On Handing the shame back this week: Dallas Pickering shares what happened to her including being abused in state care. My blog on triggers, and a panel discussion including Maggie Oliver, Anneke Lucas and myself. For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.inst...
Oct 23, 2022•56 sec
Welcome to Sarah Gallardo, Author, Survivor and Director and Founder of Sarah Speaks up, A non profit promoting awareness of domestic violence. She shares her story with us and is both transparent and humbling. You can reach her at: Sarahspeaksup@gmail.com or go to: sarahspeaksup.org To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all soci...
Oct 20, 2022•47 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Dani Henderson, spiritual therapist interviews me - about my second book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, which I have written to help support survivors. We discuss Hypervigilance and its impact on adult survivors not just as children, but how it impacts us to this day. We also look at ways supporters of survivors can receive help to support their loved one. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagr...
Oct 18, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on doubt. Survivors may feel it is still is a part of who we are. Why? Because even tho we knew it was wrong, and felt it deeply, the child sexual abuse continued and our doubt was ignored. Result: We were made to feel bad and at fault. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ We are on all social media platforms: Fa...
Oct 18, 2022•2 min•Season 3Ep. 19
This blog offers some support and resource on searching and finding signs for when we need them the most. For survivors of child sexual abuse, these times can be more frequent than we would like, and knowing some ways to find what we are seeking is helpful. Knowing there is something beyond what we can see and feel is powerful and reassuring. To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivor...
Oct 16, 2022•5 min•Season 2Ep. 25
On Handing the shame back this week: Sarah Gallardo Survivor, shares her story, which is very inspirational and moving. My blog on signs, which can be uplifting - and finally Dani Henderson, spiritual therapist interviews me. For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: http...
Oct 15, 2022•51 sec
Although childhood sexual abuse occurs in childhood, the impacts are far reaching and go deep into adulthood as well. Have a look at this clip on some of the ripple out effects of abuse on survivors. Things like shame, dissociation and feeling different, are just a few of what we experience and have to live with. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ We ar...
Oct 15, 2022•3 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Matiu Taitoko is a survivor of years of sexual abuse. He is now a peer support worker helping other male survivors in Canterbury, (Male Survivors Canterbury Service). He loves hunting and fishing and believes survivors just need love, support and care. A very humble man, his voice is well worth listening to. Kia Ora Matiu HELP Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700 https://betterblokes.org.nz - Free peer support for male sexual abuse s...
Oct 11, 2022•47 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Boundaries. Have a listen as what you hear will provide more context around why setting boundaries is such an issue for us. Reach out with any questions #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https:...
Oct 11, 2022•2 min•Season 3Ep. 18
Manipulation is something well known to us as survivors of child sexual abuse. It begins in silence and secrecy and unknowingly, and unwillingly we become party to the cover up. The manipulation has worked! We are rendered silent and unable to speak. Listen to how we can emerge from this with a little more insight so recovery and healing become a possibility. With love and light fellow survivors. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagr...
Oct 09, 2022•5 min•Season 2Ep. 24
On Handing the shame back this week: Matiu Taitoko Survivor, shares his story. While remaining humble, he is also inspirational. My blog on Manipulation, which as survivors we can most definitely relate to - and finally a 4 minute clip on the ripple out effects of Child Sexual Abuse (only some of them).... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Handin...
Oct 09, 2022•1 min
For the full interview go to BeeYou TV and sign into Sean Stone's channel Sean Stone interviews me - and here is a snapshot of that. We discuss forgiving your abuser, (or not) . Shame is mentioned, and being DARVOED (have a listen to find out what this means) We also look at the silence around all child sexual abuse... We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShame...
Oct 07, 2022•6 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Meet Jess Tyson Fellow Survivor, Founder and Director of Brave Charitable Trust. She was Miss World NZ in 2018. Journalist for current affairs Whakaata Māori. She believes that survivors should be believed and that they are never alone! Brave Instagram: @brave_nz IG: @jessicatyson08 Brave Facebook page: BraveNZ or https://m.facebook.com/BraveNZ/ FB public page: JessTyson8 or www.facebook.com/JessTyson8 Brave website: www.bravenz.com We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.fac...
Oct 04, 2022•44 min•Season 1Ep. 32
This blog offers some ideas on finding and keeping clarity in your life. For survivors of child sexual abuse, it can often be missing in action. Due to the trauma we have suffered, it is nowhere to be seen. This blog offers some ideas on how to address this. Clarity is available to us as survivors, we just need to believe it is possible and discover how. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingthesha...
Oct 03, 2022•5 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube this week: My blog on Clarity and how it is sometimes lost to us as survivors. Don't miss the great interview with survivor Jess Tyson Miss World, NZ, and finally a short snippet of the interview with Sean Stone. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/...
Oct 02, 2022•52 sec
Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is again on Dissociation. Have a listen as what you hear will help you understand a little more, about the timing of your survivor sharing their story. It will help you understand your loved one, even more. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information go to Handingtheshameback.org We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ha...
Sep 30, 2022•2 min•Season 3Ep. 17
This details how Handing the Shame Back Began, with Founder Gloria Masters finding the path that led to the YouTube Channel and eventually the Foundation being established. It all began with a comment, voices were heard, a book was written and finally ended with the Charity being created. Have a look, it may just 'speak' to you. ok. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: http...
Sep 29, 2022•11 min
Matt is a Survivor of sexual abuse. He was a gang member until the age of 30. He has turned his life around to help other male survivors in NZ. He does Peer Support work for Male Survivors in Canterbury NZ. He believes that if survivors release their stories through talking to others, it is like 'gutting a fish' and clears it all out. He is humble, generous and a survivor who will always stand by you. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack In...
Sep 28, 2022•43 min•Season 1Ep. 31
Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on Toxic People, and why they are well known to survivors. Friday morning (NZt) release is on how Handingtheshameback came about, and a wonderful interview with survivor Matt Ashton. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/han...
Sep 25, 2022•52 sec
This blog offers some support and resource on identifying the characteristics toxic people display For survivors of child sexual abuse, these people are more common in our lives than for others. This blog offers some ideas on how to address the challenging issue of loving them even tho they are so toxic. This is a helpful reminder for those who have suffered, that toxic people are responsible for their own behaviour, not you. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.c...
Sep 23, 2022•7 min•Season 2Ep. 22
Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Statistics. Have a listen as what you hear will help support your loved one, and even encourage a conversation around this. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack YouTube: https://www.y...
Sep 23, 2022•2 min•Season 3Ep. 16
Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on courage, and why finding it (for survivors) can be a challenge. The big news is on Thursday morning (NZ Time) you will be introduced to the fabulous board of Handingtheshameback.org #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/h...
Sep 20, 2022•1 min
Courage is as unique to us as our thumbprints. Courage is also linked closely to vulnerability, particularly for survivors of child sexual abuse. Due to that, we were conditioned to silence, so to suddenly find our voices and speak out confidently - is unlikely. Have a listen, and see if this short look at Courage, speaks to you. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/...
Sep 19, 2022•6 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on dissociation. This helped protect your survivor, but what if its not so helpful anymore? Have a listen to this short clip, and thank you for your support. For a look at our brand new foundation, Go to: Handingtheshameback.org #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivor #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www....
Sep 16, 2022•3 min•Season 3Ep. 12
This blog offers some ideas to consider around forgiving others. One powerful thought behind forgiveness, is that the only person that can free us from this dilemma is ourselves!. Self love growing through forgiveness is also discussed, and finally, if we hold on to not forgiving (and justifiably so), who are we really hurting? We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/Ha...
Sep 15, 2022•7 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Our panel discussion this month focuses on the dreadful numbers of young people who have taken their own lives, and the staggering statistics that exist around this. WE also look at ways we can help our male survivors to feel more supported to speak out. Contact Details Todd's Details: mobile 0274247691 or email toddportsmouth@outlook.com Ken's Details: mobile: 0273533854 or email kenclearwater2@gmail.com We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBac...
Sep 13, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 30
Chantelle and I discuss the topic of forgiving your abuser and how this huge decision is personal and unique to the survivor and therefore remain their choice. Always. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ha...
Sep 12, 2022•49 min•Season 2Ep. 19
On Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: A look at forgiveness, a very complex issue and one not to be hurried. A panel discussion on effective ways to support both male and female survivors and a Media spotlight interview with In5D Greg Prescott and Ali Janes. #csa #survivors #believed #thanku We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack YouTube:...
Sep 12, 2022•1 min
Shame is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse, I consider it to be the most significant symptom we carry. Have a listen as to how you can begin to manage it in your life. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.co...
Sep 07, 2022•5 min•Season 2Ep. 19
Stephan and I discuss topics ranging from the Keeping ourselves safe programme run by NZ Police to homeless people and why that might be. We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingT...
Aug 30, 2022•53 min•Season 2Ep. 18
