How to let go of bad baggage and heal? (01:06) Resistance to Feelings Stemming From Social Conditioning (07:43) Results of Repressed Emotions (11:04) Coming Back to What We Feel (19:00) Benefits of Healing (23:47) There is No Way Out but Through (But It's Not That Bad) (26:27) Describing the Feelings (32:22) Judging the Emotions (36:17) Feeling What is = Reality, Not Feeling = Out of Reality (38:50) Summary
Dealing with flashbacks and healing from CPTSD (0:00) Getting Started (1:20) Acknowledging That You Are In An Emotional Flashback (05:23) Reading And Commenting On A Piece From Layla Lorex's Book On Overcoming CPTSD Part 1 (10:29) CPTSD and BPD (14:00) Reading And Commenting On A Piece From Layla Lorex's Book On Overcoming CPTSD Part 2 (19:12) Fundamentally Changing The Philosophy Of Life To Overcome CPTSD (23:05) How Abusers Target And Pull The Emotional Wounds Of Their Victims (25:59) The Firs...
(00:24) Propagandization & Changing the Perception (02:08) Note on Reaction-seeking Social Media Use (03:43) No Sincere Communication, Reaction Seeking & Reverse of Truth (07:51) Punishment for Speaking the Truth (10:45) Isolation and Control
Narcissists re-idealization of old sources of supply based on Sam Vaknin video (00:04) Introducing the Topic (01:43) Narcissist's Re-idealizaton (05:01) A Strategy to Brush Off Narcissist Coming Back (09:19) Get Over the Narcissist & the Buzz You Get (12:09) Don't Romanticize the Narcissist
What are the similarities and differences between Asperger Syndrome and Narcissistic Personality Disorder? (00:19) Short Explanation of Asperger Syndrome (02:17) Asperger vs. Narcissism (05:42) Is He a Narcissist? Or Perhaps Asperger? (06:26) Common Problems With Person Suffering Asperger Syndrome (08:29) Richard Describing an Example of Asperger Person (11:00) Asperger's Challenges in Relationship (13:33) Wrapping Up (16:04) Richard's Personal Experience (17:57) Goodbye...
This question is based on the premise that narcissists believe they are fundamentally perfect. Using it is an easy way to test them. Checking their reaction to certain emotional films can also be a good idea.
Are narcissists hypersexual or hyposexual and why, do they feel sexual attraction, how they manipulate and abuse their sexual partner, how to recover and more (00:01) Starting the Topic (01:04) Reading a Piece About Uniqueness and Intimacy in Cluster B Relationships (12:00) The Root Cause of Narcissist's Problem With Relationships (17:24) "Does being raised by narcissists effects individuals sexuality or is sexuality innate to his personality?" (20:20) "Please explain sexual attraction" (21:28) ...
Know if you are vulnerable and prone to abusive relationships and don't get fooled again (00:22) Questions You Need to Ask Yourself (00:56) Check the People Pleaser Traits (02:45) What Do You Believe About Love to Be True? (03:33) The Red Flags for Abusers (04:02) #1 is Their Communication Confusing? (04:39) #2 Are They Too Good to Be True? (05:03) #3 Are They Preoccupied With a Fantasy of Who They Are? (05:21) #4 Reframing (Gaslighting) (06:55) #5 Crappy Gifts (08:28) #6 Going Too Deep Too Soon...
(01:25) Actively Engage in Reframe, Become a Predator (04:06) What is Your Objective? (Spectrum of Force) (08:11) Sending a Narcissist Into a Meltdown by Denying His Idealized Self (11:00) Withdrawing Your Attention (12:46) You Can Learn From Narcissistic Mechanics in Society and Politics (16:06) Seeing the True, Fragile Self of a Narcissistic Person (21:40) Back to Reality & Morality (27:44) I Do Not Consent to This (Non Serviam) (31:00) Personal Responsibility (32:24) The Most Unexpected W...
(00:06) #1 Get some objectivity (01:35) #2 Use 3rd person perspective (03:24) #3 "What is the purpose of this communication?" (05:07) Be careful not to overuse "The Narcissist" label (07:03) #4 "Does this interaction have the classical hallmarks of Cluster B?" (10:10) #5 See if you perceive the interaction differently when the flashback has passed (11:05) #6 Look for consistency over time of abusiveness (13:18) #7 If you're asking the question and doing the research, it's probable that you're fa...
This is inspired by a question "How do I overcome a desire to be parented (protected, claimed and loved) in a relationship?" Why relationships are not and don't have to be white clean, culturally appropriate, free from trauma? Aren't politically correct relationships a dead end?
This will make you confident in your ability to detect narcissists (0:00) Exploitativeness And Entitlement As The More Dangerous Traits Of A Narcissist (3:34) There Must Be An Invasion Of Your Boundary (7:49) The Fastest No Test (12:20) You Saying No Shouldn't Cause A Negative Emotional Reaction In Any Normal Person (14:25) Narcissists Will Frequently Covertly Coerce You Into Giving Way More Of Your Time And Attention Than They Deserve (18:44) Over Assumption Of Intimacy Is Also A Boundary Break...
How covert narcissistic abusers disguise their wrongdoing? (00:35) The Problem That Covert Operations Create (02:24) Brainwashing Creating Confusion (04:52) Covert Narcissism is Corroding the Sanity (08:50) How Can You Overcome That?
(00:30) The Ugly Truth (01:14) Your Family Doesn't Want What's Best for You (02:27) Most Families Are Sick and That's Normal (03:20) Family as a System & Scapegoating (04:46) Tribalism (05:30) Can You Stop It? (06:49) Your Problem is Normal & You Can Find Support (07:15) Forgive Yourself and Others (08:19) Expand Your Understanding
Some people don't like meditating and find it hard, stressful or frustrating. This method works well and you dont need to be all serious and weird about it. Anyone can do it and you can get great results quickly too, your body and brain want to go into that quiet state for a bit, feels good. (0:10) Preparation (0:57) Guidance (17:00) Coming back and a sum up
(00:24) Splitting Between the Golden Child and the Black Sheep (03:17) Can Narcissism Be Helpful? Narcissistic Traits vs. The Narcissist (07:25) Reframing Used by Narcissists (11:37) Double-bind and Owning Your Perception (14:38) Be Careful About Showing Weakness (16:53) Withdraw From Relation
Yin and Yang of self-care, importance of consistent action over time, how self-discipline can be both compassionate and assertive. (With background music)
Codependency is NOT what some people say it is (0:11) #1 False Dichotomy (1:44) #2 False Virtuousness (4:09) #3 No Codependency Without CPTSD (6:04) Recap (8:33) Toxic Codependency Fake-gurus (9:42) Codependent Manipulation (14:09) Self-sacrifice as Manifestation of Trauma, Slave Mentality
Do you want to heal from CPTSD? Do you? A wake up call in healing CPTSD, quick inspiration and a reminder of importance of the intention (0:02) Don't Be Riddled With CPTSD (0:25) People Like Us Can't Just Jellyfish Through Life (2:30) Do You Need to Be Medical Professional to Cure People? (3:20) Nobody Can Save You. But You Can! (5:42) Do It or Don't Do It (There is No Try) (7:25) From Codependency to Sovereignty (8:50) You're Not Broken, Just Take Action...
How to heal from pain and grief, embrace emotions, experience your feelings, therapeutic journaling, need for connection, self-compassion (00:04) What is It About? (04:44) Isolation (09:05) Pain is Okay (14:25) If You Keep Concentration on the Issue is It Danger to Reinforcing This? (19:41) Drill Down the Emotions (25:05) Why You Need to Improve Your Emotional Literacy? (29:49) Why You Have No Memories From Your Childhood
What happens when you fall in love? Why is it challenging? How relationships help us grow? (00:39) "I Want to Be in Love" (05:08) Relationship Needs Maintenance (10:31) You Get Crazier (16:02) Right Questions (19:19) Love Deficit Q&A Section (21:30) "To follow a religion is moving back then?" (22:35) "What do you think love is?" (22:48) "Are you still going to be doing retreats in the future... And if so where?" (23:24) "Our mental health and upbringing is also being post idealized in how it...
There is a lot to breaking the trauma bond but if you understand the key principles and work on some key attributes you will be well on your way! (00:01) Stating Today's Topic (01:47) What Does It Mean to Be Trauma Bonded? (04:06) How Can You Break the Trauma Bond? (08:46) You Have to Regularly Acknowledge How You Feel (14:41) You Have to Move Away From the Story (15:37) Why You Need to Heal Your CPTSD Part 1 (20:09) Why You Need to Heal Your CPTSD Part 2 (21:22) If You Do the Work, You'll Have ...
Reflections about enlightenment and it's connection to codependency (00:01) Stating Tonight’s Topic (02:58) Richard Shared His Thoughts on Enlightenment and Awakening (06:55) Richard Talks About His Experience With Enlightenment (12:14) What is Enlightenment Really? (16:32) Connection Between Enlightenment and Codependency (20:47) Seeking to Ease Someone’s Pain to Ease Our Own, and Why It Shouldn’t Be That Way (25:06) Answering Short Questions (26:49) Is There a Cure for Codependency? (30:24) Ca...
Richard Grannon on how parenting impacted our subconscious and shaped our personality + what can be done about it (00:01) Hello (04:07) Be the Child Again to Think About It (08:58) We Are the Apex Predators on This Planet. Why? (13:02) Radical Acceptance (17:27) You Need to Fight to Get That Brainwashing Undone (21:37) The Best Indication of What Your Next Five Years is Going to Look Like Q&A Section (27:01) "You Are Spartan Life Coach Man, You Feel Sad and Angry?" (31:03) "Please can you go...
Richard shares his experiences and wisdom from teaching self-defense and how it relates to human psychology. "Sad Baby" as an Abused Archetype follow-up: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7kvAiZTeJVgT3DPBPAN2Ay (05:30) Supra State as a mean to neutralize the threat (09:00) Being civilized vs. aggressively defending yourself (11:40) It's possible to unlock animal in you (12:35) How it all connects to trauma responses (14:16) Switching between stress responses (15:18) "Sad Baby" as a widespread per...
Why we need to forgive in order to heal, how forgiveness is acceptance, how the abuse we suffered can make us better humans, how to deal with rage, hatred and violence plus Q&A relevant to the topic (00:51) Forgiveness (01:55) You'll Never Heal Holding Hate (03:46) Forgiveness is Acceptance (04:55) A Mantra for Reclaiming Your Crown (05:53) Courage (06:26) Broadening the Philosophical Map (09:15) What is Hell (10:38) Only You Can Save You (11:22) How do you deal with feelings of hatred, rage...
Why Ayahuasca ceremonies can be dangerous, who attends them and who provides them, what can Ayahuasca do for you and what were some Richard's personal visions and insights (00:06) Disclaimer (03:10) Beginning of the Story (07:10) Spiritual Capitalism at It's Finest (12:35) Childhood Trauma and Ayahuasca Ceremony (18:42) Richard's Visions and Chat With Aya - Part 1 (25:36) Richard's Visions and Chat With Aya - Part 2 (27:18) Ayahuasca's Recipe for Pain and Suffering (28:50) Cows Are Living Beings...
For a codependent, making complaints can sometimes be difficult, but there are a few things you can do now to make it easier (0:01) Disclaimer for the Audience (0:18) Be Your Own Bodyguard (3:20) Being an Objective Solicitor (8:05) Check-in Your Emotions (9:30) Politeness and Business Language (10:21) Logical Fallacies (12:52) Richard's Example of Complaint (14:30) Framing the Interaction (22:00) Self-pity as a Self-indulgence (26:10) Richard's Short Story About His Recovery (31:00) You Have a R...
This is a recording of a full seminar dedicated to the topic of divorcing a narcissistic partner, held by three experts - Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon. (00:01) Introduction to the Seminar (05:33) The Beginning of Sara Davison’s Section: Personal Story (08:15) The Emotions of a Heartbreak and the Hamster Wheel Questions (11:32) Divorce Can Be a Great Opportunity if You Decide to Take It (14:06) Divorce Statistics and the Reasons of Divorce (15:20) The Stages of Divorce (20:34) How...
How to care for yourself, how to prepare for harder moments, acceptance, philosophical approach to suffering in life (0:42) "Mental Health" Simplified (3:22) Check Your Expectations (4:05) Resilience and Adaptivity (5:30) Never in Life There Are 2 Options (7:10) Don't Mask It
