A podcast for feminists who feel overwhelmed and exhausted by everything they need to do, and still worry that we're not doing enough - hosted by Emily and Amelia Nagoski, authors of BURNOUT: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.
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Let’s talk about something pleasant. Emily and Amelia discuss the books, videos and what have you that are making them happy this year. It’s time to get ventral. Links: Libby app (borrow library books and audiobooks) Brandon Sanderson THE STORMLIGHT ARCHIVE Thursday Murder Club series Alexis Hall 10 Things That Never Happened Boyfriend Material Paris Daillencourt Is About To Crumble The Affair of the Mysterious Letter Nicholas Boulton (the world's best audiobook narrator) Come As You Are: Revise...
The holidays are coming. What do you do if you have family whose politics you abhor? Turns out it depends. Stick around to the end for Amelia’s highly specific take on The Grinch. Links: Knitting Cult Lady: Youtube Instagram Uncultured (book) The Culting of America (pre-order!) Thought-terminating cliché Green Dot program bystander interventions : • Direct • Delegate • Distract Lindsay Ellis: The Unforgivable Sin of Ms Rachel (Youtube) Kaelynn Partlow (Youtube) FSP S01 E08: The Monitor Podcast Y...
Turns out Emily actually does have a Shadow. And she’s a half-orc wizard. Links: The Science of Saving Your Sex Life To Maximize Your Potential, Maximize Pleasure Sign up for Emily’s mailing list How AIDS Remained an Unspoken—But Deadly—Epidemic for Years Brennan Lee Mulligan Aabria Iyengar Emily & Amelia Nagoski, Burnout - XOXO Festival (2019) Vivian Gussin Paley This American Life - Dolls...
Do you have a bubble of love? Do you know how to build one? Emily and Amelia discuss how they managed to do it, and how Frozen is more than just a kiddie movie. Links: Burnout FSP 2020 episode 11: The Bubble of Love The Burnout Workbook, by Amelia Do You Want to Build a Snowman? (Youtube) FSP 2020 S2 E27: Diving into the Shadow: An Introduction...
The days are getting shorter. It’s going to be colder soon. It’s time to get cozy. It’s time to get… hygge. Candles and pumpkins and cheese, oh my! Links: Books by Tricia Hersey: Rest Is Resistance We Will Rest! Nothing Much Happens podcast Neuroma Vermont Creamery Cremont Tasting History on real eggnog (Youtube)...
Amelia had a painfully costly month. Emily bought Crocs that look like Big Bird’s feet. But in the end, they find the true meaning of No Buy / Low Buy. Links: Danger zone (food safety) Innocence (Opera composed by Kaija Saariaho) Dyslexie Font The Big Short (film)...
For every personality trait, there is a shadow. Emily and Amelia discuss Shadow Work and do just a touch of dream analysis. Links: Carl Jung Jungian archetypes Mapping Your Emotional Floor Plan: A comic by Erika Moen based on Come Together Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview) Monica's Secret Closet | Friends FSP Season 2, Episode 22: The Magic Trick of Transcendence Locus of control Stepmomming Made Easy (preorder) No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz WeRateDogs Rebecca Dupas - HOW...
Emily confesses to a migraine induced mullet. Amelia discusses Hidradenitis Suppurativa and effective strategies for going to a medical provider with a hypothesis and being taken seriously. (Much like the dizziness episode, we’d love to hear from you if learning about HS helps you understand something that is affecting you) Links: Hidradenitis suppurativa Mast cell activation syndrome Bringing HS (Hidradenitis Suppurativa) Out Of The Dark | Jackson Gillies | TEDxSantaBarbara FSP Season 2, Episod...
Emily’s been confronting just how dizzy she is all the time. Emily and Amelia discuss brain stems, car accidents, and disability. If you experience some of the same issues as Emily, please drop us a line at feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Links: Dizziness Handicap Inventory (PDF) Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS) FSP 2025: The Car Accident Experience Intermittent claudication Lindy Hop Vestibular Migraine Orthostatic intolerance Minnie Van Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking th...
Amelia has thoughts about the costs (and benefits) masking, as well as being a vestigial toe. Links: Unmasking for Life by Devon Price (Recommended) Interoception Alexithymia The Autistic Burnout Workbook by Megan Anna Neff (Recommended) Extraordinary Attorney Woo Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview) A rad comic about emotional floor plans by Erika Moen (Based on Emily's book, Come Together. ) A Black Lady Sketch Show: No Makeup (Youtube) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stre...
Turns out twin siblings can learn something new about each other after forty-plus years. Amelia isn’t sure if they’re allowed to go to Pride. Image: What it looks like to nap during a parade. Links: Non-binary (gender identity) Agender (gender identity) Mercury Stardust: The Trans Handy Ma'am Sweet Honey in the Rock How To Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom by Johanna Hedva Unmasking for Life by Devon Price Woodworking by Emily St. James...
This week, Emily talks to Dr. Donna Oriowo about Donna's new book, "Drink Water and Mind Your Business." Donna will change your life. tl; dr: Other people may have more than you, but they are not WORTH more than you. Drink Water & Mind Your Business: A Black Woman’s Guide to Unlearning the BS & Healing Self-Esteem by Dr. Donna Oriowo Buy Donna's book from: Amazon Barnes & Noble Sourcebooks Loyalty Bookstore Join Donna's In My Black Feelings group Follow @dr.donnaoriowo on: Instagram ...
Transcendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss. Come Together (by Emily) Chapter 12: The Magic Trick Audiobook on Audible Signed paperbacks at Book Moon The Neurobiology of “We” by Daniel J. Siegel Entrainment “The Mere Co-Presence: Synchronization of Autonomic Signals and Emotional Responses Across Co-Present Individuals Not Engaged in Direct Interaction” by Yulia Golland, Yossi Arzouan, and Nava Levit- Binnun via PubM...
Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery. Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle. (Do you subscribe to Emily's newsletter? You can sign up here for free .) Links: FSP2025: We’re Stronger Than the Fire Apple Podcasts • Spotify • Youtube In an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. Complete the stress response cy...
Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Revenged in the making of this podcast. tl;dr Make the best choices you can with the resources you have. You’re absolutely allowed to try restrictions on your food, to find out what works for you. You're also absolutely allowed not to restrict your food. Recognize that since we’re all making the best choices we can with the resources we have available, as ...
Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern! (From now until the end of the Murderbot show.) It’s hard not to shop when the things you rely on are discontinued or out of stock. Hashtag Supply Chain. Let’s see how Amelia’s been managing. None of these are affiliate links: IKEA ARTBUSKE cactus watering can Derma E Tea Tree Vitamin E Antiseptic Cream (Discontinued, it looks like.) Thunderpants tomboyx George Howell Coffee - we love, love, love a real ligh...
You need to pinky swear you listened to the previous episode before you listen to this one. We’re trusting you. Links: Season 2, Episode 2: We’re Stronger Than the Fire Lebanon Bologna (Sausagepedia) Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Good Calories, Bad Calories by Gary Taubes Every Time Brennan Has Talked About Loving Heavy Food [Compilation] (from Gastronauts on dropout.tv , this is on Youtube) Salt Sugar Fat by Michael Moss Ultra-Processed People by Chris van Tulleken...
We're going to talk about food and nutrition next week. But first, we need to talk about beauty. Spoiler warning: You're beautiful. Links: Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern! (From now until the end of Murderbot.) Bob the Drag Queen ⭐️ Drink Water and Mind Your Business by Dr. Donna Oriowo ⭐️ (Emily loves this book and blurbed it!) Get it from: Sourcebooks Amazon Book Moon Books Dr. Yaba Blay The Whites of Our Eyes is a short documentary film that follows Dr. Y...
Amelia leads this week, reflecting on what it’s like to be disabled in public. They’ve got some really helpful rules for everyone who wants to help. tl;dr When it comes to helping, ask first. And listen to what they need. There’s a bit of Disney, too.
Emily and Amelia discuss the art and science behind the appeal of Disney for adults, including accessibility, reparenting, ventral spaces, and nostalgia. They explore the constructed safety, emotional labor of cast members, and the immersive environments that facilitate a playful state. The episode emphasizes finding joy and accessing ventral stimulation in various ways, advocating for non-judgmental acceptance of individual preferences.
tl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body. There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Links: FutureCanoe (Youtube) BlackForager (Youtube) Internet Shaquille (Youtube) What Cooking is Like for Someone Who Doesn't Cook (Youtube) Tasting History...
Let’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house without looking like a hobo. Maybe it’s OK to not be a minimalist in all things? Definitely stick around to the VERY end. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean Dawn the Minimal Mom Indyx app Are you Ready Dot Gov? Nicholas Boulton on Cameo Ma...
If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear. Help is available right away. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - website Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - website Links: FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the Fire Is This a Coup? An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing (Em...
Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering. Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject **** Links: Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean https://www.aslobcomesclean.com This Is Your Brain on Music: THE SCIENCE OF...
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here. Links: Project for Awesome Wax Oil Wick...
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome This American Life: 81 words Hannah Gadsby: Douglas Emily’s NYT profile...
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral. Links: Saturn Ion (Wikipedia) FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets) Dana K. White Cas Aarssen (Youtube) Kay Patterson (Youtube) Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list) KonMari method FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial C...
Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult. Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care. Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end. Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode Follow Amelia's Youtube channel here ...
Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us. Links: Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple (The pose is at about 4:40) Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada The Burnout workbook (Did you know there's a workbook??) The Burnout workbo...
You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube) Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series (Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.) The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)...
