Listen bestie, you know that tight feeling in your chest, the unexplained fatigue, the random headaches and sleepless nights? That’s your body screaming: this relationship is toxic!! RUN. (We're talking, romantic, platonic, or family—no one gets a free pass.) Today, Violetta reveals the science-backed truth about how emotional stress from toxic relationships physically destroys your health—think cortisol chaos, immune system crashes, and gut meltdowns. If you have ADHD , trauma , or an anxious a...
May 01, 2025•21 min
Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out. If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved. Inspired by the book Attached , we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free. Bon...
Apr 25, 2025•39 min
Think he was your soulmate ? wrong . He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi. This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.” In this short, savage 5 step guide , I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing...
Apr 18, 2025•24 min
Second week of the month? You know what that means—it’s time for Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear. From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I’m breaking down the dumbest sh*t we’ve all done for men who didn’t deserve it. Plus: navigating ex drama, toxic friends, and how to actually move on from heartbreak when therapy, shrooms, and silent retreats ...
Apr 12, 2025•28 min
If you’re tired of feeling stuck, this is your wake-up call. In 21 days, you can reset your mind, body, and soul—and completely shift the trajectory of your life. No fluff. No waiting. Just the mindset, the energy, and the exact steps to become her . This is the sign you've been looking for!! Your future self is begging you to press play :) P.S. Make sure to tune in to the 3 call to action steps at the end. If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to subscribe and share with your friends! pl...
Apr 03, 2025•41 min
Buckle up besties, because we’re removing the love goggles, dry-heaving over mixed signals, and finally realizing your soulmate is not the guy who ghosted you after “accidentally” falling into another woman’s vagina. Oopsies. In today’s spicy little episode, ’m diving into the chapter that should be tattooed on every situationship survivor's forehead: Let Them Show You Who They Are from Mel Robbins’ book The Let Them Theory . This episode is for anyone confused, delusional, freshly dumped, or ju...
Mar 28, 2025•41 min
Hi besties!!! This week, Almost Adulting gets extra raw (and maybe a little gross) as Violet sits down with Bachelor royalty,Kaitlyn Bristowe, for a no-holds-barred conversation full of TMI, laughter, and brutal honesty. In this episode, we cover: We Listen and We Don’t Judge – Icebreaker confessions, including bathroom mishaps, weird habits, and the things nobody admits to. Living Alone vs. Relationship Life – The best and worst parts of solo life and the unexpected struggles that make us miss ...
Mar 20, 2025•57 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This March, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aries man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The bold traits that make him irresistible—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Proven strategies to grab his attention and keep him addicted to your energy. 🔥 What lights his fire in a relationship (and what will extinguish it). 🔥 Red flags that show he’s losing interest—and how to reigni...
Mar 17, 2025•23 min
Tiny Adults , it's that time of the month—our second-week Dear Violet episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I’ll spill all the details before diving into today’s episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting what you want. Here’s what we’re covering: The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you wan...
Mar 13, 2025•51 min
Pack your bags, Tiny Adults (is this nickname working for you?? Y/N?), because we’re heading to Aspen—where the altitude is high, the skiing is tragic, and the men? Well… some of them are worth the trip. This episode is a rollercoaster of luxury, disaster, and unexpected life lessons. From scoring free designer fits to nearly dying on the slopes, this trip had everything. Buckle up—you're in for a ride. ⏳ TIME STAMPS : [00:00:00] - [00:13:16] ➝ My favourite part of traveling, the perks of flying...
Mar 06, 2025•1 hr 1 min
BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club —your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel Robbins Translation? Stop trying to control people who don’t text back, don’t show up, or don’t give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier. This episode covers:...
Feb 27, 2025•52 min
🚨 Buckle up, tiny adults—this episode is PURE CHAOS. 🚨 I’m joined by the one and only Laura Clery —host of Idiot podcast, author, comedian, and dear friend. Together, we’re spilling the most unhinged, hilarious, and WTF-worthy stories we’ve never dared to say out loud—until now. But you have to PROMISE not to judge. From moving in with a drug dealer she met once, to accidentally ruining a marriage, to getting away with illegal parking, meth (yes, really) , and some other truly questionable lif...
Feb 20, 2025•1 hr 30 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This February, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Pisces man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The secrets behind his compassionate and mysterious nature—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to captivate his heart and keep him completely hooked. 🔥 What he craves in a partner (and what will make him drift away). 🔥 Subtle signs he’s losing interest—and how to turn th...
Feb 17, 2025•21 min
Welcome to Dear Violetta - our monthly series airing every second week of the month! where I answer your toughest questions with the unfiltered advice you need to hear. If you've ever questioned a friendship, obsessed over a ghoster, or felt like you fall too fast in love—then today's episode is for you. Topics Covered: Ending a toxic friendship & signs your friendship is toxic Should you give a guy who ghosted you a second chance? The fastest way to get someone to do what you want (in work,...
Feb 13, 2025•38 min
What if I told you happiness isn’t the goal —and most people don’t actually want it? 🤯 That’s why WE secretly keep self-sabotaging. That’s why we stay stuck. But here’s the truth: As corny as it may sound, rock bottom isn’t the end. It’s the launchpad. In this episode, we get real about: Part 1 - 💥 How hitting rock bottom can be your biggest flex (if you know how to use it) 💥 The real reason you keep self-sabotaging (and how to stop) 💥 Why pain is actually part of your success story Part 2 -...
Feb 06, 2025•46 min
Welcome back Tiny Adults! This month's BBC – Benson Book Club episode is all about trauma, your brain, and why you can’t just ‘get over it-- because Your Body Keeps The Score ;) We’re covering: 🧠 How trauma rewires your brain & nervous system 🚨 Fight, flight, freeze, or dissociation—what’s your response? ⚖️ Why some people heal and others stay stuck in the past ⚠️ The part of trauma where therapy can actually make things worse TIMELINE: 🔑 First 20 min: Brain basics—survival mode & str...
Jan 30, 2025•55 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This January, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aquarius man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The key traits that make Aquarius tick—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep him coming back for more. 🔥 What he secretly loves (and what will send him running). 🔥 Warning signs he’s pulling away—and how to flip the script fast. 🔥 The art ...
Jan 26, 2025•27 min
Welcome to the official first Almost Adulting episode of 2025! Today, we’re breaking down what’s holding you back and how to rewire your brain to unlock unshakable confidence. Spoiler alert: Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn, and today I’ll teach you how to master it in 5 simple steps. In this episode, we'll unpack: The 4 Biggest Confidence Killers : (4:31) Confidence Killer #1: Caring too much Confidence Killer #2: Your #1 biggest hater Confidence Killer #3:...
Jan 23, 2025•39 min
In this raw and insane episode, I break down my wild two-week nightmare during the LA fires. From flames creeping toward my house and having to evacuate in chaos to my house getting broken into. Oh, and all those conspiracy theories? I’m spilling the truth—was it arson? Is State Farm really bailing on people? And why was LA so unprepared for this? Buckle up, because I’m sharing everything you didn’t know the LA fires and debunking/confirming the conspiracy theories everyone’s been talking about....
Jan 21, 2025•46 min
From frozen grapes under tables to dodging dating disasters to becoming a born-again virgin and reclaiming self-worth—this year was a journey . Tune in as I spill on heartbreaks, hilarious fails, and the glow-up moments that made it all worth it. Plus, the realest advice you'll ever hear if you think they're the one (spoiler: they probably hate you) and a step-by-step guide to manifesting your dream partner on New Year’s night for 2025. Grab your wine, bestie—it’s reflection and manifestation ti...
Dec 29, 2024•31 min
Ever wished procrastination was an Olympic sport because you’d definitely win gold? Well, it’s time to change that mindset, one tiny step at a time! In today's episode, we're diving into the genius of the 2-Minute Rule from Atomic Habits by James Clear. Discover how this bite-sized approach to habit-building can turn even the most persistent procrastinator into a productivity powerhouse. Learn from the greats like Twyla Tharp and the biggest procrastinator you know (me!) to transform those daunt...
Dec 19, 2024•31 min
Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome. Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss: Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away. Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated o...
Dec 12, 2024•38 min
This week, we kick off with a hilarious throwback to my 12-year-old self being an absolute menace (prepare for secondhand embarrassment!). Then, we dive into YOUR CALLS. Your heartfelt, hilarious, and jaw-dropping voicemail questions and stories. From navigating loneliness after moving to a new country to dealing with relationship resentment from a ruined vacation, and even the ultimate tale of reclaiming your power after infidelity—it’s all here. Oh, and what happens when your best friend choos...
Dec 05, 2024•40 min
This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn’t even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it’s all about their insecurities, not you. The episode wraps with 10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don’t Do. From managing emotions and embracing fear as growth to building trust and navigating happiness, Vi...
Nov 28, 2024•37 min
Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you’re the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else’s universe too? Are you Hey Besties! 🌟 Welcome to this week's episode where we’re diving deep into a mind-blowing chapter from Mark Manson's "The Art of Not Gi...
Nov 21, 2024•31 min
They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed. We discuss: The Power of Praise : Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention. Be His Queen—Silently in Control: How to stay in co...
Nov 18, 2024•45 min
Are you being needy or jumping through hoops Like a circus poodle to make someone's crusty a$$ son happy? then stop right there and listen to this episode sugar tits. Ever wondered why most women crave something from a man that they need to give themselves or where the key is keeping your rhythm intact to avoid creating a void in your life? Learn why lowering yourself to fit his criteria lowers the relationship value and why being the "nice girl" might not always be in your best interest. Shop t...
Nov 14, 2024•30 min
In this wild episode, we share the unforgettable story of a disastrous elevator incident that turns hilariously messy, delve into dating horror stories like discovering a date is married, and a Tinder match nearly goes off a cliff (literally). From ex-girlfriend party ambushes to duffel-bagged sleepover assumptions, and the epic Taco Bell 100-taco fiasco—these are dating fails you won’t believe. We’ll laugh, cringe, and give you the lowdown on the absurd lengths people go to in the name of love ...
Nov 07, 2024•56 min
In this episode, I sit down with Whitney Port, beloved reality TV star from The Hills and The City , entrepreneur, and podcast host. Whitney opens up about her deeply personal journey with infertility, the pressure of public life, and the complexities of navigating anxiety and self-worth. Prepare for a candid, relatable, and incredibly inspiring conversation as we delve into her struggles and triumphs. We discuss: Navigating Infertility : Whitney shares her heartbreaking journey through five mis...
Oct 31, 2024•1 hr 29 min
In this episode, we go all in on love, dating, and relationships—holding nothing back. If you're fed up with mixed signals, emotionally unavailable partners, or just feeling like you’re not getting what you deserve, this is the episode that will turn it all around for you. What we discuss: If you catch me doing THIS, then just KNOW I’m going through it and someone’s dusty a&& son p*ssed me the F off! The best advice my mum gave me when it comes to heartbreak 3 questions to ask yourself i...
Oct 17, 2024•38 min
