy. Learn more at https://glynissherwood.com/12-steps-for-family-scapegoat-healing/ and https://www.giveherwings.com/curriculum. Ladies, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. www.HeatherElizabeth.org
May 31, 2021•35 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Neil Schori is a pastor and a survivor advocate. His life was radically changed after he walked with a couple through a harrowing situation. He has grown in his understanding of domestic violence and is available to help coach survivors. Learn more about the Drew Peterson case here: https://youtu.be/74Eb1xqaiAg Neil’s website/info on his coaching business: https://m.facebook.com/SchoriCoaching/ More about Document the Abuse (created by Susan): https://documenttheabuse.com/ My website: heathereli...
May 21, 2021•41 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Gretchen is the author of The Life-Saving Divorce. In this episode, she debunks some of the myths that keep Christians from pursuing life-saving divorces. Learn more at http://lifesavingdivorce.com/. Please share this episode with anyone who needs clarity and truth. If you are a woman who is rebuilding your life after abuse, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
Apr 29, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 7
I met Jimmy a year ago through the Give Her Wings Academy. Since that time, I have listened to every esisode of the podcast he and his sweet mama, Clara, have recorded. This family had been through the fires of hell and chose to come out and carry back buckets of water for the masses still consumed by flames. They speak out against sexual abuse and call the church to do the same. In this episode, Jimmy shares some of his story, and speaks of the foundation of God’s kingdom (righteousness and jus...
Apr 22, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 6
In this episode, I describe some characteristics of bullies. It’s time to say “Enough is enough.” Find me at heatherelizabeth.org Ladies join us at Held & Healed on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
Apr 16, 2021•27 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this episode, I share some differences between difficult, disappointing and destructive marriages. This outline comes from a lesson taught by Leslie Vernick. https://leslievernick.com/ If you would like to learn more about Give Her Wings Academy, https://www.giveherwings.com/curriculum. Join me at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, message me at heatherelizabeth.org
Apr 09, 2021•27 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. In this episode, I break down specifics of The Power & Control Wheel. For more information, go to https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/understanding-power-control-wheel/. Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. Or, contact me at heatherelizabeth.org
Apr 05, 2021•29 min•Season 1Ep. 3
