My hypothesis is that if we deliberately put humility back into the system, we do two things. One, we take away the natural conflicting element of the therapeutic process, the natural elements of conflict. There are two humans. There are two egos. They're in a room, and because of the context, it becomes like tennis. It becomes like boxing. It becomes like some competitive sport. Nobody means for it to be that way. It's just that, whether you're the coach or the therapist or the client in this s...
Oct 13, 2020•17 min
Have you ever felt stuck in a problematic situation? Have you felt limited in your options, like there are no other ways to see things? That was your Reality Tunnel for the time. This concept was first coined by Timothy Leary and later picked up by Robert Anton Wilson. In this episode you'll discover it can be used to your advantage.
Oct 12, 2020•7 min
Here is a simple exercise, that can make you realize a lot of new things about you and your life. Our values play a huge role in our lives, it's useful to decide on a handful, most important ones to us.
Oct 11, 2020•5 min
Law of Attraction has become kind of a big thing over the last years. It's very empowering and attractive concept. Yet, should we believe EVERYTHING it promises? In this episode we discuss the hidden dangers that might be lurking in the concepts like Law of Attraction. If you feel like you might be ready to go beyond LOA, you'll love this episode. Listen right now! Richard's last bit on LOA referenced: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Lt51FPammgF2YuQ1tQHru?si=QbRjqIYHSua8Hb7PKb8OXQ Available fo...
Oct 10, 2020•1 hr 11 min
Jaqui Sansom works with parents to create a secure family to live in. Jaqui has been a family and child protection lawyer for 20 years. For more information on her work please visit her website: https://www.powerless2powerfulparenting.com/about (00:00) Getting started ((1:08) Is narcissism trait or a disorder? (03:41) Can you experience trauma beyond the childhood? (06:43) Is narcissism a scale? How does it work? (09:00) The signs of narcissism in co-parenting (10:33) Is it possible for a child ...
Oct 09, 2020•45 min
An extensive Q&A Live Session focused on the issue of codependency. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency and people pleasing. (00:03) Getting started (01:27) Is it possible to act codependently towards the old, bad programming itself? (02:00) What should we do if we find ourselves keeping quiet to avoid arguments? (02:25) Why do ...
Oct 08, 2020•42 min
A seminar focusing on the topic of codependency, both in relationships and our entire life. Many interesting areas have been covered, that also include Q&A. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to CODEPENDENCY and people pleasing. (00:58) We Need Neuroplasticity to Make a Lasting Change (03:11) Marks Left by the Stressed Parents & a Master-s...
Oct 07, 2020•58 min
It is a known fact that social media have been deliberately crafted in a certain, not-so-good for our mental wellbeing, way. Empower yourself with more awareness about this problem now. Interview with Sam Vaknin: the TRUE toxicity of social media revealed https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dmXcjvL9VSc Watch our documentary on the hidden toxicity of social media now http://bit.ly/pluggedindocumentary
Oct 06, 2020•9 min
Human will has always been with us. It cannot perish, yet it has been suppressed over the years. What is this force that can lead you to your highest potential? If you want to be more driven and alive, you might enjoy this episode. (00:00) The Concept of Human Will (04:16) It's Very Hard to Deliver Powerful Material That is Almost Impossible to Misinterpret (06:40) If You Want to Enslave a Lot of People, You Might Want to Make the Concept of Will Unpopular Part 1 (10:25) If You Want to Enslave a...
Oct 05, 2020•30 min
It's worth exhausting all the methods before you try the pharmaceutical solution for depression. In this episode I present my short take on the problem of depression. Hopefully some of that will come useful for you. (00:12) The Major Myth of Chemical Imbalance (02:02) Living a Life That is Depressing (02:57) The Need for Progress (03:39) The Health Aspects (05:02) Your Mind and Body Needs to Be Disciplined (07:47) Anger Repression & Psychosomatic Symptoms...
Oct 04, 2020•9 min
There is so much posturing in some of the "spiritual" circles. It goes even into the Buddhist and academic circles. Why all that? There's no need to overcomplicate things which were meant to be simple. (00:25) Kallisti and the Golden Apple (02:35) Dialectical Behaviour Therapy & Training Objective Constancy With Zen Meditation (06:31) The Concept of Radical Acceptance (09:37) When Physical Conflict is Less Painful Than One's Suffering (12:22) Spiritual Competition & "The Kallisti Effect"...
Oct 03, 2020•33 min
Can you heal yourself with visualisation? Maybe that'd be too much to promise. But isn't the fact that the imagined experience and a real experience is seen as the same by the brain, mind-boggling? NLP has been used in the context of healing and emotional recovery for some time now. How and why does it work? Let's dive in into that right now! (00:01) Hello (00:48) Your Body and Brain Don't Really Know the Difference Between the Real Experience and the Experience That's Vividly Imagined (06:16) N...
Oct 02, 2020•1 hr 11 min
Meditation is not the only way to achieve mindfulness and mental calm! Sometimes your brain might need to take a slow walk in nature. And sometimes just sit on a bench and observe. If you want to invite more mindfulness into your life then listen right now!
Oct 01, 2020•5 min
When you pull out of the virtual, created world, you wake up to the now. The present moment. The present is simply what is. How precious is that? (00:20) The Dangers of Getting Lost in the Story (04:58) Performing for Others in the Social Media World (07:53) It's Not a Point-scoring Game & Why Reality is Far Better (11:03) On Meditation
Sep 30, 2020•14 min
The world is crumbling all around you? Everything seems to be falling apart? Can we achieve meditative states in all of that? And, without meditation frustrations? (00:15) Don't Fetishize Meditation (02:01) How a Moral Philosophy Will Improve Your Life and Meditation (05:28) What to Do if You Find Meditation Distressing? (08:49) Visualization vs Meditation & How Social Media Relay on Content (13:19) Association vs. Dissociation (15:00) How We Are Reliant on 'The Voice-over' (20:34) What You ...
Sep 29, 2020•1 hr 6 min
Don't let meditation make you go bonkers. This episode will demystify it for you and make you feel calm and confident about it (00:33) Guiding Awareness vs. Receiving (02:38) There's Nothing Better Than Now (03:56) Why is Not Being in the Now a Problem? (06:32) Bringing Yourself to the Present Moment (08:00) What's the Difference Between This, and Disassociation?
Sep 28, 2020•10 min
Narcissists operate in the same ways, whether it's in the microcosmos or macrocosmos. They will do everything to turn the truth upside down and gain as much control over you as they can. Your power is in your agency and will. Being aware of these tactics will make you stronger more resilient. (00:13) #1 Key Principle - Isolation & Perception Control (01:05) Altering the Emotional State (02:10) #2 Invert Communication (05:05) Controlling the Narrative (05:49) Characterization (07:28) #3 Punis...
Sep 27, 2020•16 min
Many believe in monogamy, others vote for polygamy, but what is it really all about? Our thinking about sexuality can be a lot better than it is now. If you're reading this you probably wish to have a healthy, harmonic and fulfilling sex and intimate life. If so, you've come to the right place - listen now! (00:01) Introduction (01:03) The Argument That Monogamy is Not Natural (04:13) That Polyamory is Better (06:45) Why is Monogamy Not Working Right Now? (15:51) What Does It Take for Monogamy t...
Sep 26, 2020•55 min
Why being MAD will make you successful? How being a taboo breaker is good for your growth? If you've been perpetually finding yourself spinning your wheels, what I am explaining here might be the reason why. Listen in and discover the new territory. (00:00) Starting With a Piece of Advice (00:47) Why This is a Topic That Needs to Be Explored (03:34) The Correct Approach to Business (07:20) The Kind of Self-concept You Need (09:18) The Beginning of the New Video (10:08) The Comfort Zone of Repeti...
Sep 25, 2020•30 min
A joint custody with a narcissist is a horrible place to be in. It can be a messy situation, but hopefully with this one tip I can give you as a psychologist, you will come out of it safe.
Sep 25, 2020•4 min
Narcissistic disorder is a spectrum. That means, someone may exhibit some narcissistic traits, or have their entire personality taken over by it. Should we strive for healing the NPD? Is it even possible? If so, what really is the problem inside a narcissist's psyche? (00:00) Getting Started (01:58) So Narcissism is a Defense Mechanism? (04:59) What is It a Defense Mechanism Against? (07:40) Internalized Super-ego of a Narcissist (12:47) You Shouldn't Hope to Heal a Narcissist (16:15) Narcissism...
Sep 24, 2020•26 min
You may think that the narcissist is smart. But you can be smarter. By having your eyes and ears open you know when and what he's about to do. This is when you act knowing exactly what to do. (00:02) Introduction - Should You Fight or Not? (01:40) Seeing the Intent to Attack (The Strategy of Holding Down the Pillow) (04:28) You Decide if You Should Go to Battle (Context and Objectives) (06:57) What Am I Looking for in That Situation?...
Sep 23, 2020•8 min
Hypnosis has been totally misrepresented in the pop culture. There are so many weird stereotypes and misunderstandings around it. That's unfavorable considering how it can help people change for the better. Here you'll discover what hypnosis REALLY is and what it really does. (00:13) Richard's Background With Learning Hypnosis (01:54) We Need Unconscious Reconditioning (04:05) Is Hypnosis a "Special" State or Normal State? (09:56) Hypnosis as a Single-minded Focus (Is That Why It's Working?) (14...
Sep 22, 2020•22 min
This is a short and powerful excerpt from UCLA seminar about preventing the scapegoating. (00:01) You're Too Nice (01:49) You Don't Need to Be Super Aggressive Confrontational Person (Target Hardening) (03:24) Lacking Proper Boundaries
Sep 21, 2020•6 min
In my experience working in Probation Service I came upon the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I was also well-trained in NLP, so here are some differences I saw between these two. In this episode I describe how both models approach the problem, using a real-life example.
Sep 20, 2020•10 min
It's time to come to the truth that subjugating to others is no longer morally good. In reality, hiding your authentic self does no good to anybody. Standing up for yourself can be uncomfortable at first, but that's the life you want. If you're a people pleaser or codependent, solutions offered here might be exactly what you need. Get the course mentioned here: -> Summoning the Self https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ (00:24) Course Prerequisites, and Why is It Triggerin...
Sep 19, 2020•50 min
What if all Cluster B personality disorders and codependency have this one root reason? How narcissism is an epidemic in our today's world? Most of what academics think about personality disorders might be wrong. Find the answers why in this fascinating Sam Vaknin's London seminar. (00:01) Getting Started (04:01) There’s an Epidemic of Not Being Seen (08:41) What Happens if the Child is Not Seen (12:51) Why Narcissists and Codependents Attract Each Other So Powerfully (18:14) What Happens if Eve...
Sep 18, 2020•1 hr 46 min
This is a follow up and complement of UCLA seminar on the development of personality disorders in kids. The video of a seminar mentioned at the beginning: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B1WI-YlgSy6/?igshid=1s28sdgyl6hi9 (00:01) Hello (05:00) Extreme Protectiveness (09:52) Growing Up Environment (14:21) When Love Is Aggression
Sep 17, 2020•18 min
There's not a lot of things so powerful for recovery, like this. This goes deep into your being, and is about the core of who you are. Take a closer look at the concepts of integrity, personality, self-image and values with this episode, and get clear insights on your recovery process. (00:26) What is Integrity and How Can It Be Lost? (01:52) What is a Persona-lity and It's Disintegration (03:37) Changing the Story and Aligning With Truth (05:19) Perhaps You Are More Than That What You Think You...
Sep 16, 2020•11 min
In those uncertain times it's easy to lose your head sometimes. You get anxious, uncertain of the future, fear creeps in and start to block you. It CAN be overcome, and for a long time, I've used these 3 words that helped me immensely. (00:16) The 1st Word That Will Help You Stop Fear (01:44) The 2nd Word to Deepen Your Non-fearful State (04:39) The 3rd Word (05:43) We Have the Power to Imagine (09:49) There is Profit and Control in Fear (Don't Let Them) (11:37) Short Mention of Richard's Medita...
Sep 15, 2020•13 min
