This is inspired by the "No Country for Old Men" film and novel, which I believe confronts the audience with their narcissism. We will go through all the narcissism DSM traits, along with proposed antidotes to them. (00:27) Books Recommendation (02:39) Richard's Disclaimer About Him Going Political (06:15) "No Country for Old Men" as a Story Deconstructing Our Narcissism (12:43) Meta-narrative About Storytelling (Narcissism of the Audience) (13:29) The Red Pill Philosophy for Narcissism (15:59) ...
Nov 19, 2020•57 min
Narcissistic parent is prone to treat their child in either of two ways. Overpraising (Golden Child) or shunning and scapegoating (Black Sheep). What is the reason behind that kind of parenthood and how does it impact the children development? Find out in this episode. (01:10) The Big Long Screaming 'Nooo' of Denial (05:25) Narcissistic Shell (Reality Split) (08:40) Communication With NPD Through His Shield (11:16) No Boundaries and the Godlike Position NPD Takes (13:46) The Story of a Golden Ch...
Nov 18, 2020•40 min
Could Social Media be more healthy? These platforms could be completely redesigned, and even serve us better. Check out the suggestions how it could be done, alongside with an explanation of social media mechanisms. (00:03) The Most Recent Studies on the Toxicity of Social Media Part 1 (03:53) The Most Recent Studies on the Toxicity of Social Media Part 2 (07:47) What Can We Learn From These Studies? (08:28) Sam Vaknin’s Suggestions: Step 1 (11:50) Step 2 and Step 3 (14:37) A Few More Recommenda...
Nov 17, 2020•1 hr 49 min
Isn't it dangerous to crush people's optimism with a medical sounding condition? Depending on which filters/models you use to approach the symptoms, you will get different results. Realize how much of how we think about the problem impact our ability to solve it. There is no one and only way of looking at things. Consider the alternatives - you have a choice. (00:37) A Metaphor for the Violence Done to Human Psyche (03:11) How One's Skill of Sitting Alone Comfortably Have Been Warped (05:16) Ref...
Nov 16, 2020•13 min
How to get through 2020? How do we deal with what's coming next? This year poses many challenges. How to keep going AND come out stronger on the other side? Here is my short take on this. (00:01) Trauma Causing Warps in the Human System (04:18) How Does That Relate to 2020? (06:59) Altering Our Story & Focusing on Optimism (11:37) Coping, Humility and Being a Grown Up
Nov 15, 2020•16 min
Narcissism expert Sam Vaknin talks about a necessary and crucial modality change if NPD is to be treated. (00:14) Narcissistic Abuse Is A Plea For Help (04:00) Narcissists Associate Empathy With Pain (06:37) We Need To Treat Narcissists Like Traumatized Children (08:01) Sam Talks About Recreating The Traumatic Environment In The Therapeutic Context (13:00) The Issue Of Perceiving Narcissism As A Personality Disorder (16:06) The Problem Of Getting The NPD To The Therapeutic Environment (19:25) Sa...
Nov 14, 2020•23 min
Can your social status give you depression? You might have heard about a connection between depression and serotonin. And a connection between serotonin and your position in a social hierarchy. How does it really work? What is it that makes us and our neurochemistry happy? (00:27) Narcissistic Abuse Victim Syndrome (01:47) Depression/Trauma Causes Low Serotonin, Not the Other Way Around (02:40) The Social Hierarchy and Serotonin Levels Connection (03:59) Social Isolation as a Cause for Dropping ...
Nov 13, 2020•6 min
All about recovery from emotional abuse and CPTSD in this Q&A session, also including two live chats. (00:00) What does setting boundaries with ourselves exactly mean? (04:27) Richard Mentions His Experience and Qualifications (06:59) Cultivating the Virtue of Discipline (09:09) How to deal with anger and realization that you have been used? (20:11) How do you open yourself up to a relationship again after being in one with a narcissist? (22:29) Where do I begin to find a treatment or a ther...
Nov 12, 2020•1 hr 17 min
I've said for the past 6 years that I do not believe there could ever be a cure for narcissism. That position is something I've maintained because of the NPD impulse to dismantle the therapeutic process. If a narcissist could be convinced not to do that (and I explain a possible method of how this could be done in the video) then there is a CHANCE they could be healed. But it would be very, very difficult and the Narcissist, NOT the therapist, would have to be willing to put in extremely challen...
Nov 11, 2020•1 hr 1 min
This is a quick mnemonic that will make you remember to check, whether, and where, you've given your consent, so you're able to maintain your boundaries. (00:23) You Are the First Person You Need to Assert Boundaries With (02:11) It's Not Always Appropriate to Argue (Especially With Non-sincere Communicator) (03:07) The Biblical Origin of "Non Serviam"
Nov 10, 2020•5 min
This is a one, long response to a lady's email, giving a counselling on her problems. As our patterns are often similar, you may find some of these descriptions accurate to your situation, and the solutions presented helpful. (00:00) Hello (00:23) Eczema as a 'Thin Skin' (Boundaries) (02:42) Being Defensive of One's Parents is Natural (05:13) Massive Parental Expectations (06:47) Unclear Communication as a Manipulation (09:02) What is Overachiever Syndrome? (14:06) Self-parenting & Acknowled...
Nov 09, 2020•51 min
Remember how you were graded, and your performance reviewed over years and years by school and institutions? What could happen if we reverse that? How would it be like to actually review the situations and people in your life yourself? How empowering that could be? Let's find out! (00:01) Hello, Good Morning (02:25) Richard's Story About Being a Product in a Relationship (06:46) Is There a Consumer Mindset in Relationships & Where Does It Come From? (Grades and Reviews) (15:15) I Am Not Actu...
Nov 08, 2020•35 min
We often listen to the people in high positions, that aren't necessarily qualified to discuss the topics that they do. In this conversation with Sam Vaknin, we explore the phenomena of the Public Intellectual, and the problems we're facing. (0:00) What Is A Public Intellectual What Responsibilities Do They Have? (4:20) Why Is It Hard To Find A Real Public Intellectual These Days? (7:26) Expertise vs. Anti-Expertise (12:14) The Problem Of Celebrities Overtaking Qualifications (15:57) Fake It Till...
Nov 07, 2020•1 hr 17 min
Healing can be a long journey. It takes time, yet it brings delightful fruits on the way. Check out this discussion with two, very experienced coaches, Terry McCoy and Steve Heneghan if you want to hear their insights about recovering from emotional abuse. (00:07) Steve and Terry Talk About the Reasons Why They Quit Their Previous Jobs Part 1 (03:35) Steve and Terry Talk About the Reasons Why They Quit Their Previous Jobs Part 2 (06:37) Resentment as a Symptom of People Pleaser Syndrome (07:49) ...
Nov 06, 2020•1 hr 15 min
If you only heard about hypnosis from the mainstream, it's probably wrong. Why, and how it is mythologized? What can it REALLY do to people? Here's everything you need to know about hypnosis, including answers to many common questions! Check it out now! (00:00) How Hypnosis is Mythologized (03:16) The Truth of Hypnosis (07:34) How is It Possible to Fix Your Lifetime of Trouble That You've Never Been Able to Fix Just by Hypnosis? (12:58) Advice to Anybody Who Wants to Use Self-hypnosis (16:43) Th...
Nov 05, 2020•59 min
Differentiating emotional flashback from normal reaction, dating covert narcissist, sense of humor, dealing with people, and more in this Q&A session. (00:13) Talking About the Difficulty of Reading the “CPTSD: Form Surviving to Thriving” Book (00:13) Answering Questions About Seminars (04:38) How to Make a Decision (06:46) What’s the Difference Between an Emotional Flashback and Righteous Upsetness (07:33) Talking About Accents (10:47) Advice for a Person Who’s Dating a Covert Narcissist (1...
Nov 04, 2020•53 min
If there is one thing that can save every human right now, I believe it's this. The cure to the world's insanity. A medicine for your mind. A relief for your soul. That thing is... (00:07) Bombardment of Content Stressing the Cell (04:35) What Are You Letting Into Your Brain? (05:45) The Content Free Stillness (07:08) Overstimulating Spectacle of Content (12:02) Associate in Your Own Body, Your Own Space (And Let the Silence Be the Doctrine)...
Nov 03, 2020•16 min
Eckhart Tolle, meditation, MKUltra, social media and more covered in this Q&A Session from February 2019. (00:01) Hello (01:37) “How can we encourage others to get off social media?” (05:03) “Flat earth. Where do you stand on this?” (06:22) “Are you an atheist?” (08:09) Answering A Question About Doing An Interview With Gabor Mate (08:50) Answering A Question About Getting Off Social Media (11:10) Thoughts On Pickup Artists (14:09) “What are the points where you disagree with Eckhart Tolle?”...
Nov 02, 2020•47 min
What is the Dark Tetrad described by psychiatry? What are the predatory personalities tactics of manipulation? Find this out in this short excerpt from a seminar. (00:25) DSM's Cluster B, Dark Triad and Machiavellianism (02:27) Differences Between Disorders (03:44) Megalomania (05:12) The Zombie Curses and How Do They Work
Nov 01, 2020•8 min
Live Q&A Session recording from March 2019, covered topic include social media, BPD, mental health and more. (00:07) Stating Today’s Topic (02:20) Ending Up With A Slow Poisoning Effect Of A Dogma (04:53) What The Channel Grew Up From Part 1 (10:36) What The Channel Grew Up From Part 2 (12:41) Talking About Using Social Media In Order To Learn Together (14:31) Answering Short Questions (16:31) “Where Did Your Interest In The Effects Of Social Media Stem From?” (21:09) Talking About Using You...
Oct 31, 2020•1 hr 11 min
This is a short excerpt from a seminar, explaining that persistent annoying emotions might be unconscious alarms. (00:01) Can You Be at Peace With Yourself About Ex Narcissist? (00:43) Unconscious Sending You Signals (02:07) Panic Attack Signals (03:27) Reality Tunnels Built Around Beliefs
Oct 30, 2020•6 min
Whenever you've heard of "having no ego", "letting go of your ego", "killing your ego" etc. Remember that it's mostly watered-down, consumer-friendly western versions of very, very old eastern concepts. (01:59) Self-esteem Coming From the Unconscious Observing Your Actions (03:55) Definition of "The Ego" (05:44) "Having Ego" vs. Attachment to the Ego (09:07) The Maturity of Eastern Cultures (10:27) Everything is Context Specific (Including the Teachings) (12:01) How to Find a Better Source of Se...
Oct 29, 2020•14 min
In a long-term relationship, nothing is more important than its foundations. The real reasons why you're together. Just imagine: if you travel far away and it will take a lot of time and effort, you better make sure you're going in the right direction. And what is the right direction for you specifically, anyway? (00:03) Bonding to the Source of Pleasure is Not a Basis for a Long Term Relationship (02:23) I Do Believe in Them - You Just Have to be Careful (03:41) Evolutionary Basis for People to...
Oct 28, 2020•11 min
The cultural standards of masculinity can really badly impact men mental health. Every human need the connection and the ability to just be OK with what he feels. How great would it be if we could change these societal expectations towards men. (00:01) The Issue of an Implicit Culturally Indoctrinated Expectation on Men to Be Strong (04:00) Being Incompetent and Vulnerable is a Natural Human State (07:33) We Need to Create Some Kind of Space in Which Men Can Feel Okay With Saying “I’m not okay” ...
Oct 27, 2020•30 min
Ok, I get that: it's not that useful to overlabel or overmedicalize things. Yet, in SOME situations, with certain people you find yourself abondoning what's good for you. In certain contexts you just go along, not really knowing why. So what is really going on there and how can we better tackle that? Listen in now to find out! Find the course mentioned here: https://spartanlifecoach.com/coachingsummomingtheself/ (00:03) So You're Not Really a Codependent, BUT... (03:44) Better Psychological Term...
Oct 26, 2020•16 min
We operate in the world thanks to our internal maps. Have you found yourself always ending up in the same place? What could happen if you change these maps then? Check it out now! (00:01) Getting Started (00:40) Internal Maps Based on Meaning and Value Moving Into Morality (03:50) If You Are Trying and Failing to Overcome a Trauma, the Only Route Out That's Gonna Last is a Deep Change in Your Philosophical Outlook (07:04) Talking About Neuroplasticity (12:05) Responding to Comments (15:29) Talki...
Oct 18, 2020•45 min
"Do they have broken self worth....one half perceiving they are wonderful the other half thinking they are dreadful?" They have no self worth. Now, wait for this because it's a mind twister: The NPD has no "healthy narcissism". The two halves you speak of are the two halves Sam talks about that form the NPD personality: true self and false self. Or "authentic" self and "hyper idealised" self. It's a constant desperate fleeing from one polarity to another. The NPD is created by being torn and twi...
Oct 17, 2020•7 min
How to rapidly recover through contacting our emotions, a technique for that, 1984 propaganda, and more, including Q&A session. (01:33) What Happens When Someone is Traumatized (05:34) How to Deal With It (10:31) Magic of the Right Question (15:11) Mind Map Steps (17:55) Positive Emotions and Exercises (20:38) Past Emotions and Exercises (24:21) Contact With Your Emotions Will Help You (28:55) Codependence & Placebo Connection (39:12) Inquisition Game Through Ages (47:18) How to Resist (...
Oct 16, 2020•1 hr 20 min
Affirmations are bit tricky when it comes people with CPTSD. The risk of triggering is much higher. Why? And why would an affirmation trigger anyone? Despite the risk, used properly, affirmations can be a great tool in your recovery. In this episode, we'll dive into the specifics of how to help yourself with affirmations. (00:04) Hello (00:50) What If Your Thoughts Do Create Reality? (05:58) Conditioning And Strengthening The Mind (08:02) The Universe... What Does That Even Mean? (12:18) We All ...
Oct 15, 2020•1 hr 59 min
How to understand what boundaries are (both external and internal), why they are a MUST HAVE, what happens when we're lacking them and how it connects with drug use and relationships. Get the course mentioned here: https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmzZ (00:18) We Formulate Meaning by Creating Attachments (02:42) Disclaimer of How I Use the Term 'Codependency' (06:58) Interesting Comparisons in Vampire's Stories and Codependency (11:07) Why Codependent Has No Boundaries? (12:5...
Oct 14, 2020•30 min
