Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf If you want to create a life that feels better, that feels lighter, that feels less heavy, you’ve GOT to increase your baseline energy. For all the chatter about manifesting this and that, what truly matters is the energy we bring to the work of creating and living – the energy that we choose as our baseline. Higher vibes lift us up, lower ones take us down. Now, we don’t boost our baseline energy by struggling or ...
Sep 14, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 207
Let’s address some myths and misconceptions about your Future Self – who she is, who she isn’t, and what it means to become her. Your future self is not a far-fetched version of you that you have to TURN into. It’s you now, just without the limiting beliefs and bullshit stories you’re carrying around. And you don’t become her AFTER your journey, you realize you ARE her DURING it. Grab a coffee, and let’s get acquainted with our REAL future selves. Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: h...
Sep 07, 2022•15 min•Season 1Ep. 206
You can STAY relentlessly committed to creating the life you want, manifesting your intentions, achieving your dreams WITHOUT exhausting yourself. Here’s how, in 5 proven steps. EARLY BIRD registrations for Rewired AF are available now! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff: https://www.youtube.com/ calmafpodcast Opposite AF, the online shortcourse for neurodiverse couples, is available at https://kristenfinch.com/opposite...
Aug 31, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 205
If you want to become your true Future Self, you MUST be relentlessly committed to the things that matter. Because it won’t happen overnight, it won’t happen without failures, and it won’t happen the way you think it will. Personally speaking, when it comes to MY one precious life, when it comes to being ALIVE in my life instead of surviving my life…absolutely relentless. Once I realized this about myself, I started thinking about all the other areas of my life that I’ve experienced transformati...
Aug 24, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 204
Anger, when it disguises fear, is an unsafe feeling. But clean anger, calm AF anger, feels safe and in control. It is empowering and guides us to rational action. AND. Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, starts...this month! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good stuff: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW3GBpWPPwcs36oYBgBVkow...
Aug 17, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 203
Dave, my husband and Calm AF podcast producer extraordinaire, has learned recently that, "When you are so bold as to be true to yourself, you step fully into your power." Gorgeous souls, check out where he learned this. I love it. AND. Rewired AF starts in October! Get on the list: https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf Opposite AF, our online course for neurodiverse relationships, starts...this month! Join us! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube to get even more good...
Aug 10, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 202
The gap that exists between where you are now and where you’re headed can feel excruciating and make you feel super antsy. THE WORST. Your brain, no matter how smart you are, cannot figure your way out of this gap. Because the human brain is designed to make sense of what it has experienced. If your future self is someone doing things you haven’t tried before, then the best you can do is settled into the gap until your transformation reveals itself. Opposite AF is enrolling now! Join here: https...
Aug 03, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 201
This is Calm AF’s 200th episode! I truly think that Calm AF was a universal energetic idea floating around looking for someone to grab it and manifest it. And I got to be the one who did. I am so, so, so grateful. ____________________________________ Screenshot your review on Apple Podcasts and send to support@kristenfinch.com for a chance to win a CALM AF SWAG BAG. Sign up for Opposite AF, my relationships program with my hubby Dave, at https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Subscribe to Calm AF o...
Jul 27, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 200
You’re in a neurodiverse relationship. You are wired differently, a neurologically mixed couple. It’s tricky. We get it because we have lived it. In this episode, hear Dave's side of my journey to recovery as an energy manager. And join Dave and me for our new couples’ program! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf Also, have you subscribed to Calm AF's YouTube channel yet? I'm uploading new coaching videos there on the regular so be sure to subscribe to get all my latest. https://www.youtube.com/...
Jul 20, 2022•41 min•Season 1Ep. 199
Taking radical ownership of your life empowers you to create the life you want, the relationships you want, the career you want, everything. It’s not easy but it is crucial. Personally speaking, my life overall changed for the better when I committed to fully owning it. My health improved. Our house began feeling like our home. And my neurodiverse marriage, which had been rocky, course-corrected. Not because “radical ownership” is some magical fairy wand that we can wave and suddenly everything ...
Jul 13, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 198
The #1 thing I am asked to talk about is my neurodiverse marriage (Dave is autistic, I’m not). And I'm SO happy to talk about it...I'm SO happy to share what worked for our marriage. Except...my advice sucks. I mean, it's SOLID gold, it is EXCELLENT advice, but it's HARD and it takes time, it requires you to change the way you've been living your life, and it can be painful. I told you. Sucks. On today's episode I'm talking about taking radical responsibility for your entire relationship so that...
Jul 06, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 197
One of the most important milestones in the recovery journey of an energy manager is the moment they recognize just how much their behaviors — which truly are self-sabotaging — are making their life way harder. Because this is the moment they realize they must stop managing other people’s energies. It’s also the moment in which the brain jumps in and works to convince you that NOW is not the time to ditch your energy manager habit. Let’s look at the top five ways our brains wage protest against ...
Jun 29, 2022•16 min•Season 1Ep. 196
Life is draining. Trying to generate more and more energy drains us more and leads to burn-out. My advice? Boost your personal energy efficiency. Here’s how. Sign up to get weekly guidance and inspo directly to your inbox! https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62a90ba63e1f4ce38387ee34 And, go deeper on the Calm AF YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW3GBpWPPwcs36oYBgBVkow...
Jun 22, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 195
Today, for my energy managers, people pleasers, perfectionists, and overachievers, I am handing out permission slips. Because YOU probably aren’t giving yourself permission to take care of yourself, to let yourself rest, to let yourself play, to STOP striving for perfection. I’m not giving you permission to check out or ignore life, I am giving you permission to do it shitty. AND! Subscribe to Calm AF on YouTube for all my video coaching. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW3GBpWPPwcs36oYBgBVkow...
Jun 15, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 194
Validation is recognition or acceptance that something or someone is worthy, legitimate, and acceptable. That’s why validation, feeling valid, is such a big deal for all of us. When I talk to clients about internal validation, we are talking about a deep, almost profound knowing that who you are, and the feelings, thoughts, and opinions you bring to the table, are valid and worthwhile — without needing to hear it from anybody else. That is internal or self-validation. By contrast, external valid...
Jun 08, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 193
When you feel overwhelmed, when it feels like you don’t have time, when you feel like the best course of action is just to push through, that’s when to double down on self care. The tragic mass shooting in Buffalo, followed last week by the unthinkable school shooting in Uvalde, have left us buried - practically suffocating - in feelings. For so many of us, the temptation is to ignore the heavy feelings and just white-knuckle our way through the next few weeks. It’s to put the idea of self care ...
Jun 01, 2022•9 min•Season 1Ep. 192
If you wanna stop energy managing, you gotta find your WHY. Your BIG reason that keeps you on point. Here’s mine. AND, this week, you can still dive deeper with me and a whole group of gorgeous souls in my new 16-week program, Calm the F**k Down. Tap the link below to join! https://kristenfinch.com/calm-the-fk-down/
May 25, 2022•17 min•Season 1Ep. 191
Lately, I’ve been talking a lot about Energy Managers and energy managing on my podcast. So much so, that a number of clients and listeners have turned to Google to learn even more about energy managing, only to discover zero search results related to this topic. And that is because the concept of the Energy Manager is something that I made up, a phrase I’ve coined. While Energy Managers have always existed, the classification comes straight from my brain – and straight out of my own, personal e...
May 18, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 190
An energy manager is someone whose people-pleasing habit has gone next-level and become an addiction. You know you’re an energy manager if you are constantly and hyper-vigilantly managing the moods, thoughts, and feelings of your people — your partner, friends, coworkers, furnace repair guy, whoever. It’s exhausting and thankless and the “work” of energy managing never ends. And the crazy thing is that IT DOESN’T WORK. Like addicts clinging to their substance of choice, energy managers and peopl...
May 11, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 189
Resilience and emotional ownership - two life-changing products of emotional intelligence - are essential to your recovery as an energy manager. Today’s episode of the Calm AF podcast is all about how to build these core strengths, and where you can start today. And speaking of starting today, click here for more info on my new class for People Pleasers & Energy Managers, starting later this month!
May 04, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 188
Gorgeous soul, I am pretty sure this episode of the Calm AF podcast is meant just for you. Today, I am talking all about energy managers. And if you’re not sure what I mean by “energy manager,” think of energy managers as people pleasers who have taken people pleasing to a whole new level. They’re the ones who are not merely seeking the approval of one person, they are seeking to control all the moods of all the people. Yeah. It’s intense, it’s exhausting, and it definitely takes its toll on the...
Apr 27, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 187
There is never a downside to choosing empowered thinking. There is never a downside to choosing to believe that the best is going to happen instead of the worst is going to happen, or believing that you are capable or worthy or enough. Your brain wants to hold onto the "yeah buts." Yeah, but what if I'm not? Yeah, but what if I fail? Yeah, but what about other people's opinions? Your brain — the human brain — is designed to look for all the ways you aren't enough, the way your life is lacking. B...
Apr 20, 2022•16 min•Season 1Ep. 186
This episode is all about making decisions. More specifically, how to make empowered decisions. No anxiety, no doubt, no over-thinking, no FOMO - just total confidence. Empowered decisions feel good, they feel right, they feel solid. Let's talk about how to make them with confidence, every time. I'm Kristen, your Calm AF Coach. You got this, and I got you.
Apr 13, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 185
ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don’t use, things don’t serve a purpose, things you’ve outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let’s talk about the emotional clutter that's getting in your way. Check out this related PLAYLIST that I've curated just for you, for after you listen to this episode: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/624773500d4a1c1ac93e381c Visi t https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for the rest....
Apr 06, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 184
ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don’t use, things don’t serve a purpose, things you’ve outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let’s talk about the mental clutter taking up precious real estate in your gorgeous brain - and WHAT to do with it. Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for the rest.
Mar 30, 2022•15 min•Season 1Ep. 183
ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don’t use, things don’t serve a purpose, things you’ve outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let’s talk about the space clutter takes up in your home. Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for the rest.
Mar 23, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 182
WHY do we wait for a wake up call to feel ALIVE in our lives..to stop living a life in survival mode and start living our one life NOW. Today I’m going to share with you the BIGGEST lies we are believing that are keeping us from reclaiming our lives from survival mode hell. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 months of coaching. Apply now at https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF
Mar 16, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 181
The most important thing you can do as a person, a woman, a mom, a partner, a boss, a subordinate, is to step fully into the power you already have. To my people-pleasers, over-thinkers, perfectionists and overachievers: you take your power back, you take your life back. Today I'll give you 3 guidelines for how to do it now. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 months of coaching. Apply now at https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF...
Mar 09, 2022•18 min•Season 1Ep. 180
Beyond the normal mental, physical, and emotional fatigue there is a deeper sense of exhaustion that I call Soul Tired. Soul Tired happens when we take on too much responsibility for things we can't control. Soul Tired happens when we spiral into over-thinking. It happens roughly 23-ish months into a pandemic. So, today's episode is all about understanding WHY your soul is tired, and then three solid things you can do now to give your soul - YOU - some much needed rest. Applications are being ac...
Mar 02, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 179
We all have an inner voice that chatters away in our heads. For most of us, that voice is not the nicest. It's not pointing out our successes or our potential or our strengths. It's pointing out our flaws, rehashing mistakes, generally being a Mean Girl. In this throwback episode, we talk all about the talk. Apply to work with me at kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf
Feb 23, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 178
