As you know from listening to this podcast, actually resolving conflict is the most important thing for a healthy relationship. TODAY this topic falls into the next most important thing in a relationship and that is making positive and lasting change toward what you desire in the relationship. This is not as easy as it sounds as you know that you can learn something from reading a book, listening to a podcast, or going to a seminar and only have the 'change' last for a short period of time. So i...
Jun 14, 2022•32 min•Ep. 235
There are going to be times that you feel ... something. That something might be what you would think of as a "negative emotion". Typically what happens however is that you point the finger at your partner for that emotion and tell them that they need to change. However this motiviational moment is about looking inward and taking ownership of being a better person first so that the marriage can get better! Then learn more about The Communication Mastery Bundle course for you and your partner t...
Jun 09, 2022•7 min•Ep. 234
You have a lot of life to manage. You have your job, getting kids where they need to go, paying bills and managing finances, scheduling trips and events with family, and on it goes. A part of living life is this management of things but sometimes it can make you feel that they are significant, heavy, or even a burden. This energy of course impacts your relationship, how you communicate with each other, and your general attitude toward one another. But what we all are innately wired for is play, ...
Jun 07, 2022•24 min•Ep. 233
It's pretty clear that world circumstances are making things more difficult right now. For some, maybe more than ever. There are political tensions with countries, a slowing down of the job and economic markets, costs of goods going up, even inequalities that still linger. All of these factors might be having you feel uncertain about the future or even worried or afraid for what might happen next. Either way sometimes you need s a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose f...
Jun 02, 2022•9 min•Ep. 232
You probably don't actively think "I have some resentment building up toward my partner". Resentment is a little like putting small amounts of sand into a backpack over time. You might not notice the weight of the sand in the beginning. Then as time goes on, you might not even notice that the backpack now weighs 50lbs because you've gotten used to it over time. But resentment is a very unhealthy attitude and feeling toward your partner that will lead to a relationship ending if not dealt with. O...
May 31, 2022•34 min•Ep. 231
This is your last chance to attend the online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"! Attend this 2 hour life changing one on May 29th, 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a free bonus HERE. This brings us to the end of the Spice Up Your Sex Life series, and we want to give you our personal update. Becoming parents we recognized how the allocation of time and energy certainly changed. But we were not going to have that be an excuse for us, we knew we had to g...
May 24, 2022•33 min•Ep. 230
There are going to be times that you feel ... something. That something might be what you would think of as a "negative emotion". But you probably know that thinking more about it, or even judging it, doesn't seem to make it go away! Tune in for this motivational message about how "there are no wrong feelings" so that you can motivate yourself out of that energy today, and who knows, maybe even positively motivate your partner too! Relationship Resources: For this month, get access to the Spice ...
May 19, 2022•8 min•Ep. 229
First things first, would you like to attend an online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022, with the intimacy coach from last episdoe Ashley Jones, by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a a free bonus HERE. Now you might not realize the subtle lifestyle choices that could be impacting your hormones, therefore impacting your sex life. Wait a second... are you saying my desire for my partner could be impacted by my hor...
May 17, 2022•42 min•Ep. 228
There are going to be times that you feel are more challenging in your relationship. This might because of outside circumstances or because of patterns with your partner. There might even by times where it's both. Tune in for this motivational message around going through a "rough patch" so that you can motivate yourself out of that energy today, and who knows, maybe even positively motivate your partner too! One thing before you listen.... Would you like to attend an online workshop to "Spice U...
May 12, 2022•6 min•Ep. 227
First of all, would you like to attend an online workshop to "Spice Up Your Sex Life"? Attend a 2 hour life changing one in May 2022 by purchasing The Communication Mastery Bundle and you'll get this as a a free bonus HERE. Now pause for a minute to think about this... What level of desire and wanting to be intimate with your partner are you currently experiencing? If you notice, desire itself is not always and immediately available in your relationship. In different seasons of life it can feel ...
May 10, 2022•53 min•Ep. 226
Limited thinking leaves you feeling as though you have to choose this OR that. Limitless thinking puts you in a creative state to do/be/have this AND that. Tune in for this motivational message that will empower you in any area of life. All you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the slump of discouragement that you feel. This episode is the short and sweet motivational moment you need to get back to being the best person and partner...
May 05, 2022•8 min•Ep. 225
Have you thought much about legacy? It's a word with a big meaning behind it we know. Many people don't think about this until later in life, yet it can be a very impactful thing right here and now. We will take this one layer deeper even… What is the story of your relationship right now? Does it seem like a comedy, tragedy, drama, or mystery? Whichever it is, is this the legacy you want to create? In this episode you will reframe how you see the current situations in your relationship as well a...
May 03, 2022•21 min•Ep. 224
We know there are times that you feel discouraged in your relationship, and honestly sometimes it's just about an event in your individual life that isn't going the way you would like. There might even be times that you just feel a general sense of discouragement when you wake up. This feeling isn't from anything specific, but some carry over from the previous days or weeks. Either way all you need in times like these is a little extra motivation to kick start your day to jar you loose from the ...
Apr 28, 2022•7 min•Ep. 223
There's something you wish your partner would do for/with you. Or there's something you want to receive or experience in your partnership. But you might have thought to yourself, "if I tell them that I want _____, it won't be as romantic because they didn't think of it themselves." This episode is about rethinking what is really ROMANTIC, and how to set your partner up for success to fulfill your wants and needs….whether it's a small or big gesture within the partnership. Relationship Resources:...
Apr 26, 2022•19 min•Ep. 222
A special opportunity for podcast listeners only at this time! Within the episode you will hear about the 4 Month - Couples Experience Group Workshops and Coaching Program. After you listen, if you are interested to be a part of the live expereince with us and want more detials, message us in 1 of these 3 ways: Email: connect@newpowercouples.com Text: 602-321-5652 IG: @Meet_TheFreemans In This Episode is a POWERFUL followup to the last episode on arguments: There is a key underlying cycle that h...
Apr 19, 2022•23 min•Ep. 221
Register for the FREE Communication WebClass TONIGHT April 12th If you are in Arizona, or close to, registrations for the in person Couples Workshop in Arizona on May 12th, 2022 is now open! About the Episode: You've had this thought in the middle of an argument right, "what are we really arguing about right now?" This is a very common feeling about being lost or unclear about what is being fought about or what started it. If you think about it, when you find yourself in a place like this, is it...
Apr 12, 2022•36 min•Ep. 220
NEW COMMUNICATION WEBCLASS on April 12th 2022: Don't miss this live weblcass to end frustrating patterns and better understand each other. https://onlinecouplesworkshops.com/ Is the following communication pattern at all familiar to you? Partner A- attempts to share a feeling or need. Partner B- wasn't prepared and then gets defensive. Partner A- gets triggered by the response and feels invalidated. Partner B- starts shutting down and disengaging. Partner A- gets reactive and brings up the past ...
Apr 05, 2022•24 min•Ep. 219
You know those moments when you're frustrated or disappointed in your partnership? Have you thought about what the ROOT cause of the frustration is? Don't worry, most people we talk to haven't identified it, which is why we're covering it on today's episode. This principle will be ESPECIALLY helpful if you tend to run into the same thing over and over again or you feel like "we'll never see eye to eye on this." By the end of this episode, you will know exactly what to reflect on personally AND d...
Mar 29, 2022•31 min•Ep. 218
All relationships go through seasons of adjustments when "bigger" life events happen. The goal isn't to avoid big life events or challenges, or even try to just make it through it. These seasons are the opportunities to grow the most in your relationship. To do that however you will have to be more flexible, proactive in your communication, and have more grace for each other so that you stay together and not have the event create separation. Our big life event has been having our baby, who is no...
Mar 22, 2022•37 min•Ep. 217
We posted this question on IG and got a TON of interesting comments. A bit of a range in answers from "NOPE, definitely not" to "Shouldn't we focus on sacrificial love and put others before ourselves"? So we're going to address some of the nuances of the comments and some specific points to really answer this question. We admit that like a few comments, it's not just a yes or no answer. So in this episode we will cover what needs to be in place and how can needs/wants get communicated to not run...
Mar 15, 2022•25 min•Ep. 216
Not too many people have the most ideal relationship that they would like. Even if your relationship is going well, you are on the same page about the direction of life, you have the jobs and life that you enjoy and you manage things well together... there is still a place you would like to be even a little better. It might seem like this has been a sticking place for a longer period of time and it seems like it is difficult to really make that change. The reason is that this is a subconscious p...
Mar 08, 2022•35 min•Ep. 215
Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship and if you have been listening here for a little while, you know we are big on both emotional intimacy through communication as well as physical intimacy. For many partners too, if emotional intimacy is missing it's hard to want to be physically intimate let alone be able to explore and expand this area. We are always learning and open to expand any of our own limits and boundaries in our own relationship From society you probably think of sex mostly as ...
Mar 02, 2022•37 min•Ep. 214
FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover , then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. So the goal of this e...
Feb 22, 2022•21 min•Ep. 213
FREE Course Giveaway - Order our book, The Argument Hangover , then write a review on Amazon to be entered into a drawing for a course of your choice! Men and women can experience different types of challenges within the same relationship. The difficult thing about that is when it gets expressed to your partner, it can be easily dismissed as being irrational. This is only because the other partner doesn't see things the same way. But this doesn't make it any less impactful. So the goal of this e...
Feb 15, 2022•19 min•Ep. 212
Join the 5 Day Couples Challenge that starts Feb 7th, 2022. Connect with other couples as we go through daily training of the 5 C's for a strong relationship and even get a FREE book! Ever wonder WHY your partner does things the way they do? Or maybe why they WON'T do something a certain way (like the way you asked them to)? The latter is more likely to happen which is then what leads to saying something like "I would like you to stop _____ " or "why can't you just _____". In either case you are...
Feb 01, 2022•31 min•Ep. 211
Being rejected by another person is a pretty defeating feeling to have. All of us have experienced that at one point in our lives whether it was dating someone, rejected for a job you wanted, or even by someone that used to be a friend. You probably don't think about it too much once you are married because well…you are married to that person and they are not going anywhere! Rejection usually comes with a forced physical separation, that's why in your relationship, the feeling of being rejected ...
Jan 25, 2022•24 min•Ep. 210
It's a part of all relationships, at one point you have said (to yourself or aloud) "how do I get my partner to _____"? There is something that your partner does that makes you feel well... not the most stellar! Because you feel a certain way you want them to change something. We are all about growth and change, that's what being in a relationship is all about. However there are better ways to "influence" your partner to make changes, that won't put them on the defensive or have them shut you ou...
Jan 18, 2022•28 min•Ep. 209
Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. The idea of having good habits is so simple and it probably feels like it's overly talked about. Every person on social media that jumps in to be an influencer or coach is going to talk about your "habits". We all have some good habits, and some bad ones… but we would say maybe there are not "bad" just habits that do not ...
Jan 11, 2022•22 min•Ep. 208
Watch our NEW FREE WebClass on: The 5 Steps to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes (Instead of Hours, Days, Weeks). You can pick a time to watch it here. So you're having a seemingly simple conversation with your partner or a perfectly normal day, and then BAM things escalate into an unexpected conflict. It's frustrating when that happens! Many times that happens because of the way one of you initiates the conversation, and then the way the other person listens. So today's...
Jan 04, 2022•15 min•Ep. 207
The "forgetting curve" principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can't be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders. But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagr...
Dec 28, 2021•23 min•Ep. 206
