In this bonus episode, I'm sharing my thoughts on the new movie, "Materialists." I'm breaking down what this film says about love, money, capitalism and dating for the long term, and what it got right about today's dating culture. If you haven't seen this movie yet, beware of spoilers! I'd love to hear your thoughts on this too, so drop your hot takes in the comments below. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 27, 2025•25 min
In this episode, I’m diving into the magic of the real-life meet-cute (yes, it still happens)! You'll hear voice notes from listeners sharing stories about how they met people off the apps, plus my own reflections on building confidence to strike up conversations wth strangers, flirting in everyday situations, and saying yes to new experiences. At the end, we’ll talk about what adult summer camp taught me about connection and the power of community. I'm also sharing a new segment called Date Ide...
Jun 24, 2025•49 min
Ever fallen for a friend? Struggled to balance dating and maintaining your closest connections? In this episode of Dating Intentionally, I’m joined by friendship expert and journalist Anna Goldfarb, author of Modern Friendship, to talk about the emotional intelligence it takes to navigate friendship, dating, and everything in between. We explore the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships, how to communicate when feelings for a friend grow, and why the quality of your friendshi...
Jun 17, 2025•1 hr 6 min
In this episode, I’m breaking down how to talk about the future in dating without putting pressure on the other person. Whether you’re in the early stages or navigating a new relationship, these conversations can feel tricky, but they don’t have to be. I’m sharing mindset shifts that help, scripts for each stage of dating, what actually creates pressure, and practical ways to bring up future plans without scaring someone off. We’ll also get into how to stay grounded in your own vision while resp...
Jun 10, 2025•45 min
In this episode, I’m diving into the often messy, misunderstood world of casual dating. If you’ve ever wondered how to approach it without getting emotionally wrecked or unintentionally leading someone on this one’s for you. I’m breaking down how to date casually with clarity, from being upfront about your intentions to setting boundaries that protect your energy. We’ll talk about why emotional detachment matters, how to enjoy casual connections without automatically making it about sex, and wha...
Jun 03, 2025•27 min
In this episode, I’m joined by Danny Goldstein, founder of the Austin-based matchmaking company Crux Compatible, to talk all things compatibility, chemistry, and intentional dating. Danny has a fascinating journey, from practicing law to running a matchmaking business rooted in a deep understanding of what actually makes two people a good fit. We dive into his unique process, including the extensive questionnaire he uses with clients, and break down the qualities that truly matter in early datin...
May 27, 2025•1 hr
In this episode, I’m diving into why we keep getting drawn to the same types of partners, even when those relationships don't work out or we keep getting hurt. I’ll break down the psychology behind attraction, how our early experiences and attachment styles play a huge role, and why it’s so damn hard to break those familiar patterns. I’m also sharing my own journey of recognizing these dynamics in my life and what it took to finally shift from toxic cycles to healthier, more fulfilling connectio...
May 23, 2025•33 min
According to Matchmaker Maria, you're not as picky as you think. In this episode, Maria Avgitidis (@matchmakermaria) is back on the pod to talk all things dating, relationships, and her brand-new book, Ask A Matchmaker. We get into the nitty-gritty of what it really takes to find (and keep) the right person. We also dive deep into the power of writing a manifest (NOT to be confused with manifestation) about what you want in a partner and how creating a clear vision focused on positivity can shif...
May 20, 2025•54 min
In this episode, you’ll learn how to navigating the milestones you’ll hit in a new relationship. All of these “firsts” can be both exciting and nerve-wracking! From the first sleepover to meeting each other's friends and family, these "firsts" often come with their own set of challenges and considerations. I want you to approach these significant moments with intention and authenticity. I’m discussing timing, boundaries, and communication strategies for various relationship milestones, including...
May 16, 2025•43 min
In this episode, I’m sitting down with Britt Frank to dig into the messy, complicated world of the inner critics, especially how it shows up in dating. We talk about recognizing the nature of our inner dialogue and why it’s so important to validate our feelings instead of brushing them off. Throughout our conversation, we explore how to move from letting our inner critic take the lead to guiding it into a more supportive role. We get into why self-leadership matters, how anxiety plays into our l...
May 13, 2025•51 min
In this episode of Dating Intentionally, I’m talking about the very real and very common experience of rushing a connection in dating. You’ll hear the signs to look out for, like constant texting, premature intimacy, or talking about the future way too soon. While some of this can feel exciting, I explain why it’s often a red flag, not just enthusiasm. I’ll walk you through how to recognize when things are moving too fast, how to set boundaries without killing the vibe, and why it’s so important...
May 09, 2025•27 min
In this episode, we’re getting into why we’re so often drawn to the wrong people and what it takes to break out of those old attraction patterns for good. If you’ve ever found yourself chasing a certain vibe or dynamic in dating (even when it never really works out), this conversation is going to hit. I’m joined by Louise Rumball, host of the Healing Honeys podcast (formerly Openhouse) and creator of Daily Devotion, a somatic wellness studio helping women feel better in their bodies. Louise shar...
May 06, 2025•57 min
In this episode, you'll learn all about "the shift" which is what you experience when someone goes from super enthusiastic about you, to suddenly pulling away, sometimes out of nowhere. It's confusing, disheartening and all too common. Listen to learn why this happens, what you can do about it and my take on whether or not you can stop it before it happens/see it coming. PARTNERS Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their first month! Get a discount on your Galatea membership! CONNECT WITH M...
May 02, 2025•35 min
In this episode, we’re talking about what it’s like to date with ADHD and how ADHD can show up in dating and relationships in ways you might not expect. Whether you have ADHD or you’re dating someone who does (or might), this conversation is packed with insights you won’t want to miss. I’m joined by Christal Wang, founder of Shimmer Care and one of my favorite ADHD educators on Instagram (@adhd.christal). We get into how ADHD impacts communication, connection, and emotional regulation in dating,...
Apr 29, 2025•54 min
This episode originally aired 12/22/23! Is it love bombing or healthy enthusiasm? In this episode, I break down how to distinguish between genuine interest and manipulative intensity. We’ll cover clear signs of love bombing, why people do it, and what to do if you find yourself in a relationship with a love bomber. Plus, you’ll hear real stories from Dating Intentionally listeners who’ve been through it. and what they wish they knew sooner. PARTNERS Armoire is giving DI listeners 50% off their f...
Apr 25, 2025•32 min
In this episode, you'll learn why so many dating app profiles start to look and sound the same and what that means on a deeper level (It's deeper than you think). I’m joined by Dr. Jennie Young, a writer, English professor, and creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method. BHDM is a framework for understanding the patterns and formulas people use in their bios (usually without even realizing it). We talk about why these patterns show up, how they shape your experience swiping, and how to create a da...
Apr 22, 2025•55 min
In this episode, I'm breaking down the three C's of being good at dating: character, curiosity, and confidence. I'll share how each one plays into being a great date, and why that matters in the first place. Even though we're dating to ultimately stop dating, your skills in this area will 100% affect your outcome. This episode will guide you through the qualities that truly matter, how to work on them, and what happens when you have two, but not all three. PARTNERS! Armoire is giving DI listener...
Apr 18, 2025•32 min
In this episode, I'm diving into five dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link. Tune in to hear my advice on these dating and relationship issues: I got my dream job in another country. How should I approach dating? How do I bounce back from dating burnout when nothing seems to be working? Why do so many first dates get canceled, and is it something I’m doing wrong? Is a slow-burn connection worth explorin...
Apr 15, 2025•26 min
In this episode, we're getting into what standards in dating are (and what they're not) and how to tell if your standards are too high or too low. I get into the dangers of each and how to adjust your standards no matter which category you fall into. Are your standards holding you back? Hint: Too-high standards are a form of self-sabotage, and too-low standards are a form of self-abandonment. Examples of dating standards: I date people who have the time to see me in person within days of matchin...
Apr 11, 2025•31 min
In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and anxiety. Clare shares how anxious attachment often hides in plain sight for high achievers, and we dig into why so many of us look for safe...
Apr 08, 2025•53 min
In this episode, I'm deep-diving into ten relationship green flags that aren't talked about enough, how to spot them, and their red flag counterparts. You deserve a partner who has the basic green flags we always talk about like consistency, respect, listening, effort etc. But today, we're going deeper into what it looks like to have a truly supportive partner and the real signs that your partner is empathetic and compassionate. At the end, I address a question about navigating dating someone wh...
Apr 04, 2025•43 min
In this episode, Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height (one of my favorite dating podcasts) is back on the pod to talk about how she met her current boyfriend just days after we recorded our first episode together in 2024. Ali gets into meeting her boyfriend in person, managing anxiety while getting into a new relationship, how she knew she wanted to commit and how she had the "define the relationship" conversation. We also get into dating outside your type, making the first move and why being yours...
Apr 01, 2025•55 min
In this episode, you'll learn some of the main reasons why you might keep falling for people who aren't the right match for you, like feeling drawn to what's familiar or being stuck in the anxious/avoidant cycle. Awareness of your patterns is the first step to breaking out of them! This episode also breaks down steps to catching yourself before you fall for the wrong person (again) and start shifting your focus on folks who could be a great match! Episode on attachment theory (anxious/avoidant a...
Mar 28, 2025•36 min
In this episode, my guest, Michelle Lentz, breaks down the key attributes to look for in a long-term partner to have a successful relationship (and marriage, if that's what you're looking for). Michelle's marriage is going on 38 years! She has an Instagram account and book (Hey Beginner Wife) dedicated to the ins and outs of not just making a marriage last but enjoying your connection for the long haul. We talk about soul mates, managing expectations, communication tips, questions to ask in earl...
Mar 25, 2025•58 min
If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right in your dating life, but feel like nothing is working, this episode is for you. First, I get into a handful of mindset shifts to help you feel less stuck and down about where you are in your dating life today, and then I get into different approaches you can take to get unstuck. You'll walk away from this episode with a new perspective on timing, what success looks like in dating and what you can actually control in your dating life. Here's ...
Mar 21, 2025•39 min
In this episode, I'm diving into four dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link. Here are the questions I get into on this episode: "He ghosted me but watches my stories daily - can I salvage this?" "I don't mind pursuing men, but they don't take me seriously. What am I doing wrong?" "I'm a liberal woman, and he's a Trump supporter. Can it work?" "I've done everything to move on after getting blindsided by ...
Mar 18, 2025•30 min
Get 90+ questions to ask in early dating Do you ever struggle with what to talk about on a date? Or maybe you want to get better at building real connections? In this episode, I’m sharing tons of inspiration for great questions to ask in early dating, the worst ones to avoid, and navigating tricky conversations without derailing the date. We’ll also dive into the number one topic that so many daters regret not bringing up sooner, how to answer "why are you single" (and what to ask instead). I al...
Mar 14, 2025•46 min
My brother Alex Koren is back on the podcast to share dating advice for folks looking for a long term relationship! Alex is a 30-year-old guy from NYC with his take on dating, relationships, and figuring out who’s the one. In this episode, we break down how to separate needs vs. wants, what past relationships can teach you, and how to tell if someone is just in it for the chase or actually ready for commitment. We also talk about how to approach people and where to meet great matches IRL. (Hint,...
Mar 11, 2025•1 hr 9 min
This episode originally aired in October 2022! Situationships are messy, undefined, and often leave you feeling stuck. In this episode, I break down what a situationship really is, how to tell if you're in one, and why they rarely lead to the kind of relationship you want. I’ll share how to get out of a situationship, whether you're the one who wants more or the one who can’t commit, plus tips on avoiding them altogether. I also answer a listener’s question on recognizing red flags early and sha...
Mar 07, 2025•27 min
This week, I’m joined by Natalie Kennedy, founder of Anxious Love Coach, to talk about her experience with relationship anxiety and Relationship OCD (ROCD). We get into what it looked like in her relationship, the steps she took to work through it, and what “working on yourself” actually means, both in and out of a relationship. We also dive into obsessive thoughts in early dating and relationships, how to recognize when your fears are getting in the way, and practical advice for navigating them...
Mar 04, 2025•48 min
