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Beat Your Genes Podcast

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Evolutionary psychology with Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. Most psychology advice treats your brain like a broken machine. Beat Your Genes starts somewhere different: your instincts aren't broken. They're just optimized for a Stone Age environment that no longer exists. Dr. Lisle - Evolutionary psychologist, former Stanford lecturer, and co-author of The Pleasure Trap - has spent decades developing frameworks that explain human behavior from the ground up. Nathan Gershfeld, D.C. - trained first as an electrical engineer and then spent 14 years as a Doctor of Chiropractic. He brings a systems thinker's curiosity to every conversation. He mostly lets Dr. Lisle talk. Topics include relationships and attraction, self-esteem, personality, depression and anxiety, willpower, the ego trap, and how pushy people exploit agreeable ones. 380+ episodes. New episodes every other week. New here? Start at beatyourgenes.org/start-here
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Episodes

(Replay) Is effective health care possible? Sharing health info w sick friends

In this replay of episode 185, Dr. Lisle answers these questions: 1. Given the profitability of prescribing pills and surgical procedures, do you believe the mainstream medical-industrial-complex will ever reach a tipping point and head in the direction of true health care? As opposed to the current system of what basically boils down to disease maintenance? 2. In church this week I felt very guilty. No one is specifically asking me for nutrition advice but every week we hear about and pray for ...

Nov 19, 202045 min

(Replay): Pleasure Trap, Making yourself proud, Social cost of eating healthy

In this reply of episode 195, Dr. Lisle & Dr. Howk discuss: On today's show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk will answer the following questions: 1. Imagine a 20-year-old male. Every day, he plays video games, eats Twinkies, drinks Mountain Dew, binge watches Netflix, mindlessly scrolls through Social Media, and watches . What are the long-term and short-term effects of all this supernormal stimuli? 2.I feel like I'm stuck in a diet mindset where my internal audience won't recognize any of my efforts...

Nov 05, 202053 min

241: Spouse is Great but Unhealthy, Blamed for Child's Behavior, Feel vs act

1.My husband and I are in our late 20s, no children, married less than 3 years. 6 months after our wedding, I became whole food plant based and an ethical vegan. I was already pretty healthy prior, but still lost 10 pounds and reversed some health conditions. My husband has a lot of health issues. He hasn't physically changed much since our wedding and has always had these health problems, but I looked past them because I love everything else about my husband. He's seen all the vegan documentari...

Oct 29, 202056 minSeason 1Ep. 241

(Replay) Group therapy, Plomian curse, Enlightenment trap, Being less critical

In today's replay of Episode 192 we have the following questions: 1. What are Dr. Lisle's thoughts on group therapy? What is the purpose if there is one and how would he apply evolutionary principles and esteem dynamics to group therapy? 2. My MIL treats her 4 granddaughters quite differently. I am a disagreeable person who really values fairness. It's hard not to comment or approach her when she treats them so different. Let's not even begin to get into how many more clothes and toys (resources...

Oct 22, 202045 min

240: Dealing with Narcissism, Small Talk vs Discussing Unconventional views

In today's new episode, Dr. Lisle discusses the following questions: 1) I was deeply fascinated by the Drs' take on narcissism and finally realized my mother is a narcissist. Many of my "friends" are also narcissists or suffer from tendencies. Is there a correlation between being raised by a narcissist and seeking those same traits in friends/partners? And what advice would you share for dealing with these people, short of running for the door? 2) I finished How I Found Freedom in an Unfree Worl...

Oct 15, 202058 minSeason 1Ep. 240

(Replay) Impostor Syndrome, Parenting a mischievous son, BF went to stripclub

In this replay of Episode 191, Dr. Howk and Dr. Lisle answer the following questions: 1. What is impostor syndrome? Can you change the perception of feeling like a fraud? 2. A dad's son climbs on a roof to look at his neighbor's nude sunbathing. Dad handles it, but mom is furious and thinks this is huge issue warranting psychiatric medications. 3. A listener's boyfriend ended up at a stripclub with coworkers. He denies he got a lapdance even though everyone else got one. Listener wants to know i...

Oct 08, 202056 min

239: Down arrow, Education policy, Epigenetics, Trauma induced behavioral change

In this new episode, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk answer these q's: 1. Voicemail question: Are there some situations where you avoid using the down arrow technique like when the worst case scenario is actually going to happen or already present? 2. Imagine that you are magically made Emperor of K-12 Education in the US. Essentially, you have complete, authoritarian control over the education system and can expect 100% compliance on your vision and mandates. How would you design the education system, a...

Oct 01, 202049 minSeason 1Ep. 239

(Replay) Couchsurfing as a woman, Resilience vs coddling, Jealousy after breakup

In this replay of episode 188, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk, discuss the following questions: 1. My niece and I have been debating whether it's safe for attractive young solo female travelers to couch surf. She believes that a careful reading of a host's couch surfing profile enables her to spot would-be predators. What are your thoughts on this Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk? 2. Can you talk about what resilience is with regard to personality/the big 5? Do you think that it is possible to help people develop...

Sep 24, 202057 min

238:Calorie budget,Baby v Adult talk,Russian women,Heritability,Corporate jargon

1. I have been a proponent of wholesome eating as the guarantee of good health and optimal weight. The approach has worked great for me, but I am still curious to know if eating high caloric density foods – but within strict daily caloric "budget" – is detrimental to one's health? I have no cravings or addictions of any sort, it is almost an "academic" question mostly concerning socially inflicted foods like BBQ, wine, cheese, etc. 2. My girlfriend often slips into baby talk — and it grates on m...

Sep 17, 202057 minSeason 1Ep. 238

237: Desire to change others, Sibling concerns, Step-dad harsh with stepson

1. If it is true that we can't change people, why would evolution waste energy engineer feelings in us that make us feel incline to try to change others? If we can't change others, why do people come to believe they can or enter relationships with others on that premise? 2. My brother has always been very private about his relationship with his significant other, to the point that it makes our family uncomfortable. She was a foreign exchange student when they met, failed to meet requirements for...

Sep 03, 202044 minSeason 1Ep. 237

236: Read receipts, Low sex desire, Weight, High school skills, Silly animals

1. I am a 40-something male on the online/swipey app dating scene. I have had rotten luck and I am interested in whether turning off "read receipts" on WhatsApp is putting women off. I like the freedom that turning off "read receipts" gives me. At the same time I worry I am giving into my fears of rejection, possibly ego-trapping myself. Why does it feel empowering to turn off "read receipts" on WhatsApp and is this potentially putting off women who may think I have a hidden agenda? 2. I have fo...

Aug 27, 202049 minSeason 1Ep. 236

235: Underdogs, Lazy husband, Genetic politics,Disagreeable vs confrontational

In today's show, the Dr's answer these Q's: 1. Why do we root for under-dogs ? How do we get status from a group that contains perennial losers ? 2. My husband and I are both 30 and have been married 2 years. My husband really wants kids, but I'm nervous about his lazy habits when that day comes. My question is: will having kids force my husband to be more active? I'm worried he will still be a couch potato 10 years from now and won't be an active and engaged parent. 3. I've got a comment about ...

Aug 20, 202052 minSeason 1Ep. 235

234: Covid Update, Psychology of War, Why High Expectations?

In today's episode, Dr. Lisle updates us on his thinking about the COVID-19 pandemic and current events surrounding lockdowns, death rates, and the future. Two questions are answered and they are: 1. Question about war - I am fascinated about how humans can band together in tribes and kill eachother. They also will battle eachother while having hospitals right there to treat the wounded. I can understand fighting over resources but these days it seems to be more over ideologies than that. Do you...

Aug 13, 202046 minSeason 1Ep. 234

233: Helping friends, Aliens, PMS, Anger management, Reducing anxiety

1. I feel like I am in the process of losing my best friend. She has been trying to leave an emotionally abusive/narcissistic relationship with a much older man for a while. Of her own admission she has "no future" with this guy. Whenever I try to have this conversation with her, she freezes up and goes silent on me for weeks until she messages again with a complete change of topic. What would you do, doctors, if you were in my position? 2. I have a question regarding alien abductions. If mental...

Aug 06, 202049 minSeason 1Ep. 233

232: Sugar babies, Appearance & personality, Unconditional love, Homelessness

1. My 19 year old daughter confided in me that she and her friend joined a sugar baby website and has met an older man. I am her birthmother. We are in an "open adoption arrangement" I am 38, so younger than her mom and someone she confides in. No other adults know about this. Is this normal developmentally and I should just let it play out, or is this out of bounds, and I may need to intervene more assertively? 2. Is there any way to spot people on extreme ends of the bell curve by their appear...

Jul 30, 202051 minSeason 1Ep. 232

231: Post-corona dating calibration, Pushing our kids, Controlling others

Today's questions: 1. I'm interested in the post-Corona calibration process many of us are likely going through or about to go through. I'd be interested to hear how this unique level of isolation we've all experienced leads to decalibration and then the process of recalibrating again. I am just now starting to "get back out there" and I get the sense that my nervous system is desperate for calibration while at the same time guarded against any potential bad news. What do you think, doctors? 2. ...

Jul 23, 202045 minSeason 1Ep. 231

230: Repeat Exposure, Scrambled Eggs, Pair bond dating success, Online dating

In today's show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk start with a dating question and branch off to discuss the Repeat Exposure Effect along with a song performed by one of our listeners, Warren Tews (https://youtu.be/T7_BjA_M74A), the discussion turns towards "All about the Eggs" as Dr. Lisle describes the male mating strategy of "trying to get to the female's eggs" and the confusion (from the female) that can result from that. Included in the discussion is online dating strategies for women for pair bond s...

Jul 16, 202046 minSeason 1Ep. 230

229: Changing political views, Dealing with grief, Current division in the world

In today's show, the Dr's discuss these questions: 1. Ive been following Geoffory Millers twitter during the past couple months and noticed that his worldview is trending to become a little more conservative and traditionalist in light of the unprecedented level of social conflict we are experiencing. This is something that resonates with me. Once I began to understand the principles of Evolutionary Psychology, I began to see the hidden wisdom in tradition. I notice that Dr. Lisle does not seem ...

Jul 09, 202049 minSeason 1Ep. 229

228: Selfish Gene & Blueprint, Faking orgasms, Low mood stay at home mom

1. I have come to some confusion reconciling the Selfish Gene's central ideas and Plomin's description of genetics. The confusion though comes from trying to understand how the notion of self selective pressures at the individual gene level would be possible when so many traits of the phenotype are the result of the interaction of several genes within the genome. How can individual genes "compete" when each individual gene is reliant on how it "correlates(?)" with the rest of the genome. 2. When...

Jul 02, 202042 minSeason 1Ep. 228

227: Genes for disease vs. personality, Parental influence, Environmental genes

In today's show, Dr. Lisle discusses: 1. I know you propose that personality is 100% genetically driven. But Dr. McDougall has shown that genes can be turned on and off by diet, and that even the DNA of twins may diverge over time if each twin is raised separately on different diets. Might the same thing be true of the genes behind our personalities? That certain genes could be switched on or off by environmental impacts. And if so, wouldn't that mean that nurture (along with nature) does in fac...

Jun 25, 202052 minSeason 1Ep. 227

226: Irritated compliance, Getting ppl to listen, Break ups, Marriage hesitation

Q's 1. I'm a hyperconscientious nutcase but I don't relate at all to Dr Lisle's statement that HCNCs are more likely to be over the top with wearing masks, washing hands, etc.. I find myself getting so irritated with other people's compliance that I now make sarcastic comments in public whenever I see people wearing masks or dutifully standing on crosses in supermarket queues. What is happening to me? Is this situational disagreeableness, or is there another explanation? 2. Dr Lisle has spoken i...

Jun 18, 202059 minSeason 1Ep. 226

225: AGE's,Evolution & diet, Self-esteem during recovery, Finding YOUR coalition

In today's show, the doctors discuss: 1. Looking at a list of the foods with the most AGEs in them (fried or high temperature cooked high-protein/fat/sugar foods), it almost seems as if humans can in fact taste AGEs specifically. Why should the products of cooked fats and protein, especially in combination with each other and sugar, taste so much better to humans than those same products mildly cooked or uncooked. 2.I understand that adopting a WFPB diet is a way of "beating our genes" that have...

Jun 11, 202056 minSeason 1Ep. 225

224:Current events,Growth mindset v Genes,Corona-virus compliance, Inheritance

In today's show, Dr. Lisle briefly discusses the current events in the USA and then discusses these q's: 1. I come from a family of low lifes, junkies, and drug addicts. I was able to be the first in my family to get a college degree of any kind and would like to pursue a Phd. I am willing to believe this might be reaching on my part and I might fail, but it seems worthwhile to try. If I were to look at my genetics it makes me think I'm doomed to become a drug addict who accomplishes nothing. Wo...

Jun 04, 202046 minSeason 1Ep. 224

223: Food vs drugs, Longevity, Dating market while aging, Is Lust a trap?

In today's show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss the following: 1. How does withdrawal and Tolerance In drug usage compare to eating foods with addictive properties in terms of trying to quit? For instance, Would planning a strict day and time for a specific portioned unhealthy meal once a week then after get straight back on the wagon aid in keeping tolerance low and cravings at bay? or is complete abstinence the key to lifelong success in ending the addiction? I've been trying for about 3 years...

May 28, 202053 minSeason 1Ep. 223

222: Stats Update Coronavirus

In today's show, Dr. Lisle gives our audience an update and some reflection about the coronavirus pandemic. In true fashion, what was intended to be a few minutes of finalizing the coronavirus stats discussion followed by listener questions, ended up being an entire show about coronavirus stats & updates. Next show, we resume listener questions.

May 21, 202048 minSeason 1Ep. 222

221: Lockdown changes & annoyance, Dealing w Burn out, How to Help a friend

In today's show, Dr. Lisle & Howk discuss these questions: 1. Do you see any big long term changes coming as a result of the shut down and isolation that will last more than a few months? Will this cause any long term evolutionary pressures for habit change or will we revert back to the same norms? 2.I'm disagreeable and fairly low conscientious and don't respond well to authority. If I get told to do something I don't want to do, it just makes me not want to do it even more. During the pand...

May 14, 202052 minSeason 1Ep. 221

220: Tension w friends, Dealing with conflict, Mass hysteria, Self-esteem

In today's show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss the following questions: 1. HELP! Am I going to lose friends over the virus? Most of my friends are overwhelmed with fear and are just bossing everyone around. Seems like if I don't agree w/ their demands (i.e. wear a mask, even when outside and 6 feet apart) or if I don't show as much fear as they do, I get the strong impression that it could have a negative and permanent impact on the friendship. I've had to lie to my close friends and I don't li...

May 07, 202054 minSeason 1Ep. 220

219: Increasing your self-esteem & escaping the pleasure trap during Lockdown

In today's show, Dr. Howk and Nate discuss life during lockdown. Dr. Howk comments on those struggling to accomplish a particular task because the lockdown has disrupted their normal routine whether it's escaping the pleasure trap or other such tough task. We also discuss the psychology behind finding yourself delaying action on something important due to the disruptive effects of COVID-19.

Apr 30, 202050 minSeason 1Ep. 219

218: New data, Coronarivus Part 6

In today's show, Dr. Lisle and Dr. Howk discuss new data that has been released in the last week indicating an even more favorable direction.

Apr 23, 20201 hr 2 minSeason 1Ep. 218
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