We're trying something new! Welcome to the first installment of “Quickies” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Julie will dive into the Single Scale: what it is, where you land on it and how it may be impacting finding an actual partner who is the real deal. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to ...
Mar 08, 2024•8 min
Does dating feel like you’re chasing a “happily ever after” that always seems out of reach? We're chatting with dating coach Damona Hoffman about how to break free from the dating myths that keep you stuck on an outdated vision of a relationship that probably isn't even what you want anyways! We discuss why soulmates don't exist, the four pillars of strong relationships, and how you can rewrite the ending to your own love story. Follow Damona @damonahoffman, listen to Dates & Mat...
Mar 06, 2024•1 hr 1 min
Ever been on a date when your date won't stop talking? We're back with a new season of brunch talks as we go into how to know if it's first date jitters or narcissistic tendencies. We're discussing ways to insert yourself / redirect the conversation, how to do your own talking-too-much gut check, and when to give the date another try versus cut bait. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingy...
Mar 03, 2024•16 min
We're back with Season 18 here to answer an existential question we've had after doing this podcast now for 8 years: do you need to be good at dating? When we first started the pod, the answer was an obvious yes....until we dug in further. Join us as we discuss why dating culture isn't helping us get into relationships, how to start dating differently, and ways you can start forming more connections in your dating life TODAY! Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingy...
Feb 28, 2024•42 min
So you've been dating someone for a little bit now...when is it time to DTR (define the relationship) and how do you broach the subject? In our last of the Best of Brunch talk series, we'll discuss the difference between exclusivity and a relationship, how to have a series of low pressure chats starting early on, and why the focus should actually NOT be on defining the relationship (but rather something else). Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] a ...
Feb 25, 2024•23 min
As that essential tool we love to hate, the question remains: are apps the problem or are you just using them wrong? We're diving into it all as we chat with Laura & Heather on their podcast Thirsty about how we can leverage dating apps to their highest power and (perhaps) find the love of a lifetime. We discuss how to make great connections that may go somewhere, why better dates may actually result from dating less, and ways to attract the matches you want. Follow Heather & Laura o...
Feb 21, 2024•1 hr 14 min
One of the worst feelings in dating is sending that text and only to be left on read 4 hours later....yup, you too? We're going back to our OG Brunch talk episode – the first one ever with a topic that continues to be top of mind. Join us as we discuss why we put so much weight on texting, how to get out of the anxiety cycle of waiting, and ways you can stop compulsively looking at your phone and live life! Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] a questio...
Feb 18, 2024•19 min
Whether you're newly single after a breakup or you're just trying to figure out how to navigate the day with someone new in your life – we got you. Valentine's Day (aka Singles Awareness Day) can bring up all sorts of feelings and concerns so we're answering your v-day questions in this special episode and re-airing an episode we did with 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose to inject some humor into the day. Remember, no matter your "status", love is all around you. Enjoy! Follow 2 Bla...
Feb 14, 2024•57 min
We're diving into another crowd favorite and incredibly common question we hear over and over again: should I go on that date if I'm not sure about them? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing knowing the limitations of dating apps vs. trusting your gut, how to set up a date for success before even going on it, and ways you can change your mindset about what a first date even means. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] a question you need answ...
Feb 11, 2024•15 min
Single for V-day? We got you! Get ready for all the feels as we speak with Julia Mazur, ex-Tinder employee turned confidence coach, about what it's like to release the pressure of needing to be in a relationship and embrace being single for this season of life. We're discussing the ultimate masturdates, how to find a healthy relationship through valuing yourself, and why this time in your life is just prepping you for the great relationship bound to happen ahead! Follow Julia @pmdpod @ja...
Feb 07, 2024•1 hr 8 min
If you've ever been told you're being "too picky" or you have a fear of settling, this brunch talk is for you! We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes about the difference of being so particular that no one can meet your standards vs being smart to hold out for the right person. We're discussing why settling gets a bad rap, ways you may be settling without even realizing it, and how to gage against the standards that actually matter. Got a question you need answe...
Feb 04, 2024•27 min
Despite over 70% of people being ghosted, it doesn't diminish how f%cking sh*tty it feels. We're breaking down how to stop getting ghosted (or at least stop letting it get to you) as we chat with Rory Uphold from Crimes of the Heart. We’re discussing our wildest ghosting stories, how to reframe rejection, and ways not give so much power to the ghosters out there. Follow Rory @icouldbeblonder and check out her podcast 'Crimes of the Heart' Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchi...
Jan 31, 2024•1 hr 22 min
Right person, wrong time? Or is it just not meant to be? Trust us, we've pondered this ourselves and we're reairing one of our most passionate discussions. This week we discuss how to timing plays into relationships, when to wait vs. move on, and whether it can actually be right person, wrong time or if it's total BS that's holding you back. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content,...
Jan 28, 2024•24 min
What if you could throw out all the rules and create your own Do-it-Yourself Vision of a relationship? We're talking about how to design your love life with one of our favorites, psychotherapist Ken Page, on his podcast Deeper Dating. We're discussing the visions of dating across ages, how you use your North Star when dating, and ways you can less attached to the outcome – but still intentional – on having the love life you desire. Follow Ken @deeperdating, listen to Deeper Dating Podcas...
Jan 24, 2024•1 hr 11 min
Popular dating advice has told us: if they wanted to, they would. They'd move mountains to be with us and if they can't, then they just aren't that into it. We're re-airing one of our best brunch talks where we’re discuss when someone says they can't do something / they aren't ready and what this means for you, why this saying isn't always so black and white, and how to use this information to help propel you forward in your love life. Got a question you need answered...
Jan 21, 2024•22 min
From that post-great-date moment of bliss to the can't-get-out-of-bed heartbreak, we're diving into all the wonderful, problematic, and even humorous sides of dating as we chat with Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Reimagining Love. We discuss the rapidly changing dating culture, dig into our personal highs and lows, and tackle three sticky relationship situations – all which can help you reflect on your own dating life and epic quest for love. Follow Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Instagram @dr.alexa...
Jan 17, 2024•1 hr 6 min
The age old question that never stops coming: how can I tell if the person I'm seeing is as invested in me as I am in them? For our best of brunch series, we're re-airing a crowd favorite episode about signs if someone is serious – or not. We're discussing why it's important to look beyond just the DTR talk and labels, how you can communicate what a relationship means to you even early on in dating, and ways you can get on the same page –or realize that this person will never com...
Jan 14, 2024•21 min
From mind-numbing texting etiquette to turning situationships into real-deal love stories, we're laying it all out in this week's episode where we recorded with Gabrielle Stone on her podcast FML Talk. We're breaking down the rulebook on modern dating, spilling our ridiculous dating stories, and sharing our thoughts on what it really means when people say they feel a "connection" with someone new. Plus we're diving into what's "in" and what's "out"...
Jan 10, 2024•1 hr 8 min
2024 is here and it's time to meet more people in the wild! We're re-airing one of our crowd favorites around the lost art of meeting IRL – and how it's your year to have the meet-cute story you've always wanted. We're discussing why it's so challenging in the first place, ways to approach and be approachable, and how to discover the best types of places that could actually help you meet quality people. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast....
Jan 07, 2024•24 min
Happy 2024, all! It's the new year which means...a new opportunity to date differently and have the love life you've always wanted! We're not new years resolution people over here, so we're talking about our intentions for the new year and how you can think about yours. Plus we discuss how to set intentions for a new relationship (because someone may have shared about that last week!) Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more con...
Jan 03, 2024•31 min
As we approach the new year, how can you change your outlook on dating? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to feel more hopeful about finding love in 2024 – so you bring that energy to dating. We discuss tactics to change your mindset (no affirmations, promise!), how to surround yourself with supportive and optimistic people, and some quick and easy changes you can make today that’ll set you up to approach dating differently next year. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at...
Dec 31, 2023•21 min
It's been a heck of a 2023! From cheating scandals to cohabitating, we've both been through a lot – and we're sure you have, too! Join us in our end-of-year wrap episode as we reflect on the growth we both experienced in our love lives and what we learned along the way. We also discuss some of the best Dateable moments of the year, so let's reflect and ring in the new year! Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also ...
Dec 27, 2023•50 min
If you got your heart crushed – or even if the breakup was amicable – does it make sense to stay in touch with your ex? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the No Contact Rule and how it can help you move forward. We discuss how no contact doesn't have to be forever, ways to set boundaries so you're putting yourself first, and what to do instead when you inevitably want to reach out to them. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @date...
Dec 24, 2023•16 min
Fast-forward 15 years: what does your love life look like now? We're chatting with former guest Matteson Perry, author of a memoir chronicling his single life, about what he wishes he knew now – fifteen years later as a devoted husband and father. We discuss why you must go through all the heartbreak of dating, the unexpected qualities to look for in a partner, and how to avoid the biggest mistake that prevents you from finding your true love. Check out Matteson Perry https://www.mattesonper...
Dec 20, 2023•1 hr 8 min
From strip clubs to liking sexy Instagram photos, what's the line of cheating in this day and age? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the grey area of behaviors that make you feel uncomfortable that may not be as black and white as a physical affair. We discuss forms of microcheating, ways to navigate prior single behaviors, and how to talk to your partner about anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Foll...
Dec 17, 2023•16 min
We think our chances of love are over after that divorce or heart-wrenching breakup, but it's just the beginning. We're chatting with Laura & Heather to hear how their love stories continue only to get better – and how their views on dating, relationships, and marriage have changed drastically from all they've learned. We discuss the problems of being so tied to the relationship escalator, why your checklist doesn't matter, and how you can create a different – but better – ki...
Dec 13, 2023•1 hr 14 min
How much time do you spend together? When should you meet each other's friends and families? How do you still make time for your friends? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to manage a new relationship – without loosing yourself in the process. We discuss how to understand both of your needs in a relationship, ways to make it a collaborative process to determine what works best for the two of you, and how to carve out your own time to bring your best selves to the relationship....
Dec 10, 2023•19 min
We're getting intimate, y'all with Intimacy Coach Andre Lazarus as we talk about how past sexual experiences – or inexperiences – may be holding you back from having the sex life you've always wanted. We discuss how to take back control of anything that's caused you shame, ways to feel more confident about your sexual desires, and why it's entirely possible to live a more connected life with deeper intimacy. Trigger Alert: We touch briefly on sexual traumas including rape, as...
Dec 06, 2023•1 hr 13 min
Dating can be hard (and expensive!) when you're dating multiple people at once, never sure if that first date will amount to anything more. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing balancing all the planning aspects of modern dating with putting your best foot forward for each new person you meet. We discuss the differences between first dates and meet and greets, how to do a "vibe check" without killing the vibe, and ways to plan more intentional lower-budget first dates that st...
Dec 03, 2023•17 min
From the Bachelor to Love is Blind to Indian Matchmaking, how much is reality TV is seeping into real-life dating? We're chatting with Natasha & Justine from 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose about what reality dating shows teach us (if anything) about modern dating, love, and relationships. We discuss why we're all so intrigued by reality shows in the first place, how the pick-me mentality has been perpetrated into dating culture, and ways reality TV shows have made us buy into (or out of) the ...
Nov 29, 2023•1 hr 7 min
