#188: Discover the many reasons we take things personally, what becomes possible when we stop taking things personally, and the keys to reframing this habit. I’m showing you the role of codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing in this cycle, and all of my favorite tools for beginning to slowly remove negative self-talk from your inner and outer dialogue. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/188...
Sep 22, 2022•41 min
#187: Join me this week as I show you what drama is, what it isn’t, why you may find yourself at the center of drama more often than you’d like. And of course, I share what you can do about it and the remedies to creating or participating in drama so you start to see it more as a choice rather than an inevitability. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/187
Sep 15, 2022•38 min
#186: I’m sitting down with one of our members of the most recent cohort of Anchored, Natalie, to share her experience of being inside Anchored and the transformations she’s witnessed since being a part of our community. In her work as a management consultant and as a busy mama of two, she felt it was her work to prioritize deeper connection and growth, and as you’ll hear, that’s exactly what she did. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/186...
Sep 08, 2022•33 min
#185: Tune in this week to understand the murky waters of disorganized attachment, and see how we can develop more secure ways of moving through the world. I’m sharing how to see where disorganized attachment might be showing up through your habits, or those of the people you love, so you can show up with compassion, curiosity, and care for yourself or anyone else who needs it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/185...
Sep 01, 2022•33 min
#184: This week, I’m diving into avoidant attachment and grounding you in what secure attachment can look and feel like so you have a vision of what’s possible. Discover the hallmarks of avoidant attachment and the remedies so you can start your journey into a more secure attachment style. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/184
Aug 25, 2022•35 min
#183: Join me this week for the first of a three-part attachment styles deep dive. You’ll discover how attachment theory often shows up, why attachment styles don’t mean anything about who you are, and how you can apply them to shift your relationships. And make sure to keep tuning in over the coming weeks as I continue nerding out on this topic. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/183
Aug 18, 2022•51 min
#182: This week, I’m delighted to share a conversation I had with Sarah Gottesdiener of the Moonbeaming podcast: a show for the modern witch and magical critical thinker. We had a conversation over on her podcast about all things nervous system healing, codependency, and the patriarchy, and we’re continuing our discussion here. She’s showing us what it can look like to use magic for healing, connection, and making heart-centered decisions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://v...
Aug 11, 2022•47 min
#181: If you hear that voice telling you to just watch Netflix, relax, and ignore the world, I’m showing you how to feel grounded, present, and calm while you sit in that resistance, so you can move toward life’s challenges while honoring your nervous system, feeling connected, and creating safety. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/181
Aug 04, 2022•28 min
#180: Discover why the way we typically address resistance is one I find problematic from a nervous system standpoint, and how to shift how you think and talk about it. I’m offering my five-step process for lovingly supporting yourself in the presence of resistance, and I’ll be back next week to get into the nitty-gritty how-to remedies. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/180
Jul 28, 2022•28 min
#179: Tune in this week to discover the power of healing in community. Ghostwriter Roxanne Darrow is sharing how being in the Anchored community and using the tools we teach there helped her prioritize her human needs, and shift her lifestyle to align with what she wanted and needed in her life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/179
Jul 21, 2022•44 min
#178: Discover how to start imagining your future self, and why calling on that version of yourself keeps you focused on the growth and healing you’re seeking. I’m showing you how I like utilizing the concept of my future self and why we’re able to become agents of massive change when we step into a loving relationship with our past, present, and future selves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/178
Jul 14, 2022•38 min
#177: Join us this week as Anchored community member Monica lets you in on their favorite takeaways from being inside the Anchored community and alumni program. They’re sharing what helped them most in creating profound shifts in their life, and the deep wounds and patterns they’ve healed to find so much freedom in who they truly are in this world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/177
Jul 07, 2022•54 min
After processing my own emotions and response to the overturning of Roe v. Wade last week, I feel ready to talk about it with you, my loves. This ruling feels gut-wrenching to so many of us. You might also be feeling numb, angry, sad, overwhelmed, helpless... I understand, my darling, I do, and I want to honor all of those responses. Listen in to hear what you can do - even if you think there's nothing you can do - for yourself and the future of all humans with uteruses if you are so called. Ple...
Jul 01, 2022•19 min
#176: If you want to live a more present, embodied, and intentional life, I invite you to love on your past self. I’m showing you why going down a road of self-flagellation does no good for you, how to be kind to your past, present, and future self, and the remedies for the habit of self-judgment that is keeping you stagnant in old self-concept stories. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/176
Jun 30, 2022•25 min
#175: This week, I'm joined by powerhouse life coach Molly Goodman to talk about what bought her to Anchored, the changes she made while she was inside the group, and how being inside helped her understand her purpose as a coach. She’s speaking to the power of our community, and how true, sustainable healing comes from a slow and steady progression in a different direction. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/175...
Jun 23, 2022•51 min
#174: This week, I guide you through polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation. I’m showing you how to get present with your felt experience, and how, from there, you can interact with, regulate, and have ownership of your nervous system patterns so you can stop living from the neck up and come home to your body. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/174
Jun 16, 2022•41 min
#173: I am beyond delighted to share a conversation with one of my Anchored clients with you this week. Ali Zamora is a nurse practitioner in family medicine who works in San Bernardino County, California. Her story is an incredible case study in overcoming codependency that I know you’ll all find super inspiring, and she’s here to share her experience with us. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/173
Jun 09, 2022•45 min
#172: This week, I wanted to take a moment to discuss the collective grief and specific suffering of families who have lost loved ones. Holding loving, compassionate space for our painful feelings is so important. It’s the key to opening your heart to all the joys of life. Life is, after all, both light and shadow. But how do we feel our feelings while staying grounded, without totally spiraling out in the pain of it all? Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/...
Jun 02, 2022•34 min
#171: Tune in this week as I show you why and how we embody the trope of the rescuer. You’ll discover the difference between the desire to rescue and supporting, and why recognizing this difference is crucial for healing codependent thought habits. I’m also sharing the remedies for stepping out of the rescuer role, and how supporting others is the basis for an interdependent framework for living. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/171...
May 26, 2022•33 min
#170: Tune in this week as I invite you to shine a light on your own thought patterns so you can better understand your nervous system, reparent your inner children, and ultimately, move forward in whichever way you choose. Hard truths can be challenging to face, but I’m guiding you through the remedies so you can hold yourself in a high enough regard to go after what you truly want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/170...
May 19, 2022•25 min
#169: This week, I’m showing you how to lean into your intuition and discernment as you approach challenging relationships. I’m guiding you through the remedy to feeling stuck in wondering if this relationship is serving you, and how to get real with the complexity of it all. Make sure you tune in for part two next week! Get full how notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/169
May 12, 2022•38 min
#168: Tune in this week as I show you why living in regret is a form of self-exile and self-abandonment. Discover how regret is a self-centered and short-sighted way of being, why getting mired in regret is not the solution, and instead, how to live a less painful life full of love and compassion for yourself and others. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/168
May 05, 2022•31 min
#167: Tune in this week as I walk you through the paradigm of emotionally immature parents. You’ll discover why labeling your parent(s) as emotionally immature can be helpful here, how to tell if you’re doing the lion’s share of emotional labor in your relationship, and what to expect when you decide to stop taking responsibility for their emotions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/167
Apr 28, 2022•34 min
#166: Listen in this week as I invite you to embrace your perfect expression of cakey-ness and show you what it means to be the cake in your life. You’ll discover the telltale signs you’re not being the cake, and why letting other people in your life be the icing on your cake is so incredibly powerful. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/166
Apr 21, 2022•32 min
#165: This week, hear stylist and Master Certified life coach Judith Gaton unpack the beautiful rebellion it is to understand your style and to embrace it confidently. We discuss the difference between fashion and style, why style does not make your activism less impactful, and how to show yourself love and care through clothes. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/165
Apr 14, 2022•48 min
#164: This week, I offer my favorite remedies for healing the self-abandonment cycle. I’m sharing my tips for how to intervene when you notice the cycle playing out in your life, and I’ll be guiding you through using somatic work, tuning into your nervous system, as well as when and where to practice thought work. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/164
Apr 07, 2022•30 min
#163: Join me this week as I lay out the self-abandonment cycle so many of us unwittingly put ourselves through. I’m showing you what the self-abandonment cycle sounds and looks like, why years of pent-up feelings of not being seen or appreciated often come out sideways, and how to start raising your awareness about how this cycle might be playing out for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/163
Mar 31, 2022•30 min
#162: Join me this week as I give you the lowdown on what Clean Fight Club Rules are, and a list of my own that you can borrow from. I’m sharing some of the limits I set, and why recognizing and honoring these limits makes it easier to be vulnerable, open, and available for real-talk conversations. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/162
Mar 24, 2022•20 min
#161: Join me this week as I show you how to rethink conflict to have a healthier relationship with it. I’m offering some of the most common ways we tend to relate to challenging conversations, and six ways I help myself stay present, calm, and grounded when it comes to conversations where there might be differing points of view. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/161
Mar 17, 2022•19 min
#160: Find out what conflict is and how we tend to approach it from our codependent thought habits. I’m sharing eight ways we actually cause conflict without knowing it, and why we’re so terrified of engaging in what might be a disagreement or argument. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/160
Mar 10, 2022•34 min
