If you can't get over your ex partner, there might be strong, evolutionary reasons for that. We are human-animal creatures carrying genes that want to be carried on. What if this drive influence our thoughts and feelings? If you want to know more, listen in. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (01:05) The...
Sep 14, 2020•15 min
Social media use has a huge effect on our mental state, and can even influence the mental health. This is especially true for adolescents, as their stage of development poses special challenges and risks. In this episode we're talking about upcoming documentary on social media (that has been released now), and then we go into Q&A session. The documentary discussed - "PLUGGED IN: The True Toxicity of Social Media Revealed" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHzwMLx-rKc (00:00) Getting Started (0...
Sep 13, 2020•49 min
When emotional abuse is on a horizon, you want to have clear and precise discernment. Check out these quick 5 redflags of emotional abuse. (00:00) Introduction (00:51) #1 The Whirlwind Romance (The Love Bombing Phase) (01:15) #2 Too Much Too Soon (01:45) #3 Pronounced Feelings of Doubt and Anxiety (02:13) #4 Isolation From Support Network (02:38) #5 Erosion of Values
Sep 12, 2020•4 min
A Q&A Live Chat session with questions covering topics of workplace abuse, parenting, CPTSD, narcissism and other disorders connections, and more. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (00:00) Hello (01:13) “How does CPTSD relate to mobbing? How can one be less of a target?” (04:00) “Is it common to hav...
Sep 11, 2020•56 min
A strong mind will get you far in life. What does it mean to have a strong mindset? Why does it come down to standards we chose to have and values we chose to cherish? If you want real personal development, find out more here. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (01:19) The Problem With Psychology Today &...
Sep 10, 2020•11 min
Here are 3 tips you don't hear very often about overcoming anxiety. Fear takes our life away from us, there's no reason to let it waste our time. These tips will make you feel more calm and confident about dealing with those feelings. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (01:31) #1 Being Self-determined &a...
Sep 05, 2020•23 min
Do you know how it's like when just before getting THAT THING, suddenly it just blows up? Suddenly you lose the drive, or shit hits the fan any other way. Why would we self sabotage ourselves? Is that US really doing that? If you want to discover more about the Self Sabotage concept, this is the episode for you! -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related ...
Sep 04, 2020•16 min
Ever experienced worsened headache/back pain/bowels symptoms due to STRESS? Maybe you suffer from a chronic problem with a specific body part? Psychosomatic illness is an illness which is caused or exacerbated by psychological factors, stress and unresolved emotional conflict or issue. It's a fascinating topic involving the exploration of the unconscious mind and learning its language. In this episode you'll hear my take on that, including some examples. Listen right now! *The recommended dream ...
Sep 03, 2020•26 min
Wonder how you could help your friend? We don't need a psychology degree - it's enough we are human. Because as a human you have the ability to BE present, to compassionately hold space for others. Curious about hearing more? Listen right now! -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (01:07) Danger of Bringing...
Sep 02, 2020•13 min
Toxic parents and family is often one of the biggest hindrance to our growth. The sad truth is, often they DON'T want to see us thrive and shine as an emotionally mature adult. But this must not stop us from taking the responsibility and fulfilling the potential we have. With these tips, it will be much easier! -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related t...
Sep 01, 2020•25 min
A meltdown is almost always an EMOTIONAL FLASHBACK. What does it mean? Why do we experience a flashback and what can be done about it? When you understand what is going on, it's easier to manage these intense emotions popping up. This is what you must know: -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (00:07) Gett...
Aug 31, 2020•42 min
A hangout from 2016 discussing political and cultural topics (including intimacy, porn and sex) including a Q&A section. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, people pleasing, and more. (00:07) Brexit and Politics Part 1 (05:09) Brexit and Politics Part 2 (07:49) Why People Defend Donald Trump (12:17) Conspiracy Theories Are Comf...
Aug 30, 2020•1 hr 36 min
Silence of the Lambs has been one of my favorite books. And the movie adaptation is, in my opinion, the best book to movie adaptation ever. It's a fascinating story seen from the perspective of narcissistic abuse. The main characters and their relationship portrayed, can give as a great insight into the "abuser - victim" dance. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with...
Aug 29, 2020•20 min
From all the nasty habits one can have, people pleasing is the one that is often overlooked, yet VERY impactful. It manifests everywhere, where we interact with other people. And that's a BIG portion of your life. People pleasing will sabotage your interests, damage your self-respect and thus your well-being. We want to get rid of that and be a sovereign adult instead. Here are 5 quick tips that will help you to overcome the people pleasing habit. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now h...
Aug 28, 2020•45 min
Motivation doesn't come from nowhere! It's a natural force pushing you forward to what's important to YOU. Either it's presence, or lack of it, is a valuable signal. In this episode we look into what is the PURPOSE of "goals", and how to use the goal setting exercises to summon your motivation. -> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ -> This is a brand-new course (as of August 2020) dealing with issues related to codependency, p...
Aug 28, 2020•16 min
If there's one thing without which no technique is effective, it's this. With the sheer will you can do anything. Ancient people knew that well. Now is the time to put that to use in practice! (00:17) Introduction (02:33) The Skills Need to Be Drilled (04:35) Why People Won't Apply the Technique? (08:40) Ferocity of Intent (12:57) I Am Going to Make This Work or Die Trying!
Aug 25, 2020•16 min
Social media influence our lives in a large way. How do they influence our character and behaviour? What does the research say? Find out all about it in this episode. (00:41) On "Plugged in" Documentary (02:04) What Do You Believe Narcissism Stems From? (04:18) Spoiling is Abuse, Does Overpraising Raise Narcissist? (09:29) Social Media Usage Correlation With Mental Health Issues (12:16) Social Media Breeding Narcissism? (17:13) To What Extent Social Media is Accountable for the Rise of Narcissis...
Aug 24, 2020•59 min
Why would some immigrants families display narcissistic tendencies? What are the psychological dynamics taking place? (00:00) Stating Today's Topic (04:57) Where the Narcissistic Personality Type is Typically Born Into According to Sam Vaknin's Book (06:12) How and Why the Immigrant Families Encourage Abstention From Social Contacts (07:56) As Your Status is Constantly Brought Down Externally, You Need to Find Semi-delusional Ways of Elevating Back Up (10:39) Envy, Rejection, Self-isolation and ...
Aug 24, 2020•34 min
Questions and Answers session from April 2020 - covering both psychology, and current events comments and questions. (00:07) How do you recognize the difference between CPTSD and narcissism? (02:08) Covert narcissist & schizophrenic seems the same. Why? (03:13) What does BPD look like in a work environment? (05:04) Will life on earth be worth living 50 years in the future? (06:38) Has social media helped or harmed humanity? (10:24) What is your view on dominance hierarchy? (11:13) How come i...
Aug 23, 2020•1 hr 23 min
There are a few things to remember when dealing with smear campaigns. Actually, they may be an opportunity to strengthen our sovereignty. Check out how to go Spartan Style on it.
Aug 22, 2020•7 min
Psychology today has one big problem. Because of it, it is missing a very important aspect of humanness. What has been lost and how we get it back? Listen to this. (00:27) Reading the Question (01:52) The Freudian Reality Tunnel in Psychology (07:39) How Psychology Has Failed Us & Importance of Humility (20:02) Eastern vs. Western Medicine (Passive Reception of the Cure) (22:20) What's the Model for "Normal"? (27:08) Psychology as Neurosis (Example of Different Approach to Emotions) (31:46) ...
Aug 22, 2020•50 min
It's a no-brainer that it's safe in the comfort zone. And yes, we do need a degree of it to stay healthy. But what if you could feel confident living outside of it? Wouldn't the ability to handle any change in your life make you safe? (00:35) What Scientists Discovered About Neuroplasticity and Dreams (01:45) We Need Comfort, BUT Not Too Much (03:52) You Need to Open to Change if You Want to Grow (05:51) Summing Up
Aug 21, 2020•7 min
There is one, special component that makes a good psychotherapist. It's not an easy art. True therapist is able to deal with raw, human vulnerability. If you're looking for a therapist, or are therapist yourself, you'll love this episode! (00:20) Yang Energy of a Coaching Session (02:19) Psychotherapy Requires a Lot of Humanness & Compassion (06:20) At Some Point of Therapy You Have to Go Yang (08:36) How the Empathic Therapy Could Look Like...
Aug 21, 2020•13 min
A discussion with Terry McCoy and Steve Heneghan - The Spartan Life Coaches - regarding post-breakup hurt and getting into new relationships, including a lot of experience drawn from coaching sessions with the clients. (00:00) Getting Started (01:42) What is the Main Thing That Leads People to the Sense of Bewilderment When It Comes to Thinking About Finding Love in the Future After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 1 (05:04) What is the Main Thing That Leads People to the Sense of Bewilderment When It C...
Aug 20, 2020•1 hr 11 min
You've probably heard about grounding. Why is it important requirement for recovery? What does it mean to be grounded? If you're interested in this topic, you'll enjoy this live Q&A session. (00:00) Hello (00:09) What Inspired the Subject of Getting Grounded and Moving Forward? (05:03) The Mind and the Body are One Thing, They're Not Separate (09:06) Why Getting Grounded is Important //Q&A Section// (13:43) "Does drinking stop you from being grounded?" (15:08) "What does it mean to be gr...
Aug 20, 2020•50 min
How much honesty should you exert in a relationship? 50%? 100%? Always? Sometimes? Check out WHY it is such an important question. (00:50) Honesty All the Way, Values and Internal Boundaries (02:41) Clearing the Air (03:53) Issue With Pick-up "Tricks" (06:05) Handling Rejection & Maintaining Boundaries (08:19) Wrapping Up
Aug 19, 2020•9 min
When I looked up on the official psychological advice on what to do when people say they're suicidal, it was all pretty bland. I though that I shouldn't just repeat stuff that's bland. The advice I do have is a bit dark, but it's what worked for me over the years. (00:31) Two Pieces of Advice (03:28) Seeing the Rigidity of Suicidal Thinking (05:34) The Roots of That Thinking That You're Not Responsible For (07:52) Exhausting All the Options...
Aug 19, 2020•10 min
We have this idea of marriage in our society. It is so deeply ingrained, it's rarely questioned. Is marriage always a good thing? (02:18) I'm Provoking You to Think (06:06) Maybe Marriage Might Not Be on the Path of Empath/Healer/Outsider (08:08) We Need a Third Way (10:25) MGTOW - Where Are You Going to Go? (12:38) How Women Can Get Exploited and Addicted to Serving (16:21) Honesty, Overcoming Taboos & Why It's Ok to Judge (21:39) When Marriage is a Submission to Tribal Desires (24:12) Wrap...
Aug 18, 2020•26 min
Therapy, as well as intimacy in general, can sometimes trigger infantile responses in people. What is an infantile response? Why is it used as a defense strategy? And why it is not "weak"? (0:00) Hello (1:30) The Word “infantile” in the Context of Psychology (5:47) Why Talking Might Not Help at All (9:02) The Denial as Infantile Defense (13:25) When We Say Infantile, It Doesn’t Mean Weak (16:57) Intimacy is the Trigger for Showing the Infantile Side (20:25) Being Naïve is Protecting Yourself Fro...
Aug 18, 2020•34 min
Forgiveness is though, let's face it. Everyone's saying how important it is in the healing process. But maybe a person doesn't even deserve to be forgiven? It's good that we have something else. Something better. Something fully dependent on ourselves, not requiring anyone else's apology or compensation to us. (00:09) Meaning of the Word "Forgiveness" (Important) (03:36) Under What Condition Would You Accept Someone's Apology? (05:31) Forgiveness vs. Self Absolution (06:41) Agency and Determinat...
Aug 17, 2020•24 min
