Today on the show we're talking about boundaries vs. barriers. What does that mean? It means defining the difference between personal development boundaries that benefit our every day well-being and the barriers we place around us to avoid new ideas, bad feelings and personal growth. We also talk about bad feelings themselves and how emotional regulation is necessary for growth. We experience a lot of external pressure but emotional regulation gives us the best opportunity to truly be ourselves....
Oct 08, 2018•50 min
Today on the show we're talking about two topics that work well together. General ignorance in modern society and the casual use of psychological terminology as a means to boost the severity of someone's feelings and simultaneously the severity of others. Much of this happens subconsciously so I understand that it's a difficult discussion to have but the point is that we should strive to have more accurate conversations with terminology that moves that conversation forward without having to navi...
Oct 05, 2018•41 min
Today I wanted to talk about this concept of being starstruck by other people. Particularly looking up to famous people and assuming that they're instantly better than you, you'll never be that and letting it affect your self-esteem in a major way. In reality, we are all on different paths with different goals and different starting lines. So comparison is illogical and useless. The same goes for anyone who it good. Who is doing well in life. It's not an excuse to project that you're better than...
Oct 04, 2018•36 min
Today on the show we're talking about The Call of the Void. This is a concept that many us has experienced. We stand close to the of a build or a cliff, perfectly safe with no intention to jump but we get this startling realization that if we don't actively tell ourselves not to jump that we may have actually jumped. This isn't exclusive to heights, many have experienced this sensation of wanting to jump in front of a train or ram your car into the side of the road or even run someone over. This...
Oct 03, 2018•42 min
Today we're talking about normalizing mental illness from 2 different angles. We start by talking about teenagers normalizing it as social leverage and the remainder of society using some mental illness terminology to boost their every day emotions for emphasis. We're going to talk more about the latter in an upcoming episode. For now, hold on to your seat because I get a little heated in this episode of DOPEamine! Support the show: http://www.dopeamine.life Meet the Host: http://www.cnote.media...
Oct 01, 2018•39 min
Today on the show we're talking being at the edge of destruction. I feel like some of my episodes lately haven't about me and what I'm going through, so I figured today was the perfect opportunity to work through those feelings. It's not always easy for me to exhibit emotional expression, it's a challenge and it's difficult to continue to feel like I have the room to express what I need to express. So, I created this show for that reason and am going to use it for that reason. I talk a bit about...
Sep 28, 2018•31 min
Today on the show we're talking about Making Fun of People. Humans be humans and we all have a story. Some of us are caught in a vulnerable state, turned into memes or viral videos. Some of us don't want that. Some people are simply trying to live their lives to the best of their ability. I've been guilty of taking photos of some "weird" person in the past and posting it with the hopes of making myself subconsciously feel better or elitist about my position in life. It's not cool. If you've done...
Sep 27, 2018•31 min
Today on the show we're talking about external validation. Why do we seek it? Most of us are working on ways to not give a crap about what people think but we are social creatures and sometimes need a little extra love when we've depleted our reserves for being able to provide that for ourselves. We also need to be better at asking for help as mental illness sufferers. Support the show: http://www.dopeamine.life Meet the host: http://www.cnote.media --- Send in a voice message: https://podcaster...
Sep 26, 2018•30 min
Today on the show we're talking about the concept of knowing nothing. As we get older, past our teenage years and into our 30s we can't help this feeling of knowing nothing. We are exposed to new ideas, new people, new environments all the time and simply feel as though there is no way we could know everything or anything. It can become a little absurd. But where some people see difficulty or insignificance, I see opportunity. The chance to embrace your curiosity, ask questions and experience ne...
Sep 25, 2018•30 min
Today on the show we're going to talk about the concept of manifesting success. What does it mean to manifest something in your life? To visualize a goal and achieve? Can there be an unhealthy version of that? We ask that questions and play with this idea of "The Progress Wheel" as a means to know if you're working towards something or simply being entitled to an affirmation you're giving yourself. I'm starting on this concept today, so bare with me on this episode of DOPEamine! Support the show...
Sep 24, 2018•38 min
Today on the show we're talking about Men Seeking Romantic Relationships. We talk about men in the single world as well as those looking for "what women want" and getting a better understanding of not only learning that information but using that same information for yourself when looking for a partner to be promote mutual respect. We look at an Elite Daily article called "10 Traits Men Have That Make Them The Whole Package" and break down into some constructive feedback. Get ready, boy, you've ...
Sep 21, 2018•59 min
Today on the show we're talking about male body image issues and how that affects confidence. In relation to a lot of this week's topics, men aren't very open about their emotional state but particularly aren't open about how they feel physically. We see portrayals of men in media has having perfect faces, bodies, fighting ability, having stuff and getting all the girls. Well, that's enough. You, as a man, can take charge of the things you can control. You can improve your situation but it's abo...
Sep 20, 2018•36 min
Today on the show we're talking about masculine energies and essentially defining a few different ways to look at masculinity. We're going to talk a little bit about hegemonic masculinity, toxic masculinity and the 7 types of masculinity, which is based on the Graves model. We talk about kids and bullying, how toxicity in masculine stereotypes affects mental health as well as masculinity in the prison system. There's a ton to talk about in this episode so get cozy and join me on a lovely journey...
Sep 19, 2018•47 min
Today on the show we're talking about "The Patriarchy" as a mean to define the term but also share a bit of the general male perspective behind the emotions involved with making such a massive social change. Essentially I want to use this week's theme as a means to encourage those to get on board with understanding that males are imperative to the growth of humanity and it's not about uneven land grab. It's not about women wanting to take over so much as it is about equal rights. Men also have f...
Sep 18, 2018•38 min
Today on the show we're kicking off this week's topic, which is the Male Experience. I'm taking this as an opportunity to share my thoughts on being a male in today's world of social change, media perception, what men should take more responsibility for and that being a man is still something to be proud of and respected as long as you're being respectful of the people in your life. Specifically today we're talking alpha males and the perception of alpha males actually being a beta male experien...
Sep 17, 2018•33 min
Today on the show we're gonna talk a little bit about The Racial Divide. More specifically the divide that is happening in our country and how the conflict model we've been working through can be used to identify how progress can be made. It might get a little heated in here but not really. This isn't about being outraged or calling anyone out. This is an attempt at an objective perspective on what is going on and how we can move things forward in a positive direction. I think I addressed the is...
Sep 14, 2018•41 min
Today on the show we're talking about Millennial Self-Deprecation. I've noticed that much of Millennial culture is steeped in a self-awareness that tends to manifest as self-deprecation. There is a lot of popular media, memes, and products made by people like AdamJK that expresses a sense of internal struggle with a dash of light-hearted charm. I try to figure why that is and a bit about internal conflict on this episode of DOPEamine! Fill out our survey to help the podcast grow: cnotemedia.type...
Sep 13, 2018•30 min
Today on the show we're talking about having patience with development diversity. Essentially saying that it is helpful for us as individuals to understand that many people in our lives are learning things, experiencing things and expressing things from varying stages of personal development. That by acknowledging that someone is working through their own things at their own pace we can learn to have more patience to let them work through what they need to work through. This isn't universal, it'...
Sep 12, 2018•32 min
Today on the show we're talking about internet conflict, how it applies to the model I've been working through and how to resolve some internet. Often we end up leaving internet conflict with unresolved issues that we take with us into our every day life. Our family and friends get the brunt of that force that was triggered by someone else. This feeling can be very frustrating to work through. We also take that feeling and associate it loosely with people of other similar types. We end creating ...
Sep 11, 2018•32 min
Today on the show we're talking about the anatomy of an apology. What does it take to genuinely apologize to someone, to repair the relationship and for both parties to move forward? It involves acknowledging the roles in the conflict and being able to move forward together to resolve the conflict. This week's theme is all about conflict so strap in for a new and exciting episode of DOPEamine! Fill out our survey to help the podcast grow: cnotemedia.typeform.com/to/R2qPXi Support the show: http:...
Sep 10, 2018•34 min
Today on the show we're talking about situational value. I alluded to talking a bit about using poker strategy in life so we're going to lean into that a little bit today. There are a few concepts like playing every hand or probe bets that can translate into life advice. This is a topic I've written a first draft of a book about, so I thought it would be great to share. We also take the opportunity to talk about this week's episode as a way to recap some of the important concepts we discussed. S...
Sep 07, 2018•30 min
Today on the show we're talking about playing the long game. As a culmination of what we've talked about so far this week, the long game is about using the non-zero concept and chipping away at life and goals every single day. That includes improving our lives, relationships and self-esteem. It's all about goal management so that we're not setting our sights so high that we feel terrible about them all the time. Grab a pillow and some ice cream to enjoy the latest episode of DOPEamine! Fill out ...
Sep 06, 2018•28 min
Today we're talking about The 3 Yous, a concept that I came across on a Reddit thread that was meant to help someone get out of a motivational rut. What I love about this concept is that it externalizes your behavior towards yourself. By thinking about your future self as someone you're helping out and someone who is your best friend, you'll be more likely to do things now in service of that person's success. Even so, if you don't fulfill what you would like to, your present self should be ready...
Sep 05, 2018•26 min
Today on the show we're talking about the concept of No More Zero Days. What are zero days? They are days in which you do absolutely nothing towards your goal. We define further what that means by letting you know that anything counts. Writing a sentence, taking a few notes, thinking about the next goal, or talking about it with a friend. Anything that isn't completely ignoring your goal. Get off the couch and talk with me about No More Zero Days on DOPEamine! Fill out our survey to help the pod...
Sep 04, 2018•24 min
Today on the show we're talking about The Drama Triangle, a social model created to help understand the destructive elements of a social conflict. This model helps us identify how we enter conflict, how we may respond within this drama triangle and how we could get out of it or even avoid it in the first place. Lift the curtain and take center stage as we discuss The Drama Triangle on DOPEamine! Fill out our survey to help the podcast grow: https://cnotemedia.typeform.com/to/R2qPXi http://www.do...
Sep 03, 2018•37 min
Today on the show we're talking about the confusion and perceptions that come from being immersed in personal development. Many of us are dealing with people in our lives judging us for so many little things, mostly due to their own insecurity, and we shouldn't let it affects but sometimes it does. That's reality. You'll reach a point in your growth that may take you away from what people are used to. They may start saying that you're too good for them or that they don't understand you anymore. ...
Aug 31, 2018•27 min
Today on the show we're talking about putting people on a pedestal and how that can have negative affects on your self-esteem. It's amazing to have people to admire but when create arbitrary measurements of value we then put ourselves into that equation as well, which runs the risk of measuring ourselves as less than important. We become nervous around those we admire, we can potentially feel unworthy of the same success or feel that we don't deserve what we want. We break down all of these thin...
Aug 30, 2018•24 min
Today on the show we're talking about depression as a habit. Is the feeling of depression, stress or sadness something that you're simply used to? Can you get out of that habit? How can you start to look at your personality as something separate from depression? We use some fast food analogies and I share a bit of my story with personality development, which has me better understand myself as an INTP vs. a cyclothymic person. This one feels like an important one so tag along and join me for the ...
Aug 29, 2018•34 min
Today on the show we're talking about that common phrase known as "Thoughts and Prayers." How does that relate to mental health? Well, simply, it's a coping mechanism. There are difficult things that go on in the world and we need ways to move forward. But I also understand the cynicism behind it. It can feel like a blanket statement that absolves someone of personal responsibility. From all angles, we can do better and that's why we're here. Support the Show: http://www.dopeamine.life Join Our ...
Aug 28, 2018•35 min
Today on the show we're talking about male to male abuse, specifically sexual abuse. Much of the male experience is dominated by other men trying to show their dominance or "alpha" attitudes towards one another. Some of the time that translates into sexual abuse as a show of physical power or perceived playfulness. The usual "It was a joke" or "no homo" is applied to soften the blow. Society doesn't help much as prison rape is often the butt of many jokes. So we talk about that quite a bit and b...
Aug 27, 2018•36 min
