Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. When you try to race too fast towards your Future Self, you don’t give your identity a chance to catch up - so take that manifesting slow and steady, baby. AND! Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff!...
Apr 05, 2023•25 min•Season 1Ep. 236
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Here’s something that I hear a lot: “I know the things I should be doing, Kristen. I’m just not doing them.” So let’s look at why that is. If you want to create something extraordinary, remember: what matters the MOST is how you show up in your day-to-day life. If you’re not showing up for your future self every day, then you’re not doing the things you know you should be doing. AND! Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiv...
Mar 29, 2023•20 min•Season 1Ep. 235
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. In Part 3 of the Calm AF decluttering series, we are talking about emotional clutter. Emotions are energy that’s created and stored inside your body, energy that physically interacts with your chemistry, your organs, your cells – best to keep emotional clutter to a minimum. In fact, if you are tending to physical and mental clutter without managing your emotional clutter, then you’re really only surface-cleaning. Opposite AF, ...
Mar 22, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 234
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. In Part 2 of the Calm AF decluttering series, we are talking about mental clutter. Most people don’t think about clutter being something that accumulates in the mind. But we think thousands of thoughts every day, and not all those thoughts serve us. In this episode, I give you actions that you can do on your own to get the mental decluttering ball rolling. AND: Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is ...
Mar 15, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 233
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. The physical clutter in your living and working spaces is impacting your energy; the calm AF approach to decluttering is an act of self love. It’s a thing you do FOR yourself because of how it makes you feel, because you deserve to feel SUPPORTED, because – while the tidiness of your house has NOTHING to do with your worthiness – it sure feels good to have a nice space to relax in. In this episode, I give you the three steps t...
Mar 08, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 232
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Curiosity lightens EVERYTHING up because it isn’t looking for ONE definitive RIGHT answer. Curiosity is all about wonder. Curiosity is playfully looking for options. Curiosity is going to help you reconnect with who you really are, what you like, what you don’t like, what you want, what you don’t want. So you gotta put on your curiosity glasses. Put those sparkly lenses on and look around at all the things and just ASK QUESTIO...
Mar 01, 2023•22 min•Season 1Ep. 231
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Let’s talk about thought spin-outs. This is when one anxious fear thought shows up, and before you can grab the thought to manage it, it’s already spun off to another thought – and another thought and another thought. Thought spinouts feel like anxiety, they feel out of control. Most of the time in a spin out, the thoughts are fast and furious. They feel very very urgent and very very true and your sympathetic nervous system i...
Feb 22, 2023•27 min•Season 1Ep. 230
Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. I hear it all the time: “I *get* the concept of self love...it just feels hard.” Of COURSE it does. You were born into and have bought into a society that persistently teaches you that you aren’t enough. You have been taught since childhood that getting the approval of others is what decided whether you were worthy. And you have been taught that other people’s opinions matter more than yours. Of COURSE it feels hard...it’s lik...
Feb 15, 2023•22 min•Season 1Ep. 229
No matter what adulthood looks like for you, JOY is still inside of you. You do not have to learn how to feel joy, you just have to remember how to access it again. So, how DO you reconnect with who you really are, find activities that reconnect you to your JOY as an adult? That’s what today’s episode is all about. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https:/...
Feb 08, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 228
In your work of getting aligned with your calm AF self (your future self), you will inevitably revisit old stories. Stay on track by focusing on what’s working. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff!...
Feb 01, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 227
In order to create your calm AF life, you are going to have to do very hard things. Scary? Yes. Worth it? 1,000,000 percent. Here are three ways my clients and friends set themselves up for success when it’s time to do the hard thing. And. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more...
Jan 25, 2023•22 min•Season 1Ep. 226
“Stuck” can be a nasty habit to break. It’s time to stop fighting for that habit you DON’T want and start allowing what you DO want. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff!...
Jan 18, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 225
Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it’s setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people’s opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever? Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiv...
Jan 11, 2023•19 min•Season 1Ep. 224
Changes happen with radical self-acceptance: embracing who you ARE, instead of pushing and exhausting yourself striving to be something different. Aligning with how you WANT to feel creates the change you want – NOT without effort, but without RESISTANCE, without giving up on yourself, without exhaustion. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfi...
Jan 04, 2023•13 min•Season 1Ep. 223
The best goals to set are the ones that you can achieve and which support your Future Self. Here are the inspired actions to take to manifest them: Acknowledge what’s already working Evaluate where you are now Decide how you WANT to feel Create alignment banks Choose one or two feeling states to focus on Want to go deeper? Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us!...
Dec 28, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 222
Being hard on yourself makes manifesting your goals hard – if not impossible. And the inverse is also true: goals grounded in self-kindness, worthiness, and calm AF energy almost – almost – manifest themselves. In today’s episode, part 8 of the Calm AF Life series, I’m sharing the method that I personally use to set, work towards, and achieve my own goals. Whatever you set out to achieve in 2023 – fitness, nutrition, relationships, finance, career – the Calm AF method for realizing your goals is...
Dec 21, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 221
You can’t create your Future Self by thinking the same way as your current self; it requires aligning with your Future Self. So, before you set any goals, before you make decisions, before you set an intention for the day, you want to align with your Future Self and find out what THEY have to say about it. Today I’m sharing the simple 3-step exercise that helps you access your Future Self today so you can enjoy being her tomorrow. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is enrolling now! Tap here t...
Dec 14, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 220
Once you commit to your calm AF Future Self, you soon realize that you will always be on the path to your Future Self. Not because your Future Self is always out of reach, but because once you arrive at your Future Self, you realize there’s more growing, more learning, more experiencing, more wisdom, more life ahead of you. It’s a path with countless new beginnings – but it doesn’t have to be arduous or exhausting. That’s why it is so vitally important to determine the most sustainable path forw...
Dec 07, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 219
In part 5 of Calm AF Life, I want to dive into your energy. Mastering your energy is the most powerful skill you can learn. So, let’s talk about what energy is (spoiler: it’s everything) and how to start owning yours, regardless of what’s going on outside of you. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is enrolling now! Tap here to join. Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, is now live and available to all! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF ...
Nov 30, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 218
Calm AF Life Launches TODAY!!! Tap here to join. Calm AF Life is my lifetime coaching program that will get you OUT of your head, help you STOP worrying about the things that won’t ultimately matter, and bring you back INTO your life. Joining Calm AF Life gives you lifetime access to the entire immersive course, including videos, classes, coaching, and other content. Calm AF Life lessons are designed to give you in-depth, self-led instruction on all 3 of the components necessary to create a soli...
Nov 25, 2022•21 min
My client, Courtney, is a beaming example of the changes you can create when you align with - and consistently show up for - your calm AF self. She joins me to talk about her relentless journey, showing up for herself on the daily, and laying claim to a miracle pond in Iowa. Get comfy, gorgeous soul. It’s time for a Calm AF Coaching Sesh! Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – launches in January. Tap here to join the interest list to learn more! Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse rel...
Nov 23, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 217
So here’s the thing about rewiring thoughts: It is possible for almost EVERY human. Not only is it possible, but it’s exactly what the brain does IF AND WHEN we don’t let other thoughts get in the way. There is a very specific, proven process to making this happen and today, I am going to teach you the rewire process: the proven steps of actually rewiring your thoughts. For good, for real, for life. Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – launches in January. Tap here to join the interest list to l...
Nov 16, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 216
Feeling your feelings is the next pillar of calm AF life, and to learn more about this, we are going to spend time in our bodies. Because that’s where our feelings live – not in our minds, not in our thoughts, but in our physical bodies. If you want anything to change in your life for good, you’ve GOT to become skilled in the art of feeling your feelings. Lemme say it again: The ONLY way to create a life you want, to change things that don’t represent who you are becoming, to create new patterns...
Nov 09, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 215
Whether you realize it or not, you curate your entire life around the state of your nervous system. Your nervous system is always the first point of contact with anything and everything. Your nervous system creates stories that feel VITALLY important to believe, rules that feel CRUCIAL to hyper vigilantly follow, and beliefs that feel necessary for survival. The first step in creating sustainable Calm AF energy is learning how to regulate your nervous system. When it’s dysregulated, all bets are...
Nov 02, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 214
Being permanently calm AF is about creating the life that you love - making your life your favorite story. Getting there takes an integrated approach comprising three essential components of wellness: physical, mental, and energetic. I’m going to break them down today, and then for the next 9 weeks I’ll go deeper into each of them. My lifetime program, Calm AF Life, launches in January! Tap here to join the interest list to learn more! Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationship...
Oct 26, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 213
If you want to make big changes that last, you have to do the deeper self work – the stuff below the surface. Nothing in your life will change until you go deeper and uproot your old limiting beliefs about self-worth and plant new seeds that serve you. Here are three questions to ask yourself at the beginning of this important work: WHY do I believe this thought about myself? Where did it come from? When did I learn it? What would be different about my life if this seed was never planted in my s...
Oct 19, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 212
So. What the F is Calm AF? And how is it different from regular old calmness? Calm is a feeling. Calm AF is a way of being. It’s an energy. When I talk about becoming calm AF I am not talking about walking around in some Zen blissed out state where nothing bothers you, man, and everything’s fine. Nope, that’s not it. I am calm AF, but I’m not always calm. You can ask my family, I can be calm AF and angry. I can be calm AF and sad. I can be calm AF and ambitious, and I can be calm AF and calm. Ca...
Oct 12, 2022•17 min•Season 1Ep. 211
Investing in your Future Self means saying YES to effort, energy, discomfort, and sometimes even costs. And investing in your Future Self is ALWAYS worth it. Best of all, it doesn’t always have to mean saying yes to big things, like concerts or camping trips or college courses. You can fill your tank by saying yes to a walk, a phone call with a friend, a nap. What matters the most? At the end of your life WHAT will be the things that you will be SO glad you said yes to? And, if you’re feeling an...
Oct 05, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 210
Every single week, all week long, I talk to the MOST powerful women, women who could absolutely dominate, take over the freaking world, but who spend all their time and energy trying to silence their self-doubt. These women avoid taking steps to dominate, to step into their power, to apply for the executive role, for ONE reason: because they don’t BELIEVE in themselves. F THAT. When you feel yourself doubting your abilities, readiness, or worthiness, there are 3 mindset shifts you can employ to ...
Sep 28, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 209
If we think of the brain like an organic computer, then the quality of your life is only as good as the thought-ware you install. When you were born, your mind was a clean slate, running a simple emotional and physiological operating system. Its job was to keep you alive and get your needs met. As you got older, the adults in your life installed and started running their own mental “software” – or, thought-ware – onto your operating system. Then you got older still, and began installing your own...
Sep 21, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 208
