This is the first time I did an interview for my show. You will get to learn about how all the healing I offer others stems from the healing I give to myself. We all want to help others but we forget that to become selfless we need to first be "selfish." Or in other words put yourself as a top priority instead of the last. www.healfromthegroundup.com Follow me: https://twitter.com/HealGroundUp Subscribe on iTunes...
Jan 27, 2015•1 hr 1 min
Putting ourselves down is something as natural to us as breathing. So natural that we are not even aware that we are doing it. Our focus is purely on our "problems" that we have created which we treat as reasons for why we are not good enough. The truth is not only are our fears false, but the truth is we are more powerful than we can ever imagine. For us to realize this we must boldly claim back our power. We are all kings and queens that have forgotten our power. Now its time for us to claim b...
Jan 20, 2015•52 min
The voice of inner critic is strong but acts like a ghost. It controls your every move but you don’t know that you are being controlled and by what. When you touch a hot stove, you don’t have the time to think about the pain, you just automatically remove your hand without thinking. We live our lives the same way, when something triggers a negative emotion we automatically do whatever we can to eliminate the thing that is triggering the negative emotion without thinking about what our negative e...
Jan 13, 2015•52 min
In this part 3 finale you will discover the absolute root cause of my anger towards my fiancée. In Part 1 you saw how my anger towards my fiancee was really an expression of feminine tendencies of being overly sensitive and emotional. In Part 2 you began to see how my anger towards her was really about my anger towards myself. Finally in part 3 is where I bare all and discover for the first time how vicious my anger towards myself really is And it's not about my anger towards her because its onl...
Jan 06, 2015•40 min
This is Part 2 of a couples coaching session I had with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of The Overhwhelmed Brain Podcast. The biggest things I'm taking away from these couples sessions is that the issues that come up in my relationship has a lot less to do with the other person and mostly what's going within each one of us. I'm realizing my anger towards my fiancée is really about the anger towards myself. I have to forewarn you though the arguments get pretty headed in this second half of the se...
Dec 30, 2014•46 min
This is a couples coaching session with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast. The previous couples session we did (episode 28) you saw the anger my fiancee had towards me which was really her suppressed anger towards her mother. The tables have turned and you will now see my suppressed anger come up in the relationship and get directed at my fiancee. Although I was not conscious of the root of my anger, it was secretly controlling my life and being projected at fiancée ...
Dec 23, 2014•41 min
Things we do not like about ourselves we project onto others in such a subconscious way that we don't even realize what are real fears are. I do this all the time with my fiancee and everything that I do not like about myself, I pour my frustration onto her. It's almost I'm subconsciously saying she is the root cause of my insecurities. This is something that happens so often in our relationships with others. And we feel we are the victim. But the problem is that for as long as we fixate on the ...
Dec 16, 2014•1 hr 9 min
I have spent my whole life using logic to understand life my life which has kept my negative feelings and most importantly pain at a safe distance from me. But it is my pain that holds the missing key to my healing. In this episode, I share all that I've learned from feeling the emotions I would typically suppress with logic. http://healfromthegroundup.com/michael-discovers-the-healing-power-of-pain/
Dec 09, 2014•26 min
In thinking of the title for this episode I could have titled it after the epiphany that surfaced which is "The Gift of Who You Are". However, this epiphany was only brought out from me breaking through analysis paralysis. The best way I believe to do this is from feeling all of our feelings as opposed to resisting them through analysis paralysis. Thoughts and analysis are distractions to keep the pain of our fears at bay. What this means is that pain will always be there until we acknowledge an...
Dec 02, 2014•38 min
The impact that my mother has had on my life is something that has been hidden from me for most of my life. Although I'm still processing it, I'm beginning to realize the pain I've been hiding and denying within my self. Having said this, my mother is still the best mother I can ever ask for. But we all have been heavily impacted by our parents and the seed is planted in our childhood. The work I do for others on the podcast and in my private practice is all mirroring things that I'm learning to...
Nov 25, 2014•40 min
We may be deeply in love with our romantic partners but the relationship still serves as a vehicle to heal our inner most wounds. Within the relationship triggers are naturally manifested for us to bring our wounds to the surface so we can begin to see them and heal them. What this means is that despite all the nuisances, problems and arguments that may come up in a relationship, they are actually opportunities to heal our deepest wounds that we may be completely unaware of. http://healfromthegr...
Nov 18, 2014•1 hr 9 min
Because of the pain associated with negative emotions we automatically numb or distract ourselves of these emotions. The problem with this is that deep within our emotions is a message we need to understand and resolve. But we can't find any resolve if we are so busy distracting ourselves from our emotions. This renders us helpless because these emotions will never leave us and end up controlling our lives until we understand what message they have for us. Listen to this coaching session to begi...
Nov 11, 2014•46 min
This podcast speaks to a hidden epidemic within families across the world. Parents are a child's foundation and source of love. But so many parents, for whatever reason are not able to be the parent they need to be for their child and leave the child to feel like they must be the source of foundation for the ones who brought them into this world. This role reversal is an incredible burden and pain that the child carries with them throughout their adult lives. Listen to this podcast where Michael...
Nov 04, 2014•1 hr 3 min
We all strive hard to fulfill our life's purpose and vision. This session in coaching Dr. Karen Osburn, host of Mom at 41 podcast, was amazing for me because what she needed coaching on ended up being something that I wasn't clear myself. Karen was able to reflect back to me what I'm not able to see within myself on my own. Doing so, the answer we have both been looking for unveils itself within the session and heals us both in the process. We all have a life purpose and a vision. It is somethin...
Oct 28, 2014•1 hr 20 min
The new direction for my podcast comes from my heart's vision. The new direction entails me coaching callers on the podcast and me being coached by other coaches. I want pull back the curtains for the "teacher" and show where all of the teachings truly come from. How the journey of the teacher and client coincide with each other and evolve with one another. None of what I do on this podcast is possible without my own personal healing.
Oct 24, 2014•16 min
Do you hate the feeling that anxiety gives you? I know that you would do almost anything to get rid of that awful and painful feeling. This is what we all do in our response to anxiety. We try to lessen them and coax ourselves through our anxiety. Listen to this powerful coaching session where Paul Colaianni from The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast transforms my entire relationship to my fears and anxiety. Share your comments to this episode at: http://healfromthegroundup.com/feeding-your-anxiety-with...
Oct 21, 2014•42 min
What does it mean to be addicted to please? It's about constantly looking to others to determine your self-worth. Through this addiction to please others you forget who you are. This need to please others is something that has withheld me from showing you all of myself on the podcast. In this podcast I announce a major decision to step even taller into my power and self-worth. Listen to this monologue where I share and explore my addiction to please. Share your comments at: http://healfromthegro...
Oct 17, 2014•35 min
The feeling of anxiety is a big part of what makes us human. However the feeling of anxiety can be very overwhelming and even painful that we try to fight it and avoid it at all costs. This only makes it grow. What we need to do differently is learn to face our anxiety and understand what it is about. When I come to face to face with my anxiety, I see it is often a major sign that I have forgotten about myself. It is when I have made others my main priority and have forgotten to place myself as ...
Oct 14, 2014•56 min
Learning to put myself first has been my most important and challenging life lesson. I personally feel like it will be a lifelong lesson for me. I'm not saying that I am relearning the same lesson because the lesson of putting myself first, just as with any lesson acts like a tree with hundreds of roots. I know that putting yourself first is something we label as selfish. But the truth is the person we abuse the most is ourselves. The person that we disrespect, neglect, criticize is by far ourse...
Oct 10, 2014•27 min
Want to learn how to live through joy? My playful and silly self is the best part of me but I often forget that in the "seriousness" of life. In this podcast where I get coached by Sharon Freedman you will see me learning to embrace my playful self that has been hiding for so long on the podcast. www.healfromthegroundup.com
Oct 07, 2014•1 hr 4 min
For the longest time I have attempted to give to myself the inner child healing I so often give to others. However each time in doing so I wasn't able to connect to my inner child in the way I have helped others connect with theirs. In the recent episodes you have seen me go through various challenges and stages of healing. In this monologue I share how I feel I have put the pieces together for my own healing. It now makes sense now what my obsessive anxiety is towards the work I do for helping ...
Oct 03, 2014•21 min
What if you lost everything you ever cherished? What if you were never able to attain any of your goals or dreams? The loss I am talking about is the loss of everything you cherish and want to attain outside of yourself. If you were to lose all that, than all you would have left is you. As you listen to this podcast I want you to think if you were to lose everything who is your true self that would reveal itself? Share your comments at www.healfromthegroundup.com If you want to be an anonymous c...
Sep 30, 2014•1 hr
Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind? Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can? We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives. While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team. Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward these seemingly uncontrollable voices, so we can see what they are really saying in order to regain cont...
Sep 26, 2014•57 min
We've all had an upbringing that has grealty shaped who we are and what life expereinces we have. The problem is that we only feel the pain of our past wounds without having any idea where it comes from. I personally suffer from anxiety of trying to feel safe and using things like work productivity and accomplishments to feel this temporary and superficial feeilng of safety. In the next episdoe, I will be the client and you will see what is the underlying cause to my need to feel safe and the an...
Sep 23, 2014•44 min
What I offer here on Heal From the Ground Up truly comes from an intimate journey of mine. It's a journey and story that I have been witholding from you all because to be honest I wasn't honoring my own story and the true value I had to offer. I have created a platform for so many coaches but I forgot to use my platform to tell my own story. And this podcast is about telling you that story so you can see how Heal From the Ground Up is intimately tied to my life's lessons. The interesting thing i...
Sep 19, 2014•29 min
Who are you at your core? Who are you without your goals, dreams and to-do list? Because who you are at the core does not change based on how well you complete your goals and dreams. It is your intrinsic worth that is untouchable. It is the indestructible beauty that you were born with. This is the biggest lesson Ilearned in this conversation with my friend Paul Colaianni from the Overwhelmed Brain podcast. This conversation was coincidentally recorded and what originally was a conversation abou...
Sep 16, 2014•38 min
The caller Mave states that she lacks confidence and finds herself very vulnerable to taking on others' opinions of her. She can spend a whole day ruminating about another's opinion of her. As a child, she learned to not trust herself. We went through a process of discovering the experiences that resulted in not trusting herself, and how to start to love herself – instead of giving authority to others to define her worth and make her feel safe. I helped her to establish a personal connection wit...
Sep 09, 2014•55 min
Michael Hsu, the caller I will be coaching, was working with the dynamic of needing to attain perfection before launching a new project. The focus was primarily on the outcome and “getting it right.” This is a classic struggle and although we believe that “getting it right” makes a better product, it often has the detrimental effect. The authenticity and flow of the project suffers or worse yet, the project never even sees the light of day. Michaels sense of himself as a man had become attached ...
Sep 02, 2014•1 hr 10 min
In a period of basking in being in love, Michael, the caller notices discomfort that won't let him relax: Is it okay to be happy? Is it safe not to work hard all the time? Does he need to reach for a problem when there isn't one handy? Together, we look at the religion of productivity and the possibility of navigating instead by joy. I walk Michael through a two-part process of minding the pain body and tending the mind—applicable to anything anyone goes through. I also offer a formula for chang...
Aug 26, 2014•57 min
Being abandoned is an illusory pain. It is illusory because the pain is so severe that in order to protect our sense of worthiness we take it out our consciousness and embed deep into our subconscious. We still feel the pain of abandonment but we do not know what this feeling is and may project it onto other people who are not responsible for it. The caller here, Gina, feels like she cannot trust her partner because in her childhood she witnessed her single father’s problem of dating multiple wo...
Aug 22, 2014•47 min
