Do you find yourself saying YES when you want to say no? Do you rehash old conversations wondering if you said the right thing? Do you spend time worrying about if other people are mad at you? Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells so your partner or mom or whoever don’t get upset? These are just a few ways that people pleasing shows up. In today’s episode I’m sharing: ~ how people pleasing shows up ~ WHY we are people pleasers ~ 3 ways to get OFF the sucky people pleasing bus: radical own...
Jun 24, 2020•21 min•Season 1Ep. 86
Book a free consult We all tend to have “that” time of the day...the part of your day that you dread, that you just hope to survive, the HARDEST part of your day. For most people, the hardest part is either the morning, the late afternoon/before dinner hour or the very end of the day...after you’re done but before bed. In today’s episode I share with you how to take this difficult part of your day and make it BETTER. Because the truth is, while it’s your thoughts that will ultimately change how ...
Jun 17, 2020•22 min•Season 1Ep. 85
Apply for my 1:1 coaching program “I don’t know" They seem like three harmless words, and most of us throw these words around mindlessly and easily. But these words are actually harmful, keep you in the feeling states of overwhelm and helplessness and perpetuate your suffering We use I don’t know when we’re afraid to fail. When we’re afraid to be wrong. When we’re afraid to be SEEN as wrong. I don’t know is an excuse that leads to shutting down. If you want an answer to your question, “I don’t k...
Jun 10, 2020•21 min•Season 1Ep. 84
Today the message I want to share is about unlearning racism and becoming anti-racist. Showing up and loving cannot co-exist without equity. However, I am not the teacher of this movement, I am a student. Instead of listening to me today, please look at the list of resources I have included here, choose an article, a podcast, a book, a course and spend your time here. BOOKS: How to Be An Anti-Racist by Ibram X Kendi (may be on backorder, but is available on audible for immediate listen) Me and W...
Jun 03, 2020•3 min•Season 1Ep. 83
Approval addiction is when your self worth is defined by other people’s opinions of you. When you can only feel worthy or good enough when other people SHOW their approval. Approval addicts need validation from external sources in order to feel enough and ANY criticism proves they are NOT worthy. In today’s episode, I’m sharing ~ the MANY different ways approval addiction shows up for people (people pleasing, hiding, attention seeking, etc) ~ the 3 steps to break an addiction to other people’s a...
May 27, 2020•20 min•Season 1Ep. 82
You are WORTHY of liking your self and your life. I can help you create that. Fill out an application to work with me in my 6-month 1:1 coaching program. I hear it all the time: I *get* the concept of self love...it just feels hard. Of COURSE it does. You were born into and have bought into a society that persistently teaches you that you aren’t enough. You have been taught since childhood that getting the approval of others is what decided whether you were worthy. And you have been taught that ...
May 20, 2020•21 min•Season 1Ep. 81
Click to apply for my 1:1 coaching program Join the FB group We all have a voice that chatters away in our heads. For most of us, that voice is...not the nicest. It’s not really pointing out our successes...it’s reminding us of our flaws. THIS is why we numb out. To quiet the voice. But all numbing out does is make the voice come back louder. In today’s episode we’re learning ~ what the inner critic is and how it shows up ~ why we are so resistant to changing our inner critic ~ why being hard on...
May 13, 2020•25 min•Season 1Ep. 80
Apply for coaching with Kristen Join the FB group Your brain is a powerful machine that has been programmed by YOU for your entire life. You have chosen the thoughts that have led to the feelings that have created the actions that have created the reality you have right now. Which means...if you want to change your life, you MUST change your brain. In today’s episode I’m sharing the 5 steps that will allow you to rewire your brain for happiness. Also, I’m giving you a heads up on the 4 most comm...
May 06, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 79
If you want to create what you WANT, you have to have awareness of what’s keeping you stuck. In part 3 of How to Change Your Life series, I’m sharing the 7 most COMMON thought patterns that people think that keep them creating Listen to today’s episode and find out which pattern (or patterns) is keeping YOU stuck. If you want to work with Kristen, fill out an application and schedule a call for info. Join the FB community ....
Apr 29, 2020•31 min•Season 1Ep. 78
Apply for my 1:1 coaching program Join my Fb group We’ve been programmed to believe that willpower and grit and pushing through and taking action is what’s going to create success. But, no. I mean, what you do DOES matter, but what you THINK matters more. Because what you THINK creates how you FEEL. And how you FEEL dictates what you DO. If you are constantly moving through your life beating yourself up, being hard on yourself, focusing on feeling BAD to motivate yourself, you’re going to burn o...
Apr 22, 2020•20 min•Season 1Ep. 77
Apply for my 1:1 coaching program here. Connect with me on FB or IG You cannot create lasting lifelong changes if you keep thinking the same way you’re thinking now. In order to change your life, you must change your thoughts. In order to do THAT, you need to understand WHY your thinking matters and HOW your thinking actually does create your reality. In part one of How To Change Your Life, I’m sharing: ~ why it feels hard to create real change that *lasts* ~ why most people aren't able to creat...
Apr 15, 2020•24 min•Season 1Ep. 76
Apply for my 1:1 coaching program Join the Show Up and Love Facebook group This episode is NOT just for people in neurodiverse relationships, it will help ANYONE in ANY relationship. When my husband was diagnosed with Aspergers 5 years into our marriage, I googled "married to someone with Aspergers". The stories and articles that came up were completely discouraging. Everything said that these neurodiverse relationships don't usually work, but if they DO work, the neurotypical partner is going t...
Apr 08, 2020•26 min•Season 1Ep. 75
Apply for a spot in my 1:1 coaching program (This bonus episode comes from a FB live in the Show Up and Love Facebook group. ) Just because you are social distancing, just because you are working from home, just because the world outside looks DIFFERENT...YOUR LIFE IS STILL HAPPENING. In this quick bonus episode I share why it's SO important to keep showing up for your SELF and your LIFE and how to do that, when you feel so much uncertainty....
Apr 03, 2020•11 min
Apply for 1:1 coaching program Join the FB group Right now the world feels overwhelming. It feels heavy. It feels uncertain. And YES there are very bad and serious things happening in the world right now, but not EVERY moment needs to feel dark. The Universe is created in a principle of balance. Yin and yang. Light AND dark. Good AND bad. There is uncertainty AND hope. In today's episode of Show Up and Love, I'm sharing: ~ why reality is starting to set in for so many ~ why your brain wants to f...
Apr 01, 2020•25 min•Season 1Ep. 74
Join the Show Up and Love FB group Schedule a call to learn about working with Kristen 1:1 During this coronavirus pandemic, particularly at the BEGINNING of this situation, there tend to be a lot of feelings. A LOT of feelings. And our human nature is to AVOID these feelings or JUDGE these feelings or try to FIX these feelings. The problem with that is that it only prolongs the suffering. In today's mini bonus episode (recorded during a FB live in the Show Up and Love FB group), I talk about ho...
Mar 27, 2020•7 min
Today I'm sharing 5 questions that I use to shift my mindset from anxiety to confidence, from fear to calm. Schedule a free call to learn about working with Kristen Join the Fb group
Mar 25, 2020•21 min•Season 1Ep. 73
I've heard from so many people that things are starting to feel REAL. The initial shock is wearing off and the fear is setting in. But we are in a LONG game and the self care needs to begin NOW. Today I'm sharing how we can feel the feelings without drowning in them. How we can FEEL the fear without being CONSUMED by the FEAR. ~ Fact thinking vs Story thinking ~ Clean pain vs dirty pain ~ How to pace yourself for the long game (tread and float, tread and float) Join the Show Up and Love Facebook...
Mar 19, 2020•15 min
Most of the world is social distancing and finding that without the daily commutes and busy-ness, we have more time. More time with our minds and more time with our homes. So, how do we take advantage of this time? I asked feng shui expert Amanda Gibby Peters for the three things SHE is recommending to lift the vibration of your home. (And you'll be surprised at the one thing she's NOT recommending people do right now). I also added the three things I believe will help us thrive during this unce...
Mar 18, 2020•29 min•Season 1Ep. 72
What's true is that we ARE in a time of uncertainty. What's TRUE is that we don't know what life is going to look like in a year or 6 months or 6 days. What's TRUE is that there is a global pandemic that we are not experts in yet. That is where we ARE right now and, aside from what we know to slow it down (hand washing, social distancing, etc), the incessant thinking and worrying and STRESSING about it is NOT helpful. You aren't solving the problem, you are WORRYING. Your worrying isn't making y...
Mar 17, 2020•18 min
I was talking to a client today who was trying to convince me that worrying was justified right now because of the state of the world. I disagree completely. Worrying is never a productive use of our time. And worrying happens because we want to AVOID the uncomfortableness of anxiety and fear. Worrying does not solve problems. It creates more of the same. In today's bonus episode: ~ why FEELING the fear is more productive than FIXING it ~ why worrying is an ACTION that comes from AVOIDING fear ~...
Mar 16, 2020•16 min
Right now, we are living in a time of uncertainty. Our brains do NOT like uncertainty. Our brains want to know what's going to happen. So when we are in a time of uncertainty, our brains think they need MORE information, ALL the information in order to feel safe. I promise you that all of the consuming and all of the worrying and all of the panicking is NOT making you feel safer...it's making you feel like there's MORE. If you want to feel calm, you need to calm down your body so you can access ...
Mar 15, 2020•21 min
Learn about working with Kristen 1:1 (don't wait! 1 spot open!) Join the Show Up and Love Facebook group There are a lot of habits I've implemented over the last 10 years that have transformed my life. Some have stuck around for awhile and some have gotten dropped. Today I'm sharing the top 5 habits I practice every single day that I believe are responsible for creating: a happy marriage a happy +healthy relationship with my body, food and exercise an uncluttered home a fantastic relationship wi...
Mar 11, 2020•26 min•Season 1Ep. 71
Set up a free call to see if 1:1 coaching with Kristen is the right fit for you. Join the Show Up and Love FB group ------------------------------------------------ In today's episode ~ I share how I transformed my entire life even though my entire life felt like a dumpster fire ~ The 2 things people mistakenly think they need in order to start making changes in their life, but DON'T (a plan and a guarantee) ~ Why COMMITMENT is all you need to create the life (marriage, habits, change) you want....
Mar 04, 2020•22 min•Season 1Ep. 70
Learn more about working 1:1 with Kristen Join the Show Up and LOVE FB group Connect on IG ------------------------------------------- In this episode: ~What does manifesting actually mean? ~ The myths and misconceptions about manifesting ~ Why you are already a MASTER manifester ~ The 6 steps to Manifesting On Purpose ~ Three quick tips to enhance the manifesting process...
Feb 26, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 69
Learn more about working with Kristen Join the FB group In this episode: ~ What is the Worthy Ladder? It's a visual representation of how you measure up as a human being. You go UP, you're more worthy, you make mistakes....down you go. ~ Why we believe that our worthiness goes up and down based on our behaviors or others' opinions. ~ How do we know when we're ON the worthy ladder? (perfectionism, people pleasing, anxiety, hopelessness, being confused "I don't know" syndrome, lots of mind chatter...
Feb 19, 2020•21 min
Learn about working with Kristen 1:1 Join the Show Up and Love Facebook group Connect on Instagram Learn more. --------------------------------------------------- In this episode: ~ Why it's not *actually* the failure that you're afraid of ~ How fear of failure is affecting your day to day life (whether you're working on a "big" goal or not) ~ The three steps of "becoming friends" with failure: 1) recognize it when it shows up 2)Welcome and allow it 3) Fail. On Purpose. A lot....
Feb 12, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 67
www.kristenfinch.com Come meet some gorgeous souls in the Show Up and Love Facebook group -------------------------------------- In this episode: ~ Why your STORY is what's keeping you stuck ~ The 2 types of stories (and how to recognize them): Victim story and empowered story ~ WHY we hold onto our victim stories? ~ HOW to create and LIVE in our empowered story...
Feb 05, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 66
Join the free Show Up and Love Facebook group Curious about working with Kristen? Click here. ------------------------------------------------------ In this episode: ~ Self Worth is the belief that you are good enough no matter what. ~ Why I believe making Self Love/Self Worth your #1 priority will make your whole life better ~ Why you believe your worthiness is dependent on external things in the first place. ~ How to get off the Worthy Ladder (Hint: There is no ladder) ~ 10 Ways Your Life Will...
Jan 29, 2020•33 min•Season 1Ep. 65
Curious about working with me? I KNOW you know what to do...I can just help you do it quicker. And funner. ;) Join the Show Up and Love Facebook group ------------------------------------------- Over the weekend, a client of mine (whom I've been working with for more than 5 years now) shared with me the tool that was the MOST transformative one for her was one of my FAVORITE and SIMPLEST tools: Do it sh!tty. Here's why it's so simple...because we've been taught that life is complicated. That cre...
Jan 22, 2020•18 min•Season 1Ep. 64
Apply to work 1:1 with Kristen Join the Show UP and Love FB group. -------------------------------- "Things are getting better, but still not great." "I feel much better, but I'm not remembering to work on my goal every day." It seems like you're just answering the question honestly, right? But as a coach I am sifting through my client's words trying to find what's keeping them STUCK. Sometimes it's like I'm sifting through rubble trying to find a key. And sometimes, it's EASY to find it. Becaus...
Jan 15, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 63
