Our society admires strength and looks down upon vulnerability thinking to be vulnerable is to be weak. We misuse “strength” to push away how we feel. It’s actually much easier to avoid how we feel by being “strong” than it is to face our feelings with vulnerability and to feel what we feel at our core. Listen to this episode to learn more! Try the 7-day free trial into our membership community for lots MORE content: https://www.healfromthegroundup.com/join-community...
Feb 21, 2025•13 min•Season 1Ep. 69
Do you feel guilt and an immense responsibility for others? Do you put yourself last because you fear taking care of yourself will take away from your ability to take care of others? All of this can be due to having narcissistic parents who treat you as an extension of themselves. Listen to this coaching session with Dustin and learn how your resistance to self-care is rooted in your childhood trauma.
Aug 27, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 68
Tia feels lost as an entrepreneur, since recently leaving a steady job. She fears if she will fail or not, but the real issue is Tia not feeling in control. Tia gets angry with her daughter because she bought her enough clothes to wear a different outfit for three weeks in a row. Her daughter will wear one outfit Monday and wear the same exact outfit Wednesday, which makes Tia lose it. Where does Tia's feeling of powerlessness come from? Well when Tia was 1 year old, her mother's sister was murd...
Apr 14, 2020•1 hr 54 min•Ep. 67
Suppressing our emotions and feelings is dangerous because our unresolved feelings are emotional wounds and if we suppress them by avoiding them, they only grow and eventually consume us without even us being conscious of it. Parents who suppress their emotions and feelings pass down their unresolved feelings to their children in a dangerous way because the child grows up completely oblivious to it all since the parent consciously suppresses their feelings but the child subconsciously feels ever...
Mar 31, 2020•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 66
With the economy crashing due to Covid-19, Xavier has the constant fear that he will be let go since he is only a new hiree. What's happening now in the world is bringing up our worst fears so we can uncover and heal our unresolved deep-seated feelings. As always, "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." In this coaching session, we go to the core of the core and see what Xavier's fear of losing his job and thereby losing his ability to make money is all ...
Mar 24, 2020•58 min•Ep. 65
You may have all kinds of emotions, feelings, and thoughts racing through you because of all that is happening right now. All of this may be eliciting one of the darkest times of your life. Through all of this, despite how bad it may be, I want you to first center yourself with the mantra that "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." This is not to illegitimize the severity of what is going on right now , but if what is going on right now is bring up feel...
Mar 17, 2020•29 min•Ep. 64
Where does Natalie's feelings of her family abandoning truly come from? In part two of this coaching session with Natalie, we go deep in the intergenerational healing process and unveil the source of it all. If you have not yet listened to coaching session part one, please go to listen to the previous episode first before listening to this episode. Receive your FREE "Feeling is Healing" Course by visiting healfromthegroundup.com You can find Natalie's Podcast, Your Spinout is Gorgeous where she ...
Mar 10, 2020•51 min
Here I coach Natalie Que through her fear that she will be disowned by her family if she speaks her true story that entails her family on her podcast "Your Spin Out is Gorgeous." This episode marks a big change in my podcast where I will be coming back to featuring coaching sessions, but this time around I will be coaching mainly podcasters and YouTubers and less so anonymous callers. You are going to see people really putting themselves out there in a boldly vulnerable yet transformative way as...
Mar 03, 2020•58 min
The reason why anxiety, anger, and depression keep coming up in our lives and in our society is because we are not uncovering and exploring the underlying root cause which lies in intergenerational healing. Understanding intergenerational healing forever change how we as a human race understand and ultimately heal anxiety, anger, and depression. To give you an understanding of what intergenerational healing is, I used my personal story in today’s podcast episode. Ten days before my 5-month baby ...
Feb 25, 2020•32 min•Ep. 61
Here l share my immense fear of failure with raw vulnerability. I was contemplating not publishing this episode because I did not want to appear as a hypocrite, failure, and fraud, but my wife convinced me that others easily connect when I share my raw vulnerability. It is only through the process of struggle, pain, and healing is transformation possible. For more information on private sessions and online courses with Michael go to www.healfromthegroundup.com If you enjoyed this episode please ...
Feb 18, 2020•41 min•Ep. 60
Do you find yourself feeling stuck in your negative emotions and problems no matter how much you think and analyze it all? Although thinking is important, thoughts must be balanced with the act of feeling, for "feeling is healing." "Feeling" is the first step of Michael's breakthrough emotional strength F.I.S.T. process which will help you get to the root of all your negative emotions, feelings and problems. "Feeling" is not the end all be all, but without this foundation, no other higher levels...
Feb 11, 2020•14 min•Ep. 59
Are you tired of being angry? I believe our anger has a lot to do with what was lost in our childhood. We don't know that because we're so busy being angry at others and ourselves. What we're really angry about is losing our childhood because our parents needed us as children for their emotional support. Throughout our entire lives we try to take on the pain of our parents so we can lessen their burden. But the whole time we don't even know this pain is not ours so we are so frustrated why it ne...
Jul 24, 2015•18 min
I believe relationships can often be enmeshed in the sense you have two people so focused on each other but not looking at themselves. One partner can subconsciously blame the other partner for their past wounds. While the other partner feels responsible and wants to be their savior. Either way, you have two people so focused on each other which causes their individual happiness to be dependent on what's outside of themselves. Interestingly this phenomenon of enmeshment also carries over to how ...
Jun 03, 2015•19 min
Why are we chasing after something we already are? Why are we chasing after strength when we already strong? Why are we chasing after worthiness if we already worthy? The only reason why we chase after something is because we believe we don't have it. We believe we are a failure so we must chase after success. We believe we are worthless so we chase after worthiness. Listen to this week's podcast to stop chasing after your greatness but living through your greatness.
May 28, 2015•18 min
I've seen it a lot with my clients where couples get into heated arguments because they feel emotionally responsible for each other. Interestingly this helped see it in my own relationship where I would make my fiancee responsible for my own emotional well-being. When you make others responsible for your well-being you nit pick at everything they do, because everything they do carries the heavy weight of your emotional wellbeing. I noticed that whenever my relationship was not doing well, I was ...
May 20, 2015•23 min
We often feel we are a prisoner to our own minds. We are constantly wrestling with our thoughts and hate ourselves for our negative emotions. We either try to think our way out of the emotion, numb ourselves with busyness or project our self-hate onto others. The whole time we are doing everything we can to avoid our emotions at all costs. But the truth is there is infinite wisdom that lies deep within our emotions once we allow ourselves to be present with them. It is through meditating on thes...
May 13, 2015•19 min
I've been a messy and disorderly person all my life. I wanted to be organized but never truly understood the paramount importance of having my personal space orderly and including only possessions that spark joy within me. This has helped me create a clear mind and clarify on what is important to me since I am surrounded only by things that spark joy for me. Respecting your personal space serves as one of the pillars to respecting yourself. This took me 34 years to learn this, but glad I learned...
May 06, 2015•26 min
We think control as something that is self driven because it gets things the way we want it to be. But control is really about forgetting who we are and what is important to us because control is focusing everything that is outside of you. We need to control our environment and other people to have them give to us what we really need to be giving ourselves. We feel like we need to control to feel safe but control is the very thing that keeps us feeling unsafe and in pain. Listen to this week's p...
Apr 29, 2015•21 min
Who are you without your fears? Asking this question allows you to understand your true authentic self. We have identified with our fears for so long because it feels familiar to us, but none of our fears make up the fabric of who we truly are. Our fears is what make us look at our unattained goals everyday and think how far we are away from achieving them. This makes us feel we are not enough, but the truth is, the gift and beauty of who you are is the vehicle to all your goals and dreams. List...
Apr 22, 2015•19 min
The pain and fears we carry are so hard to let go because they feel like they are a part of our soul. The amazing thing is that our pain doesn't even belong to us. As empaths or codependents we took on the pain of those we loved in order to lessen their load. Especially when we took on this pain as children, this pain and this responsibility for the pain of others becomes our sole identity into our adult lives. In this podcast you will see how realizing that your pain doesn't belong to you, help...
Apr 15, 2015•22 min
Codependency is a word we often view as something that is negative and needs to be eliminated. My understanding of codependency is that it is a result of a gift of ours that we overuse. That is the gift of being an Empath. As empaths we feel, identify and can even feel responsible for the emotional well-being of others. This is a gift we use to intuitively know what others need in order to break free from their old wounds. However, this gift becomes a doubled edged sword when we don't turn it of...
Apr 08, 2015•20 min
We falsely believe that accomplishing our life goals and dreams is what bring us our self-worth. The truth is who we are just as we are is a gift to the world. Ironically when we realize that, is when our greatest dreams and goals come true. Therefore your gift to the world is not your "success.: It is you just as you are.
Mar 31, 2015•28 min
Boundaries serve to protect you in all areas of life, especially in relationships and work. In a relationship, boundaries are so important to protect not only yourself but your partner. Because once boundaries are crossed both parties are disrespecting themselves. Any disagreement can only get worse if boundaries are crossed. In this society we praise being selfless which fosters the idea that we should not have boundaries. Boundaries are your vault to protect what is most essential to you and w...
Mar 24, 2015•17 min
Every waking moment is an opportunity to share the gift of who you are and not to validate your self worth with what you do. Lacking boundaries is not knowing where you end and the other person begins. Without boundaries you cease to exist and thus sacrifice yourself to purely become a vessel to help others. Reclaiming your boundaries allows you to give from the gift of who you are. Without boundaries we are forced to be a servant desperately seeking for value outside of ourself and to bring it ...
Mar 18, 2015•18 min
We all feel overwhelmed by all the things that we need to get done and especially all the problems we need to resolve in order to get to where we want to in life. But the real issue is how we focus on these problems that take ourselves out of reality. Thus the very thing we think will get us closer to our life goals and visions is actually taking us farther away from it all. Listen to this podcast where I get coached by Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast. It takes me a few days to marinate...
Mar 10, 2015•1 hr 3 min
This summary is hard to write because it has to do with my parents. I do not want to defame them in any way. But the truth is I am not emotional responsible for their feelings. I had to console my mother through panic attacks as a child which planted the seed into my adulthood that I was emotionally responsible for the world. In doing so, I completely lost my sense of worth that lied within me. And because I had no self worth from within, I had to create it with what I accomplished. In doing so ...
Mar 03, 2015•13 min
This is a powerful coaching session where I uncover the root of all my problems and struggles. I realize all the healing that I do for the others is the same healing I need to give to myself. In this session you will see how the struggles of my adulthood are all actually rooted in my childhood. Thank you Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast for coaching me and really changing my life.
Feb 24, 2015•1 hr 20 min
Living in fear is a pattern that was taught to us very early on in our lives. The reason why we live out our childhood in our adulthood is because that is what was programmed into us. In part two of this couples coaching session with my fiancee Daria and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast, you will see me trying to control Daria and my work environment through fear. Unfortunately, what I try to control, only ends up controlling me by living in constant fear. You will want to also li...
Feb 17, 2015•1 hr 3 min
In relationships you are always going to have fights. It's normal and necessary. But one thing to be conscious of is to avoid the downward spiral of relationship triggers. What this means is when one partner gets triggered, he or she takes it out on their partner. And that partner triggers the other partner back. It just goes back and forth and builds layer upon layer on the real issue at hand. It is important to look at where this trigger is coming from. But it's hard to see that when both part...
Feb 10, 2015•1 hr 14 min
We believe the achieving of all our goals and dreams will bring us a feeling of happiness. But the truth is everything that you so desperately seek resides within you. And how you experience that is not setting a condition to your happiness but giving yourself the permission to feel the happiness that you are in the present moment. Do not set a condition on your happiness with "goals" because your worth is unconditional. Follow me at Twitter Facebook healfromthegroundup.com...
Feb 03, 2015•13 min
