Your Something Larger can be anything. Even Captain Phasma. And especially Chewbacca. Time for a little escapism this week. Not a Disney fan? It’s OK. It all maps out to ventral spaces, Polyvagal Theory and accessibility, too. Content warning for a tragic but not graphic story of an accident at the resort from about 53 - 56 min. Links: Latchkey kid FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Insights from Disney’s 30-Foot Trash Can Rule Disney’s Polynesian Village resort music loop (Youtube) (If you ...
Apr 03, 2025•1 hr 26 min•Season 2Ep. 15
tl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body. There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Links: FutureCanoe (Youtube) BlackForager (Youtube) Internet Shaquille (Youtube) What Cooking is Like for Someone Who Doesn't Cook (Youtube) Tasting History...
Mar 20, 2025•48 min•Season 2Ep. 14
Let’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house without looking like a hobo. Maybe it’s OK to not be a minimalist in all things? Definitely stick around to the VERY end. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean Dawn the Minimal Mom Indyx app Are you Ready Dot Gov? Nicholas Boulton on Cameo Ma...
Mar 12, 2025•47 min•Season 2Ep. 13
If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear. Help is available right away. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - website Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - website Links: FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the Fire Is This a Coup? An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing...
Mar 06, 2025•1 hr 29 min•Season 2Ep. 12
Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering. Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject **** Links: Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean https://www.aslobcomesclean.com This Is Your Brain on Music: THE SC...
Feb 28, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 11
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here. Links: Project for Awesome Wax Oil Wick...
Feb 14, 2025•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 10
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome This American Life: 81 words Hannah Gadsby: Douglas Emily’s NYT profile...
Feb 05, 2025•51 min•Season 2Ep. 9
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral. Links: Saturn Ion (Wikipedia) FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets) Dana K. White Cas Aarssen (Youtube) Kay Patterson (Youtube) Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list) KonMari method FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial C...
Jan 30, 2025•1 hr 18 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult. Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care. Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end. Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode Follow Amelia's Youtube channel here ...
Jan 09, 2025•1 hr 23 min•Season 2Ep. 7
Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us. Links: Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple (The pose is at about 4:40) Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada The Burnout workbook (Did you know there's a workbook??) The Burnout workbo...
Jan 02, 2025•56 min•Season 2Ep. 6
You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube) Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series (Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.) The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)...
Dec 23, 2024•48 min•Season 2Ep. 5
Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Vagus Nerve Exteroception Interoception Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms Glimmers Borders Books and Music (RIP) FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four) website : podcast feed FSP2020 episode 49: How to Dreams website : podcast feed...
Dec 13, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life. Links: Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10) Kakistocracy Sari van Anders Anne Fausto-Sterling ALOK Will and Harper (Netflix show)...
Dec 06, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Let it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance we talk about in the episode.) New York City draft riots The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green , who is a real person who actually created the cartoon. KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco Coleman Barks Rumi translations...
Nov 27, 2024•53 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Finding steady ground Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible) Words to Win By podcast The New Jim Crow (book) A Force More Powerful Bringing Down a Dictator In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts...
Nov 20, 2024•51 min•Season 2Ep. 1
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope...
Nov 13, 2024•15 min•Season 1Ep. 64
The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon And everywhere else you get podcasts!...
Nov 16, 2022•24 min
Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it. ********** LINKS: Loki Neuroplastic pain Polyvagal Theory The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Amelia’s Youtube channel Come As You Are (signed by Emily) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random H...
Jul 26, 2021•46 min•Season 1Ep. 63
The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra) Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us” Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water” Come As You Are (signed by Emily) What I Talk About When I Talk About Running Self-Therapy No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model An Actor Prepares (Paperback) ...
Jul 12, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 62
Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: Proprioception YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book) Underbelly Yoga Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. [email protected]...
Jun 28, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 61
You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception. ************ LINKS: Interoception Underbelly Yoga Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. [email protected]...
Jun 20, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 60
It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Observational Distance Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. [email protected]...
Jun 14, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 59
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Episode 29: Allegra Alexithymia Alexithymia questionnaire Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. [email protected]...
Jun 07, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 22, 2021•26 min
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 19, 2021•23 min
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gma...
Feb 17, 2021•26 min
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burn...
Jan 18, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 57
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome Bell’s Poultry S...
Nov 17, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 56
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Underbelly Yoga Nap Ministry A Slob Comes Clean Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon...
Nov 02, 2020•58 min•Season 1Ep. 55
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 04: The Abyss Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! ...
Oct 26, 2020•54 min•Season 1Ep. 54
