It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Observational Distance Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. [email protected]...
Jun 14, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 59
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Episode 29: Allegra Alexithymia Alexithymia questionnaire Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. [email protected]...
Jun 07, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 22, 2021•26 min
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 19, 2021•23 min
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 17, 2021•26 min
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burn...
Jan 18, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 57
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome Bell’s Poultry S...
Nov 17, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 56
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Underbelly Yoga Nap Ministry A Slob Comes Clean Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon...
Nov 02, 2020•58 min•Season 1Ep. 55
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 04: The Abyss Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurv...
Oct 26, 2020•54 min•Season 1Ep. 54
What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Episode 52: Trust Attachment theory Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor Candide - Make Our Garden Grow Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! [email protected] Instagram Tw...
Oct 19, 2020•59 min•Season 1Ep. 53
How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Books by Dr. Sue Johnson Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton Episode 08: The Monitor Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series...
Oct 12, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 52
Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross lorettaross.com Schadenfreude Mandy Patinkin’s twitter Mandy Patinkin’s love song...
Oct 05, 2020•39 min•Season 1Ep. 51
Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 31: Social Support Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 08: The Monitor Episode 28: Foop Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 35: Too Much Connection E...
Sep 28, 2020•36 min•Season 1Ep. 50
Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: "The Elephant and the Rider" The Happiness Hypothesis Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You Multiple trace theory...
Sep 21, 2020•46 min•Season 1Ep. 49
Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Episode 29: Allegra Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog Auliʻi Cravalho Hattie McDaniel The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With the ...
Sep 14, 2020•57 min•Season 1Ep. 48
Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 Episode 03:...
Sep 07, 2020•40 min•Season 1Ep. 47
What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https://twit...
Aug 31, 2020•44 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: https://www...
Aug 24, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 45
Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J...
Aug 17, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 44
So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsurv...
Aug 10, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 43
Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m******** ing kindness and m ********ing compassion. ******** Transtheoretical model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support Self-Therapy: ...
Aug 03, 2020•52 min•Season 1Ep. 42
The Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma: https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/ Health at Every Size: https://haescommunity.com Episode 11: The Bubble of Love: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 40: Food: It's C...
Jul 27, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press: https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title Episode 18: The New Hotness https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness...
Jul 20, 2020•46 min•Season 1Ep. 40
Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery. ******** Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 Hario V60 pour over coffee: https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60 Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor...
Jul 13, 2020•34 min•Season 1Ep. 39
As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper. SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/ Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2...
Jul 06, 2020•58 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Ode to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/was-beethoven-black-and-why-might-be-wrong-question-ask-180975159/ Joy playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw Schubert: Symphony No.9 ...
Jun 29, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 37
This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice. ******** Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song) Kung Fu Panda https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise) Chickpea To C...
Jun 22, 2020•41 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk Social Distance podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/ Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support The Noonday Demon: http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/ Raising Your Spirited Child, Third E...
Jun 15, 2020•40 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/ Jane Eyre https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre Bertha Mason (The Mad...
Jun 08, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend) ******** Kimmy Vs. The Reverend: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/ EMDR Therapy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing Emily’s romance novels: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go Ep...
Jun 01, 2020•26 min•Season 1Ep. 33
