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Calm AF

Kristen Finchkristenfinch.com
Calm AF is the podcast for high-achievers who are done living life on the verge of burnout. If you’re an overthinker, people pleaser, perfectionist, or energy manager—this space is for you. Hosted by neuroplasticity expert, Kristen Finch, every episode helps you stop spiraling, start regulating, and finally feel like the calm, clear, powerful version of yourself you know is in there. Inside, you’ll learn how to rewire your nervous system, shift old patterns, and lead your life from alignment—not anxiety. So grab your coffee, take a breath, and let today be the day you get Calm AF.
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Episodes

Approval Seeking People Pleasers

Today’s episode is all about approval seeking behaviors and people pleasing. I’ll share how to KNOW if you’re an approval seeking people pleaser AND 5 thoughts that you can borrow that will help shift you out of approval seeking behaviors and into your full power. Apply to work with Kristen

Jan 20, 202123 minSeason 1Ep. 116

How To Be Your TRUE Self

What is my purpose? It's a question I hear ALL the time. And most people think it's a really deep question with a big answer. But I think it's super simple. Your purpose is to BE the realest, most authentic YOU your can be. The problem? You've learned SO much about who you *should* be, and what you're *supposed* to look like. Today I'm diving in and sharing: ~ True Self vs Learned Self ~ Why becoming your True Self requires UNLEARNING and REWIRING ~ How to figure out who the TRUE you actually is...

Jan 13, 202124 minSeason 1Ep. 115

The Power of Setting Intentions

If you want to stop going through the motions and really BE who you’re here to be, that doesn’t happen on accident. It happens when you decide. Intentionally. Today I’m going to share what intentions are, WHY you need to be setting intentions, how to set intentions and how to REMEMBER your intentions. apply to work with kristen

Jan 06, 202114 minSeason 1Ep. 114

Resolution Writing Workshop 2021: How To Write Goals That You LOVE

Today's episode is half podcast, half goal writing workshop. In my world, we don't write goals because there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. We write goals that align with who you REALLY are, underneath the doubt, negative mental chatter, and fear. When you write goals that align with how you want to feel, you don't need willpower and you don't give up. Grab your notebooks, Gorgeous Soul. Because today is the day that we do this. Apply to work with Kristen in 2021....

Dec 30, 202037 minSeason 1Ep. 113

How To Rest Without Feeling Guilty

I mean...you *want* to rest. But every time you sit down, the thoughts start... "I don't have time" "I have too much to do" "If I have free time, I should be productive" In today's episode I'm gonna turn your thoughts about resting, your thoughts about being productive, your thoughts about resting being something other people have time for UPSIDE DOWN. Because, Gorgeous Soul, resting is the MOST PRODUCTIVE THING YOU CAN DO. And I'll prove it in today's episode. ----------------------------------...

Dec 23, 202021 minSeason 1Ep. 112

Setting Goals That Stick in 2021

Two weeks until the new year. HALLELUJAH! Today we’re talking about how to set goals that stick! I’m sharing the top reasons people get stuck or give up on their goals and how to fix that. If you have any trouble with any of the links, please email support@kristenfinch.com for assistance. To receive the goal writing workshop, click here to be added to the email list . As soon as the class is ready, you will receive a link to view straight to your inbox. (If you are already on my email list, you ...

Dec 16, 202019 minSeason 1Ep. 111

How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

Apply to work with Kristen One of the biggest obstacles people face when making changes in their life is the fear of what other people are going to think of them. They want to change their career, but are worried about what their parents will think. They want to set boundaries but are afraid people will their they’re mean. In today’s episode I’m sharing 4 tips on overcoming the fear of other people’s opinions about you....

Dec 09, 202023 minSeason 1Ep. 110

Lack Thinking vs Abundant Thinking

Today we’re talking about the difference between lack thinking and abundant thinking. Lack thinking is “I need to change something so I can feel worthy”. It often creates temporary change. Abundant thinking is “I feel worthy AND I want to change something” and creates sustainable change. Listen in to learn about the difference and how to switch from lack to abundant thinking so you can create the future you want to create. Apply to work with Kristen Sign up for for the mailing list to get info o...

Dec 02, 202017 minSeason 1Ep. 109

Getting Out Of A Funk

I’m beginning to book clients to begin in 2021. Click here to set up a free discovery call and fill out an application or go to www.kristenfinch.com You know the feeling....you have a few days in a row where you are KILLING it. You feel inspired and motivated and productive. And then? You wake up and it’s gone. Without a trace. SO annoying...the dreaded FUNK. In today’s episode I’m going to turn your funk upside down by suggesting that there is actually no such thing as a funk. Just a feeling th...

Nov 25, 202016 minSeason 1Ep. 108

You Can Do Hard Things

Apply to work with Kristen If you want to change anything in your life, you're going to have to do something (or lots of things) that feels hard. Your brain, by default, will do annnyyyyything to avoid the hard thing. It just wants you to stay safe....even if that means staying exactly the same. In today's episode, I'm going to teach you what you're going to experience when you DO the hard thing. I'll share with you: ~ what happens before, during and after you do the hard thing ~ the different w...

Nov 18, 202020 minSeason 1Ep. 107

You Are Not Broken And You Don’t Need To Be Fixed

Schedule a consult call here. Gorgeous Soul, You are not broken. You are not a problem to be solved. You are not a project to be fixed. Who you ARE is not fundamentally WRONG....you’ve just believed it because you were taught it. Today I’m sharing three thoughts to move you towards self acceptance: 1. Who you are, how you are wired, is NOT a mistake 2. Other people’s beliefs about WHO YOU SHOULD BE come from their own opinions projected onto you. 3. When you stop believing there’s something WRON...

Nov 11, 202024 minSeason 1Ep. 106

Feeling Your Feelings

Apply to work with Kristen If you want to change something in your life, you're going to have to stop trying to hurry up and FIX your feelings. You're gonna have to FEEL them. In today's episode I share: ~ what feelings actually are ~ why you are afraid to feel your feelings all the way through ~ 3 common thoughts you have about feelings that keep you stuck and what to think instead

Nov 04, 202020 minSeason 1Ep. 105

Stop Consuming, Start Implementing (AKA: It’s Time to Level Up)

Apply to work with Kristen With 100+ episodes under our belt, Show Up and Love is ready for an up-level. BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUPS. I’m going to level up and teach you more advanced concepts and coach you a little harder. You’re going to level up by becoming an active implementor of the tools that I teach you. If you want to *actually* change your life, you cannot passively consume self-help, personal development or inspirational quotes on the internet...you have to sit down and BECOME the student, ...

Oct 28, 202014 minSeason 1Ep. 104

Throwback: Self Worth

Today’s throwback’s episode is the most downloaded, listened to, commented on episode of all 100 episodes. And there’s a reason: it’s the heart and soul of this podcast, the meat and potatoes of the message I share: WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE WORTHY, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE. Apply to work with Kristen

Oct 21, 202034 minSeason 1Ep. 103

Throwback: Boundaries, Bouncers And Self Worth

Work with Kristen When you are working on believing you are worthy, you need to fiercely protect your growth. Today’s throwback episode is all about how to set boundaries.

Oct 14, 202018 minSeason 1Ep. 102

Throwback Episode: Addicted to Approval

Apply for Kristen's 6 month individualized coaching program Today's episode is a repeat, but for a very specific reason....after celebrating 100 episodes together, we're going to level up. I'm going to start sharing information at a deeper level. I want you to have a solid foundation for some of the key concepts so when I return with brand new episodes, you're ready.

Oct 07, 202022 minSeason 1Ep. 101

One Thought Can Change Your Life

Application for 1:1 coaching To celebrate the 100th episode of Show Up and Love, I am reflecting on WHY I do this podcast: to plant seeds of possibility. And I’m sharing a story of a client who had ONE thought that literally changed her life. Even if it seems like you have a million different things you want to change, ONE thought can change your life.

Sep 30, 202014 minSeason 1Ep. 100

How To Feel One Notch Better

Apply to work with Kristen The transformation we see on social media or on tv seems sexy...the homeless person who becomes a gajillionaire, the couch potato who runs the marathon. But that really isn’t how transformation *actually* works. On today’s episode I’m sharing: ~ the three stages of transformation ~ why inspiration is NOT a necessary ingredient for change ~ 4 ways to feel ONE notch better so you keep moving forward and stop quitting on yourself...

Sep 23, 202017 minSeason 1Ep. 99

Acceptance Does Not Mean Giving Up

Apply to work with Kristen Acceptance is one of the fundamental ingredients in creating a life you want to live. But it gets a bad rap. In today’s episode I’m sharing what acceptance actually means and what it doesn’t mean: Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean condoning. It doesn’t mean settling. It doesn’t mean trying to convince yourself to LIKE something you don’t like. Acceptance simply means acknowledging what is REAL, what is TRUE so that you stop fighting with reality and ma...

Sep 16, 202016 minSeason 1Ep. 98

How To Ask Yourself Better Questions To Get Better Results

Apply to work with Kristen The types of questions you ask yourself every day MATTERS. If you are asking yourself low quality questions rooted in fear or confusion, you will get low quality results. Today I’m sharing three tips to get you asking yourself high level, high quality questions so that you can manifest a life you WANT to live.

Sep 09, 202017 minSeason 1Ep. 97

Is Your Inner Boss A Bully?

Apply to work with Kristen There are two types of bosses: the type that lead through fear, intimidation and shame (bully) and the type that inspire and motivate people (visionary). Most people’s bosses in their HEADS are bullies. They have a belief that if you lead through love or encouragement, you won’t work as hard. In today’s episode, I”m challenging that belief and suggesting that managing your mind as a visionary instead of a bully will lead to faster change that is sustainable....

Sep 02, 202016 minSeason 1Ep. 96

Push Pause

Apply to work with Kristen Sometimes it feels like life is just one big emergency. We feel like we’re reacting to whatever is thrown at us when we COULD just push pause. Most decisions are NOT life or death. Push pause. Breathe. Ask for help. Trust the answer.

Aug 26, 202012 minSeason 1Ep. 95

3 Basic Truths About Thoughts That You Weren’t Taught

Coaching will change your damn life. Click here to apply to work with me (spots opening in the fall..get on the waitlist now). This episode is one you’ll want to listen to again and again. I am sharing three truths about how your brain works and how your thoughts work that are fundamental in creating real and sustainable change in your life. 1. You are not your thoughts. 2. Don’t believe every thought you think. 3. You (and you alone) are in charge of your thoughts and feelings. Listen and learn...

Aug 19, 202015 minSeason 1Ep. 94

5 Mindset Shifts To Keep You Moving Forward

When you're moving forward on the path to your future Self, there *will* be mental blocks that show up. In last week’s episode I shared 5 common mental blocks that show up and today I’m sharing 5 mindset shifts (aka thoughts to think on purpose) to practice so you don’t get stuck there. Application to work with Kristen Join the FB group

Aug 12, 202014 minSeason 1Ep. 93

How To Create Your New Normal, Stop Stopping and Become Your Future Self

Schedule a consultation Join the FB group Yes, 2020 has been a year that has made us all feel like someone has pushed pause on life. But life hasn’t paused. Instead of waiting for things to go back to normal, we have this amazing opportunity to create a NEW normal, to manifest a new future, to Become the best version of yourself. It’s time to decide to get up, start moving forward and KEEP moving forward. In today’s episode I’m sharing 5 common obstacles people face that make them give up their ...

Aug 05, 202018 minSeason 1Ep. 92

Rewiring An Old Story

Schedule a free consult with Kristen Join the FB group I recently created a NEW habit in my life: I changed the song I sing while I wash my hands (from ABC’s to Britney....obvs). And while this new wiring isn’t going to significantly impact my life, I noticed that I used the EXACT same process to rewire THIS habit as I did to rewire other old stories in my life....

Jul 29, 202019 minSeason 1Ep. 91

Boundaries, Bouncers + Self Worth

Learn more about Kristen’s 1:1 coaching program If you are working on believing that you are WORTHY, boundaries are non-negotiable. In today’s episode I’m sharing a SIMPLE and NEW way of thinking about boundaries that you can start practicing today.

Jul 22, 202018 minSeason 1Ep. 90

How I’m Practicing Self Love When Life Feels HEAVY

Talk to me about coaching Join the FB group ---------------------------------------------------- I’m not sure if you’ve noticed, but the world is upside down and on fire. There’s a LOT going on in the world. And just because I’m a mindset expert and life coach does NOT mean I’m immune from the heaviness of it all. In today’s episode I’m sharing what self care looks like for me in the current state of upside-downness: ~ Why trying to power your way through is perpetuating the pain ~ the question ...

Jul 15, 202023 minSeason 1Ep. 89

The Perfection Box

Schedule a free consult Join the FB group ------------------------------------------ In today’s epsisode I’m teaching you about the Perfection Box (the Worthy Ladder’s sidekick). I’ll be sharing: ~ what the Perfection Box is and why we are hardwired to try to fit into it ~ why what you think of as a flaw might ACTUALLY be a superpower ~ HOW to stop trying to SQUISH ourselves into a box, into a personality, we don’t fit into ~ how your life changes when you get RID OF THE BOX...

Jul 08, 202026 minSeason 1Ep. 88

Perfectionism

Perfectionism blocks your joy. It keeps your from living your life. It stands between YOU and peace of mind. In today’s episode I’m sharing: ~ the many different ways perfectionism shows up ~ WHY so many of us develop a perfectionist mindset ~ why trying to be perfect sucks ~ how to start embracing imperfection ------------------------------- Click here to schedule your free consult. Join the Show Up and Love FB group...

Jul 01, 202027 minSeason 1Ep. 87
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