In this episode, I'm breaking down what emotional availability is, why it's important, how it relates to attachment style and signs your date isn't emotionally available. I share tips on how to navigate this and when it's a dealbreaker vs not. At the end, I get into signs you might be the emotionally unavailable one and steps to take toward becoming more emotionally available. Signs someone is emotionally available episode Questions: Do I feel secure and confident in where I stand with them? Do ...
Feb 28, 2025•38 min
In this episode, Casey Tanner, founder of Queer Sex Therapy and The Expansive Group, shares their journey, from navigating insecurities as someone newly exploring queer dating to meeting their current partner. We dive into dating IRL as a queer person, long-distance relationships, and what to do if you're intimidated by dating women. Casey also breaks down common queer sex myths, explores how gender roles translate in queer relationships, and shares mistakes they've made along the way. I love Ca...
Feb 25, 2025•55 min
In this episode, I'm deep-diving into why knowing your needs in a relationship is important, how I discovered mine and tips for discussing your relationship needs with a partner. Discovering my non-negotiables in a relationship is what kicked off my dating journey and I'm breaking down how you can use them to guide you in your dating journey. You'll learn what needs are, what they're not and what to expect when you bring them up with someone for the first time. This episode originally aired in N...
Feb 21, 2025•41 min
Today's episode features three new dating dilemmas for you, focusing on issues daters face in new relationships. The first is from a woman who's not sure she can fall in love with her guy and isn't sure what to do. Our second dilemma focuses on the question: how much fighting is normal? And the last one is from a woman in a loving, secure relationship that she feels lacks excitement. Listen for my takes and advice, and comment below to share yours! Book rec: Hold Me Tight Check out Nutrafol! Use...
Feb 18, 2025•27 min
If showing interest in the person you're dating is scary, this episode will help! Showing interest when you're interested is key in developing a secure, healthy relationship in the early dating stage - even when things feel uncertain. I'm breaking down the appropriate, not-desperate ways to show someone you're into them before you're committed so they know exactly where you stand. On the flipside, listen to learn ways people may be showing interest in YOU that you could be missing. At the end, I...
Feb 14, 2025•35 min
In this episode, I sit down with sex educator Danielle Bezalel to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it’s time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things like body odor, performance anxiety, being on top, and so much more. I hope you enjoy this educational and judgment-free convo! You can find...
Feb 11, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Have you ever dated someone where things are moving so slowly that it feels like you're going backward? This episode breaks down the differences between a slow burn and a dead end so you know when to keep going and when to walk away. I also share advice on when to cut things off if things are going well but they're not committing and how to communicate your intentions and timeline. SLOW BURN WORKSHOP on 2/24 use code PODCAST for a discount! Dating for validation episode Try Acorns! https://www.a...
Feb 07, 2025•47 min
I'm answering questions about my journey dating 64 people in 10 months! Questions like, how did you manage dating multiple people, how did you navigate sex while dating and how did you choose who to keep seeing and who to stop seeing? I also answer questions about staying safe while dating, what I wore on dates and how I found the time to date with a busy schedule. This episode is PACKED with advice! Listen to Part 1 here! Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJd...
Feb 04, 2025•39 min
In this episode, I'm sharing 15 quick lessons I learned during my intense dating journey where I went out with 64 people in 10 months. I'm sharing my insight on texting in early dating, navigating when to have sex with someone for the first time, what's most important to pay attention to when getting to know someone and how to stay grounded. Part 2 comes out on Tuesday! Episode 99: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3HYgtYjAaNjwQcng3H4w0E?si=68f37b5e6c4f49b0 Get Clara for Daters: https://apps.appl...
Jan 31, 2025•42 min
In this episode, Julie and Yue from Dateable are back for round 2! We get into their new book, How To Be Dateable, which is out now everywhere and so much more. Listen to learn about what vulnerability is and isn't, how to tell if you've been playing relationship chicken this whole time and tips for being more authentic on dates. We also talk about Julie's big news at the end (other than the book launch of course). Get the book! How To Be Dateable by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu Follow Dateable on...
Jan 28, 2025•1 hr 4 min
How much do you really need in common with the person you're dating for it to work? In this episode, you'll learn what matters more than having shared interests and how to navigate relationships when your hobbies clash or don't really overlap. I also talk about how my relationship works with my husband, despite us not being into the same stuff! Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ ...
Jan 24, 2025•40 min
What do you do if you get anxious on dates? My guest, Jeff Guenther, LPC (@TherapyJeff), shares many practical tips for managing anxiety on dates and enjoying the process more! We talk about different ways anxiety shows up, specifically how to ask for feedback from your dates and how to cope when you feel anxious on dates. Jeff also shares his advice for folks in new relationships, including eight questions to ask once you've DTR'd (defined the relationship). Follow Jeff on IG Get Jeff's book, B...
Jan 21, 2025•58 min
What should you be looking for when you're getting to know people you're dating? In this episode, I share the top 10 qualities to look for in a long-term romantic partner - no matter your gender, age, or who you're dating. You'll also learn a few different ways for how to tell if your date has these qualities, and you can think about whether or not YOU embody these qualities as well. Date Ideas Date Jar Video Submit a question for me to answer on the pod: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slid...
Jan 17, 2025•37 min
In this episode, I'm answering YOUR dating dilemmas! Hear three real issues from daters just like you. The first question is about what to do after having sex on date two... and they've fallen off the face of the earth after being so charming (ugh). The second one is about moving on after an amazing experience with a great guy who just didn't have time for commitment. And the last one is from a woman going through a divorce while having a friends with benefits situation who also just can't commi...
Jan 14, 2025•24 min
Whether you're dating or have a partner, we can't overlook the most important relationship you'll ever have: the one with YOU. In this episode, you'll learn how to practice self-acceptance and compassion, why I don't believe in "just loving yourself," and how this affects your dating life. You'll also get tons of practical tips for beating negative self-talk, developing your relationship with yourself, and becoming your own secure base so you can date with more confidence. Submit a dating dilemm...
Jan 10, 2025•43 min
Why do we feel so anxious when waiting for a text from someone we just started dating? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down exactly why texting in early dating causes so much anxiety and how to address it so it doesn't consume your body and mind. Sabrina and I get into the role texting plays in dating and the journey she had with her boyfriend who's absolutely NOT into texting at all. We also talk about what she's working on now as someone with anxiety in a relationship, how to navigate sl...
Jan 07, 2025•51 min
If you want to prioritize IRL connections, this episode is for you. I'm deep-diving into exactly where real people who listen to this podcast are meeting other single people to connect with and date! This episode will leave you feeling inspired to leave your house one way or another, whether that involves signing up for salsa classes or taking yourself out on a date once a week. I also get into how to start conversations and various ways to tell if the cutie you're chatting with is single or not...
Jan 03, 2025•34 min
Before you download a dating app for the first time or maybe 100th time, listen to this solo episode. I'm sharing three essential tips for making your profile work for you, keeping your mindset in check and messaging so you actually get off the apps and onto more dates! Want to skip all the trial and error on dating apps? Check out my NEW course on mastering dating apps called Swipe Match Date! Use code PODCAST at checkout for a discount. Dating App Episodes Genny Diehl - episode 33 Erika Ettin ...
Dec 31, 2024•23 min
Get out your tarot cards, crystal balls, and astrology charts! We're making predictions for what dating in 2025 will be like - share yours in the comments if you're listening on Spotify. In this episode, you'll hear dating predictions from friends of the podcast - all their IG accounts are linked below. I loved this collection of predictions. Everyone thinks dating is moving away from the screen and toward real-life connections, among other things. I'm so excited to see how 2025 dating actually ...
Dec 27, 2024•25 min
I'm joined by guest Sam Whitney, author of How To Date Authentically, to discuss what it means to date to be happy vs just trying to be right. Sam shares practical tips on dating with authenticity, improving your listening skills and other tools you need to develop to make real connections in your dating journey. I love Sam's unique perspective on the dating process and I know you will too! Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15 https://www.jennikayne.com/ Get Sam's book! https://www.amazon....
Dec 24, 2024•55 min
"If he wanted to he would" and "It will happen when you least expect it" are just two examples of the dating advice we're so done with. In this episode, I'm sharing what dating advice floating around the internet is unhelpful and why, and what to focus on instead that will actually get you closer to your goals of getting into a secure, healthy long term relationship. The advice that works is based on what other listeners have found success with - not just my experience. I'd love to hear from you...
Dec 20, 2024•31 min
Ever wonder what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in your 40's when you're already a parent and going through a divorce? My mom, Daniella Landau, shares her dating intentionally story after getting separated and divorced. She describes her approach to dating apps, how she met her husband on OkCupid, and more. Daniella also shares her experience with breaking up and getting back together with her husband before they got married, and what it took to transform their relationship. She...
Dec 17, 2024•1 hr 5 min
At the end of every guest episode, I ask, what do you want to see more of in dating culture? Past guests have shared a variety of interesting answers, from more empathy to seeing more enthusiasm for butt stuff. Today, I'm answering the question myself! I want to see more women making the first move, more compassion for all daters (dating is hard for everyone!), and more self-compassion, among other things I discuss in this episode. In the comments, share what you want to see more of in dating cu...
Dec 13, 2024•16 min
In this episode, I'm breaking down the most common early dating mistakes and what you can do to avoid them. Whether you're new to dating or you've been at it for awhile, this episode will help ensure you're not accidentally holding yourself back, self-sabotaging or sending the wrong message to potential partners. Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/ -- Episodes mentioned: Stay grounded in early dating Tips for slowing down in early dating Submit a dating dilemm...
Dec 10, 2024•30 min
In this episode, I'm answering three dating questions from listeners dealing with confusing behavior, imbalances in a relationship, and uncertainty about moving forward in a new situation. I love answering your questions! We had five dates. Then he left for a work trip. I haven't heard from him. What to do? I'm the only one who brings up deep conversations in my relationship. Can I ask him to start initiating them more? I'm starting to realize my date is a big drinker and I'm not. How to end it?...
Dec 06, 2024•23 min
How do you know if it's your gut telling you to do something or if it's just anxiety? In this episode, guest Amanda White and I get into a variety of topics like navigating dating advice on social media, getting out of the comparison trap, doing less in our love lives and more. Amanda shares so many practical tips for embracing ambiguity, sitting in the discomfort of indecision and how to lean into your intuition rather than listen to your anxiety. At the end, we talk about her new substack, Fen...
Dec 03, 2024•54 min
Hello from NYC! In this episode, I cover one of the trickiest parts of dating: identifying a good match. You'll get practical tips on what to look for in a partner, why finding a good match can be so challenging, and how to assess compatibility after the first few dates. You'll learn what defines a good match, three major obstacles to finding the right person and how to have an open mind when it comes to dating and meeting new people. I also get into key signs of compatibility. At the end I answ...
Nov 29, 2024•28 min
If you're in a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, or if you have this attachment style, this episode is for you. I got to talk to Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist, about the difference between manipulative and ethical avoidant attachment, signs someone is avoidant, and how to navigate a relationship with someone who is avoidant. You’ll hear about how Adam helps clients heal their avoidant attachment and so much more. At the end, Adam shares how to bring up the topic o...
Nov 26, 2024•1 hr 6 min
In this episode I'm sharing tips on making the most of a holiday season when you're single (again), how to be sparkier and create chemistry on dates and what to do when someone is trying to bench you or save you for later. Listen and hear my answer to these questions: I'm single on the holidays for the 3rd year in a row. What should I do? How can I build more chemistry on first dates? I've been dating someone who's about to deploy. How to move forward? Episodes mentioned: #43 - How to build chem...
Nov 22, 2024•20 min
In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: men...
Nov 19, 2024•1 hr 1 min
