Baby Freeman is HERE! If you're seeing this episode it means our baby girl was born :) But we recorded these episodes to make sure you have resources while we're snuggling her. The opposite of "Permission Based Communication" is "Permission-Less Communication"....which is more likely to lead to defensiveness, backlash, or an unintended argument. The thing is, it's not respectful to just bring up a topic whenever YOU want to talk about it. Why? Because it's not respecting and honoring your partne...
Dec 21, 2021•21 min•Ep. 205
End the year by having this meaningful conversation together as a couple about your life and relationship goals. Life goes by pretty quickly, so it's important to pause each year and make sure you're on track with what's important to you both. Plus, you will feel a new sense of partnership and inspiration when you have one or more goals that you're pursuing together. Tune in to this episode to hear: How it benefits your partnership to have goals you pursue together Step-by-step how to have this ...
Dec 14, 2021•27 min•Ep. 204
Masculine and Feminine energy exists within all of us, and is critical to feeling "in sync" with your partner (rather than resistant). The masculine energy is: action-oriented, discerning, directive, logical. And feminine energy is: feelings-oriented, receptive, intuitive If you experience resistance, tension, or even a lack of "attraction," it could be because one or both of you is out of balance in your masculine/feminine energies. This episode is going to give you an interesting take on your ...
Dec 07, 2021•26 min•Ep. 203
A NEW, SURPRISE (and FREE) Resource announced on this episode! The way you two repair after a conflict will either lead to emotional baggage or emotional healing and bonding. The thing is, it can be hard to set aside the ego and focus on repair, especially when you also feel hurt about some things said and done during the argument. This episode focuses on the MOST critical step to repair (of the 5 total), which also tends to be the hardest. But by focusing on this step we share, you WILL resolve...
Nov 30, 2021•20 min•Ep. 202
Every interaction is either a deposit or withdrawal from your partner's "love account". Meaning, every little remark you make or thing you say either deposits love and connection or it takes some away. The thing is, less "love deposits" are made for couples who are together a while or find themselves in busy seasons of life. Most couples will go through seasons like these where they need to be making more deposits but they are actually making more withdrawals unconsciously. This isn't just a rel...
Nov 23, 2021•16 min•Ep. 201
There has always been a focus on the future that we each want to create. As a couple this can be in the form of setting goals or establishing your vision statement. This is a great thing because you can't get anywhere if you don't know where you want to go. But sometimes this can leave you feeling disappointed that you are "not there yet" or be discouraged when you feel you are not making as much progress as you would like. In this solo episode with Aaron you will hear how there is a gap that ge...
Nov 16, 2021•15 min•Ep. 200
The Danish people have ranked as the "happiest people on earth" for 40 years in a row starting in the 70's, only to be rivaled by Norwegian and Finish people over the last several years. And their happiness isn't dependent on things like: the weather or low taxes (it's actually pretty cold and dark there, and they have relatively higher taxes)....so they must be doing something else right to be so happy. So in today's episode we cover 3 of the traits that they focus on to be the happiest people....
Nov 09, 2021•29 min•Ep. 199
Episode Resources & Links: FREE Parenting WebClass with Amy McCready on November 10th HERE Hypnobabies Program for Natural Birth HERE Pelvic Floor Birth Program (One Strong Mama) HERE The Conscious Parent book by Dr Shefali HERE Video on baby communication sounds HERE Elimination Communication (Go Diaper Free) HERE There are many ways to parent a child and even the way of "let's just figure it out as we go". We wanted to take this episode to share with you about our prep for becoming parents...
Nov 02, 2021•59 min•Ep. 198
If you are a parent (or soon to be) you must attend the FREE Webinar with our guest Amy McCready on November 10th at OnlineCouplesWorkshops.com/parenting because she's takes all the topics today even deeper to the specific how-tos! As you can already tell we have a guest on this episode and it's none other than nationally renoun parenting expert Amy McCready! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, parenting contributor on the TODAY show, best-selling author, and creator of The 7-Ste...
Oct 26, 2021•41 min•Ep. 197
Every one of us humans has needs that need to be fulfilled to have a good life. Part of this search to fulfill these needs is what leads you to get into a relationship in the first place. You might think about survival type needs to begin with like food and shelter, but these are emotional needs that all of us seek to have fulfilled. Since these 6 needs are emotionally based it can be easy to not pay attention to them which leads to it being easy to let them decline. Though it isn't immediately ...
Oct 19, 2021•29 min•Ep. 196
Be honest: have you and/or your partner been nit-picking, critiquing or questioning each other more lately? Being real, we have noticed this in our own relationship over the last couple of weeks and it's something we're bringing awareness to shifting between us. We noticed that these additional (and mostly unnecessary) remarks to each other were leaving us feeling unaccepted by each other. Not only that, but also a bit depleted and more on edge around each other at home. Maybe you've felt this t...
Oct 13, 2021•33 min•Ep. 195
How many of your past arguments and conflicts actually get fully repaired? Do you feel that from every emotional impact, your partner has fully understood you, that they acknowledge the role they played in you feeling that way, and you believe things will be put in place to make the necessary change for it to not happen again? These are just some of the points that need to happen to fully repair from a conflict in your relationship. Just saying I'm sorry to move on often doesn't cut it. In this ...
Oct 04, 2021•34 min•Ep. 194
Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. There are some misconceptions about resolving conflicts in a relationship. What doesn't actually resolve anything is trying to jump right to a solution, or distracting yourself long enough where the high level of emotion has subsided. This will only build into resentment or at a minimum, start to seed disc...
Sep 30, 2021•12 min•Ep. 193
Register for the LAST FREE WebClass in 2021 happening October 5th. It will cover strategies for preventing conflict, de-escalating triggers, and repairing after conflict. Save your seats here. You cannot blame your behavior in the "mid-conflict" stage on your partner! Nope, you must take ownership of your patterns if you're going to have any chance of changing them. But that's why we call them patterns….because patterns can be changed and you aren't stuck a certain way! In today's podcast episod...
Sep 28, 2021•25 min•Ep. 192
Trust can be broken or weakened by both the big things and the build up of many smaller broken promises. Trust is such a foundational aspect of a relationship that without it, it's harder to have respect, love, and passion for your partner. In this episode we go deeper into rebuilding trust, whether you are the partner that doesn't trust, or if you realize that you are the one that has contributed to the decline of trust. We were asked to take this topic deeper from a listener of the podcast tha...
Sep 14, 2021•50 min•Ep. 191
When men spend time with other men, it boosts their testosterone (super important), and when women spend time with other women, it boosts their estrogen (super important). Biologically and emotionally, you and your partner NEED time with friends outside of the relationship. If you don't, it can have a real impact on your happiness as individuals and how you show up for each other. However, it's not time with just any type of friends...it's got to be friends that raise your energy and remind you ...
Sep 09, 2021•16 min•Ep. 190
Are there any topics left in your relationship that you feel you can't talk about? Perhaps you no longer attempt certain topics or expressing your emotion on certain things because your partner's reaction makes you feel "emotionally unsafe." Being in a truly healthy and empowered relationship means that you should always feel safe to talk about any topic. Of course saying "talk about any topic" really means "talk about any emotion you are having". In this episode you will hear: The critical mist...
Sep 07, 2021•35 min•Ep. 189
Do you want to be a GREAT partner? It can be easy to show up less than our best as the months and years pass, so today's episode is a great reminder that will motivate you to be the best partner you can be! We dive into 3 traits that are underrated and truly make such a difference for your partnership. Resources For Your Relationship: If you're in or near Arizona, attend The Couples Workshop on September 26th, 2021. If you've haven't read it yet, grab your copy of The Argument Hangover. About Us...
Sep 02, 2021•19 min•Ep. 188
Are you in one of these 3 places: feel less fulfilled in your marriage, you are thinking that the relationship should end, or you are active in keeping your fulfillment high by preventing anything from lowering it? Whichever place you find yourself this episode is about exploring the main reasons we see couples struggle that lead to lower levels of satisfaction and fulfillment in their relationships. This is a new style episode where we each write down our own lists from what we have seen in cou...
Aug 31, 2021•42 min•Ep. 187
On a importance scale from 1-10, how important is sharing household chores and responsibilities? On the spectrum of things you can be focusing on in your life and relationship, how often are you getting frustrated or do you bicker with your partner over this simple area? Now any place in your relationship that you have a recurring upset and causes you to be disconnected from your partner, is an important area to change. After the Couples Workshop this week, we realized that this is an area that ...
Aug 26, 2021•14 min•Ep. 186
When your partner says something that's harder to hear, do you find yourself unconsciously reacting or consciously responding? You see, a solid partnership is where both people are safe to open up about things, even if it's hard to hear sometimes. So if you're committed to being the best partner you can be, then you want to master the difference between reacting and responding. In this episode, you'll hear: The exact difference between reacting and responding The deeper source of why you react t...
Aug 24, 2021•27 min•Ep. 185
When was the last time you reviewed what you're committed to in your relationship? Was it on your wedding day when exchanging vows? There is a big difference between what you said you were committed to in the past versus what you are committed to now, even right in this moment. In this motivational episode you will get a love gut punch to be honest about what you are actually committed to, as a reflection in your actions toward your partner. Resources For Your Relationship: Order our book, The A...
Aug 19, 2021•12 min•Ep. 184
"Inner-Work": looking within to see where you can grow and evolve (ie. what needs to be healed from your past, which patterns need to be unlearned, and realizing that you recreate experiences when you didn't get the lesson). Doing this "inner work" is absolutely imperative to cultivate your desired partnership. Most importantly you, and ideally your partner, must be willing to do this inner-work in some shape or form. Why? Because otherwise you will recreate patterns that do not serve your curre...
Aug 17, 2021•47 min•Ep. 183
You can eliminate many moments of frustration and feeling like you're on different pages with two simple questions. You will ask one of these questions in the morning to start the day with ease and synergy--and it will be especially helpful if you have kids, busy careers, and lots of moving parts to your schedule. The second question is great for the evening to make sure you're on the same page and so both of you get your needs met and feel like you can recharge your batteries in a mutually fulf...
Aug 12, 2021•10 min•Ep. 182
Of course you 'love' your partner, but what level of love and connection do you feel right now? You might "know that you love them," but right now, you can feel disconnected and experience a mediocre or even low level of love. You do not want to assume that love will automatically be there in a long-term relationship. Sure, you can say "I love you" to each other all day long, yet still not FEEL an overwhelming sense of love in the partnership. For many of us, we have mostly experienced love that...
Aug 10, 2021•36 min•Ep. 181
We all want to be happy both in our lives and relationships. Yet at a certain point in a relationship it can feel as if your happiness is based more upon your partner. This could be based on their own mood or whether they are "doing the things you want them to do". Happiness cannot be a pursuit if it leads you to be conditional to any outside circumstances. It needs to be generated from within first. By doing that, you will automatically influence your partner to be happy just by the nature of y...
Aug 05, 2021•17 min•Ep. 180
The quality of your conversation comes from the quality of your questions! No matter how much you love each other, your conversations can feel routine if you're asking the same ol' questions (especially if you are a 'busy' couple or have been together for years). Truthfully, it's natural to crave more emotional depth in your relationship, which comes from being able to ask more meaningful questions in a state of curiosity and intention. There is nothing 'wrong' with having this desire! At times ...
Aug 03, 2021•34 min•Ep. 179
There is one big thing in your life that disconnects you and keeps you from fully enjoying your life and relationship, and that is 'suffering'! Though 'suffering' sounds like a very strong word, this experience happens whenever something is happening that you do not want to be happening. This leads to moments of discouragement and discontentment, and over time will lead to a feeling of "things not being good". In this solo episode today with Aaron, you will hear the one main thing that causes yo...
Jul 29, 2021•13 min•Ep. 178
The most attractive trait in a partner is reliability! So what is reliability really? Well, can your partner count on you to follow through, or do you make promises and then have excuses for why it didn't happen? The thing is, how reliable you are in your partnership directly impacts how much they can TRUST you. Now you might think we're just speaking about the "big" things...but actually, it's also about the small promises that you make that really add up to their perception of you. In this epi...
Jul 27, 2021•38 min•Ep. 177
Coming off of last night's webclass on "Communication Mastery", many people were intent to bring more empathy into their relationship. The very next feeling however was "being empathetic is not easy when I don't agree with my partner." This most likely is the case for you as well. Though being empathetic to our partner's experience is a true expression of love, it isn't easy especially when you haven't practiced it. In this one-on-one episode with Jocelyn, you will hear how to bring more empathy...
Jul 22, 2021•13 min•Ep. 176
