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Having It A.L.L.

Matthew Bivenswww.matthewbivens.com
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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Episodes

Now Is NOT The Time To Be Slacking On Your Exercise, And Here's Why

Have you given yourself permission to slack on your exercise and overall physical health? I get it, we're in the middle of a global circumstance that can be used as a great excuse to not exercise and neglect your health. But the ripple effects of doing so are far reaching, and you may be underestimating how detrimental it can be for your overall health & wellbeing if you've been putting physical exercise on the back-burner. In today's conversation I'm illuminating the 5 key areas of your hea...

Jul 07, 202052 minEp. 310

Make It Fun

Would you describe your life as "fun"? Fun is one of those things that many people have given up on. As kids, fun came naturally - you didn't need to be taught how to have fun, how to play, how to create joy in the mundane. But as you got older and took on the responsibilities of adult life, fun may have fallen lower and lower on your list of priorities. In my opinion, FUN is a vital element of having it all. It's the final F in our 6 F's Framework (Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance and F...

Jun 30, 202035 minEp. 309

The Magic In Doing One. Thing. At. A. Time.

Are you a multitasker? We all like to think that we're pretty efficient at doing multiple things at a time. We switch between different work tasks at once, we try and clean the house while disciplining the kids and ordering food over the phone, we put on our clothes while checking Instagram and talking with our partner. All in an attempt to be more productive, have more time, and feel more effective. But I'm about to burst your pretty little multitasking bubble! Multitasking is a lie and a trap!...

Jun 26, 202015 minEp. 308

Your Conscience Compass: A Built-In Tool For Navigating Your Life

What is "conscience" and how can you use yours to help you find your way through life? As you're trying to navigate through life - figure out who you are, what you're passionate about, how to create some balance - you need tools to help you navigate. Chances are, you have navigational equipment that you're not using, one of those tools is your CONSCIENCE. We all have it, the little voice that tells us whether something will serve us or not. I like to look at my conscience as a compass -- it tell...

Jun 23, 202035 minEp. 307

Protect Your House

Are you fully aware of the impact the people you hang around, the environments you put yourself in, and the content you consume is having on you? In sports there's this concept of "protecting your house", which is all about not letting the opponent through your defenses. In life, we must protect our health, psyche, spirit, joy, peace. Because outside factors are constantly bombarding us, trying to pull our energy down and keep us there. In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment you will why protecting ...

Jun 19, 20207 minEp. 306

The 3 Types Of Meditation I Use To Weather The Storms Of Life

How are you weathering the storms that you're in right now? Life will drop circumstances in your lap, you can count on it. What's not always a sure thing is handling those storms with peace and confidence. One of my goto tools for weathering the storms of life has been meditation. And over the years I've found that I turn to different types of meditations depending on what I'm going through. In today's episode I'm sharing with you the three types of meditation I use to help me cope with life's c...

Jun 16, 202041 minEp. 304

Quit Ignoring Your Intuition (Do This Instead)

When your intuition/gut/instincts speak to you, how do you respond? In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I share the importance of paying attention to your intuition and I give you a simple way to learn how to trust your instincts more that will have you going from skeptical to faithful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 11, 202017 minEp. 304

How To Figure Out Your Personal Values: Your Guide To Living Authentically

How clear are you on your personal values? And are you allowing your personal values to guide your life? A huge part of living an authentic life is operating in accordance to your personal values. The truth is that you really don't know who you are if you don't know your personal values. Many people have a vague understanding of their personal values, but few are crystal clear AND EVEN FEWER live their life according to those values. On today's episode I'm sharing with you a simple process to re...

Jun 09, 202048 minEp. 303

How I Manage My Busy Life While Keeping Overwhelm At Bay

How do you juggle all the different roles and responsibilities that you have? That question was asked to me recently by a listener and I think it's in such alignment with everything that we talk about on this podcast. A major part of living your abundant loving life is being able to experience peace, joy and flow in the midst of the life you've created. It's not about how many balls you're trying to keep up in the air, it's about how effective you are and how much you're enjoying the experience....

Jun 02, 202057 minEp. 302

Put Your Stank On It!

Is the life you're living one of your own design, or are you trying to follow someone else's blueprint? We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others. Looking at how they do life and believing that their path is the only path. And then when we try to replicate what we see, we find that it doesn’t work and we get frustrated, judge ourselves, and feel stuck. Stop doing that! Just because someone does something one way, doesn’t mean that’s the only way! In today’s Having It A.L.L. Moment I’m ...

May 28, 20208 minEp. 301

Episode 300: Reflection, Gratitude & Inspiration

In today's special episode of the podcast, I acknowledge reaching the 300th episode and I talk about some of the highs, lows, and insights that helped us get to this point. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 27, 202016 minEp. 300

Why I Embrace P.A.I.N. (And Why It's Important You Start Doing It Too!)

When pain hits you, do you lean into it or run from it? I used to be the person that ran from pain. Any type of pain, from physical to emotional, I wanted nothing to do with it! And it made perfect sense to me: pain did not feel good, and so why would I want to experience something that didn't feel good? Today I have an entirely different perspective towards PAIN. In fact, I embrace and love pain today, and doing so has been a critical step in my personal growth and healing journey. Tune in as I...

May 19, 202040 minEp. 299

The Math Of Human Behavior: What's Your Sign?

If you were to assess how your presence impacts the world, would you be the type of person that adds, subtracts, multiplies or divides? That's the topic I'm exploring in today's Having It A.L.L. Moment! Each one of us, at all times, is doing one of those things. But how aware are you of the impact you're having? And is the impact you're having the one that you desire? Today you'll be asked to think about your sign and the impact you're having in the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

May 15, 202010 minEp. 298

What Years Of Inconsistency Taught Me About Follow Through And Keeping My Commitments

Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas? One of the biggest challenges that people share with me is their lack of consistency. Sometimes it sounds like "I never follow through", or "I lack dedication", or "I don't have perseverance when times get tough". All of those shortcomings live under the umbrella of consistency, and it's a real challenge that robs the joyful life experience for so many. It did for me for many years. For most of my life I would never consider myself consis...

May 12, 202051 minEp. 297

Do You Eat Other People's Emotional Garbage?

Do you have a tendency to take things personally? Be honest with yourself. In the book The Four Agreements, author Don Miguel Ruiz has this amazing description of taking things personally, he calls it "eating emotional garbage". "You eat all their emotional garbage, and now it becomes your garbage". In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I remind you to not take things personally and help create a different context around the garbage others try and feed you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit m...

May 07, 20208 minEp. 296

Just Breathe

How are you breathing right now? You take over 20,000 breaths per day, but how many of those are you aware of and present to? Breathing is one of the most powerful habits that is so overlooked and under-appreciated. In today's episode I'm taking it back to basics and am teaching you a very simple breathing technique that you can use to get you back to your center, equalize your mind/body/spirit, and simply ground yourself. Links: Sarah's episode on breathing "Breathe Damnit!" Learn more about yo...

May 05, 202026 minEp. 295

Stop Trying To Be Good At Everything

When did we buy into this idea that we have to be proficient and skilled at all things at all times? I know for me, as I started working on myself more and more, whenever I'd read about some new technique or practice that I could envision myself doing, I would add that to my "Must get great at" list and then I'd be hard on myself for not doing it consistently. Gratitude journaling, meditating, clean eating, you name it -- at some point I held the belief that if I wasn't really good at them all (...

Apr 30, 202011 minEp. 294

How I Clean Up The Mistakes I Make In Relationships (With Others And With Myself)

When was the last time you made a mistake in a relationship? Did you clean it up?? In relationships it's hard to admit when you've did something wrong or made a mistake or just stepped out of line with your character. I've had a tough time in the past admitting to and owning my relationship missteps, and I've had plenty of instances where I powerfully owned them and plenty when I did not. In the instances that I DID clean it up, it always felt so much better afterwards! I felt lighter, felt like...

Apr 28, 202045 minEp. 293

All Work And No Play....Who Wants That?!?

Do you approach your life more with a sense of Play or Work? One of these perspectives creates joy and sustainability, the other will wear you out. Which do you think is which? In today's Having It A.L.L. Moment I talk to you about the Play Perspective and invite you to imagine how different areas of your life would look and feel if you approached them from the space of Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Apr 23, 20209 minEp. 292

How To Become A Better Sleeper

On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your ability fall asleep? How about the quality of your sleep? If you're like many folks, sleep does not come easily. The act of getting to sleep can be frustrating and can have you thinking that you need sleeping aids, drugs or a whole host of other things to help you fall asleep and stay asleep. I struggled with sleep for many years, and I turned to a number of things to help me out. But the one thing I didn't try until many years later, was investigating...

Apr 21, 202036 minEp. 291

What "Life Of Pi" Taught Me About Having It All

Have you seen the film Life Of Pi? If you. haven't, put it on your list because not only is it a film with an incredibly powerful story and the visual chops to go with it, the movie delivers some invaluable lessons about life. I watched the film this week for the first time and was inspired by the themes of faith, surrender, trust, and gratitude that were peppered through the movie. But even more humbling than that was the lesson the main character learns about how God and the Universe answers o...

Apr 16, 202012 minEp. 290

How To Coach Yourself Through The Chronic Stresses Of Everyday Life

When was the last time you were in chronic stress (that’s stress lasting over a long period of time)? You might be in the midst of some chronic stress right now! Work, kids, relationships, and just the responsibilities of daily life put mild stress on your body that persists over a long period of time. When you don’t know how to deal with chronic stress, it always turns into acute stress. There are 2 ways to relate to chronic stress: you can be PRESENT or you can be ABSENT. In today’s episode I’...

Apr 14, 202054 minEp. 289

The Quick Path To Happiness, Growth And Success

Are you looking for a quicker path to growth, happiness and success? Sorry to burst your bubble, there is no shortcut to getting what you want! And if you're seeking out a shortcut in the first place, that's a clue as to why you're stuck and not seeing the results you want in your life. Brands and influencers in all industries have done an excellent job in making you believe that a quick path to getting what you want, feeling better about yourself, being happy and prosperous actually exists. The...

Apr 09, 202010 minEp. 288

3 Types Hobbies You Want To Have In Your Life

Do you have any hobbies? I'm talking about those things you do during your down time simply because you enjoy doing them. Maybe you're laughing to yourself thinking, "I don't have any leisure time, I'm way too busy" or maybe you have one or two things you enjoy but don't do them frequently enough to consider them hobbies. Well at the end of this episode you're going to feel inspired to intentionally create new hobbies in your life. Hobbies provide so many benefits including stress relief, improv...

Apr 07, 202032 minEp. 287

How To Start Your Own Podcast: A Not-So-Short-But-Totally-Worth-It Dive Into Podcasting For Beginners

Have you considered starting a podcast? If yes: Awesome! If no, why the heck not?? This is an amazing time to start a podcast: more and more people are listening each day, the space is not too crowded yet, your voice/story/message need to be heard right now, and you've got the time on your hands😉 So, I totally think you should do it. Seriously! Podcasting has changed my life in ways I could not ever imagine, and I know it can offer so much to you as well. In this robust episode I'm sharing with...

Apr 04, 20201 hr 21 minEp. 286

What Station Are You Picking Up?

What kind of conversations and stories are you hearing these days? I've been hearing and seeing such amazing examples of love, humanity, abundance and sharing. It's been so inspiring and it has been so intentional. The reason I'm receiving such empowering vibes, is because my tuner is set to those frequencies. The beliefs and thoughts I'm choosing to hold in my mind support me seeing examples of love and abundance. So again I ask you, what examples are you picking up? Just like a car radio, you ...

Apr 02, 202026 minEp. 285

A 15 Minute Meditation For Easing Stress, Fear and Anxiety (from Katie Krimitsos of the Women's Meditation Network Podcast)

Are you feeling more stressed out than usual? I get it. The global situation that we all find ourselves in the midst of currently has added a whole new layer of stress, anxiety and fear out into the world. And even the most steadfast self-care junkies aren't immune to feeling the impact of this. If you're having a hard time kicking the fear, stress and anxiety of corona virus and covid-19 talk, then I have something for you. For today's episode I'm bringing you a meditation that was created spec...

Apr 01, 202024 minEp. 284

Dream Big, Start Small: How To Achieve More, Set Goals and Stay Focused When You've Struggled In The Past

Do you have little faith in your ability to achieve your big goals? I used to feel pretty low on myself as it related to setting goals and achieving them. Didn't matter if it was a work goal, fitness goal, money goal or just a life goal -- a part of me seemed to always believe that no matter how much I wanted it, I just wouldn't achieve it. The problem wasn't that I didn't know what I wanted. I had PLENTY of things I desired to accomplish (my Big Hairy Audacious Goal list was massive). I was jus...

Mar 31, 202050 minEp. 283

Stay At Home Date Night Ideas For Singles, Couples and Families (from Nancy & Bill Jamison of the Sex, Money & Real Estate Podcast)

Give me a virtual hand raise if keeping a "normal" schedule has been tough right now! Keep it up if your date nights were one of the first things to go as you shifted to staying at home. At the time of publishing this episode, much of the country is entering week 3 of the stay-at-home experience because of the Covid-19 situation. Schools are closed, businesses are closed, and daily life has been thrown on its head. I'm sure one of the first things to go has been date time, whether that's with yo...

Mar 30, 202044 minSeason 5Ep. 282

One Question To Help You Beat The Corona Crisis Anxiety And Get Out Of Your Head

Are you having a hard time staying present, optimistic and focused with the corona virus situation that has gripped the world and seems to be never ending? You might be having a really tough time not feeling anxious, worried, scarce and stuck in your head right now. As the news seems to get worse everyday, it's understandable that your perspective and hope for a resolution seems to get more dire each day. This as an opportunity for us all, and even if you're not in that headspace just yet, I wan...

Mar 24, 202036 minEp. 281
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