A song to help you use the STOP skill to the tune of "Stop," by Spice Girls! Music, video, acting, directed and produced by Aj! More song on the way! Lyrics: PERSON: I've heard you talk about the stop skill but I can never use it AJ: why? PERSON: I just can't remember to use it! AJ: well I have a fun way that can help you to remember it! PERSON: really? Okay! AJ: it's a song that came up with. PERSON: okay! AJ: and I'm going to have to sing right now so... PERSON: .. Oh no thank you AJ: Too late...
Oct 10, 2021•6 min
Being assertive means having the ability to speak up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful. You have the right to express your view point and the responsibility to speak up. In this episode, we discuss finding and practicing your assertive voice. We reenact Aj being assertive and Cris shutting down, and both our viewpoints on how we view the situation and respond. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations...
Oct 04, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 90
AJ has tried many methods to find—but most importantly maintain—the motivation to accomplish many of his long and short term goals. Over the years, he's struggled with setting goals and seeing them through, staying on task, or simply not feel overwhelmed by his tasks. When he's failed, he's riddled with feelings of guilt and disappointment, which overtime turn into depression and a sense of hopelessness. We're excited—and a little nervous—to talk to you about a new system that has truly made a b...
Sep 07, 2021•59 min•Ep. 89
We're excited to sit down with musician Coughlin to talk about his experience in the music industry and his commitment to mental health awareness. Go to Coughlin's Instagram to Pre-Save his upcoming single, "Ridin" as heard in the intro of this episode. www.instagram.com/coughlinmusic Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations...
Aug 15, 2021•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 88
Learn about complex post-traumatic stress disorder with us, and a common symptom called structural disassociation common with people with BPD. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Aug 09, 2021•49 min•Ep. 87
Come along with us on our morning walk! — Negative self-talk has always been in my mind passed down to me by my father. After having a discussion with him I realized I don't need his approval to succeed and we are now estranged. It took almost 30 years of my life to realize he never knew the real me, but saw me as a commodity just like my mother. I decided not to be used by them anymore to take control of my life. Healing doesn't mean forgiving, It means telling yourself that you were not respon...
Jul 07, 2021•36 min•Ep. 86
My self-esteem is in the gutter. I didn't realize how bad it was. I'm haunted by expectations and perfectionism.My positive self-talk is there, but sometimes the negative voices win. So, I'm beginning a journey to reprogram myself so I'm not always playing the villain. I want to motivate myself not to belittling myself, but build myself up! -AJ Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations...
Jun 28, 2021•17 min
May is mental health awareness month, and also BPD awareness month. Both are important to expose people to the truth about mental health issues and fight stigma. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
May 17, 2021•43 min•Season 4Ep. 85
Update on AJ's structure and schedule and how we can motivate ourselves out of procrastination. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Apr 19, 2021•41 min•Season 4Ep. 84
It's Friday, so I want to get as many things done as possible. Usually cleaning a room takes extra time (more than an hour), also because I'm trying not to be distracted by social media. Etsy, poetry, and #artistproblems included! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Apr 03, 2021•12 min
Another day, another dinner. I really had a good day today. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Apr 02, 2021•26 min
There are important things to do each day (making an appointment, calling a friend, emergencies, ect.) but don't let that slow you down! No one is perfect, but hell, we can try right? Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Apr 01, 2021•22 min
Recovering from a depressing day, I come to terms with my doubts and fear that seem inescapable. Press on! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 31, 2021•42 min
Monday was a hard day. I want to concentrate on my life, but thinking about it got me pessimistic. But I won't stop! *episode contains talk of suicide* Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 30, 2021•12 min
What happens when you fail? What even is failure? On this episode we discuss the missteps, roadblocks, and our eventual relapse into our old schedule despite the efforts set in motion 2 weeks ago. More importantly, we discuss how to learn and pivot to pursue our goals more efficiently and intelligently. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations...
Mar 29, 2021•41 min•Season 4Ep. 83
What have I learned so far? Weekends are non-negotiable! And also, I love the feeling of focus and motivation in the sun. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 20, 2021•19 min
Trying hard to get what I want done to better myself and my surroundings. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 19, 2021•14 min
Mid-week report Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 18, 2021•6 min
Wasn't a perfect day. A lot of factors affected how my day turned out. The importance of the schedule is being able to get the things done that I want to get done in a timely manner. I feel like I didn't do my best today. I can't wait to try again tomorrow! 😳 Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 17, 2021•25 min
First day of my schedule! Monday is here. This is how it went. The ups, the downs, the cats 🐈 Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Mar 16, 2021•23 min
Procrastinating seems to be a bpd trait. DBT teaches that structure is a great way for our minds to stay active and for us to feel productive. Like me, you may have started projects with grandiose ideas and very motivated, but then slowly became disheartened and discontinued. Our feelings are connected to our motivation so it's important that we take care of ourselves and develop good habits to pass the time. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-dep...
Mar 15, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 4Ep. 82
We're being a little silly and celebrating Valentine's day by playing a game. 🍭♥️ Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Feb 15, 2021•31 min•Season 4Ep. 81
What is Racial Trauma? In this episode, we discuss what can cause racial trauma and our own experiences dealing racism. While there are various symptoms associated with racial trauma, we focus PTSD, Depression, and Anxiety. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Jan 25, 2021•57 min•Season 4Ep. 80
These are our most used DBT skills since learning them in 2020, most commonly used to benefit our marriage and our other relationships. There are many skills but these are the ones that have benefited us daily. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Jan 11, 2021•47 min•Season 4Ep. 79
Join us as we review the year that will live in infamy—2020! We discuss the special interviews, DBT therapy, Self Care Walks, Patreon, and our top three most listened episodes: "High Functioning BPD" (July 26), "7 Things People with BPD Want You to Know" (May 10), and "Questions on BPD" (May 27). As we say our final goodbyes to 2020, we want to thank each and every one of you for sticking with us through this rough year. We hope you'll join us in 2021—see you on the other side! <3 Support thi...
Dec 31, 2020•46 min•Season 3Ep. 78
Do you know who you are? We all go through changes, but BPD can constantly shift your emotions and self-esteem. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Nov 30, 2020•45 min•Season 3Ep. 77
Zack is one of our listeners and our new friend! His book is filled with great information for those struggling with depression, especially for the first time. It’s a guide that covers everything from nutrition to finding the right care in an honest and encouraging way. Checkout the full book on Amazon. Link on borderlineidealist.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations...
Nov 10, 2020•1 hr 21 min•Season 3Ep. 76
AJ has begun exploring different essential oils and their effects. They can stimulate, calm, and even improve self esteem. Join us as we discuss our favorite six oils! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Oct 27, 2020•54 min•Season 3Ep. 75
An update on beginning our DBT study group & also understanding the reasonable, emotional, and wise mind. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Oct 11, 2020•31 min•Season 3Ep. 74
Can those with BPD experience a form of mania? Hypomania is a less severe form of mania that AJ believes he’s experienced. But isn’t mania only a bipolar thing? And how do you manage these type of energy burst that are followed by low mood? Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/borderline-idealist-bpd-anxiety-and-depression/donations
Sep 28, 2020•58 min•Season 3Ep. 73
