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Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchickredcircle.com

Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!

Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!

If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.

Send us your brunchtalk questions at [email protected] or leave your question in a review!

Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/

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Episodes

S18E14: The Truth About Relationships

It's time to celebrate y'all....because it's our 500th episode!!! And for this special occasion we're getting raw and real about relationships and what we've learned going from confused daters to being in committed long-term partnerships. We're discussing how even the healthiest of relationships can be triggering, the types of things that are completely normal in a relationship (that don't always seem so), and why it's important to normalize both the benefits and ...

May 28, 202454 min

#brunchtalk: When Your Date Forgets Your Name

What do you do when you're on a great date....and your date calls you the complete wrong name? Is this a total dealbreaker or a funny story you can laugh about later? Join us for this week's brunch talk as we debate how big of a deal this is (we have differing opinions here!), ways you can come back from this mistake if you want to, and why modern dating is set up to make situations like this bound to happen. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected]...

May 26, 202418 min

Quickie w/ Julie: My Biggest Fear – Even In A Happy, Healthy Relationship

We're dropping another quickie as Julie reflects on her biggest fear that was triggered by last week's episode 'Are Long-Term Relationships For Everyone?' Find out why this apprehension still creeps in even in her current relationship and how she could relate to Ryan's ex from her experience in the past. If you've been in a situation where it felt like someone pulled the rug out from under you saying they couldn't be in a relationship anymore, then this episode is for...

May 24, 202410 min

S18E13: Dating Intentionally w/ Talia Koren

We've all heard the latest buzzword to "date intentionally" but what does this even mean? And how can it help you? We're chatting with Talia Koren about putting it all into practice and how she went from newbie dater to engaged in less than 2 years. We're discussing the types of shifts to your dating behavior that can bring more alignment to what you're looking for, how you can be intentional at all stages within dating and a relationship, and the #1 challenge that comes ...

May 21, 20241 hr 12 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Get Over Being Friend Zoned?

What happens when you finally get the courage to confess your feelings....and then they just don't feel the same? It can be so difficult –regardless of your gender or sexuality – to have to see this person out and about who rejected you. We're discussing the time needed to break away from the situation, how to know if eventually regaining a friendship is in the cards, and ways you can move forward and meet someone who returns the feelings for you. Got a dating question you need answered?...

May 19, 202417 min

Quickie w/ Yue: What I Learned 1-Year Post-Breakup

It's been one-year from that fateful day when Yue learned her partner of 5 years had been unfaithful. Join us for a heartfelt quickie as Yue shares what she's learned in the last year about love, relationships, and persevering through it all – to a happier and more fulfilled place than she ever imagined she'd be. This is an emotional one, but also certainly uplifting for anyone else struggling with heartbreak. Because you're never alone in what you're going through. Related E...

May 17, 202412 min

S18E12: Are Long-Term Relationships For Everyone? w/ Ryan Van Duzer

What happens when you – or the person you're dating – just can't commit to a relationship past the honeymoon stage? We're getting a look inside the mind of return guest Ryan Van Duzer about why he wants to flee once things get serious – even with people he thought were 'The One.' We're discussing the differences of being ready for love versus a relationship, the line of staying true to yourself vs self-sabotaging, and how to tell if someone has the capacity for something ...

May 15, 20241 hr 7 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Keep The Momentum Going (In Early Dating)?

You start talking to someone you're interested in. You get busy. They get busy. And then you start to fear that the connection will just fade out...all before you even met IRL! Join us as we chat about how to keep the momentum going in early stage dating. We're discussing the reasons that things start to fall apart in the first place, the balance of how much to text before meeting up, and ways you can ensure that you're still going on dates even when life gets busy. Got a dating ques...

May 12, 202416 min

S18E11: Your Dating Predictions This Year w/ The AstroTwins

Can you predict what's going to happen in your love life? We're joined with the fabulous AstroTwins Ophi & Tali to dive into all things astrology – from each signs outlook for love to general dating shifts that are happening as we speak. We're discussing why dating is in the middle of one big iOs update, what mercury in retrograde really means for your love life, and how you can use astrology to feel empowered in dating. Follow the AstroTwins @astrotwins and learn more about thei...

May 08, 20241 hr 13 min

#brunchtalk: What To Do When You Feel Behind In Dating

What happens when you reach a certain age and realized you haven't been prioritizing dating and relationships as much as maybe you would have liked? How do you "catch up" and get back on track? Join us as we chat about feeling behind in the love department – and what to do about it. We're discussing how to share your story with dates, the reasons past relationship experience ultimately doesn't matter, and why there's no better today than today to get out there (and how to...

May 05, 202416 min

S18E10: Expanding Your Type

Is it possible to change your type? Do you like who you like? Join us as we dive into what it even means to have a type – and how it's helping or hurting your dating life. We discuss where your type comes from and how it's influenced, ways you can expand your type without necessarily going for your complete opposite, and why dating different types of people can help you determine what it is you truly need. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our websit...

May 01, 202446 min

#brunchtalk: Do You Give Them Another Chance?

If they flaked, ghosted, or slow-faded away, do you give them another chance if they come back into your life? Join us this week as we chat about why – or why not – someone may deserve a second chance. We're discussing what to look for in their words and actions, how you can hold your ground and share your needs, and why the early stages often reveal a lot – but not always everything. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast, ...

Apr 28, 202417 min

Quickie w/ Julie: The #1 Quality To Look For While Dating

We're back for another “Quickie” where we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Julie shares the one quality that's pivotal to look for when you're dating – a foundational trait that you need in a partner in order to have a happy and healthy relationship. Enjoy! Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast...

Apr 26, 20249 min

S18E9: Dating ADHD w/ Sussan Nwogwugwu

In today's fast-paced dating world where it's so easy to be distracted, we're diving into how to bring more focus into dating – whether you're diagnosed with ADHD or not. We're also bringing in an expert: Sussan Nwogwugwu, PMHNP to talk about ADHD's impact in dating and relationships. We're discussing the difference of having a short-attention span and ADHD, how you can understand yourself or your partner better on the ADHD spectrum, and strategies to stay more presen...

Apr 24, 202449 min

#brunchtalk: Should You Be Able To Check Your Partner's Phone?

A debate only this generation would have: should couples be able to check each other's phones freely or is each person entitled to their level of own level of privacy? We're digging into our thoughts as we discuss the motivations for needing to look at your partner's phone in the first place, the benefits and downfalls of giving one another access, and how you can actually discuss with one another what's behind the ask. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@...

Apr 21, 202414 min

Quickie w/ Yue: Reset The Algorithm Of Your Love Life

We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Yue is sharing how with all the changes with the eclipse, now is the perfect time to take control and move out all the noise of what has been clouding your path before. Enjoy! Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podc...

Apr 18, 202411 min

S18E8: Understanding Digital Body Language (in Dating) w/ Moe Ari

Are there universal signals of digital body language? What does your DBL say about you and the way you date? We're chatting with licensed marriage and family therapist Moe Ari about the virtual cues we send in our online communication that are crucial to dating in today's digital world. We're discussing why understanding DBL can help you while dating, how to avoid overanalyzing/ misinterpreting communication, and ways you can strengthen your DBL with anyone you date. Follow Moe @love...

Apr 17, 20241 hr 9 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Deal With Judgemental Friends or Family When Dating?

Nothing is worse than having judgemental friends or family who pick apart every last person you date. In this week's brunch talk, we're discussing how to deal when the people closest to you think the person you're dating isn't "good enough." We're discuss where this type of feedback may come from, why it's important to know what's useful information versus superficial reasons that should be tuned out, and how you can talk your friends and family in a way that ...

Apr 14, 202413 min

S18E7: A New Model For Love w/ Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Do successful partnerships need more than love? We're told that two people meet, fall in love, and come together as one....but is this model deeply flawed? We're chatting with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh about her new model for love that she believes is more sustainable for a lifetime together. We're discussing the differences between emergent and submergent partnerships, the 6 ingredients for lasting love, and how you can start thinking about designing your love life, even if you're si...

Apr 10, 20241 hr 15 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Have Difficult Conversations When You're Anxious And They're Avoidant?

Difficult conversations are difficult for a reason – but even more when you're hyper-communicative and your partner is well...not. We're discussing how to having challenging conversations especially when it comes to the momentum of your relationship when one person may be more avoidant and slower paced than the other. We're discussing it all from how to broach these convos without smothering the other person, ways you can advocate for yourself while still listening to your partners p...

Apr 07, 202415 min

Quickie w/ Julie: The Best Is Yet To Come

We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Julie is sharing a framework to look at past dates or relationships that didn't work out not as failures – but rather as building blocks that lay the foundation for your great relationship that's still yet to come. Enjoy! Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Foll...

Apr 05, 20247 min

S18E6: Can AI Save Dating Apps? w/ Ben Chiang

No, we're not talking about ChatGPT or tools that write your profile or texts (or even worse, create fake photos!). We're talking about how AI can actually revolutionize dating apps in the way Tinder did in 2012 (over a decade ago!) Join us as we chat with Ben, the founder of Volar dating, about how they're using AI to cut through the BS of dating apps and make them more efficient. We get it: AI is scary. Before talking to Ben, we weren't 100% onboard either. But now, all we can ...

Apr 03, 20241 hr 15 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Step Into Your Feminine Energy (Or Is That Total BS)?

If you identify as a woman (or date women!), you've probably heard about why 'feminine energy' is so important to attract a mate. But it's 2024 people, and we're discussing why this is actually quite problematic even though it feels innocent enough. So buckle up as we chat about why this advice is simply outdated, how to embrace a natural style for you that still gives off an interested vibe, and ways we can all start dating in a way that doesn't feel as performative. Got...

Mar 31, 202413 min

S18E5: Dating In Your 30s

Does dating get harder after 30? We’re digging into the challenges but also why we think it's the BEST time to date. Join us as we dive into all the myths and misperceptions of dating after turning 30. We discuss the fear of running out of time, the reasons this age is actually working in your favor, and why it's not only possible – but probable– to find love at any age. TW: We also discuss the very real pressures of the biological clock and options like egg freezing, and alternative fam...

Mar 27, 202452 min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Know When To Trust Your Gut?

When something feels off...is it just your anxiety talking or is this your gut telling you something is very wrong? Whether you're dating someone new or in a long-term relationship, we're discussing a framework to decipher these feelings, how to determine if you're in a "Yue situation" (as the listener so endearingly refers to it), and ways you can actually talk it out instead of jumping to conclusions. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] ...

Mar 24, 202416 min

Quickie w/ Yue: Stop Waiting For That Text Back (Among Other Things That Are A Waste of Your Time)

We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Yue will discuss a framework she uses to stop spending time on trivial things in dating – whether it's that text back or anything else that ends up being a waste of your time when dating. Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchic...

Mar 22, 202411 min

S18E4: The 333 Dating Strategy w/ Haifa Barbari

Date 3 People at a time, for 3 months, with 3 chances. Does this strategy work? We're chatting with Haifa about how her 333 Dating Strategy helped her find love after wasting four years on dating apps feeling unconfident and insecure. We're discussing the pros and cons of multi-dating, why it's important to give dating experiences time to see the person for who they truly are, and ways you can still be intentional while dating multiple people at once. Follow Haifa @thehaifab and chec...

Mar 20, 20241 hr 11 min

#brunchtalk: What To Do When You're The Last Single Friend

So all your friends are all boo'ed up...and then there's you. Single as a Pringle. We've been there before and we get how crappy it can feel to be the only single one in the group. But have no fear! We're diving into how navigate this time so you can feel less alone in the process. We discuss ways to expand your social circles to connect with others who get where you're at, how you can reconnect with your friends despite your different life stages, and ways you can get the su...

Mar 17, 202416 min

S18E3: Nice Guys Finish First w/ Vince Xu

We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actually is what got him the girl. We discuss how we need to reframe "the nice guy" and "fboy" tropes, ways that good guys can make their intentions known in a way that builds chemistry, and how as women dating men we can look at the overall character of the person we're dating. Follow Vince @vincexu and check out 'Fuckboy Island&...

Mar 13, 20241 hr 10 min

#brunchtalk: Should You Move For Better Dating Options?

Could the problem be your city? Is it worth moving for better dating prospects? We're diving into it all as we chat about why (or why not) your location is the problem. We discuss how to evaluate whether or not a move would e good for you, why everyone thinks their city is the worst place to date, and how you can take advantage of your current city even if you think the dating pool has dried up. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Join our Finding Your Pe...

Mar 10, 202415 min