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Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Spacewww.spreaker.com
In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast.

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Episodes

S10E13: How Dimming Your Light Is Holding You Back- SHARE THIS!

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe Lady, let this song lyric marinate, do some research on the meaning, and then etch this song in your spirit: “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine.” Not sure what it means to shine your light? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri help us understand how we may be dimming our light through real-life examples. Now is the time for us to st...

Jun 25, 202139 min

S10E12: How to Respond When People Start Acting Funny

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe “Something just ain’t right” and “I got a funny feeling” are more than lyrics in a song. It’s that feeling we get when there has been a shift in our relationship. How do you respond? Will it be your petty, passive, or vulnerable self showing up to the situation? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom share common scenarios to help us determine how to...

Jun 18, 202135 min

S10E11: Let Our Girls Be Girls: Side Effects of the Adultification of Black Girls

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe Think about the Black girls in your life. Really think about them. What are the words you would use to describe them? Are any of those words ones you use to describe adults? Lady, if you are like most of us then at least one word is probably more appropriate to describe an adult. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us understand the negative ...

Jun 11, 202146 min

S10E10: Put Down Your Superwoman Cape

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe Lady, when was the last time you gave yourself the same energy and love you give everyone else in your life? If you find yourself constantly giving everyone your all and carrying the weight of the world without breaking, then you may be experiencing Black Superwoman Syndrome. Not sure how to be anything other than Black Superwoman? Well, today, Terr...

Jun 04, 202144 min

S10E9: You Can't Sit With Us: 7 Signs That You're a Mean Girl

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe Mean Girls. We all know them. Perhaps, the mean girl is you. Not sure if it’s you? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri provide us with real-life examples of mean girls. Listening to their authentic conversation we learn to distinguish between awkward situations, normal conflict, and mean girl energy. Terri and Dr. Dom also give us strategies for navi...

May 28, 202144 min

S10E8: New Mom Who Dis?: 3 Tips for Navigating the Change in Friendships for New Moms

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe Friendships are a necessity for our survival. The longer the relationship the more likely the friendship will have experienced a variety of life transitions- weddings, children, death, etc. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom explore friendship changes for new moms. Whether you are a new mom or the supportive friend, this is a conversation each of...

May 21, 202133 min

S10E7: Ask Dr. Dom: Addressing Taboo Relationship Questions From Listeners Like You

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe Lady, do you subscribe to our Patreon page to get our Ask Dr. Dom segments? If not, you might be missing out on tips that you or someone you know can benefit from. Precarious situation with your partner? Difficult relationship with your in-laws? Then you may benefit from subscribing and submitting your questions to the Ask Dr. Dom Talkback Tuesday. ...

May 14, 202140 min

S10E6: 6 Ways to Manage Anxiety As the World Re-Opens

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe We have been living through the COVID-19 pandemic for well over a year now. Everyone has had different experiences through this pandemic dependent upon your positionality and identities. As the country eases restrictions and tries to return to pre-pandemic life, how do you feel about engaging with people again? A lot of us are experiencing anxiety about a ...

May 07, 202132 min

S10E5: Calling Out or Calling In? A Conversation about Cancel Culture

Who are the people we can work with? Who are the ones we need to workaround? When we identify what is within our control, we can expend our energy in ways that will capitalize on our efforts to make a change. Today Dr. Dom and Terri talk about the origins of cancel culture, the difference between calling out or calling in, and when to use which strategy. Quote of the Day: "Some people you can work with and some people you can workaround. " Loretta Ross Tips for determining whether to call out or...

Apr 30, 202143 min

S10E4: The Other Side of the Couch: How to Become a Therapist

Ever wonder how your therapist became a therapist? Or perhaps, you are considering becoming a therapist. Imagine being able to peek “behind the scenes” or “get the inside scoop” to learn about your therapist’s career journey or how your therapist approaches working with clients. You know, the information beyond what is on their website. Why did they become a therapist? What are their thoughts about certain client experiences? In today’s episode, Terri interviews Dr. Dom about her personal journe...

Apr 23, 202154 min

S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

In last week’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom explored the quiz from Dr. Ramani Durvasula about narcissistic partners. Today, Dr. Ramani joins the ladies for a more in-depth conversation to understand the key characteristics of a narcissistic partner like gaslighting, breadcrumbing, manipulating, and hoovering. If you wonder if you are in a narcissistic relationship, listen to the stages and traits to see if they resonate. Dr. Ramani will also share her strategies for ending and healing from the nar...

Apr 16, 202150 min

S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Diving into Dr. Ramani Durvasula's Narcissism Quiz

Does your partner often think that people are out to get them or take advantage of them? On one hand this a valid experience of being Black but when combined with certain other traits this could be a sign of narcissism. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom take a look at some of the questions from Dr. Ramani’s quiz in her book, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist. Listen in to see if you or someone you know fits this description and tune in next week to hea...

Apr 09, 202136 min

S10E1: How to Put Shame in Its Place

Lady, are you ready to stop hustling for your worthiness and become the victor in your story? It is time for us to stop dimming our light and focus on shining and soaring! We are not defined by where we come from and as Bryan Stevenson notes, “ Each of us is much more than the worst thing we’ve ever done.” In today’s episode, listen in as Dr. Dom and Terri discuss how shame shows up in our lives. They also provide us with the internal and external compasses we can create to put shame in its plac...

Apr 02, 202148 min

S9E13: How to Be Whole and Happy While Being Estranged From Your Mom

The mother-daughter relationship is a complex one. Some of us have beautiful relationships with our mothers in which they are one of the most trusted people in our inner circle. However, what happens if you have a complicated, distant, or estranged relationship with your mother? What are the feelings that come up for you? How can you support a friend who does not have a close relationship with their mother? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss Terri’s relationship with her mother and the s...

Mar 26, 202155 min

S9E12: Cultivating Community When You're Not Close to Your Family

How do you define family? Is it based on your relatives, people you have chosen as family, or some amalgamation of the two? Today Dr. Dom and Terri are discussing the complexities of navigating familial relationships and what happens when we decide those relationships are abusive or not in alignment with who we are. The ladies also provide us with tips on how to cultivate community family or community when we are not physically and/or emotionally close to our family of origin. Quote of the Day: ...

Mar 19, 202146 min

S9E11: When Black Does Crack: Coping With Aging and Beauty Standards

Black don’t crack...or does it? What is your relationship with aging? What aspects of the aging process are within our control? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom examine the science, the common stereotypes, and our perceptions of the aging process for Black women. While this episode only scratches the surface, make sure you are consulting your spiritual, physical, mental, and financial health providers to ensure your aging process is moving in alignment with your values. Quote of the Day: Bl...

Mar 12, 202139 min

S9E10: Why Youth Mental Health is Important with Dr. Alfiee Breland-Noble

Lady, if you have any young people in your life this episode is definitely for you! Today Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the incomparable Dr. Alfiee to talk about the mental health issues of BIPOC youth, young adults, and young at heart. This is a conversation full of honesty and realness to not only understand the toxic systems mental health providers navigate to how these same providers prioritize being a safe space for youth and young adults. The powerful gems Dr. Alfiee shares with us are a...

Mar 05, 202157 min

S9E9: What Every Business Owner & Creative Needs to Know About Trademarking with Ruky Tijani

Are you protecting your brand and social impact? Unsure of how to effectively navigate the process of protecting your intellectual property? Then this episode is definitely for you. Today, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the founder of Firm for the Culture, Ruky Tijani. She provides useful information on how to protect your contributions to the culture. Trust us when we say the gems Ruky drops will make you think differently about trademarking and copyrighting. Don’t sleep on this game changing ...

Feb 26, 202152 min

S9E8: What's a Chakra?: Sex, Healing, and Balance with Eliza Boquin

Lady, have you ever had your chakras line up with your partner’s? Would you know what it feels like if they did? No worries. Mother Earth provides us with everything we need so we got you today! Joining Dr. Dom and Terri this week is Eliza Boquin to educate us on the connection between chakras, energy healing, and sex. Eliza describes each of the seven chakras with examples and how to heal based on each of their functions. Of course, we get an answer to that question of what sex looks like when ...

Feb 19, 202150 min

S9E7: Destigmatizing Sex and Embracing Sex Toys and Pleasure with Nenna Joiner

“We are all sex workers.” Let that one marinate. “If you can’t do for you then you can’t do for others.” How does that question apply to sex? In this week’s episode Dr. Dom and Terri dive into that first statement and answer the previous question. Plus, so much more! Today on Cultivating H.E.R.Space, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Nenna Joiner. From sexual trauma to elder sexual pleasure to selling sex toys to sex workers to porn. The complexities of this conversation are representa...

Feb 12, 202144 min

S9E6: Two Husbands and One Boyfriend? Demystifying Polyamory and Polygamy with Kenya Stevens

Lady, do you love only one person at a time? Most likely the answer is, no. If you love more than one person, you are, by definition, polyamorous. Say what now?! Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about love with multiple people on the romantic level. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Kenya K. Stevens of the Progressive Love Academy to debunk some of the misconceptions about having multiple loves. This is a real conversation about the facts, nuances, and complexities of...

Feb 05, 202147 min

S9E5: Heaux Tales: Who Told Jazmine Sullivan to Tell the World Our Business?

WARNING: Explicit Content. Not suitable for sensitive ears or the faint of heart. We are talking about sex, vaginas, penises, etc. and use other colorful descriptors for our body parts. Now that we have warned you, lady, today Dr. Dom and Terri dive into Jazmine Sullivan’s new album...Heaux Tales. If you have not listened yet we suggest checking it out and then coming back to the episode. Or...you can play it as you listen to this episode. This entertaining and informative exploration of the alb...

Jan 29, 202153 min

S9E4: 7 Ways to Become a Better Partner

For this first installment of our 2021 Sexy Self-Love Series, we discuss qualities of a good partner. My love, what qualities are you bringing to the relationship table? Would you date you? What are you doing to make sure you are a healthy happy person? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri explore some of the complexities around discovering the impact of our presence in relationships. While the tips mentioned are not an exhaustive list, they are a great start to a self assessment. As you tune i...

Jan 22, 202145 min

S9E3: The Shadow Side of Success: The Sacrifices Made to Achieve Great Things

What have you done to achieve your goals? Are you willing to make sacrifices, shifts, and changes to get what you want? Having a visceral reaction to the word sacrifice? No, well maybe we’re projecting, lol. Is it possible to be happy while you are sacrificing? How do you know if it is worth it? In today’s episode, join Terri and Dr. Dom as they reflect on their perceptions of sacrifice and their journeys to achieving great things. Quote of the Day: "Conviction and Convenience Don't Live on the ...

Jan 15, 202139 min

S9E2: Using Visualization to Cultivate Resilience

If you have been watching the news then you know 2021 is already trying to test us. Well, no worries. Lady, here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space...we got you! At the time of our recording we did not know how important and timely this conversation would be for our community. In today’s episode we are going to build up our armor. Dr. Dom is going to guide us through a visualization to help us cultivate resilience. This is a time when you want to make sure you are in a comfortable distraction-free envi...

Jan 08, 202141 min

S9E1: How to Know When You Should Give Up: Saying Goodbye to the H.E.R Space Podcast!

Welcome to 2021! Have you ever started something (a relationship, job, hobby, etc.) and after a while was no longer interested or things were no longer working in your favor? When those moments come up, what did you do? In January 2019, Terri and Dr. Dom launched the Healing Empowerment Resilience Podcast and have released a new episode every Friday. Now, after two years we are closing the doors on one chapter to make room for another opportunity. As you listen to this episode Dr. Dom and Terri ...

Jan 01, 202140 min

S8E13: What Would You Do? Girls' Night Edition

Lady, we made it! It is the last Friday of 2020! Let’s celebrate! What do you and your girls do when you gather? Drink? Smoke? Eat? Laugh? Cry? All of those are on the table for this Girls Night In. Join Terri and Dom with your beverage and snack of choice where we are playing a game of What Would You Do?. As with most Girls Night In conversations, any topic is up for discussion and we approach each topic with love, positive vibes, and pure intentions. ***Be sure to subscribe to Patreon to get a...

Dec 25, 202047 min

S8E12: Mommy Issues: Addressing the Wounds From Your Mother-Daughter Relationship Dr. Thema

If you follow her on social media, then you have been inspired, empowered and enlightened by the daily quotes from our guest today, Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis. Perhaps you remember when she was a guest on Season 3 Episode 12 in a discussion about healing intergenerational trauma. Or maybe you have listened to her Homecoming podcast. Well, today Dr. Thema returns for a much-needed conversation about mother-daughter relationships. Our mothers are individual adult beings and sometimes no matter the sta...

Dec 18, 202057 min

S8E11 : Coming to Grips with Being Enough with Dr. Jannis Moody

Lady, do you feel like you are enough? Do you believe you are worthy? Who are you when you are not producing or doing something? The socialization of being in competition with one another and the negative social comparison is stealing our joy. While we are “stomping down the street like majorettes in the parade with no boots on and pulling the whole community behind us,” do not let anyone say you are not worthy. YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri engage Dr. Jannis Moody in a...

Dec 11, 202056 min

S8E10: Ambiguous Grief: Grieving When You Can't Get Closure

Pandemic, death, divorce, natural disaster, addiction...grief and loss is something we have all experienced. How we define and experience the loss varies. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us understand ambiguous grief. Lady, if you have experienced the physical loss of someone or something while still experiencing them psychologically or the inverse then this episode may give you the language you need to define your experience. Hopefully, this complex conversation between Dr. Dom and T...

Dec 04, 202042 min