#159: Listen in this week as I re-share one of my favorite episodes with you all about the hazards of false positivity. I’m showing you why we feel the compulsion to gloss over our true feelings with false positivity, why this is especially prevalent amongst marginalized identities, and how to begin letting it go so you can live an authentic and intentional life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/159...
Mar 03, 2022•32 min
#158: This week, find out how vital quality friendships are. I’m showing you why it’s not kind to our romantic partners to expect them to be everything for us, how to start fostering intimate friendships, and what I personally value in all of my friendships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/158
Feb 24, 2022•36 min
#157: Discover why we subconsciously gloss over relationship red flags and why they’re actually gifts not to be ignored. I’m offering some powerful questions to help you get curious, and from there, you’ll be able to start healing your scripts about safety and belonging in all of your relationships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/157
Feb 17, 2022•28 min
#156: Tune in this week for a conversation with the amazing AstroTwins. They’re sharing how their work and discoveries as astrologists have influenced their feminist outlook on the world and continues to do so. We’re discussing how even a true skeptic can take a scientific approach to playing with astrology, and how the planets can guide you to true self-acceptance. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/156...
Feb 10, 2022•1 hr 1 min
#155: Discover why privacy matters, the immense benefits of developing a robust private life, and examples of healthy privacy in relationships. I’m showing you what you should be sharing with your partners, what is yours to keep, and how to navigate privacy within different attachment styles. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/155
Feb 03, 2022•26 min
#154: For years, I believed keeping things secret was the smarter, safer way to live because if no one saw the real, true, vulnerable me, they couldn’t hurt me, right? The topic of secrecy is an incredibly important one to get clear on for those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, so this is what we’re diving into today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/154
Jan 27, 2022•31 min
Get ready for a nerd-out session with me as I dive into inner child science, how it’s not about blaming our parents, and why we want to embark on this journey of rewriting our relationships with ourselves. I’m showing you the clues to look out for that signal doing this work could be supportive for you, and the key takeaways I’ve learned from doing this work in my own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/153...
Jan 20, 2022•36 min
January feels to me like a sacred invitation to go inward, to slow down, do less, and support myself in ways I may not have been allowing myself to. Wintering has been on my mind a lot lately, so this week, I’m giving you permission to pause, breathe, and give yourself the gift of quiet and stillness. Join me this week for a short and sweet episode as I encourage you to winter and discover what’s possible for you on the other side of rushing and busyness. Get full show notes and more information...
Jan 13, 2022•12 min
Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after. This week I offer some remedies to spinning in resolution-setting so you can commit to the changes you want to make this year. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/151
Jan 06, 2022•32 min
Be they romantic, friendships, work, familial, or otherwise, thinking about your wants and needs in this context matters. This week, I offer five reasons you might have a habit of expecting other people to meet your emotional wants and needs and vice versa. As always, I’m sharing remedies for this thought error so you can stop turning over your agency to somebody else, and instead, state all of your beautiful wants and needs and meet them yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: ...
Dec 30, 2021•35 min
If like so many humans socialized as women, you’ve been taught to believe having wants and needs makes you a burden or a bother, and that it’s better to pretend you don’t have any, this is your work, and I’m showing you why it matters so deeply. Tune in this week as I share six reasons why letting your wants guide you is so important, how denying them is eroding your self-trust, and a simple exercise to get you in touch with, own, and go after your desires. Get full show notes and more informati...
Dec 23, 2021•23 min
I'm offering some common examples of how we confuse our wants and needs, and the forces that play a part in our disconnection from what we truly desire. I’m poking holes in the stories that have you giving your power away to others in this context so that in the coming weeks, you can begin living with more freedom and agency. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/148
Dec 16, 2021•27 min
Tune in this week for my all-or-nothing thinking remedies! I’m exploring how this pattern developed for us folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, why staying in this framework is such a disservice to you, and the hints to look out for that signal you might need to pause and consider what’s true. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/147
Dec 09, 2021•36 min
Discover how all-or-nothing thinking is part and parcel of our codependent framework for living, and the most common reasons we develop this habit. I’m showing you the power of learning to see the nuance and complexity of our human experience, and because I know this is a lot, make sure to tune in next week for some practical remedies to begin shifting this kind of thinking for good! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/146...
Dec 02, 2021•30 min
Tune in to hear Dana drop some amazing tools that will help you get a headstart on finding peace and calm this time of year. She’s giving us insight on how to plan for the worst-case scenarios, what setting boundaries can look like, and her best tips for supporting yourself in pausing the buffering cycle. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/145
Nov 25, 2021•55 min
Discover why I believe the love languages framework is an amazing tool for examining our internal thought rubrics. I’m offering some common thought patterns we may have around giving and receiving love, and showing you why this can be a super fun tool for opening up communication about your preferences. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/144
Nov 18, 2021•34 min
This week, I'm showing you why letting other people be wrong about you is the magical secret to joy. It’s completely normal for us to want to jump to correct others, but I’m showing you why this is a waste of your precious resources, what is driving this need to be right, and how to start focusing on your own deeply anchored self-worth. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/143
Nov 11, 2021•30 min
This week, I'm sharing the relationship green flags from my own life that I’ve cultivated over the years. I’m inviting you to see what resonates for your mind, body, and spirit, and to not just see if your dates and friends are bringing these energies to your connections, but if you are showing up in this way too, and why or why not. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/142
Nov 04, 2021•37 min
My sister Genie Albina is on the show this week and I could not be more excited! We're discussing what we can do to raise kids towards interdependence and reparent ourselves in this direction. Genie is highlighting some key components of prioritizing interdependence for ourselves and our kids, and sharing her best tips for facilitating radical honesty in your communication. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/141...
Oct 28, 2021•52 min
This week, I invite you to not only learn to honor your no but applaud yourself for practicing it. Honoring you is a vital part of healing your mind-body-spirit and a huge thing for us to celebrate. I’m showing you why saying no feels so challenging right now, why putting yourself chronically last is not loving, and how to begin living from integrity. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/140
Oct 21, 2021•32 min
This week, I'm showing you why our romantic relationships are where our codependent habits tend to show up. I’m laying out the top 5 challenges we face in dating as codependent folk, and of course, as always, my best remedies to help you begin seeing that you are 100% worthy of love and care in all of your relationships. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/139
Oct 14, 2021•39 min
Listen in as Alea and I discuss not only the path to breaking through perfectionism, but also the key feminist principles that guide us, the difference between empathy as a gift versus being problematic, and our thoughts on being in oneness versus the rugged individualism we so often see in modern-day America. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/138
Oct 07, 2021•1 hr 10 min
This week, I'm sharing 3 tools I’ve used to manage my inner critic. I’m showing you how your inner critic is just a human part that we all have, why we so often believe what it tells us, and how to begin discerning between your gremlin and your highest, most loving self. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/137
Sep 30, 2021•27 min
In this replay episode, I’m showing you how a life filled with intention is so gratifying, and yes, it can be yours too. By no means is beginning to live life on your own terms easy, but I’m offering some guiding questions to help you get radically honest about what you want because, my love, you deserve it, and I know you’ve got this. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/136
Sep 23, 2021•33 min
This week I show you how to begin the practice of nervous system resourcing. This is a process all about learning to have your own back in moments of sympathetic and dorsal shutdown, or where you find your anxious or avoidant attachment systems getting activated, and instead come home to and anchor deeply in you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/135
Sep 16, 2021•34 min
One pattern I see in all of my clients (and even myself in those moments where I’m not checking my thoughts) is the tendency to catastrophize. Tune in this week to discover how to reparent yourself with love and compassion, so you can break free from this cycle, find the middle path, and catch yourself when your brain tries to throw you back into catastrophe. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/134...
Sep 09, 2021•40 min
If you currently believe the BS story that self-flagellation is the key to change, listen in. I’m showing you why this only leads to more perfectionism and codependency, and how to begin using “Of Course You Did” to tap into curiosity and compassion for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/133
Sep 02, 2021•26 min
Tune in this week as I show you how, while niceness is beautiful, being kind goes so much further. I’m showing you why being nice is rooted in codependency, how kindness goes hand in hand with doing this mindset and body-based work, and the power of committing to showing up in a way that feels real to you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/132
Aug 26, 2021•27 min
Tune in this week to listen to my coaching call with Kelly. And if you want the same level of growth, expert coaching, and my full attention for six months, I invite you to check out Anchored and see how it’s the perfect place to begin releasing your codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits to live your life for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/131
Aug 19, 2021•55 min
Discover what anxious relationship rushing looks like, why we feel the need to do this, and of course, the remedies. There is so much pleasure, ease, alignment, and intention available to you when you can slow your roll, and I’m guiding you through how to begin doing so this week. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/130
Aug 12, 2021•27 min
