How do you handle the stressors of everyday life? Each one of us encounters stress in life, it's part of the agreement. But not everyone handles it in the same way. The concept of "getting grounded" is something you've probably heard of and perhaps even have a practice in. For me, getting grounded is all about returning to your center when life knocks you off course. As I've taken on more and more responsibilities in life - and as life has whooped my butt again and again - I've developed effecti...
Feb 02, 2021•49 min•Ep. 340
Need a some motivating words to help you take a leap of faith? Let me give you some encouragement and remind you of what you've forgotten about yourself, as you're feeling scared to take the next step. I've been there before, I know what it's like to be in your shoes right now. And I have a few words for you. This is part of a new series of Pep Talks that I'll be delivering to you monthly to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life. Remember, I'm YOUR Bal...
Jan 26, 2021•22 min•Ep. 339
What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships? Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like. In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships. My intention with this episode is for yo...
Jan 19, 2021•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 338
Are you ready to show up with purpose, integrity and intention over the next 12 months? It's time for the annual Having It A.L.L. tradition of creating your Word For The Year! This simple yet effective tool acts like a North Star, helping to guide your intentions, actions and thoughts as you navigate yourself towards an awesome year. We've been doing Word For The Year since the early days of the podcast, refining the process each year. In today's episode I'll be walking you through my process fo...
Jan 12, 2021•48 min•Ep. 337
Are you ready to have it all this year? Seriously, are you ready to start believing in your greatness and proactively shaping the life you desire for yourself? Well if so, I'm here as your coach, guide, and supporter this year (and beyond). We have a whole new slate of amazing content coming at you in 2021, all designed to help you ACTIVATE the Having It A.L.L. mindset in your life. In today's episode I'm breaking down what you can expect from this program over the next 12 months, and I kickoff ...
Jan 05, 2021•43 min•Ep. 336
Do you ever get down on yourself when someone else's self help advice just doesn't work for you? I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine. That was until I rea...
Dec 29, 2020•42 min•Ep. 335
Have you heard of the concept of a "sponsoring thought"? Whether or not you're aware of it, sponsoring thoughts are driving the way in which your life is playing out. In today's episode I'm breaking down the concept of a sponsoring thought, showing you the essence of what all of life's choices really boil down to, and helping you get down to the weeds of what might be keeping from your abundant loving life. And as always, I'm sharing my examples of how I'm flowing with the idea of sponsoring tho...
Dec 23, 2020•36 min•Ep. 334
Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally? We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough! For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I fe...
Dec 15, 2020•47 min•Ep. 333
Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics? 2020 has been a year where a lot of things have been upended, including self-care habits. If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you. In today's episode I'm breaking down "bare-bones self-care" habits that...
Dec 08, 2020•55 min•Ep. 332
How do you process the periods in life of prolonged sadness or overwhelm? We've all experienced sadness and periods where we felt like life was overwhelming. This year alone has been a major source of stressful circumstances that have brought on the sadness and overwhelm BIG TIME! But do you have to simply suffer through these periods, or can you learn methods of coping and dealing with your feelings that create an entirely different (and more favorable) experience? Well, you already know my ans...
Dec 01, 2020•58 min•Ep. 331
When was the last time you intentionally stopped and expressed some gratitude? You've probably heard all throughout your life of the importance of "gratitude". In personal development circles it's touted as a powerful tool for happiness and success. As kids many of us are reminded constantly about the importance of being grateful. But is it a part of your everyday routing and a strong tool in your toolbox? Do you even believe in the power of gratitude? In this episode I'm talking all about Grati...
Nov 24, 2020•28 min•Ep. 330
What patterns of unhealthy behavior did you pick up from others (perhaps the environment you grew up in), that you're continuing to do yourself? In today's episode I'm introducing an idea and exercise to help you break the cycle of unhealthy ways of thinking, acting and being. It's called "the buck stops here!". The phrase comes from US President Harry Truman, who used the phrase to communicate to others that he was taking responsibility for decisions that he made, accepting all the consequences...
Nov 17, 2020•33 min•Ep. 329
What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen? As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respectively, and we make it priority to not only treat one another with the utmost love and respect, but the do the same for ourselves as well. In today's epis...
Nov 10, 2020•1 hr 39 min•Ep. 328
In your relationships would you say you lean more on the side of Courage or Consideration? We each fall somewhere in the spectrum of Courage vs Consideration. When there's an imbalance, relationships suffer and life gets challenging. In today's episode I'm teaching you how courage and consideration come together to create mature, synergistic relationships, and I'm giving you the tools to evaluate for yourself whether you need to amp up the courage or the consideration in your life. Don't forget!...
Nov 03, 2020•39 min•Ep. 327
How do you feel about challenges in your life? Challenge is a part of life. My belief is that challenge is a necessary ingredient to growth. It helps us step up to and through our comfort zones. It helps us come to know ourselves on a deeper level. Challenge is what makes you dig deep into parts of yourself you may not have known were there. But we don't always relate to challenges in that way. For today's episode I'm sharing with you a post I first saw on Instagram about challenges, and giving ...
Oct 27, 2020•37 min•Ep. 326
Are you doing what you love in life? Many times a question like this make us think about turning our passions into a career. Pro athletes come to mind, the men and women who have taken a love for a childhood game and turned it into a lucrative career. But that’s not the only way to do what you love and live a life with passion. You can 100% live with passion, joy and excitement, EVERYDAY, without changing careers or completely shifting your life around (you can of course do that too if you want)...
Oct 20, 2020•54 min•Ep. 325
Are you aware of the most important piece of equipment for working out? It's your BRAIN! Your mental chatter and internal conversation will either elevate your workouts, or can take you out. And right now (especially if this is something you haven't been paying attention to) it's probably doing more of the latter. I've been an athlete my entire life, and over the past 4 years I've trained hundreds of people in health & fitness. During that time I've learned and spotted patterns of effectiven...
Oct 13, 2020•56 min•Ep. 324
How do you let go when you’re feeling very attached? How do you gain closure when you felt like you’ve been wronged? Those are some million dollar questions right there! Figure that out, and you might just be able to life a happy, drama free life for the rest of your years! But that's the thing about letting go and closure - they are simple in concepts, but very hard to accomplish in reality. In today's episode I'm going to take on both of these big ideas, and I'm going to help you navigate your...
Oct 06, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 323
When was the last time you wanted something so strongly, but it just wasn't happening and you had no answers as to why? Each one of us knows what it's like to experience the vast range of emotions that come with having unmet desires. For Sarah and I, it's no different. In this episode we’re sharing in the spirit of vulnerability and transparency - we’ve been “open to conceive” for 6+ months now. At the time of publishing this episode we are not yet pregnant. The process over these past 6+ months...
Sep 29, 2020•52 min•Ep. 322
How do you deal with stress? For many people, one big goal in life is to reduce the amount of things that stress them out. Getting the "stress inbox" to zero is a noble feat, but one that I believe is completely missing the point! The goal should not be to eliminate stress -- because guess what, that's never going to happen! Life is stressful and that's just a fact. Instead, the goal should be to work on your RELATIONSHIP to the stress, ie how do you FEEL about the stress and what decisions do y...
Sep 22, 2020•54 min•Ep. 321
How do you feel about affirmations: Do you do them? Do you feel they can be effective? Do you believe they are bogus? Affirmations can be a tool to help you on your growth journey. But a tool is only as effective as the user's knowledge and wisdom. In this episode I'm talking about affirmations and positive self talk, and giving you my perspective as a self-diagnosed pragmatist. I've tried my hand at affirmations many times, and have had mixed feelings and experiences. I do believe in the power ...
Sep 15, 2020•27 min•Ep. 320
Do you feel like the only way to get what you want in life is by doing MORE? I held this belief for a LONG time, and the result was that I absolutely got more….more stress, more worry, more tension in my shoulders, more anxiety looking at my bank account, more feelings that I wasn’t doing enough, more frustration, more fights with my partner. In today’s episode I am giving you permission to do LESS, and I’m telling you exactly why doing less is actually the key to more peace, presence and joy in...
Sep 08, 2020•43 min•Ep. 319
What is the difference between sex and intimacy? How does this play out in your relationship and how you feel about your own sex and intimacy both before and after kids? In today's episode I'm bringing you a raw and honest conversation that Sarah and I had about sex and intimacy. Sex is on all of our minds, but how often are you able to listen in to an empowering, healthy and mature discussion on the topic? This conversation took a lot of turns that we didn’t expect, and we share a lot of our ow...
Sep 01, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 318
Where are you lacking in patience right now? In what area of your life would your experience be greatly improved if you could just be patient? For me, it's a lot of things! In the past I did not consider myself a very patient person. When things weren't happening on my timeline, I would brood over it constantly. Internally I would complain, feel like a victim to time, and just not handle it well. That's changed today, as I now consider myself a very patient person (I think fatherhood has honed t...
Aug 25, 2020•34 min
Does your ego run the show? If you answered anything other than "Yes, at times", then today's episode for you! In our conversation today I'm digging into humility and talking about why a healthy practice of humbling yourself regularly is a necessary ingredient to any significant change or growth you're seeking. The more you think you don't need this conversation, the more you want to open your ears (close your mouth) and just receive the message. All of the things you're playing for in life migh...
Aug 18, 2020•45 min•Ep. 316
Have you ever found yourself up late at night, scrolling through social media, feeling worse and worse with every thumb flick, but unable to break away? That my friend is known as "doomscrolling" and it's robbing you of your happiness, peace and mental health. Doomscrolling is when you find yourself deep into an internet or social media hole, looking at posts and stories that leave you feeling anxious, depressed, hopeless, angry, disheartened, but you just cannot seem to break away. Doomscrollin...
Aug 11, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 315
How self aware are you? That's a loaded question, huh! Abraham Maslow once said "what is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself". I believe that self awareness is a foundational skill that can unlock your abundant loving life, and without it you're destined to stay frustrated, scared, anxious and stuck. I certainly don't want that for you! In today's episode I'm sharing with you 4 real examples from my life where I've succeeded and struggled with self awareness. These...
Aug 04, 2020•52 min•Ep. 314
How is the state of your relationship? How about your partnership? I never used to look at the two as separate. The "relationship" included everything -- the romance, the intimacy, the day-to-day life dynamics, the household management. But for me, as my primary relationship has matured and as new things like marriage and kids have entered the picture, I now see that there's a distinction between the relationship (influenced more by the heart) and the partnership (influenced more by the mind). I...
Jul 28, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 313
What does surrender mean to you, and how practiced are you at it? I took my GameDay recently and was offered up a supreme opportunity for some surrender! (If you're not sure what a GameDay is, I explain it in the episode) The ability for me to surrender is at the center of my self mastery journey. It finds it's way into my relationships, my health, my fitness, my self talk, the visions for my life, and everything else. I've spent years working on my ability to surrender. I've gone from being ver...
Jul 21, 2020•59 min•Ep. 312
Do you know what it means to be intentional with sexual intimacy? Intention means something done for a purpose. Sexual intimacy is a deep, pure connection with yourself and/or another person, where sexual energy is exchanged. Put them together and what you have is a recipe for massive healing, growth and personal transformation. So, how intentional are you with sex? Sex is a thing that requires zero maturity or acquired knowledge to participate in, yet can be extraordinary risk from both a physi...
Jul 14, 2020•54 min•Ep. 311
