Join Amie and Alana this week and we dive into parts work, looking at the parts of you that are trying to keep you safe. Not only do we discuss how to use this tool to heal, we do a live unscripted demo on air. Tune in as Amie discovers her bodyguard part using this guided imagery to help see what this part needs. It's a rare look into how this can work for you in your own healing journey. If you'd like more information on any of our coaches or therapists, or would like to book an online session...
Apr 05, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 28
We all experience it, trauma that is. Everyone will have a different initial response to trauma and the more we are aware of what our responses are and learn to recognize it in ourselves, the more we will be able to process it in a healthier way. Today Amie and Alana discuss the basics of the acute stress response fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Understanding these distinct responses can help explain how your experiences show up in your reactions and behavior. Head over to Choose Recovery Servic...
Mar 29, 2022•39 min•Season 2Ep. 27
Today was one of those days where, it just is what it is. So we recorded an episode exactly where we were at emotionally, and thats stressed, maxed and exhausted from our own work. Yep, we still have to do our work too! We hope this episode helps not only validate that we are all continuously learning and growing, but inspire you to lean into your own authentic self - and LOVE IT! Today we announce Amie's NEW Believing IN You TEEN coaching program for girls ages 13-17. For more info and to get y...
Mar 22, 2022•22 min
This week we look closely at the APSATS model of healing form betrayal and dive into what the different stages of healing looking like. No matter where you are in your healing, healing is possible. And finding the right support, can be huge in this process. For more information on Alana and Amie, or any of our other coaches and therapist, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com
Mar 15, 2022•30 min•Season 2Ep. 25
Todays bonus episode is an interview Amie did with young single adult women who went through the YSA dating and Self Empowerment course. It's amazing to hear such strength from these women and how much hope this creates for the future as we see generations changing because we are teaching differently, talking differently, and bringing more awareness to the importance of self love, self empowerment, and self trust to better ensure a healthy interdependent relationship for the future. This will in...
Mar 10, 2022•41 min
Join Amie and Alana as they discuss sexual intimacy in a committed relationship, and the importance of recognizing that your body is your own. To meet with one of our coaches or therapists online, or for a free consultation, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com
Mar 08, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Join our conversation today as Amie gets real and vulnerable around her personal experience with abuse. It starts with awareness. Whether you are or are not in a similar situation, you most likely know someone who is. The more we can call it what it is, speak out about it, the healthier we become today and generations to come. There is never an excuse for abuse. This topic today came from an experience Amie had witnessing an abusive situation in the grocery store parking lot Enough is enough. Bo...
Mar 01, 2022•21 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Join us today we talk about apologies, what makes a good one, what makes a bad one, and how to start the process of real amends. This tool is not just for those who are in romantic relationships, it is for anyone who has ever made a mistake or had someone make a mistake that hurts them! If you would like more information on the groups Amie and Alana are running, or to book with them directly for one on one session, go to www.Chooserecoveryservices.com or email info@chooserecoveryservices.com...
Feb 22, 2022•18 min•Season 2Ep. 22
Amie is solo today and is sharing thoughts about what self love looks like and how it can help you to recognize what healthy intimacy looks like in your relationships. But it all has to start with YOU. There are some concerns around this sometimes with those who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. So the fear is that this idea can be or lead to narcissism. Amie clarifies this concern and continues to walk you through the different levels of intimacy and how you use these to connect wi...
Feb 14, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Today Alana and Amie tackle the topic of self compassion. You may be surprised after hearing this episode to learn more about what self compassion is, and is not. They walk through some common myths about self compassion and of course share real life examples of how they have struggled to practice implementing this in their own lives, but how it works when they do! Many women who experience betrayal have forgotten how to self love. So let todays episode motivate you to practice having your own s...
Feb 08, 2022•31 min•Season 2Ep. 20
On today's episode Alana and Amie discuss how hold onto your unchanging identity while healing through trauma. When you really start latching on to this new world of learning and understanding your trauma and addiction, finding safe circles and safe people and really start to put the puzzle pieces together it starts to create this level of understanding awareness and safety, and It becomes this huge relief! Women who don't have any identity outside of their trauma or their identity is so linked ...
Feb 01, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 17
Self Betrayal is saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” self sabotaging, ignoring basic needs and self care, lying to yourself, not taking accountability for your actions, and pretending to be something other than your authentic self. We all do it, but are we AWARE that we do it, and how often? Join the conversation today and Alana and Amie tackle this tough topic. Trauma brings up big emotions and so there are lots of emotional needs to be. Met. But the more we suppress them the more we are in...
Jan 25, 2022•45 min•Season 2Ep. 18
Joining the conversation today is style consultant Kristen Watson. Kristen works with women all over, of all ages, stages and sizes. One of the things she notices the most is how often women feel they not only have no idea what their style even is anymore or feel overwhelm when they go shopping which often leads right to self hate, body hate and we stop looking at ourselves. Women have more negative self talk in the dressing room than any other place we go! We invited Kristen to talk with us abo...
Jan 18, 2022•35 min•Season 2Ep. 17
Today's conversation we discuss one of those essential tools as you heal through your trauma. GROUNDING! But honestly, every human needs this tool! Grounding is so important to practice as trauma throws EVERYTHING off. Learning to recognize when you are NOT grounded, centered and in the present is half the battle. This can be difficult to do at first, so no self judgement here! Being aware of how this shows up for you is the first step. We discuss some common signs that can give us this warning....
Jan 11, 2022•34 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Today we welcome our guest therapist Jody VanDrimmelen MSW, LCSW to discuss how trauma effects the brain and the body. There is such a huge impact from betrayal trauma and there are so many that are still learning about how this has effected them. Wherever you are at in your journey, todays episode will definitely add to your understanding and knowledge. We will discuss what trauma Is and the triggers that come because of it. So many women struggle to make sense of this and are trying to learn t...
Jan 04, 2022•31 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In todays episode Alana and Amie have a conversation about what it looks like to thrive and step out of victim mentality. When you have been a victim of someone else's choices that created chaos and pain in your life. Sometimes undesirable pain, it's understandable how it feels powerless and overwhelmingly paralyzing. Sometimes the term victim takes on a negative connotation, and so it's a place we can often judge ourselves in. There are so many subtle ways that we, often subconsciously, keep ou...
Dec 28, 2021•45 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Today Amie shares a brief message during this Christmas season. Trauma can bring many nights that are not silently filled with peace. I had so many nights where my mind just wouldn't stop thinking and thinking of all the things that were wrong and could go wrong. So many things that where going on around me that where not holy, calm or bright. Where peace was absent and filled with chaos and turmoil and there was no sleeping in heavily peace. In fact there was no sleeping. But we have been shown...
Dec 21, 2021•11 min•Season 2Ep. 13
Joining our conversation today are two of Amie's clients, Jeanine and Jori, who talk about their healing journey after divorce. Each of these women were In a place where they wanted to know how to get to that next level of healing and that included dating again. They first did the work to understand themselves and learned to love themselves fiercely. Each of these women overcame their fears of rejection enough to date again and have been able to trust again which has brought incredible joy to th...
Dec 14, 2021•48 min•Season 2Ep. 14
Today Amie and Alana continue their conversation to those who have loved ones that are trying to understand more of what you, the betrayed, are experiencing. Sometimes it's hard to put into words when you yourself are still trying to figure it out! So we hope that this episode also helps you too. Todays episode comes with gratitude for the great feedback we have received from last episode on the topic, yet we had a response from a loved one who has some additional concerns to this topic, and so ...
Dec 07, 2021•45 min•Season 2Ep. 11
This episode is specifically for all those who are the family or friends of those suffering from betrayal trauma. When you are the betrayed partner, It's so hard to explain to others what exactly you are or have been experiencing. Often times others might not believe you or know how to help you in your trauma. This can feel very lonely and frustrating. Today Alana and Amie have a message to family and friends in hopes to bring more understanding to the seriousness of this experience, as well as ...
Nov 30, 2021•46 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Today Amie and Alana talk about the dangers of comparison in our life and along our healing journey. We do this in so many ways, compare if our partner is or isn't doing the recovery work like the other partners, or why am I still struggling in anger or depression, "I should be over this by now". We compare stories and assess who's is "worse". We compare time and how long it is taking for us to see healing and change. So many things! It can be exhausting and we hope todays episode not only help ...
Nov 23, 2021•30 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In todays episode Amie and Alana discuss even deeper into the topic of boundaries. Discussing the importance of having your own value system identified, knowing the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum or demand. Where we sometimes lack in follow through and much more. Tune in today and whether you are in the beginning stages of boundary work or you feel like you have this down. There is always more to learn and revisiting your own boundaries to determine if they are actually working f...
Nov 16, 2021•36 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Join the conversation this week as Alana does a training on boundaries! You'll hear from other women who not only have struggled with boundaries but have found growth in their boundaries as well. Some of the topics include: Boundaries are what I will do or will not do to take care of myself and my responsibilities Boundaries are not about punishment, they are about creating space for emotional safety, and clarity on a path forward. This list is only ideas. Please work with your therapist or coac...
Nov 09, 2021•37 min•Season 2Ep. 7
Do you find it easy to give someone else permission to rest, self care, do what they need or want but find it extremely hard to give YOURSELF permission? Perhaps you feel it's selfish, or that it's not necessary? Maybe you just don't think you are worth it, or that you have to change something first. In todays episode Alana and Amie discuss the POWER that comes when you give yourself permission to do, well anything! We hope this episode is encouraging and motivates you today. We want to give you...
Nov 02, 2021•34 min
Today we have the amazing hosts of The Healing With WORTH podcast joining our conversation today! We asked Naomi and Janeen to share a little about their stories and how they came be the hosts of the popular podcast. We talk about how important it is to have support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can come up in religious culture through healing, how to know we need help, and gaining worth and empowerment in your journey. It's packed with awesomeness! We hop...
Oct 26, 2021•39 min•Season 2Ep. 5
Today Alana and Amie share thoughts and get real about how perfectionism not only is an exhausting way to live, but it can inhibit your healing journey. Perfectionism can be something we have had our whole life, or it can come from the onset of betrayal. Perfection around body image and making everything we do mean something about our worth and value is dangerous. We hope today we get you starting to think about how you can recognize this in your life and find these tools helpful to start being ...
Oct 19, 2021•38 min
Today Alana and Amie talk about how important hope is in the healing journey, but also how an unwise amount of hope can work against us. Learning to navigate this can greatly impact how we move forward. Often times we are putting all our hope in other people or even God to change things towards the expectations we have and this actually takes us out of our own power to act. Our hope today in this episode is to help you determine where you might be in your ability to have hope and offer you tools...
Oct 12, 2021•32 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Today we are talking with a one of our awesome certified betrayal trauma coaches, Hali Roderick and Co-Owner of CHOOSE and certified life coach Luke Gordon. Triggers are a huge part of healing and also just a huge part of being human. Learning how to tame those triggers is a skill worth developing. Hali shares her thoughts and tools on how to do just that! When the spouse who has been betrayed has these triggers, it's often frustrating and confusing to the other partner and can often cause furth...
Oct 05, 2021•44 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Due to the amazing feedback and growing interest for help and tools around the topic of abuse and addiction, Kimberly Day and myself have a NEW COURSE starting October 10th to help with this very thing! Today I talk about how this course will be an amazing tools and place to start for those who are looking for help and haven't yet found it. To register for this course please email your name and phone number to amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com Spots Limited. Confidentiality strongly encouraged and i...
Oct 03, 2021•11 min
Welcome to Season 2 of the CHOose To Be Podcast with Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey. What an amazing first season and its thanks to all of you amazing listeners for joining our conversation each week and sharing it with those around you. The number of our listeners have grown more than we had hoped for our first season and hoping to reach even more! The message of hope and healing is so important for us all to not inly feel for ourselves but important to share with others who may not have any. In...
Sep 28, 2021•39 min•Season 2Ep. 1
